Platini7:
That was a bad error on my part. I retained just one. The rest i lost the passwords. Should've deleted

Ok.I modified above so you can go through my posts again.

pocohantas:


- They dated briefly 10yrs ago.
- She go America, date another person.
- I think while she was dating another person, uncle was flirting with random girls online.
-She come back, them reconnect come marry.

What exactly is her issue?

She suppose done old pass this kind childish tantrums na.

Be like she get pali, because na wetin dey make Naija guy humble like this.

On the contrary, she's unemployed at the moment

thorpido:
You should have eleted those fake accounts when you got married.
Well,you will need to make contacts with your wife and try to convince her it was in your past and it was all for fun.Try to reach her through people who have access to her.
It might take some time before she changes her mind but keep pushing it.

Thanks a lot bro. God bless

Platini7:
Thanks a lot bro. God bless

U sound very guilty.
This is anonymous forum so nobody knew u.
Open up and u may get an approach that might help u get your family back.

Nobody is perfect.

Jewessgratitude:
Back then, i use to have this silly habit of creating anonymous facebook accounts where i would add people i know and comment on their posts and pictures without them ever knowing i was the one. I dropped many comments back then and one such incident happened to be a time i commented on her close friend's picture, telling her (the friend) she was pretty and how i wanted her. This was almost 10 years ago and

Ogar, this your story doesn't add up. @bolded, you claimed you created anonymous accounts to flirt then and people never got to know it was you.

Now...how did your wife now get to know you were the one behind the account that commented on her friends beauty? And this was suppose to be anonymous from 10yrs ago.
Its either you're not telling us the truth or you did this recently with your current account but don't want to say the truth.
In this case, nothing to say.

She knew the account (via mutual friends) , but didn't know i was the one behind it until she saw the app in my phone

sassysure:

U sound very guilty.
This is anonymous forum so nobody knew u.
Open up and u may get an approach that might help u get your family back.

Nobody is perfect.

I sound quilty cos i know i should've opened up or deleted the account once we got married. The potential loss of my child is giving me nightmares. However, i have just told the whole truth on this thread and i am open to any clarifications.

It is me that needs help here.....what's the point of withholding info if i seek solution?

If not that you already married her I'd advice you kick her out your house n dust your doormat..yeye dey smell

Maybe she still thinks like a single female teenager with no brain,abi she don't know this is marriage n not dating

Jewessgratitude:
Back then, i use to have this silly habit of creating anonymous facebook accounts where i would add people i know and comment on their posts and pictures without them ever knowing i was the one. I dropped many comments back then and one such incident happened to be a time i commented on her close friend's picture, telling her (the friend) she was pretty and how i wanted her. This was almost 10 years ago and

Ogar, this your story doesn't add up. @bolded, you claimed you created anonymous accounts to flirt then and people never got to know it was you.

Now...how did your wife now get to know you were the one behind the account that commented on her friends beauty? And this was suppose to be anonymous from 10yrs ago.
Its either you're not telling us the truth or you did this recently with your current account but don't want to say the truth.
In this case, nothing to say.

You will be a good cop

Platini7:
She knew the account (via mutual friends) , but didn't know i was the one behind it until she saw the app in my phone

You mean, you still kept account of ten years ago? And you're still using the same phone from ten years ago? Still doesn't add up.

Let assume you have changed your phone, the new phone will not automatically bring up those anonymous account unless you sign in to them. So you prolly signed in to it recently and was still using it which made her to see it but you're trying to make us believe all that ended 10yrs ago.
I'm still not convinced.

Froshloaded:


You will be a good cop

Hahahaaa.. My dad was a senior NPS officer who dealt with criminals at the maximum prisons those days. So I gat his blood flowing in my veins.

Like seriously how you see that story? Guy man wan bobo us na. Hahahaaa

izzou:


Dated Briefly

I missed that part.

He better go back to Abia state and tell her family what's happening. The wife dey behave like small pikin

hey I accidentally clicked on your profile today and saw it's your birthday, happy cake day homie

Jewessgratitude:



You mean, you still kept account of ten years ago? And you're still using the same phone from ten years ago? Still doesn't add up.

Let assume you have changed your phone, the new phone will not automatically bring up those anonymous account unless you sign in to them. So you prolly signed in to it recently and was still using it which made her to see it but you're trying to make us believe all that ended 10yrs ago.
I'm still not convinced.

