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Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by jaxxy(m): 3:48am On Jan 15
Platini7:
Please i created this moniker to seek advise on this issue.

I got married to my wife in 2018 and there's already an issue that is threatening our young marriage.

We dated briefly 10 years ago before she travelled to the US for schooling. She stayed there for a while and then got into a relationship over there with a guy i know (I wasn't close friends with the guy). I had to move on with my life and got into a relationship of my own here in Nigeria.
Back then, i use to have this silly habit of creating anonymous facebook accounts where i would add people i know and comment on their posts and pictures without them ever knowing i was the one. I dropped many comments back then and one such incident happened to be a time i commented on her close friend's picture, telling her (the friend) she was pretty and how i wanted her. This was almost 10 years ago and i swear i never meant any of those words. It was just a silly joke and i had completely forgotten all that.
My wife returned Nigeria in 2016 and somehow we reconnected and got married in 2018.

Just last week, she stumbled on those posts i made in 2010-2011 and got really heartbroken and upset. Right now, even after pleading with her, she says she wants to quit the marriage. She packed a few of her stuff and travelled home to Abia state from our base in Lagos. So far, what she told her family in the east is that she just came back to visit them for a little while because she couldn't come back during xmas.
Now she's threatening that i won't see my 1 year old son anytime soon cos she's already making plans of relocating abroad for good.


Please my question is this; Do you think this issue is enough to cause this kind of disharmony in our home?
What do you advice?
Thank you






She travelled to the us and started another relationship with sm1 and u were cool bt u commented to meaningless nonsense of her frnds post not even a private chat with her frnd and she goes berserk? Wants to quit the marriage, is she ok at all?

Talk sense into her and I’d shes not listening call people that matter to judge the situation and address to her. It’s either she’s being childish or bipolar.

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Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by Ytea(f): 3:58am On Jan 15
I'm not going to blame your wife lailai, silly joke of 10 years is still evident? Of all the fake accounts, it's that one you still keep?
She's only refusing to be taken for a fool, you need to really say things as they are. Do better for yourself and your family.

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Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by EgunMogaji2: 4:13am On Jan 15
pocohantas:


- They dated briefly 10yrs ago.
- She go America, date another person.
- I think while she was dating another person, uncle was flirting with random girls online.
-She come back, them reconnect come marry.

What exactly is her issue?

She suppose done old pass this kind childish tantrums na.

Be like she get pali, because na wetin dey make Naija guy humble like this.

Not all of us dey humble for pali. Some of us get our own cheesy

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Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by ezegold4we: 4:13am On Jan 15
I will not advise, comment,nor condemn your wife till I hear her own side of the story,
From your post, it's like u are economising the truth.

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Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by EgunMogaji2: 4:14am On Jan 15
Both of you are infantile. I pity the offspring.

Just divorce and move on.
Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by smart75216: 4:18am On Jan 15
first step..... Try to resolve the issue


second step..... Get your childs passport of full information. ssn,passport number and other details.


third step..... Go to the closest American Embassy close to you to report that you wife took your child without your consent. there are procedures and steps to follow so you can get your child back or be in contact with your son.
Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by Slimsly100(f): 4:30am On Jan 15
izzou:
Is this the woman you dated for 10 years?

They dated briefly 10 years ago not for 10 years bruh
Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by AuroraB(f): 4:36am On Jan 15
mikezuruki:
why are you guys here calling the girl silly?

OP is not being truthful. He didn't stop at creating fake account to express his flimsy emotions to babes online. What happened to deleting the 'fake' account you created 10 years ago?

How did she see it if it's not what you still use?

You claimed you have stopped the habit of creating fake account to follow up on babes (or people) online, yet you created another fake nairaland account for this post!

There's something sinister about you op! You're not being honest! She may have caught you in one of those your 'disguised' moments!

