maasoap:


To her parents in their graves?

is it only parents that collects bride price? Orphans nor Dey marry?

Swinger60:
...it's easier for us to judge others, till happens to us or anyone close to us.

This is a regular slogan in my mouth.
It's very easy for people to judge and criticize someone in a matter (one who is even actually the victim) because they're not the ones on the receiving end in the matter. Maybe someday it will happen to them too and they will know better.

I still dey reason wetin go make me marry single mother, when she nor be Dangote daughter and when I nor be single father.

Swinger60:
I will rather be in danger, than, to have the same person who protects me from danger still inflict so much harm to me. Of what use is the protection then?

You talk about clothing? You talk about feeding? In which century are you living not to known that women are bringing 50%if not 70% of the financial responsibility in their home these days. My dear, she is working, she has her own money.

You think if she don't have money, she will thinking of paying for her own apartment by Tuesday.? Uncle, not all women are hungry.

Mr Demigod, get over yourself.!! let the marriage crash, let's all go our separate ways, I have my freedom now, you too can have yours. Simple.

Hehe now you are playing my jam. I like ur tone now. First am down with let the marriage crash let all go their seperate way. (Freedom at last)
People who protect u can not inflict pain on you. But u women are so insecured and lack the understanding so much that you lash out at small things, a man keeps his aggressive emotions in check you know it comes in hardy wen dealing with an enermy or natural disaster or dying in face of Danger, u women act like the enermy, danger, natural disaster all in one.
If you have ur money, I couldn't be more proud and to that I say good for you. Now how about we strike this whole concept of marriage out and leave freely. Waking up everyday and not dealing with the same woman's BS is paradise. I know u feel the same way. We men are horrible. Advice fellow women less just get money and stay on our own. Am doing my part over here

CAPSLOCKED:


MARRIAGES FAIL. RELATIONSHIPS FAIL.... WHETHER SINGLE MOM OR NOT.

FROM YOUR NOTE, I'VE CONCLUDED THAT YOU WERE THE PROBLEM IN YOUR MARRIAGE.
WITH THE AUTHORITATIVENESS IN YOUR WRITING, THERE'S A CHANCE YOU KEPT MISTREATING HER, EXPECTING HER TO WORSHIP YOU BECAUSE YOU BELIEVE IT'S A FAVOUR YOU'RE DOING HER BY BEING WITH HER.

I'M HAPPY FOR HER WHOEVER SHE IS. PEOPLE DESERVE BETTER THAN PEOPLE LIKE YOU.

Let's assume that you rightly concluded about the Op, what has that got to do with communicating with her ex? With due respect, you're sick sir.

cococandy:
In contact with the ex who fathered her child or some other ex? What kind of things did they discuss?

Per comments on the post: So, I suppose a single mom should deny the father of her child access to the children in order for the new man to like her? Ever heard of co parenting?

If you have a child and end up not marrying the woman who bore the child , do you deserve to loose that child so that she can move on to the next man? Or is a civil arrangement where you both can have your separate relationships and still be in your child’s life not a good option.

Na una dey do una self..

Any arrangement the two parents that doesn't carry the husband along is bound to affect her marriage even she doesn't cheat with her ex or her child's father.

You wanted to marry her with her 3kids?

That is very brave. I am not a man, so I don't have experience dating one, lol. However, I get your point.

I hope you find someone that ticks those boxes for you...

chronique:


My dear, almost everyone is the other person's ex and that's not a problem for me. I'm not one who is looking for a virgin. But guess what? I've had my own little issues with single moms. As at last year sef, I was trying to fix something with one and I was almost ready to shoulder her responsibilities with that of the 3 kids. Guess what? Aunty was still using style to see if she and the ex could get back, while still coming with me. Events that played out after I lost my dad and buried him, made me decide it wasn't worth it. I came back from burial and instead of coming to spend time with me, madam asked me to give her one of my cars to use to attend one society birthday party. I just gave an excuse why I couldn't and I stopped going to see her. It was much later during the year while we were discussing something that she made mention of her still hoping she and ex could get back together back then... If I don't get married to someone I like and love, I'd just do baby mama arrangements with someone who wants same and continue living my life in peace. Most single moms are self centered.

From the tone of your post it’s quite obvious u sound like a tyrant who thought he was doing her a favour by marrying her . The guys analysis was not wrong .

streetsoldier1:



It's a wrong reasoning to conclude on what you know nothing about. I did no one favour and never acted like god. Can't you just keep shut if you have nothing to say

TheRedpillguy:

Hehe now you are playing my jam. I like ur tone now. First am down with let the marriage crash let all go their seperate way. (Freedom at last)
People who protect u can not inflict pain on you. But u women are so insecured and lack the understanding so much that you lash out at small things, a man keeps his aggressive emotions in check you know it comes in hardy wen dealing with an enermy or natural disaster or dying in face of Danger, u women act like the enermy, danger, natural disaster all in one.
If you have ur money, I couldn't be more proud and to that I say good for you. Now how about we strike this whole concept of marriage out and leave freely. Waking up everyday and not dealing with the same woman's BS is paradise. I know u feel the same way. We men are horrible. Advice fellow women less just get money and stay on our own. Am doing my part over here

Abeg, leave me alone. I don tire for argument.