Please check my posts well on this thread. What ended 10 years ago was me commenting and flirting with those girls online. I never said i stopped using the fake account. I changed numerous phones but i still had that account. Actually created many of them in the beggining......but this was the only one i have the password offhead (lost the other accounts when i couldn't remember the passwords). And i signed in to the account as recently as last week. I go there to browse facebook and read news, i don't flirt there anymore. I left those 10 years ago.

Her main annoyance is that she claims that the friend was her best friend. That's why she says she heartbroken

Why do you consider it a fake account instead of an alternate one?

And why comment anonymously to people you know?

That's rather creepy and could be considered borderline stalking.

Back then, i use to have this silly habit of creating anonymous facebook accounts where i would add people i know and comment on their posts and pictures without them ever knowing i was the one.

Not to mention why would people intentionally add strangers on their personal fb pages?

And is it a must you have to flirt online? Why is self control considered a female thing among Nigerians? (even that has changed now). Must you drop sexually themed comments on someone's page when you know you have sex issues?

Platini7:
Please check my posts well on this thread. What ended 10 years ago was me commenting and flirting with those girls online. I never said i stopped using the fake account. I changed numerous phones but i still had that account. Actually created many of them in the beggining......but this was the only one i have the password offhead (lost the other accounts when i couldn't remember the passwords). And i signed in to the account as recently as last week. I go there to browse facebook and read news, i don't flirt there anymore. I left those 10 years ago.

Her main annoyance is that she claims that the friend was her best friend. That's why she says she heartbroken

Hmm...using it for biz and news. I c.
Just try to be straight forward Sir. We had to put words into your mouth before you could open up that you're still operating that troll account.
If you ask me, it is enough to make her angry cos She's doesn't know for sure if you're still chyking her friend till date. If not, how come its only that account you're still able to remember the password. There must be a reason why you're still keeping it. Best known to you though.

People react differently to issue.....no one has the right to tell anyone he/she is over reacting...

I suggest yhu apologize more and pray about it...she must be really hurt to take such drastic decision..

Platini7:
Please check my posts well on this thread. What ended 10 years ago was me commenting and flirting with those girls online. I never said i stopped using the fake account. I changed numerous phones but i still had that account. Actually created many of them in the beggining......but this was the only one i have the password offhead (lost the other accounts when i couldn't remember the passwords). And i signed in to the account as recently as last week. I go there to browse facebook and read news, i don't flirt there anymore. I left those 10 years ago.

Her main annoyance is that she claims that the friend was her best friend. That's why she says she heartbroken

This is what happens when you marry people without deep roots. Something that happened ten years ago and she wants to divorce you.

She doesn't have deep roots. Maybe you married looks, classy etc. Which doesn't sustain marriage.
Deed has already been done. You will have to device a strategy on how to deal with a woman like that. She has a western mindset.
Your only mistake was retaining that facebook account

Maybe you married looks, classy etc.

He didnt say this.

Besides, he even claimed he was in a different relationship when he made sexually suggestive comments on another lady's picture.

We're looking at a minimum of three+ ladies in one story (and the story isnt even an epistle as is typical here), he hasn't told us yet about others.

Platini7:
Please i created this moniker to seek advise on this issue.

I got married to my wife in 2018 and there's already an issue that is threatening our young marriage.

We dated briefly 10 years ago before she travelled to the US for schooling. She stayed there for a while and then got into a relationship over there with a guy i know (I wasn't close friends with the guy). I had to move on with my life and got into a relationship of my own here in Nigeria.
Back then, i use to have this silly habit of creating anonymous facebook accounts where i would add people i know and comment on their posts and pictures without them ever knowing i was the one. I dropped many comments back then and one such incident happened to be a time i commented on her close friend's picture, telling her (the friend) she was pretty and how i wanted her. This was almost 10 years ago and i swear i never meant any of those words. It was just a silly joke and i had completely forgotten all that.
My wife returned Nigeria in 2016 and somehow we reconnected and got married in 2018.

Just last week, she stumbled on those posts i made in 2010-2011 and got really heartbroken and upset. Right now, even after pleading with her, she says she wants to quit the marriage. She packed a few of her stuff and travelled home to Abia state from our base in Lagos. So far, what she told her family in the east is that she just came back to visit them for a little while because she couldn't come back during xmas.
Now she's threatening that i won't see my 1 year old son anytime soon cos she's already making plans of relocating abroad for good.


