Some guys are just plain dumb, why will a young guy of 27 yrs even think of marriage with a woman with 2 KIDS already? OP, what did your family think of the marriage?

Love is blind go ahead and marry her

Don't marry her yet.....

Please kindly wait until she has two more kids for her baby daddy or any other guy before marrying her.

You are both too young for marriage. So, you need to test her fertility before getting married to her.

Thank me later.

kay29000:
Why will you want to marry someone that you claim flirts online? On top of that she already has two kids. Bro, you better back off and look elsewhere. If it is love, trust me, I have been there, you will get over it and find someone you love more than her with time.

Low self esteem. He thinks he can't do better. I bet the girl knows how low he thinks of himself and probably hates herself for being with him (hence why she flirts online, still looking for someone better). Also, regardless of how bad she talks about her baby daddy, she still rates him much higher than the op.

Op, work on your self esteem. You deserve so much better than a disrespectful flirt.

charvick:
Good morning all.
I have a challenge facing me for a while now. I've been dating this young girl (25 yrs) for like a year and half now. She is a single mother with 2kids and am a young guy (27yrs) working and as well schooling.

There is some funny characters she displays that is a huge red flag to me, she can flirt online and always pressure for a marriage. Please can she be the right choice?

never be a stepfather

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6B3vyIbe1Rw

I pity u and I pray u better come to ur senses quick...before fire go catch u.

[Olisa Biko quote author=ibechris post=85761517]I pity u and I pray u better come to ur senses quick...before fire go catch u.[/quote]

richesbhc:
Some guys are just plain dumb, why will a young guy of 27 yrs even think of marriage with a woman with 2 KIDS already? OP, what did your family think of the marriage?

Love is blind go ahead and marry her

Nigerians got a one way traffic thinking. No one bothered mentioning sterility. A sterile man who can't father a child will easily wanna marry a single mother. Another angle

Red flags means warning signs.i feel you should take your time to observe before taking discisions. Don't how to presssue. Pray for God's lead.

Op please do marry her...we await ur story on nairaland front page ..till den, see ya

charvick:
Good morning all.
I have a challenge facing me for a while now. I've been dating this young girl (25 yrs) for like a year and half now. She is a single mother with 2kids and am a young guy (27yrs) working and as well schooling.

There is some funny characters she displays that is a huge red flag to me, she can flirt online and always pressure for a marriage. Please can she be the right choice?

nothing wrong with marrying a single mother but you're too young to burden yourself with 2 kids from another man. Let her marry a widower or a divorced man that is over 30 or 40.


Just my 2 cents

Riele:
What exactly is the point of these post ?

To seek opinion from total strangers on your life decisions ?

Or to join the trend of making single mothers look like beasts ?

you know zero about LIFE! You're just a 16 year old girl mixing with adults online. Offline you'd be asked to leave a gathering where issues like this are discussed so shut up

My In-law, please don't listen to all these nonsense.

Marry my sister.

But e no concern me o....

Riele:
What exactly is the point of these post ?

To seek opinion from total strangers on your life decisions ?

Or to join the trend of making single mothers look like beasts ?

God bless you

charvick:
Good morning all.
I have a challenge facing me for a while now. I've been dating this young girl (25 yrs) for like a year and half now. She is a single mother with 2kids and am a young guy (27yrs) working and as well schooling.

There is some funny characters she displays that is a huge red flag to me, she can flirt online and always pressure for a marriage. Please can she be the right choice?

If I abuse u now, u go dey vex.... Sense u no get, u dey do like mumu


Wetin do her baby daddy?

U see red flag, what does ur sense tells u abt red

She is pressuring you again,

She kon get 2 kids join.. Woo, ur life don ruin finish be dt....


If it goes negative, U wil still come here and weep and I will give u bucket to cry..i

If it works for u, I will be at ur wedding

charvick:
I don't get you? Am in a cross path, a time I need to decide and I reached out for advise.

I Swear ear u r very stupid. So stupid

charvick:
Not at all dear. Am no judge over people's life, but when I see red flags and uncertainty especially from one that has been messed from love(leading to being a single mom) I panic!

That messed up that u say, I no dt u r senseless but I will still help u.. Read this:

https://www.nairaland.com/5625022/just-ended-marriage-single-mum

See this too
Warning guys, never ever marry a single mother that has been messed up!!!
6 years was messed up!!!




I know u r a fool, u will stil go ahead to marry her....

Questions...
Are the two kids from the same man or different men?
If from the same man...
Ok!
First child was proabaly a mistake.
How about the second?