In case you want to buy anything or do anything in Dubai, send me, I'm here to make it easy for you.

Shalom.

streetsoldier1:
I tried all I could to save face, just have to end it all after discovering that the single mother I married still contacts her ex regularly...

Despite forgiving her several errors even while we got engaged, she still has the guts under my roof to mess up.

Warning guys, never ever marry a single mother that has been messed up!!!
6 years was messed up!!!

A pity you had to learn this lesson the hard way. I bet you never listened to your folks before taking that decision.

You will be fine. Stay strong. On hindsight, you will be pleased and happy with yourself for walking away.

streetsoldier1:
I tried all I could to save face, just have to end it all after discovering that the single mother I married still contacts her ex regularly...

Despite forgiving her several errors even while we got engaged, she still has the guts under my roof to mess up.

Warning guys, never ever marry a single mother that has been messed up!!!
6 years was messed up!!!

Your head no correct. You married an overused olosho. When we experienced fornicators and adulterers advice you, you will say we are mad. Now, you have learnt by your own mistakes. Now, join the Yoruba Demons Association (YODA) and the Sweet Boys Association (SBA) and start fuccking around.

He definitely should be in the loop. It doesn’t make sense any other way.

Even him will be present in that child’s life as much if not more than the dad (if the child is living with the mom). So yes he should be carried along.

maasoap:


Any arrangement the two parents that doesn't carry the husband along is bound to affect her marriage even she doesn't cheat with her ex or her child's father.

Manynations:

As a single mom I can only tell you that you messed up.

By marrying a single mum?
By divorcing her over that?
Or, by .................?

CAPSLOCKED:


MARRIAGES FAIL. RELATIONSHIPS FAIL.... WHETHER SINGLE MOM OR NOT.

FROM YOUR NOTE, I'VE CONCLUDED THAT YOU WERE THE PROBLEM IN YOUR MARRIAGE.
WITH THE AUTHORITATIVENESS IN YOUR WRITING, THERE'S A CHANCE YOU KEPT MISTREATING HER, EXPECTING HER TO WORSHIP YOU BECAUSE YOU BELIEVE IT'S A FAVOUR YOU'RE DOING HER BY BEING WITH HER.

I'M HAPPY FOR HER WHOEVER SHE IS. PEOPLE DESERVE BETTER THAN PEOPLE LIKE YOU.

From your rhetoric I’ve concluded that you don’t have sense. It’s too basic really.

streetsoldier1:
I tried all I could to save face, just have to end it all after discovering that the single mother I married still contacts her ex regularly...

Despite forgiving her several errors even while we got engaged, she still has the guts under my roof to mess up.

Warning guys, never ever marry a single mother that has been messed up!!!
6 years was messed up!!!

Bros, abeg no vex, what do you mean by contact? Cos you didn't state anything clearly. People contact people everyday.

The dictionary defines contact as the action of meeting or communicating.

Swinger60:
Abeg, leave me alone. I don tire for argument.

In case you want to buy anything or do anything in Dubai, send me, I'm here to make it easy for you.

Shalom.

Thank you, will do. Are u selling something I can't find on Amazone? I think the only thing I will like to buy in Dubai is a vacation, I think going myself will be a best choice. Anyways if u v more bussines that I can patronize please don't hesitate to let me know. Am a developer, I build all type of cyber shit, an app for your business will be in order i belief

Stay away from marriage. It does not bring happiness. Leave it for our ancestors. Times have changed, we are not in the 17th century.

Nnemuka:

You mean, do broke ladies exist?
ofcourse them boku but men love broke women with no source of income
Alfa men prefer broke women because they massage your ego and are very submissive whereas a rich hardworking single lady is actually a turn off for so many of you.
Well back to the point, everybody deserves love, wherever you find one, you go for it.

Broke ladies will multiply poverty in men's life..
Men should avoid broke ladies..

Broke ladies don't even like themselves

Single moms should pity fresh Naija guys too!!

Stop being around them..

Be around Single Dads and Widowers more..

Trust me you find your match there!!!

Fresh Naija guys deserve a marriage without baggages from the single mummy previous marriage!!

Swinger60:
Not fair you are generalizing, some one close to me ended her marriage this Jan. She is the best woman any one can have, unfortunately she married a man that was raised wrongly.

