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Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by daprofo: 5:54am On Jan 15
She has been looking for an excuse to leave you!

Perhaps, she has someone overseas.

What you did is something that happened before you married her.

Let your pastor or a third party with experience in relationship matters talk to her

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Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by cococandy(f): 5:54am On Jan 15
Right? She’s probably Wondering if he still thinks about her . One Can’t tell her not to be upset at least a little.

But leaving the marriage is overkill
PrimadonnaO:


That’s what’s eating her up. The thought that her husband may still be in love with her best friend.

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Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by Pat081: 5:54am On Jan 15
izzou:


Dated Briefly grin

I missed that part.

He better go back to Abia state and tell her family what's happening. The wife dey behave like small pikin

abi now that is the first place to go not NL or he 4gt 2 tell us that part ni
Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by jubrilELsudan: 5:57am On Jan 15
Platini7:
Please i created this moniker to seek advise on this issue.


Back then, i use to have this silly habit of creating anonymous facebook accounts where i would add people i know and comment on their posts and pictures without them ever knowing i was the one. I dropped many comments back then and one such incident happened to be a time i commented on her close friend's picture, telling her (the friend) she was pretty and how i wanted her. This was almost 10 years ago and i swear i never meant any of those words. It was just a silly joke and i had completely forgotten all that.
My wife returned Nigeria in 2016 and somehow we reconnected and got married in 2018.

Just last week, she stumbled on those posts i made in 2010-2011 and got really heartbroken and upset.







THE FUNDAMENTAL QUESTION TO BE ASKED IS HOW DID YOUR WIFE TRACE AND ASSOCIATE YOU WITH PROOF WITH THOSE "ANONYMOUS" ACCOUNTS WHICH YOU USED TO TRY GET SOME KUKUNASE FROM HER FRIENDS 10 YEARS AGO? DOES SHE WORK WITH THE FBI?

THIS PROVES THAT YOU ARE STILL ACTIVE WITH THOSE ACCOUNTS AND STILL MAKING THOSE SUGGESTIVE SEXUAL HARRASMENT COMMENT ON HER FRIENDS AND OTHER WOMEN'S PICTURES.


THOSE ACCOUNTS DON'T HAVE YOUR REAL NAME OR PICTURES ASSOCIATED WITH IT WHICH IMPLIES SHE FOUND THOSE ACCOUNTS ON YOUR PHONE STILL LOGGED IN AND ACTIVE WHEN SHE WENT SNOPPING AROUND ON YOUR PHONES.

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Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by TRUSTEDGUY: 5:58am On Jan 15
Platini7:
Please i created this moniker to seek advise on this issue.

I got married to my wife in 2018 and there's already an issue that is threatening our young marriage.

We dated briefly 10 years ago before she travelled to the US for schooling. She stayed there for a while and then got into a relationship over there with a guy i know (I wasn't close friends with the guy). I had to move on with my life and got into a relationship of my own here in Nigeria.
Back then, i use to have this silly habit of creating anonymous facebook accounts where i would add people i know and comment on their posts and pictures without them ever knowing i was the one. I dropped many comments back then and one such incident happened to be a time i commented on her close friend's picture, telling her (the friend) she was pretty and how i wanted her. This was almost 10 years ago and i swear i never meant any of those words. It was just a silly joke and i had completely forgotten all that.
My wife returned Nigeria in 2016 and somehow we reconnected and got married in 2018.

Just last week, she stumbled on those posts i made in 2010-2011 and got really heartbroken and upset. Right now, even after pleading with her, she says she wants to quit the marriage. She packed a few of her stuff and travelled home to Abia state from our base in Lagos. So far, what she told her family in the east is that she just came back to visit them for a little while because she couldn't come back during xmas.
Now she's threatening that i won't see my 1 year old son anytime soon cos she's already making plans of relocating abroad for good.