Deal with it Bozo!
You dey mind people wey no dey think before they comment grin
None of them loves truth. It always eludes them. One did something similar to his girlfriend, it was on fp yesterday, she was called a LovePeddler and much more. Why can't they call this one what he is? Hypocrites.
How I hate fellows with multiple accounts on social media angry

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Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by desthan(m): 4:44am On Jan 15
Ah! Children of these days.....

So you are here still playing with your fake account.

That person you called your wife used you as a rebound while praying that her ex back in the US takes her back.

Your immaturity would not let you see that there was so much work to be done to keep a home and a cheater, but you could not care less because you are the same with your cheating partner.

Better get up from your bed and go get your child, or is he a product of a fake account as well.

Can't wrap my head around the fact that someone tells you would not see your child again, and you are here still faking an account, then you must be a fake person.

I'll be damned undecided

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Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by henryobinna(m): 4:48am On Jan 15
Jewessgratitude:


Hmm...using it for biz and news. I c.
Just try to be straight forward Sir. We had to put words into your mouth before you could open up that you're still operating that troll account.
If you ask me, it is enough to make her angry cos She's doesn't know for sure if you're still chyking her friend till date. If not, how come its only that account you're still able to remember the password. There must be a reason why you're still keeping it. Best known to you though.


oga or madam if you're not going to help the dude with some advice stop interrogating him like you csn actually tell the wife what to do and what not to. Everyone who has a little sense in them will understand the full or most parts of the situation without acting like the CIA here. Apparently you're already set in believing he's lying. Irrespective of what he tells you or not, so what's the point of him wasting his time replying to all your questions? He should know better? Others who gave him advice and suggestions without unnecessarily querying him are they stupid?

I'm guessing you're the wife or a close pal to the wife.

Mr Poster, whatever happens she has no right to elope with your son, since you duly married her. Don't let that happen, unless of course the child is still very young(a toddler) where he'd need his mother's attention and care, meaning you can't do much at this point, otherwise don't let her disappear with your son.


Moreover if said comments were made 10years ago while she was dating someone else then I think she's just being childish and selfish at the time. You should remind her she was without someone else then, so what's the point? Even if the comments were made with an authentic account 10 fu..ck.in years! where you weren't married nor dating sef?

I for say something dey do her but...

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Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by tribalmall: 4:51am On Jan 15
No you didn't your last 3 post on this topic were completely useless n at the same time foolish. The piece of info u claim u put in the guys mouth was in the initial article except the guy edited the post after you questioned him.

All along I found your line of questioning naseauting, seeking a non existing loop to condemn the guy which u end up doing after the guy thorough explanation n discovery of your own gaffe. You have a preconceived blame script u wanted to execute n that isn't working here rather it expose what lil human u are n your abysmal comprehension level



Jewessgratitude:


Hmm...using it for biz and news. I c.
Just try to be straight forward Sir. We had to put words into your mouth before you could open up that you're still operating that troll account.
If you ask me, it is enough to make her angry cos She's doesn't know for sure if you're still chyking her friend till date. If not, how come its only that account you're still able to remember the password. There must be a reason why you're still keeping it. Best known to you though.


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Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by henryobinna(m): 4:53am On Jan 15
tribalmall:
No you didn't your last 3 post on this topic were completely useless n at the same time foolish. The piece of info u claim u put in the guys mouth was in the initial article except the guy edited the post after you questioned him.

All along I found your line of questioning naseauting, seeking a non existing loop to condemned the guy which u end up doing after the guy thorough explanation n discovery of your own gaffe. You have a preconceived blame script u wanted to execute n that isn't working here rather it expose what lil human u are n your abysmal comprehension level



very good, I thought I was the only one seeing through her nonsense, the dude has time replying someone who's bent on condemning him even though the person can't even effect any changes. That's the right and power social media gives people.

you can imagine

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Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by seunmohmoh(f): 4:55am On Jan 15
lessonsoflife:


Silly excuse. She shouldn't have come back.

