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DivineGrace123:
Lol. Very funny. My child is still a preschooler. So, I think they want to instill leadership skills in them right from an early age.

vichaz10:
You know sometimes I do think I'd make an excellent script writer..

DivineGrace123:
One important thing to note is that confidence will require you to step out of your comfort zone. You can choose to continue to hold yourself back or to keep striving on how to become better. In your case for instance, it is not that you cannot do it, but you would rather not do it. So, the first thing that you need to do is to come out of your shell. Of course, it will be tough initially. Rome was not built in a day. But you just have to keep trying and then you will realize that as time goes on, it will become part and parcel of you.

DivineGrace123:
Nice one.

Apus:
Too late. For me, I have come to accept the fact that I enjoy my own space too much and the benefits therein. Family can't even place why at 27 I haven't been in any serious relationship. Though I hide under the guise of building myself, career-wise and all of that, but I know deep down nothing of such is happening at least not soon.
I have become so independent that even solitude doesn't scare me anymore. About tomorrow's X-mas, trust me, I know how to catch all d fun in world all by myself

okikiosibodu:
I have never been to a beach not because I can't afford it, but cos I can't stand the imagination of a crowded place with total strangers, in an open space. I live in lagos. If it's a big hall (say a partyl I can always step out or go to the gents to get a grip of myself and then return. In the theatres, I make sure I go early to the cinema so I can be among the first set of people to enter and then walk straight to the furthest chair at the rear, to avoid human interaction/ contact. But don't knw how to deal in a beach
I know it won't be a day's work, but can you give a guide on how to come out of this shell?

Akposy:
Hello Introverts!

I've been scared of dropping my comment here.... Well, it's good to be here.

I'm an introvert... lemme say ambivert (but 80% introverted). I prefer being on my own. I cherish my solitude. When I come out of my shell, I take the lead. It's so funny I love leadership. I took the lead all through my uni days but always looked for a quiet place to refuel myself.

Sometimes, my social battery runs down faster than I can imagine. Also, I've never been in a relationship and I ain't planning on being in one soon.

Finally, sometime in 2018, i found solace and tranquility in penning my pains, fears and rejection. I wrote poems that emanated from the pains, oppression, depression and rejection happening in my surroundings.

Am I welcome here ?

callmemercy:
If only my mom can read this and UNDERSTAND that I do not require deliverance, just because I'm not in a relationship at 26.
Sometimes, I feel sorry for her.

Oreoluwanimi:
Hmmm!
So I am not alone. I wish they could understand.

callmemercy:
Hi,
I am not an expert, but let me give you a couple of tips on how I overcame my dislike.

First, I have a sociable sibling, not that she goes everywhere but it must be a reasonable outing. Most times, she would force me, cajole or probably bribe me to go out.

Second, I had to make a firm determination to explore, curiosity also played a big role in it.

I hope it helps you

callmemercy:
If only my mom can read this and UNDERSTAND that I do not require deliverance, just because I'm not in a relationship at 26.
Sometimes, I feel sorry for her.

callmemercy:
Hi, I write poems and short stories too, Care to share some of yours?

DivineGrace123:
Introversion is not a mental health disorder. Introversion is simply one end of a spectrum of major personality traits. Will one now say that extroversion is a mental health disorder too? Of course not.

Xzbit91:
You're suffering from some form of social anxiety disorder, not introversion. You need professional help!

Xzbit91:
I'm curious JacksonMS. How did you come to the conclusion that she'll regret making that statement?

Why can't or won't you see her? Did she fail to respond to your PM?

What steps did you take that brought you failure and insults?

Look, no one is promising that you'll be a pro at this when you set out. Remember that the fool is the precursor to the master. To achieve anything worthwhile, you have to be able to play the fool.

When you set out to do anything new and meaningful for the first time , the chances of failure are going to be overwhelmingly high. You're going to falter, but mastery comes from repetition and a careful attempt at avoiding what didn't work the previous attempt.

A crawling child is not going to be successful on it's first attempt at walking. But if it never tries again, it might not learn to walk. The child will fall several more times before it perfects it's walking steps and with persistence the child learns to even run.

mrsteel:
How old are u?
Are u are christian?
Do u live alone?
Have u ever spoken with a lady?
Do u work?
Please u need to answer these questions. Your case is extreme. How do u cope with people around u?

JacksonMS:
Early 20
Yes
No
Yes but no longer than 2 minutes
No

People don't even know I exist

mrsteel:
Your case is not too difficult if u are below 24yrs.
Now how frequent do u go to Sunday service?
Are u student?

JacksonMS:
no
No

mrsteel:
Don't u go to church?

JacksonMS:
I go but once in a while

scave:
I am currently teaching in a sch, last term they set assembly time table for teachers, when it got to my turn I just dey run away from my duties, some female teacher were d ones that hlped me that week.

mrsteel:
Have u graduated or awaiting admission?
There is only one way to come out this problem u are facing....u need to join a group in church or school. That is d first step required to fight this. Can u do this?

JacksonMS:
graduated.
I tried joining church group before. But the task they gave me made me stop going to church regularly

mrsteel:
Lols @bold
Really?
Have u done your NYSC?

JacksonMS:
yes

mrsteel:
Really?
How did u cope in camp?
Where was your PPA?
U ought not be sounding like this after NYSC na
It is one of d best phase in a graduate life to socialize