MISSCONGENIALITY:
I've seen women who have been married a long time and they stay at home doing nothing. Some done have kids yet. I was telling one to go an acquire a skill if she doesn't want to do a paid job but she told me she can't work. She's at home blowing like a balloon and tomorrow now she will claim she deserve part of of the man's assets makana o bu wife. Who wife help

like cococandy already said, those women are few.

Even The so-called slayqueens, usually find one business to put their hand in, they are either selling clothes, wigs, make-up or something and these are supposed to be the laziest of the lot.

In my life, I only know of three women that fit into theis description you've painted. Just three out of tens of women I have met, so, these people you speak of, are few. The majority of women want to work and earn their own money, if not on offices, then own businesses.

Reffone:
I wish it was that easy but he has him tired up with some deep voodoo shit

are you the first son of ur father and how old are you last question how many are you in number,my dad once tried that we were 8 in number and am the last son.i was about 22 then I called my dad and told him that I can never be alive see him marry another woman,that we are waiting for him should he try that, believe you me that the end of that nonsense.you can put and the end to the nonsense.u need to be brave and let ur dad know u are a man and he must learn to obey his kids too,listen if you allow this ur mum will not ever be happy after 27 years of marriage some idiot try to make her leave her home.man up and teach them a lesson

I pray u don't come in contact with maimi water people does people do strong voodoo shits

Logobenz:
Na em be say your papa no get the kind money you make us feel he has.
It is impossible to be a dependent of a "BIG MAN" and still be in the kind of lack you are talking about,whether he wants to give you or not.
Or you guys are complete idiots.
If he gives nothing,atleast his name gives you credibility which can be turned to money if the dependents have working brains.
I won't be surprised if you don't have a brain sha,since you can't convince your own mother to avoid ordinary divorce.
I really hate dull people tbh....
Smh.

If he doesn't best t ur mom, encourage her to stay since he's not always at home.
What t u mom need to do is get busy if she's not. Forget about divorce cos it's not necessary. She will be fine. You guys are not kids nah. Some of you should get busy if you aren't.
She should look away from the man and his new wife and not even try to interfere. By the time she starts taking good care of herself and looking good, the other wife will be disappointed. If she has been sad, let her out a smile on her face. Life doesn't start and end with her husband. Let her look around she will see women who lost their husbands when their oldest kids were in primary school and some didn't remarry and are still pushing it and some picked up the pieces of their lives and moved on. She can move on as wel without living the house or divorcing. What if her husband had died, would she stop living. She supposed to have been a hardened woman by now.

safarigirl:
there are lawyers that work pro bono, she just needs to reach out to the right people.

So many of you are messed up in this country, sold your souls for few coins.

Help am show am THE RIGHT PEOPLE na.lol
No be that your "THE RIGHT PEOPLE" go look their opponent first before them engage?
When those "the right people" go see better entourage,no be person go tell them to pick race.
Ndi "THE RIGHT PEOPLE"....lol.
Them no dey fight person weh pass you,before that your small money finish for only logistics to mobilise your defence counsel to court and appearance fee.
If you no plan ahead in life,failure na your name.Especially with people weh pass you.
Jokers.

safarigirl:
like cococandy already said, those women are few.

Even The so-called slayqueens, usually find one business to put their hand in, they are either selling clothes, wigs, make-up or something and these are supposed to be the laziest of the lot.

In my life, I only know of three women that fit into theis description you've painted. Just three out of tens of women I have met, so, these people you speak of, are few. The majority of women want to work and earn their own money, if not on offices, then own businesses.

it's okay. But don't you ever say slay queens are the laziest set of people. No lazy person can slay.
My great grandma use to say "nyanga na work" meaning you can't slay on and empty stomach.
Anyways, we ar all saying the same thing. No woman should take up staying at home and looking after kids as a full-time job.
No woman should stay without having a source of income.
Not just because of divorce but incase something happens to your husband and he's not able to do somethings.

Reffone:
I pray u don't come in contact with maimi water people does people do strong voodoo shits

I talk am say you no get sense.
See as she is talking like a child.
Smh..