Please my question is this; Do you think this issue is enough to cause this kind of disharmony in our home?
What do you advice?
Thank you

Your wife is obviously not into you and has been looking for the flimsiest reason to leave. I don't want to make assumptions, but she seemed to have the upper hand in the relationship.

At this point, there is really nothing you can do other than to fight for the custody of your son.

Try to travel out then you'll see the reason she wants to leave the marriage.


Na Nigeria situation cause am. She's aiming for the pali.

mikezuruki:
why are you guys here calling the girl silly?

OP is not being truthful. He didn't stop at creating fake account to express his flimsy emotions to babes online. What happened to deleting the 'fake' account you created 10 years ago?

How did she see it if it's not what you still use?

You claimed you have stopped the habit of creating fake account to follow up on babes (or people) online, yet you created another fake nairaland account for this post!

There's something sinister about you op! You're not being honest! She may have caught you in one of those your 'disguised' moments!

Deal with it Bozo!

If only the wife was on naira land, so we can hear her part.

Platini7:
Please i created this moniker to seek advise on this issue.

I got married to my wife in 2018 and there's already an issue that is threatening our young marriage.

We dated briefly 10 years ago before she travelled to the US for schooling. She stayed there for a while and then got into a relationship over there with a guy i know (I wasn't close friends with the guy). I had to move on with my life and got into a relationship of my own here in Nigeria.
Back then, i use to have this silly habit of creating anonymous facebook accounts where i would add people i know and comment on their posts and pictures without them ever knowing i was the one. I dropped many comments back then and one such incident happened to be a time i commented on her close friend's picture, telling her (the friend) she was pretty and how i wanted her. This was almost 10 years ago and i swear i never meant any of those words. It was just a silly joke and i had completely forgotten all that.
My wife returned Nigeria in 2016 and somehow we reconnected and got married in 2018.

Just last week, she stumbled on those posts i made in 2010-2011 and got really heartbroken and upset. Right now, even after pleading with her, she says she wants to quit the marriage. She packed a few of her stuff and travelled home to Abia state from our base in Lagos. So far, what she told her family in the east is that she just came back to visit them for a little while because she couldn't come back during xmas.
Now she's threatening that i won't see my 1 year old son anytime soon cos she's already making plans of relocating abroad for good.


Please my question is this; Do you think this issue is enough to cause this kind of disharmony in our home?
What do you advice?
Thank you

...is she lightskin?.. bro gimmmme her nomba...let me help u talk to her .

She has finally seen an excuse to go back to ex boyfriend in the States.
Truth is that after living in the States for a while, you can't fit in or get comfortable anywhere else.

I always get excited to come home but after two weeks in Nigeria, I'm always eager to go back.

pocohantas:


- They dated briefly 10yrs ago.
- She go America, date another person.
- I think while she was dating another person, uncle was flirting with random girls online.
-She come back, them reconnect come marry.

What exactly is her issue?

She suppose done old pass this kind childish tantrums na.

Be like she get pali, because na wetin dey make Naija guy humble like this.

Yoruba wedding na so e be!

She doesn't love you bro, she has been looking for a way out and now she have seen the opportunity to zoom off.please forget about her and don't give her that attention..Double your hustle and make money because the only good thing about life is more money. Her eyes go soon clear when the American nigga she is running to will kick her ass... Double your hustle and make more money and every other things will fall into place.

izzou:


Dated Briefly

I missed that part.

He better go back to Abia state and tell her family what's happening. The wife dey behave like small pikin

Happy birthday. Pass me the birthday cake.

She's just playing you for a fool,she's looking for an excuse to leave you, fight for your kid and let her go.

That's the trend now. Marry a man, have one child and then start misbehaving so that he will divorce you and then you can do as you please.
Women should realise that they can still have kids without marriage.

Platini7:
Please i created this moniker to seek advise on this issue.

I got married to my wife in 2018 and there's already an issue that is threatening our young marriage.

We dated briefly 10 years ago before she travelled to the US for schooling. She stayed there for a while and then got into a relationship over there with a guy i know (I wasn't close friends with the guy). I had to move on with my life and got into a relationship of my own here in Nigeria.
Back then, i use to have this silly habit of creating anonymous facebook accounts where i would add people i know and comment on their posts and pictures without them ever knowing i was the one. I dropped many comments back then and one such incident happened to be a time i commented on her close friend's picture, telling her (the friend) she was pretty and how i wanted her. This was almost 10 years ago and i swear i never meant any of those words. It was just a silly joke and i had completely forgotten all that.
My wife returned Nigeria in 2016 and somehow we reconnected and got married in 2018.

