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Re: I Just Ended My Marriage! Single Mum I Married Still Contacts Her Ex Regularly by henryobinna(m): 12:52pm On Jan 11, 2020 |
Swinger60:sorry for her but well, when you marry a weed smoker, expect everything both good and bad. |
Re: I Just Ended My Marriage! Single Mum I Married Still Contacts Her Ex Regularly by Nobody: 12:52pm On Jan 11, 2020 |
Hamzaay:lol. Until then. I guess you’ll follow them around and put a padlock on their waist. |
Re: I Just Ended My Marriage! Single Mum I Married Still Contacts Her Ex Regularly by TheRedpillguy: 12:53pm On Jan 11, 2020 |
Slimdada:The thirst is real 1 Like |
Re: I Just Ended My Marriage! Single Mum I Married Still Contacts Her Ex Regularly by luluosas(m): 12:53pm On Jan 11, 2020 |
You make the greatest mistake by marrying her. You would have simply asked her to reconcile with her ex husband. Divorce has no place in God's holy standard for marriage streetsoldier1: 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I Just Ended My Marriage! Single Mum I Married Still Contacts Her Ex Regularly by Cousin9999: 12:55pm On Jan 11, 2020 |
That's why some people avoid single parents. There's this idea that ultimately they want to be with the ex and have a family. I say it depends on the person and circumstances. This woman clearly never moved on, and I doubt that wasn't obvious. When you see the signs, leave them. 6 Likes |
Re: I Just Ended My Marriage! Single Mum I Married Still Contacts Her Ex Regularly by TheRedpillguy: 12:55pm On Jan 11, 2020 |
Saintmary:Yes she is a single mother. Judgment passed and rightly so. |
Re: I Just Ended My Marriage! Single Mum I Married Still Contacts Her Ex Regularly by YeyeBoyfriend: 12:55pm On Jan 11, 2020 |
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Re: I Just Ended My Marriage! Single Mum I Married Still Contacts Her Ex Regularly by Ebenezar2020(m): 12:56pm On Jan 11, 2020 |
obowunmi:sorry pagan that post wasn't meant for you. 1 Like |
Re: I Just Ended My Marriage! Single Mum I Married Still Contacts Her Ex Regularly by Nobody: 12:57pm On Jan 11, 2020 |
Saintmary:Single mum should stick with thier types... Single Dads, Widowers and Polygamous men are available for them.. Stop complicating life of a fresh young guy with your baggages!!! 8 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: I Just Ended My Marriage! Single Mum I Married Still Contacts Her Ex Regularly by Swinger60(f): 12:59pm On Jan 11, 2020 |
isthatso:Uncle, I use to believe that people are usually responsible for some fate that befalls them, but, now, I know it's not always true. If you are Guy, you will agree with me that when it comes bad habits like smoking, most men hide it from thier women till they marry them. You sound like "Mr knows it all and can never make mistake", and, I pray life always appear for you the way you want it. And, I'm also glad you are just human and your power about things of life it's limited. If not, you would have denied all single mothers second chance of being happy, if possible, you may even have them sentenced to death because they couldn't put up with thier toxic marriage. Last word, it's easier for us to judge others, till happens to us or anyone close to us. Cheers. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Just Ended My Marriage! Single Mum I Married Still Contacts Her Ex Regularly by seunfly: 1:00pm On Jan 11, 2020 |
Swinger60: That scenerio you painted is the major issue, she can't behave very well to the new husband because she has been damaged by the irresponsible ex. By the way, why do people marry wrong fellow, do they always get carried away by the wrong things which makes them over look the right things. 4 Likes |
Re: I Just Ended My Marriage! Single Mum I Married Still Contacts Her Ex Regularly by Nobody: 1:01pm On Jan 11, 2020 |
Misterdhee1:Lol nor be lie. |
Re: I Just Ended My Marriage! Single Mum I Married Still Contacts Her Ex Regularly by Nobody: 1:01pm On Jan 11, 2020 |
Nnemuka:You have never seen single mum jubilation for getting a young fresh guy?? My question is, why can't they go after single daddies and Widowerz, who are on similar path with them?? It is not her fault... I will blame the Op for dating her!! 4 Likes |
Re: I Just Ended My Marriage! Single Mum I Married Still Contacts Her Ex Regularly by sharone21(f): 1:01pm On Jan 11, 2020 |