She never liked the guy, she sees herself way above her husband.
Na den sabi o
Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by izzou(m): 4:56am On Jan 15
TissuePaper:
hey I accidentally clicked on your profile today and saw it's your birthday, happy cake day homie smiley

Lol grin

Thanks bro
Thanks
Thanks Thanks

I really appreciate the wishes cool

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Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by thesmallgod(m): 4:58am On Jan 15
I thought they said marriage is for matured adult.

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Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by izzou(m): 5:00am On Jan 15
seunmohmoh:
Happy birthday. Pass me the birthday cake.

Thank you very much grin

You'll have to find me to get the cake smiley
Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by PeachtreeReside(f): 5:01am On Jan 15
This is a not an issue.

Quit begging and let her go.

Inform her parents .

If she doesn't leave you now, she would leave sometime in the future

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Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by MondayOsunbor(m): 5:04am On Jan 15
Platini7:
Please i created this moniker to seek advise on this issue.

I got married to my wife in 2018 and there's already an issue that is threatening our young marriage.

We dated briefly 10 years ago before she travelled to the US for schooling. She stayed there for a while and then got into a relationship over there with a guy i know (I wasn't close friends with the guy). I had to move on with my life and got into a relationship of my own here in Nigeria.
Back then, i use to have this silly habit of creating anonymous facebook accounts where i would add people i know and comment on their posts and pictures without them ever knowing i was the one. I dropped many comments back then and one such incident happened to be a time i commented on her close friend's picture, telling her (the friend) she was pretty and how i wanted her. This was almost 10 years ago and i swear i never meant any of those words. It was just a silly joke and i had completely forgotten all that.
My wife returned Nigeria in 2016 and somehow we reconnected and got married in 2018.

Just last week, she stumbled on those posts i made in 2010-2011 and got really heartbroken and upset. Right now, even after pleading with her, she says she wants to quit the marriage. She packed a few of her stuff and travelled home to Abia state from our base in Lagos. So far, what she told her family in the east is that she just came back to visit them for a little while because she couldn't come back during xmas.
Now she's threatening that i won't see my 1 year old son anytime soon cos she's already making plans of relocating abroad for good.


Please my question is this; Do you think this issue is enough to cause this kind of disharmony in our home?
What do you advice?
Thank you






illogical story

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Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by hope4nigeria(m): 5:05am On Jan 15
Reichel99:
Your wife is childish. If she wants to leave let her go but make sure you don't let her take your child along with her.
if she go with the child, he should write to embassy,them go deport her back, American no dey waste time like that.
Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by sonnie10: 5:05am On Jan 15
This mumu bull crap story is for folks who don’t understand how Facebook algorithm works in terms of friends suggestions and mutual friends connections. Your particular phone, location and your browsing history would give you away and ultimately suggests your original account to your wife
It might even place your original account, your wife’s friend account, and your fake account side by side in the recommended friends row. Worst is when you have mutual friends ( your wife’s friend).
You all must be dummies not to notice indicators on your page and put one and one together.
But the story is not believable thou.

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Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by chiefolododo(m): 5:09am On Jan 15
I will try and comment later
Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by YorubaLord: 5:16am On Jan 15
Platini7:
Yes bro......i still have the "fake" facebook account i created 10 years ago simply cos i don't want to be seen on facebook.
I still browse around facebook using same account but I DO NOT express any flimsy emotions to any girl there since when i stopped the act many years ago. That is just the plain truth.

Maybe the error was not deleting the account once i got married........but i guess that's because i completely forgot what i did with the account in it's early days.

Baba, gbenu e soun! angry

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Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by WackyJ1(m): 5:23am On Jan 15
Do not let your wife take your Child away.

Call her people and your people and let them settle the matter.
Tell them about the high rate of divorce in the united states. How women are the usual parties to initiate it. Tell them that the same pattern is what is influencing your wife here.

Check her phone and you will definitely find evidence of infidelity there. She might not be having sex with someone else but she will definitely be doing the thing that she is accusing you off. She is looking for a way to leave.