Whatever the answers are to those questions, it makes little or no difference...
Fact is...she's loose!

A different story if she was married and later divorced.
But a single lady with 2 kids?




You can do better!

Sure, I keep putting that in prayers and unconvinced to continue the relationship, though honestly because of the kids she got. She is nice(which I may say is acting) because I've virtualize myself what she could do for money.

realtalk19:
Red flags means warning signs.i feel you should take your time to observe before taking discisions. Don't how to presssue. Pray for God's lead.

Both kids are from same man. And from my findings she was forced into the man due to difficulty and hardship her family was experiencing.

Kingsteve:
Questions...
Are the two kids from the same man or different men?
If from the same man...
Ok!
First child was proabaly a mistake.
How about the second?

Whatever the answers are to those questions, it makes little or no difference...
Fact is...she's loose!

A different story if she was married and later divorced.
But a single lady with 2 kids?




You can do better!

Thanks a lot for the advice and hints. Forgave your insults to me, I don't let criticism get to my heart. That hint was a good one, I appreciate.

Timekeeper:



That messed up that u say, I no dt u r senseless but I will still help u.. Read this:

https://www.nairaland.com/5625022/just-ended-marriage-single-mum

See this too
Warning guys, never ever marry a single mother that has been messed up!!!
6 years was messed up!!!




I know u r a fool, u will stil go ahead to marry her....

Never my portion.

Timekeeper:


If I abuse u now, u go dey vex.... Sense u no get, u dey do like mumu


Wetin do her baby daddy?

U see red flag, what does ur sense tells u abt red

She is pressuring you again,

She kon get 2 kids join.. Woo, ur life don ruin finish be dt....


If it goes negative, U wil still come here and weep and I will give u bucket to cry..i

If it works for u, I will be at ur wedding

Hmm.... Good one bro. Am so confused and need a way of telling her that am breaking up with her. As am only son, I need to be careful, most have this phobia of making the wrong choice, I swear I can't take that.
The marriage aspect is not even moving me, die to financial reasons---i earn 40k monthly while she earns 20

oodua1stson:
nothing wrong with marrying a single mother but you're too young to burden yourself with 2 kids from another man. Let her marry a widower or a divorced man that is over 30 or 40.


Just my 2 cents

oodua1stson:
you know zero about LIFE! You're just a 16 year old girl mixing with adults online. Offline you'd be asked to leave a gathering where issues like this are discussed so shut up

No

You're the one to shut up with your primitive mindset .

Because where you come from girls at 16 are chase away from discussing this kind of topics doesn't mean it applies everywhere .

Face your front and write like an adult that you are .

charvick:
Never my portion.

Sorry 4d insult Bro... Pls dont make mistake sir.. Let me highlight somethings for you.

1. It's not wise to marry a single mother when the husband is still alive.. From ur talk, he even stay within ur neighborhood..

2. The husband will still have access to her pussy anytime any day, trust me.. Ladies are dumb, she will still carry herself go meet him in the name of he is the father of my kids

3. She doesn't love u, she only want u to marry her so dt u can bear the responsibility of her kids.. She doesn't love u, take that from m

4. She had her own fault in breaking away from her husband but she wunt tell u. Women love to play victim... Frozen70 can attest to thia

5. U av seen a red flag sign, u r old enough to understand what red means, danger

6. U r too young to cater for 2 kids dt ain't urs even if u av the money.. U r too young

7. She wunt respect u, u r 27 and she is 25.. Trust me, she wunt respect u

8. She will always transfer the agrresssion of her failed marriage on you

9. If u kon born 3 kids, then u will be carry 5 kids dt 2 will soon or later leave for their father


10. I can't type again, I dey hungry. Send me money b4 I keep giving u advise. I think u r very rich for wanting to cater for 2 kids dt ain't urs at 27 year old. Pls dont

11. Just follow 1 to 9, 10 is optional.. Shey make I send my acct number?

Timekeeper:

Sorry 4d insult Bro... Pls dont make mistake sir.. Let me highlight somethings for you.

1. It's not wise to marry a single mother when the husband is still alive.. From ur talk, he even stay within ur neighborhood..