Please my question is this; Do you think this issue is enough to cause this kind of disharmony in our home?
What do you advice?
Thank you





I do not think she wants to leave you if not she would have told her people is like you offended her and she is trying to get back at you. Just be yourself.
Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by buzorcharles(m): 6:03am On Jan 15
what are u still doing with the anonymous Facebook account?
Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by OhiOfIhima: 6:15am On Jan 15
Platini7:
Yes bro......i still have the "fake" facebook account i created 10 years ago simply cos i don't want to be seen on facebook.
I still browse around facebook using same account but I DO NOT express any flimsy emotions to any girl there since when i stopped the act many years ago. That is just the plain truth.

Maybe the error was not deleting the account once i got married........but i guess that's because i completely forgot what i did with the account in it's early days.

Bro.. Don't even blame yourself for any so called error. What happened was never an issue at all. Your wife has plan to chip out. As time goes on, she will tell her n your families another big lie. If you can take ur time to go village quickly n tell her family ur own side of story will be vr good b4 she painted u silly..

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Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by helpee(m): 6:18am On Jan 15
Platini7:
Yes bro......i still have the "fake" facebook account i created 10 years ago simply cos i don't want to be seen on facebook.
I still browse around facebook using same account but I DO NOT express any flimsy emotions to any girl there since when i stopped the act many years ago. That is just the plain truth.

Maybe the error was not deleting the account once i got married........but i guess that's because i completely forgot what i did with the account in it's early days.
Talk true jare. You be scammer. You were using fake Facebook accounts to scam people and your wife now discovered she married a 419. She ran out. Simple. It is 419 that usually open numerous fake accounts to dupe people. You scammer her friend using that fake account years ago. You think we be mumu? If your story is true make your village head die.
Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by Perfecttouchade: 6:21am On Jan 15
Just forget the marriage, why will she because of that decide to leave the marriage, that's a silly excuse except there is more to this story...I think she loves the other man and it seems they reconnected back and she was only waiting for an excuse to end your relationship, make sure u have your child with u, she can't take the baby from you without your consent
Platini7:
Please i created this moniker to seek advise on this issue.

I got married to my wife in 2018 and there's already an issue that is threatening our young marriage.

We dated briefly 10 years ago before she travelled to the US for schooling. She stayed there for a while and then got into a relationship over there with a guy i know (I wasn't close friends with the guy). I had to move on with my life and got into a relationship of my own here in Nigeria.
Back then, i use to have this silly habit of creating anonymous facebook accounts where i would add people i know and comment on their posts and pictures without them ever knowing i was the one. I dropped many comments back then and one such incident happened to be a time i commented on her close friend's picture, telling her (the friend) she was pretty and how i wanted her. This was almost 10 years ago and i swear i never meant any of those words. It was just a silly joke and i had completely forgotten all that.
My wife returned Nigeria in 2016 and somehow we reconnected and got married in 2018.

Just last week, she stumbled on those posts i made in 2010-2011 and got really heartbroken and upset. Right now, even after pleading with her, she says she wants to quit the marriage. She packed a few of her stuff and travelled home to Abia state from our base in Lagos. So far, what she told her family in the east is that she just came back to visit them for a little while because she couldn't come back during xmas.
Now she's threatening that i won't see my 1 year old son anytime soon cos she's already making plans of relocating abroad for good.


Please my question is this; Do you think this issue is enough to cause this kind of disharmony in our home?
What do you advice?
Thank you




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Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by Gforce2015: 6:21am On Jan 15
Bro. This life is so short than to be hurting yourself with your self -exile wife.
Drinking 33 lager beer, enter hotel carry 3 olosho to massage your stress and depression away and take a sedative drugs to sleep over. If she's not returning soon, make her parents know about it because you can't pay that huge bride price an someone is taking you for a fool....and if her parents can solve it, call your lawyer and Start legal processing right away.you can't lose in both way.
Don't be scared, no embassy or passport offices can give her visa or passport without your writing consent with your picture and your national identity card , or drivers license or international passport data page. ..if she has any of those documents, omo, bid your pikin goodbye.....till you meet again.
But I will advise you now , start letting is family know about her relocation and tell them the truth. there's a saying that if mountains will not meet Mohammed , Mohammed will have to go and meet mountains....Think of any contact you have in abia state and give him or her the assignment of monitoring her....or else , you will start all over again...maybe you are still young anywhere.