Tell her to her face that you know her true intentions, that she should stop deceiving herself that it is because of a post you made ten years ago. Don't argue with her, tell her in a matter of fact way but don't exchange words. Do you argue with someone that what goes up must come down, this should be the same way. Let her know that she is free to travel but she cannot travel with your child.

Someone else suggested going to the embassy and telling them that your wife wants to take your child away without your consent. Do this and also find other ways to make it legally impossible for her to travel with your child. This will give you more time because she will not want to travel without your son.

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Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by Bornboy4: 5:27am On Jan 15
Hmm.
Your wife has a hidden agenda. Believe it or not, she may be having secret contact talks with her US boyfriend.
If you force yourself on her you may experience infidelity on her side and more heartbreak.
Get your child from her when he is of age and move on. She may eventually end up a loser!

Well, if you stake on draws, get it free using the link on my signature below and thank me later!

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Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by PrimadonnaO(f): 5:31am On Jan 15
Jewessgratitude:


Hmm...using it for biz and news. I c.
Just try to be straight forward Sir. We had to put words into your mouth before you could open up that you're still operating that troll account.
If you ask me, it is enough to make her angry cos She's doesn't know for sure if you're still chyking her friend till date. If not, how come its only that account you're still able to remember the password. There must be a reason why you're still keeping it. Best known to you though.



Another angle we’re not considering is this... what has his relationship with this wife’s best friend been in the past and now?

It’s possible there are things he’s done that may have been considered inappropriate by his wife. That’s the only reason she’s reacting this way. The comment on her friend’s page simply confirmed her suspicions.
@platini

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Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by PrimadonnaO(f): 5:31am On Jan 15
Jewessgratitude:


Hmm...using it for biz and news. I c.
Just try to be straight forward Sir. We had to put words into your mouth before you could open up that you're still operating that troll account.
If you ask me, it is enough to make her angry cos She's doesn't know for sure if you're still chyking her friend till date. If not, how come its only that account you're still able to remember the password. There must be a reason why you're still keeping it. Best known to you though.



Another angle we’re not considering is this... what has his relationship with this wife’s best friend been in the past and now?

It’s possible there are things he’s done that may have been considered inappropriate by his wife. That’s the only reason she’s reacting this way. The comment on her friend’s page simply confirmed her suspicions.
@platini7
Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by PrimadonnaO(f): 5:38am On Jan 15
cococandy:
I don’t think that’s a big enough issue for her to leave.
Convincing her that you didn’t mean it and that you don’t still have feelings for her friend will be a Herculean task anyway

That’s what’s eating her up. The thought that her husband may still be in love with her best friend.
Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by D1zion: 5:42am On Jan 15
To me, I think your wife is seing someone else or having the intension of relocating overseas without you for her to have left like that.cos if something that happened years ago.does she think you'll remain like that after traveling out & starting a new relationship? After all you two parted ways before reconnecting back again.



There's more to her moving out cos if its just becouse of the fb chats,or maybe you're still reaching out to the other lady & she saw it even as you're married its something she must be mad about & If really is true & no more issues with you two,then is better you call the attention of her people, that's if they're not those type of in-laws that support their children. May God help you to settle with your family.

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Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by PrimadonnaO(f): 5:46am On Jan 15
izzou:


Lol grin

Thanks bro
Thanks
Thanks Thanks

I really appreciate the wishes cool


Happy birthday to you...
Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by bolicks: 5:53am On Jan 15
Let her be. Move on. Don't and never force yourself on anyone. Love, affection, perseverance, forgiveness and understanding must be mutual. Take care of your son wella and provide for his needs. If she fails to understand.MOVE ON BRO.

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Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by psalmistkakah(m): 5:53am On Jan 15
Flimsy excuse, she is hiding something, meet her family and see if it can be settle and if she stand on the same reason, then she is not normal, last last pray for her..

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