Just last week, she stumbled on those posts i made in 2010-2011 and got really heartbroken and upset. Right now, even after pleading with her, she says she wants to quit the marriage. She packed a few of her stuff and travelled home to Abia state from our base in Lagos. So far, what she told her family in the east is that she just came back to visit them for a little while because she couldn't come back during xmas.
Now she's threatening that i won't see my 1 year old son anytime soon cos she's already making plans of relocating abroad for good.


Please my question is this; Do you think this issue is enough to cause this kind of disharmony in our home?
What do you advice?
Thank you

Lol, well am sorry to say but this is just some female dating strategy, the plan is to control you, its all manipulation. i suggest you lawyer up now. She abandon the home and trust me. She is fvcking somebody else right now. Get prove of her threat trying to take the kid from you. Thd kid needs the father. now u need to get rid of this woman, she is a Narcissistic woman. You are in a toxic relationship. Lawyer up now

Platini7:
Please i created this moniker to seek advise on this issue.

I got married to my wife in 2018 and there's already an issue that is threatening our young marriage.

We dated briefly 10 years ago before she travelled to the US for schooling. She stayed there for a while and then got into a relationship over there with a guy i know (I wasn't close friends with the guy). I had to move on with my life and got into a relationship of my own here in Nigeria.
Back then, i use to have this silly habit of creating anonymous facebook accounts where i would add people i know and comment on their posts and pictures without them ever knowing i was the one. I dropped many comments back then and one such incident happened to be a time i commented on her close friend's picture, telling her (the friend) she was pretty and how i wanted her. This was almost 10 years ago and i swear i never meant any of those words. It was just a silly joke and i had completely forgotten all that.
My wife returned Nigeria in 2016 and somehow we reconnected and got married in 2018.

Just last week, she stumbled on those posts i made in 2010-2011 and got really heartbroken and upset. Right now, even after pleading with her, she says she wants to quit the marriage. She packed a few of her stuff and travelled home to Abia state from our base in Lagos. So far, what she told her family in the east is that she just came back to visit them for a little while because she couldn't come back during xmas.
Now she's threatening that i won't see my 1 year old son anytime soon cos she's already making plans of relocating abroad for good.


Please my question is this; Do you think this issue is enough to cause this kind of disharmony in our home?
What do you advice?
Thank you

If she wants to go, let her go...... Your stress about your child, is just the energy she requires......

Take out that energy and watch her change tact.........

A child always certainly looks for that missing parent........

Platini7:
Please i created this moniker to seek advise on this issue.

I got married to my wife in 2018 and there's already an issue that is threatening our young marriage.

We dated briefly 10 years ago before she travelled to the US for schooling. She stayed there for a while and then got into a relationship over there with a guy i know (I wasn't close friends with the guy). I had to move on with my life and got into a relationship of my own here in Nigeria.
Back then, i use to have this silly habit of creating anonymous facebook accounts where i would add people i know and comment on their posts and pictures without them ever knowing i was the one. I dropped many comments back then and one such incident happened to be a time i commented on her close friend's picture, telling her (the friend) she was pretty and how i wanted her. This was almost 10 years ago and i swear i never meant any of those words. It was just a silly joke and i had completely forgotten all that.
My wife returned Nigeria in 2016 and somehow we reconnected and got married in 2018.

Just last week, she stumbled on those posts i made in 2010-2011 and got really heartbroken and upset. Right now, even after pleading with her, she says she wants to quit the marriage. She packed a few of her stuff and travelled home to Abia state from our base in Lagos. So far, what she told her family in the east is that she just came back to visit them for a little while because she couldn't come back during xmas.
Now she's threatening that i won't see my 1 year old son anytime soon cos she's already making plans of relocating abroad for good.


Please my question is this; Do you think this issue is enough to cause this kind of disharmony in our home?
What do you advice?
Thank you

she waz looking for an excuse u self rest some pussy are senseless

She couldn't have found out about your anonymous adventures 10 years ago unless you
actively continue it.
Even if she caught you trolling women online, that is no reason for the sudden change in behavior.
It is either you left out the most important part of the issue or she has lost interest in the marriage.


If the story is as you tell it, you should be more concerned about saving your child than your marriage.
Before taking any drastic steps, inform her parents about what is going on.

HMMM