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Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by Perfecttouchade: 6:22am On Jan 15
OhiOfIhima:


Bro.. Don't even blame yourself for any so called error. What happened was never an issue at all. Your wife has plan to chip out. As time goes on, she will tell her n your families another big lie. If you can take ur time to go village quickly n tell her family ur own side of story will be vr good b4 she painted u silly..
to exactly the Honest truth, she only waited for an excuse to leave the marriage, she must have reconnect back to probably the ex
Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by Mouthgag: 6:22am On Jan 15
Platini7:
Please i created this moniker to seek advise on this issue.

I got married to my wife in 2018 and there's already an issue that is threatening our young marriage.

We dated briefly 10 years ago before she travelled to the US for schooling. She stayed there for a while and then got into a relationship over there with a guy i know (I wasn't close friends with the guy). I had to move on with my life and got into a relationship of my own here in Nigeria.
Back then, i use to have this silly habit of creating anonymous facebook accounts where i would add people i know and comment on their posts and pictures without them ever knowing i was the one. I dropped many comments back then and one such incident happened to be a time i commented on her close friend's picture, telling her (the friend) she was pretty and how i wanted her. This was almost 10 years ago and i swear i never meant any of those words. It was just a silly joke and i had completely forgotten all that.
My wife returned Nigeria in 2016 and somehow we reconnected and got married in 2018.

Just last week, she stumbled on those posts i made in 2010-2011 and got really heartbroken and upset. Right now, even after pleading with her, she says she wants to quit the marriage. She packed a few of her stuff and travelled home to Abia state from our base in Lagos. So far, what she told her family in the east is that she just came back to visit them for a little while because she couldn't come back during xmas.
Now she's threatening that i won't see my 1 year old son anytime soon cos she's already making plans of relocating abroad for good.


Please my question is this; Do you think this issue is enough to cause this kind of disharmony in our home?
What do you advice?
Thank you




Both of you are very unserious
Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by OkoAnike(m): 6:22am On Jan 15
izzou:
Is this the woman you dated for 10 years?

Read again, you didn't get the info.
Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by Ryabcool(m): 6:23am On Jan 15
Jewessgratitude:


Hahahaaa.. My dad was a senior NPS officer who dealt with criminals at the maximum prisons those days. So I gat his blood flowing in my veins.

Like seriously how you see that story? Guy man wan bobo us na. Hahahaaa
dealt with? Lol sounds like your father's was one of those high handed despicable people who derived pleasure on torturing already restricted people just because he was given power over them in the name of 'dealing with criminals'... What more can you do to a criminal that has already been dealt with by the courts and sent to prison. I'm sure he must have also starved people he didn't like, just because he could.



Now, I have nothing against your father. What I wrote up there is exactly the same thing you did to the OP; make unfounded allegations that were already one sided and biased before at least waiting to hear the full story on both sides.

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Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by Offpoint: 6:24am On Jan 15
Reichel99:
Your wife is childish. If she wants to leave let her go but make sure you don't let her take your child along with her.
Morning, I still await to hear from you.
Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by frozen70(f): 6:25am On Jan 15
Platini7:
Please i created this moniker to seek advise on this issue.

I got married to my wife in 2018 and there's already an issue that is threatening our young marriage.

We dated briefly 10 years ago before she travelled to the US for schooling. She stayed there for a while and then got into a relationship over there with a guy i know (I wasn't close friends with the guy). I had to move on with my life and got into a relationship of my own here in Nigeria.
Back then, i use to have this silly habit of creating anonymous facebook accounts where i would add people i know and comment on their posts and pictures without them ever knowing i was the one. I dropped many comments back then and one such incident happened to be a time i commented on her close friend's picture, telling her (the friend) she was pretty and how i wanted her. This was almost 10 years ago and i swear i never meant any of those words. It was just a silly joke and i had completely forgotten all that.
My wife returned Nigeria in 2016 and somehow we reconnected and got married in 2018.