Why didn't she marry her ex or stay put with her ex if he was SO GOOD? The mistake single mums do, losing at both ends...why is the ex also not allowing his precious marriage suffer because of 'your wife?' As a single mum and u marry, CUT OFF from your ex if possible....but many want to eat from both sides in the name of training kids together....OR they are not so sure of their place in marriage and trying to have insurance incase it crashes. Was she married to her ex before or just have a child? Do you both have kids together? 6 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: I Just Ended My Marriage! Single Mum I Married Still Contacts Her Ex Regularly by Ladycewhy(f): 1:02pm On Jan 11, 2020 |
I am assuming the ex in question is her baby daddy, was she supposed to cut ties with the father of her child ? Was the man in question supposed to forget his child for you? If you want to know the pros and cons of this baby mama baby daddy thing study the African american society . Anyway,i too avoid baby daddies like a plague so i wont tell you what to do but you should have anticipated that they will still keep in touch cos there is a child involved except the said ex is not the one she has a child for. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Just Ended My Marriage! Single Mum I Married Still Contacts Her Ex Regularly by Nobody: 1:05pm On Jan 11, 2020 |
oloriLFC:Your case is different!!! You probably had your son as a teenager!! We are talking about someone that was married, broke up with the husband or probably divorced... And still expect a relationship with another fresh young guy, only to disappoint him badly!!! 1 Like |
Re: I Just Ended My Marriage! Single Mum I Married Still Contacts Her Ex Regularly by madridsta007(m): 1:05pm On Jan 11, 2020 |
streetsoldier1: There are two kind of persons that, if you do not want to fool yourself, you should generally stay away from as a bachelor; 1. Single Mothers. 2. Girls raised by Single-Mothers. Unless the Holy Spirit has convicted them and they are given into God's plan for marriage, these ones are so independently-minded that yourself and/or the relationship is just a convenient afterthought for them. The single-mother invests her time and care into her child, unless you quickly have children with her. The lady raised by a single mother sees single-motherhood as normalised part of adulthood; she will dump you halfway, opt to be alone after every small quarrel because that is what she has seen as normal in her growing up. Single mothers are usually honest. They will tell you, “my child comes first”. You will go into the relationship thinking less about what that means. Lol, by the time she shows you what she means, you’ll be complaining. But hey, she warned you. Generally, these are the issues one faces dating these two classes of individuals. And it is not their fault. The system which they have seen as normal is to be blamed. There are the outliers though, but they are few and far between. Hence the first condition I mentioned. However, this is now your wife. Divorce is never the answer. 13 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Just Ended My Marriage! Single Mum I Married Still Contacts Her Ex Regularly by Nnemuka(f): 1:05pm On Jan 11, 2020 |
eni4real:Everybody deserves to be loved. single dad, single moms, widowers, widows etc You don't tell the heart whom to love, we find love in very strange places so pls don't expect people to go after their "kind" before they can find love. |
Re: I Just Ended My Marriage! Single Mum I Married Still Contacts Her Ex Regularly by Abfinest007(m): 1:07pm On Jan 11, 2020 |
so u start |
Re: I Just Ended My Marriage! Single Mum I Married Still Contacts Her Ex Regularly by lucky4west: 1:07pm On Jan 11, 2020 |
sorry bro but not all single mum will behave like this...u got the wrong one, better luck next time |
Re: I Just Ended My Marriage! Single Mum I Married Still Contacts Her Ex Regularly by Saintmary(f): 1:07pm On Jan 11, 2020 |
TheRedpillguy:We know you are only trying to console your friend. He will be the one to sleep alone tonight. Not you. |
Re: I Just Ended My Marriage! Single Mum I Married Still Contacts Her Ex Regularly by recentelder(m): 1:08pm On Jan 11, 2020 |
It is quite painful. |