MISSCONGENIALITY:
it's okay. But don't you ever say slay queens are the laziest set of people. No lazy person can slay.
My great grandma use to say "nyanga na work" meaning you can't slay on and empty stomach.
Anyways, we ar all saying the same thing. No woman should take up staying at home and looking after kids as a full-time job.
No woman should stay without having a source of income.
Not just because of divorce but incase something happens to your husband and he's not able to do somethings.

I didn't say they are, I said they are supposed to be meaning, a lot of people erroneously assume they are lazy, especially the men on this site

safarigirl:
I didn't say they are, I said they are supposed to be meaning, a lot of people erroneously assume they are lazy, especially the men on this site

OKAY

Bros buy black and red candles.... Naked for midnite inside your room... Pray... Any evil woman manipulating my father.. The person should run with immediate alacrity..... It works like magic....

The woman is not manipulating your dad, your dad wish to act like that.

safarigirl:
there are lawyers that work pro bono, she just needs to reach out to the right people.

So many of you are messed up in this country, sold your souls for few coins.

A will doesn’t need to be fair. The woman can be excluded even the children can be excluded


I’ve seen cases even in the US where the individuals willed their entire weath to charities and animals and excluding their immediate family


You better stop deceiving yourself. A whole dumo lulu Briggs a billionaire hasn’t been able to fight his step mother that manipulated his dad into willing everything to her.


Nigerian women better wake up and start making money for themselves Incase things go south for their own good

Lexusgs430:



A marriage of 27 years, she deserves a bezos treatment.......

Hmm

Plead:



https://www.pressreader.com/nigeria/thisday/20170606/281702614683123

Cc safarigirl , cococandy , midnighter and logobenz

Im not sure why im tagged in your comment; I told the OP not to let his/her mother divorce.

We dont know what region the OP hails from to start talking about will or inheritance and anyway I dont know how the first son wont inherit the lions share after the mans demise, especially when the 2nd wife has no child of her own.

Reffone:
I pray u don't come in contact with maimi water people does people do strong voodoo shits

You need to stop giving this kind of answer and say something practical otherwise people on the thread will keep giving answers you dont like.

Instead of you to explain what documents the woman has, what her business/income is like or outline what steps you have taken to assuage your mother's discomfort you dey here dey yarn mamiwater smh

pocohantas:
I thought they said men never leave the woman who BUILT with them?

Now being a submissive housewife is insignificant.

You have to love our men

when will women learn? building a man literally don't me burning the bridges of ur career path, i wonder why a women would live her dreams and prioritize on get married , and at the long run live under the mercy of the man. this is 21 century beautiful ladies! if you must get married, then taking care of the kids , home and making money shouldn't be one-sided , rather it should be together. don't let any man to marry u and toss to becoming a house wife. you needn't be married to be fulfilled, you can do just fine without men in your life, and if u must marry, stand ur ground on working, if he refused, convince him in a subtle way, if he still refuse sign an agreement that a part of what he earns is urs to keep and if he still refused, dump his sorry ass, because na devil wan use him shine.

I think laws may be sufficient but this is Nigeria.

I am always cautious to suggest this because the few divorced families (rich and superich people) I know never properly resolved the issues.

The one with the superich father, the wife gets money but is now severely depressed and her children have to live with the father to be able to afford their education abroad.

The other one was between two rich people and the mom moved to another country almost 8 years ago and the man has not seen them since.

Reffone:
Please this no be joke. My parents have had a rough path for 17 years now and a marriage of 27 years.

Things seem not to work out no more and she is fed up and wants to leave cause my father is married to another woman who seems to manipulate him and has no single child. My father is well to do so she wants to know her choices, what she stands to gain or lose along the process.

Please my lawyers in the house help out.

To me, she can separate from him but divorce

It takes longe process to divorce

If she lives separately from him, it's a better option

She will have her life and freedom to deal with

It may not affect her communication with him

This is only if she doesn't depend solely on dad

midnighter:


You need to stop giving this kind of answer and say something practical otherwise people on the thread will keep giving answers you dont like.