Imagine her husband beating her because she came back, and, saw her husband's weed he poured inside their plate, and, she threw it away. This marriage already had 3kids, even if the man smokes, does he have to flaunt before and kids.

I encouraged her to arrest him after hitting her, she did, and the man was detained, he didn't show any remorse afterwards, rather, he was threatening her with divorce, I told her is time she move on, and she did.

And before this last incident, Her 9years marriage has been 9years of domestic violence.


Now, tell me, didn't she deserve a second chance of remarrying?

And what makes you think a woman who can endure 9 years of domestic violence wouldn't find herself in a compromising situation with this same abuser later on in the name of ex-hubby or baby daddy? Or do you think it's that easy to break a cycle of abuse or Stockholm syndrome.

Sure she deserves a second chance of remarrying, but whoever is entering it deserves to know she's bad news. Only her baggage fit full Airbus A320.

When people advise against having anything concrete with a single mother, they aren't being hateful of the lady. Only that it'd take a lot of work that might be too much for many to handle. Relationships are hit or miss as it is; now you're adding new vectors.

Single parents should marry single parents.

-Lord

streetsoldier1:



It's a wrong reasoning to conclude on what you know nothing about. I did no one favour and never acted like god. Can't you just keep shut if you have nothing to say

YOU ARE SUCH A FOOL CUZ YOU CAN'T EVEN TOLERATE OTHER PEOPLE'S OPINION..... I REALLY FEEL BAD FOR THE SINGLE MUM... YOU ARE SO FULL OF YOURSELF.... #QUOTE ME

I wonder why people still marry single mom .

DukeNija:


From your rhetoric I’ve concluded that you don’t have sense. It’s too basic really.

You are right.

Resurgent2016:


Truth is there is an increased risk of having a complicated relationship when dating a single mum or dad because rather than the conventional 2-party relationship, it have as much as 4 or 5 parties in it.

Any man who isn't willing to bear such especially when the woman isn't matured enough to manage all the stakeholders properly should avoid it. And probably only few men can manage such.

His friends probably read him the riot act and he ignore them, hence his regret

You are right tho. Thank God I'm managing mine and doing it well

Sirvingeo:
I wonder why people still marry single mom .

They deserve another chance too bro

Swinger60:
Not fair you are generalizing, some one close to me ended her marriage this Jan. She is the best woman any one can have, unfortunately she married a man that was raised wrongly.

Imagine her husband beating her because she came back, and, saw her husband's weed he poured inside their plate, and, she threw it away. This marriage already had 3kids, even if the man smokes, does he have to flaunt before and kids.

I encouraged her to arrest him after hitting her, she did, and the man was detained, he didn't show any remorse afterwards, rather, he was threatening her with divorce, I told her is time she move on, and she did.

And before this last incident, Her 9years marriage has been 9years of domestic violence.


Now, tell me, didn't she deserve a second chance of remarrying?

u are bragging of destoying someones marriage online. i swear if na me be the man and i know wetin happen , i will make your death look like action film

richPHAROAH:
u are bragging of destoying someones marriage online. i swear if na me be the man and i know wetin happen , i will make your death look like action film

Huncle, calm down.

You won't do Nada.

You dish out rubbish to people, you get rubbish in return. That's the rule of life.

Till then, your threats are empty.

You didn't see the wife he has been beating for nine years, or, that he nearly killed her because she threw his weeds away? You still didn't see that he wasn't even remorseful after being detained at police station for hitting her? And he was Even the one who was even threatening divorce after everything?

If you didn't see anything wrong in all those he did. May every female that is related to you, that you hold close to your heart be treated the same way.

I'm waiting for your Amen.

alexyanalysis:

They deserve another chance too bro

Almost all of them are promiscuous . They lack direction and rarely love . There kids will always be their real love . And you will always deal with their baby daddy. Generally, single mom are bad market.

ArticleBeast:

How many Isoko people do you know? In Isoko we don't do that instead we marry 2-3 women. We can even marry the three the same day.

Isoko wa doh

Single mother. No be me go chop remnant or buy used car, where tear leather like dominique dey. Single mother my yansh

alexyanalysis:

They deserve another chance too bro

I rather marry a widow than a single mother. Most of them are always very mean and vindictive.


I'm in love with dominique

streetsoldier1:


BroZ, no matter how sweet your gbola is, someone who is messed up will always mess up. Never should any guy think he is going to make any messed up woman change and behave better!!!

And now that you are messed up Kwanu? You think a single girl would fix up?

streetsoldier1:



It's a wrong reasoning to conclude on what you know nothing about. I did no one favour and never acted like god. Can't you just keep shut if you have nothing to say

I didn't expect you to answer the guy

People who contribute meaningless deserves Silence