Re: I Just Ended My Marriage! Single Mum I Married Still Contacts Her Ex Regularly by chronique(m): 1:09pm On Jan 11, 2020 |
TheRedpillguy: I don't think it is wrong to marry a single mom cos honestly, there are some who are worth wifing. The problem is how does the lady herself carry on? Does she understand the complexities of the relationship and is she able to set reasonable boundaries? Some ladies are weak and just 30 mins alone with their ex, pants and bra go done off, forgetting that they are already married to someone else. 6 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: I Just Ended My Marriage! Single Mum I Married Still Contacts Her Ex Regularly by Duru009(m): 1:10pm On Jan 11, 2020 |
Honestly, 98% of single mama I know are hoes. Thy can't stay with one man no matter what ! Take it or leave it .... Only time will certainly tell 3 Likes |
Re: I Just Ended My Marriage! Single Mum I Married Still Contacts Her Ex Regularly by Nobody: 1:11pm On Jan 11, 2020 |
Nnemuka:There is no strange place anywhere!!! A young guy starting off his life should not start with the burden of dating single mums!!! Especially the one that was previously married and divorced!!! Single mum should do hustling young unmarried Nigerian guys some favour, they should avoid them the same way an average lady will avoid a broke guy!!! They should maintain that standard!!! Single Dads, Widowers and Polygamous men are out their looking for 'mature' ladies to date/marry!!! Na beg I dey beg!!! 9 Likes |
Re: I Just Ended My Marriage! Single Mum I Married Still Contacts Her Ex Regularly by TheRedpillguy: 1:13pm On Jan 11, 2020 |
Swinger60:Nope! Definitely and Absolutely No except she is paying. The best woman anyone can have(this is non existing) you forgot to mention wea she talked with her husband b4 throwing his weed away.(controlling) she is also frnds with U. U that ur best solution is getting people in prison. Women act aggressively and get surprise when thy meet repercussions and go ahead and scream abuse. Incase you keep putting ppl in prison know that a person can kill u from prison without a trace 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I Just Ended My Marriage! Single Mum I Married Still Contacts Her Ex Regularly by cococandy(f): 1:14pm On Jan 11, 2020 |
Who’s talking about combo (whatever that means) Single parents have to share their child and because of that they can never truly be out of each other’s lives. Parenting doesn’t have to be weird unless the adults make it weird topboss1: 1 Like |
Re: I Just Ended My Marriage! Single Mum I Married Still Contacts Her Ex Regularly by Nobody: 1:14pm On Jan 11, 2020 |
thorpido: Fantastic take from you! Awesomely fantastic!
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Re: I Just Ended My Marriage! Single Mum I Married Still Contacts Her Ex Regularly by Swinger60(f): 1:15pm On Jan 11, 2020 |
seunfly:Somehow, you first line made me understand. Yes, they may be damaged, and, still not everyone of them. But, not that they don't deserve second chance of remarrying. Let them decide that themselves. For me, if anything happens that I get married and later separate, heavens will bear me witness, I WILL NEVER EVER REMARRY. I rock my singleness till I die. As for the last question you ask, no one can explain that, like the example I gave above, no one will ever believe that the guy will ever be doing weeds, he hid so perfectly for us and his wife. Some things are beyond explanation in this life abeg. 1 Like |
Re: I Just Ended My Marriage! Single Mum I Married Still Contacts Her Ex Regularly by Nnemuka(f): 1:17pm On Jan 11, 2020 |
eni4real:Nobody forced him to go after the single mum, he saw, dated and MARRIED her with clear eyes. You don't tell people whom to love and marry, adults make choices by themselves. You should make your own choice 1 Like |
Re: I Just Ended My Marriage! Single Mum I Married Still Contacts Her Ex Regularly by TheRedpillguy: 1:18pm On Jan 11, 2020 |
chronique:See? This is more problem that you should not be worrying about just ignore single mothers and all this wouldn't be a problem. Somebody married a single mother look how it turn out. Anybody with single mother successful marriage? Please step up and share your story. How rasing basterds have changed ur life. Come on. 4 Likes |
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