2. The husband will still have access to her pussy anytime any day, trust me.. Ladies are dumb, she will still carry herself go meet him in the name of he is the father of my kids

3. She doesn't love u, she only want u to marry her so dt u can bear the responsibility of her kids.. She doesn't love u, take that from m

4. She had her own fault in breaking away from her husband but she wunt tell u. Women love to play victim... Frozen70 can attest to thia

5. U av seen a red flag sign, u r old enough to understand what red means, danger

6. U r too young to cater for 2 kids dt ain't urs even if u av the money.. U r too young

7. She wunt respect u, u r 27 and she is 25.. Trust me, she wunt respect u

8. She will always transfer the agrresssion of her failed marriage on you

9. If u kon born 3 kids, then u will be carry 5 kids dt 2 will soon or later leave for their father


10. I can't type again, I dey hungry. Send me money b4 I keep giving u advise. I think u r very rich for wanting to cater for 2 kids dt ain't urs at 27 year old. Pls dont

11. Just follow 1 to 9, 10 is optional.. Shey make I send my acct number?

Why you dey bring frozen inside this matter, is frozen a woman psychologist?

charvick:
Hmm.... Good one bro. Am so confused and need a way of telling her that am breaking up with her. As am only son, I need to be careful, most have this phobia of making the wrong choice, I swear I can't take that.
The marriage aspect is not even moving me, die to financial reasons---i earn 40k monthly while she earns 20

Haaaa a.. U will be a deadmeat if u marry Her. 40k monthly, she get 2 kids.. Bro Pls I beg you, don't marry her.
. U r not financially okay, u r the only son, Pls hustle more.. Don't marry now, Pls hustle more... I dey beg u bros...

Find a way to tell her u can't continue... Just tell her u can't continue. Let her look for a single father too, u r too young Bro.. Pls

frozen70:


Why you dey bring frozen inside this matter, is frozen a woman psychologist?

No frozen is a man hater

charvick:
Sure, I keep putting that in prayers and unconvinced to continue the relationship, though honestly because of the kids she got. She is nice(which I may say is acting) because I've virtualize myself what she could do for money.

U get sense now Bro, she is nice bcox u wants u to marry her first.. But after u marry her, no more acting ooo, na her real face u go see.. I am telling u

Timekeeper:



No frozen is a man hater

Is that the only threat ?

If so stay away from her comments or deal with it, rather than being a Timekeeper on frozen comments

I will support any man that is being disrespected in this forum by a woman and also be against any man that treats a woman like an option

charvick:
Both kids are from same man. And from my findings she was forced into the man due to difficulty and hardship her family was experiencing.

In that case, she can't really be faulted.
Still...
If she was forced to the man due to hardship, why didn't the man marry her?
I still don't get...

Ok, let's assume it isn't her fault, but you complained about her flirting online.
Can you really live with all her baggage?
Just think with your head before making a decision.

You're still a young man, and you're yet to meet more women.
You never even start, so don't be in a hurry to jump into marriage with this single mother.
Be wise!

Wow.... Thanks for the advice bro, so true and I appreciate.

Timekeeper:

Sorry 4d insult Bro... Pls dont make mistake sir.. Let me highlight somethings for you.

1. It's not wise to marry a single mother when the husband is still alive.. From ur talk, he even stay within ur neighborhood..

2. The husband will still have access to her pussy anytime any day, trust me.. Ladies are dumb, she will still carry herself go meet him in the name of he is the father of my kids

3. She doesn't love u, she only want u to marry her so dt u can bear the responsibility of her kids.. She doesn't love u, take that from m

4. She had her own fault in breaking away from her husband but she wunt tell u. Women love to play victim... Frozen70 can attest to thia

5. U av seen a red flag sign, u r old enough to understand what red means, danger

6. U r too young to cater for 2 kids dt ain't urs even if u av the money.. U r too young

7. She wunt respect u, u r 27 and she is 25.. Trust me, she wunt respect u

8. She will always transfer the agrresssion of her failed marriage on you

9. If u kon born 3 kids, then u will be carry 5 kids dt 2 will soon or later leave for their father


10. I can't type again, I dey hungry. Send me money b4 I keep giving u advise. I think u r very rich for wanting to cater for 2 kids dt ain't urs at 27 year old. Pls dont

11. Just follow 1 to 9, 10 is optional.. Shey make I send my acct number?

Like you knew my mind. Hustle and education has been my priorities beside God and salvation.

Timekeeper:


Haaaa a.. U will be a deadmeat if u marry Her. 40k monthly, she get 2 kids.. Bro Pls I beg you, don't marry her.
. U r not financially okay, u r the only son, Pls hustle more.. Don't marry now, Pls hustle more... I dey beg u bros...

Find a way to tell her u can't continue... Just tell her u can't continue. Let her look for a single father too, u r too young Bro.. Pls