Instead of you to explain what documents the woman has, what her business/income is like or outline what steps you have taken to assuage your mother's discomfort you dey here dey yarn mamiwater smh

She or he is high on emotions.
Emotions don't win in the law court.
Even absolved the dad of any wrong doing and busy happing on the new wife.

sassysure:

She or he is high on emotions.
Emotions don't win in the law court.
Even absolved the dad of any wrong doing and busy happing on the new wife.

Na wa, how can you be talking off point inside your own topic? So what are those commenting supposed to do

Even me wey try defend am small, I tire o. Which emotion?

You and your mother are apparently starving to death and youre using your remaining data to type emotions...as for me o, I dont understand that one

I was expecting him/her to give that guy a very good answer and all we got was charm and mamiwater smh

unbitchable:

your mom will lose. she's weighing her options seeing she's on the brink of losing almost everything. Your mom keeps fighting your dad while your dad can't get enough of the other woman for being his solace. 17 yrs on, she's been standing strong for your dad while your mom pushes him far away from home. I didn't know what must have transpired but knowing that your mom wanted everything to hersel f makes her a little bit selfish.

You know the mum in question ni?

INCREDIBLEGUY:
What God has joined together, let no man or woman,lawyer, or judge pastor or pope, put asunder, anybody here trying to help to skarter the marriage of another person, by advicing for a divorce or any other means , i pray God forgive you, repent now, for it will be terrible for you in hell,

Oga pastor!

pocohantas:


Baby, she doesn't want divorce, she wants to know what she will get out of the divorce.

That means she’s considering it seriously. She has been in hell for 17yrs, that’s a very long time to try to make it work. Only her knows what she has seen at the hands of the man.

baby124:
2 or 27yrs the woman is fed up. For her sanity she wants out of the marriage. No one should manipulate her into staying. She’s unhappy... if it’s divorce she wants, then she will get it for her own peace of mind.

Small girl.
Do you even know the meaning of divorce?
I pity you future husband.

Plead:


A will doesn’t need to be fair. The woman can be excluded even the children can be excluded


I’ve seen cases even in the US where the individuals willed their entire weath to charities and animals and excluding their immediate family


You better stop deceiving yourself. A whole dumo lulu Briggs a billionaire hasn’t been able to fight his step mother that manipulated his dad into willing everything to her.


Nigerian women better wake up and start making money for themselves Incase things go south for their own good

Lulu Briggs already got his inheritance. The step mother did not manipulate him. He sued for his inheritance a long time ago. So his father willed him NOTHING. He’s a greedy son.

masterflowx:


Small girl.
Do you even know the meaning of divorce?
I pity you future husband.

Do you know the meaning of divorce you nitwit? I pity your future wife. See your head like beans.

Fountainofyouth:
Where are the "build up with your husband" chanters? Look at them asking silly questions like "why didn't your mother build herself" bunch of confused dingos, never consistent with their baseless utterances, nonsense.

I understand girl.
A lot of people like you shouting "big man property" up and down on Facebook.

Sit down there and expect one mumu man to go out and provide for all your needs for the remaining days of you life.

You eyes go soon clear!

Let her do it and suffer

I wonder if the guys with strong opinions about this issue, will feel the same if it was their mother that was going through this with their father. Hypocrites, they will probably be plotting how to kill the father for treating their mum like that. . Your wife is someone’s mother too, your children’s mother. So before you treat your wife anyhow, put yourself in your children’s shoes and see that your life is at stake.

DMerciful:
He actually blamed God. He said 'the woman you gave me'. Did Adam asked God for a wife? No! He was on his own, God decided a wife will be good for him so that makes God partly responsible for the outcome.
That was the reason God said 'he who finds a wife, finds a good thing and obtains favour from the Lord' . Bottom line is, God is not going to find for man again, but if the man finds a good woman, He will bless. He doesn't want to be blamed again!

Yes, Adam has been known never to take personal responsibility for anything and never to be accountable. It has always been someone else's fault, even God in this case.
Despite the specific instruction given to him by God, he still disobeyed and blamed everyone else but himself for his disobedience.