Just last week, she stumbled on those posts i made in 2010-2011 and got really heartbroken and upset. Right now, even after pleading with her, she says she wants to quit the marriage. She packed a few of her stuff and travelled home to Abia state from our base in Lagos. So far, what she told her family in the east is that she just came back to visit them for a little while because she couldn't come back during xmas.
Now she's threatening that i won't see my 1 year old son anytime soon cos she's already making plans of relocating abroad for good.


Please my question is this; Do you think this issue is enough to cause this kind of disharmony in our home?
What do you advice?
Thank you





Don't take this issue lightly because she meant every word she said

You must have been messing around and she is just looking for a day or a prove to hold you

Well it's an issue of over 10yrs and you didn't even go out with the lady, it's difficult for her to believe you

Women jealousy is more crazier than that of men

Take a trip to her village and visit her, plead with her in private room that you will never chat or send and stupid love related messages to any woman

If she insist on her ground, right there inform the family because she has taken it too extreme

If after that she refuses, just leave, tgat she is abroad doesn't make your life to depend on her

Your son is your son and no matter what, he will still look for you with time

By the time, she realised that she over reacted she will come back

The more you beg her the more she will resist

If this little thing that can't even hold water is the reason She wants to leave, let her go, it means she wasn't staying in the marriage from inception

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Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by malkomchris: 6:25am On Jan 15
Well since she could not tell her parents the real reason for coming home, then she is not serious and may just be pulling your leg. Give her sometime, she wish to stay away from you small, for some reasons best known to her and not the misunderstanding between you ppl

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Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by Unrated900(m): 6:29am On Jan 15
I will blame you
Next time don’t joke with unreal issues to be real issues
Why would you comment on someone pictures that she s pretty and you want her.
Later you says it’s a joke.
What if she want you,won’t you want her?
Been contented in life is the best legacy

Your wife is managing you because she has better offer
I will advice you to work hard and be more successful
To the men there don’t get married when you aren’t 60% successful

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Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by TinaG(f): 6:30am On Jan 15
Never an issue. Your wife has hidden agenda/ a skeleton in her cupboard. Allow her be for now cos nemesis will catch up with her soon.

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Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by Benwallt(m): 6:32am On Jan 15
Somebody is waiting for her elsewhere. She grab the xcuse to get away. Some guys or men are quite annoying sha. There is no way a girl will broke up with me or I broke up with her n still come back together. Bye is bye. I don't look back
Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by Snowale: 6:34am On Jan 15
Jewessgratitude:


Hahahaaa.. My dad was a senior NPS officer who dealt with criminals at the maximum prisons those days. So I gat his blood flowing in my veins.

Like seriously how you see that story? Guy man wan bobo us na. Hahahaaa
LOL, see this one ooo, just Because of the ordinary assertion she made, you now have the blood of a senior NPF officer. Let me tell you the truth, you got it all wrong, you don't have any of his blood flowing in you, and what you said about the OP can be said by an ordinary person. It isn't a big deal, even I that isn't related to any "NPF officer who dealt with criminals at maximum prison" I reason white better than this, LOL

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Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by cococandy(f): 6:37am On Jan 15
See how everyone is trying to convince him that his wife has someone on the side.

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Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by zyzxx(m): 6:38am On Jan 15
Platini7:
hmmm undecided
the western culture is affecting her
I don't no what you are still doing where you are that you haven't travel down to meet her wherever she is....
Involve the elders as someone also suggested

Before its too late
Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by BestAccessories: 6:42am On Jan 15
Platini7:
Please i created this moniker to seek advise on this issue.

I got married to my wife in 2018 and there's already an issue that is threatening our young marriage.

We dated briefly 10 years ago before she travelled to the US for schooling. She stayed there for a while and then got into a relationship over there with a guy i know (I wasn't close friends with the guy). I had to move on with my life and got into a relationship of my own here in Nigeria.
Back then, i use to have this silly habit of creating anonymous facebook accounts where i would add people i know and comment on their posts and pictures without them ever knowing i was the one. I dropped many comments back then and one such incident happened to be a time i commented on her close friend's picture, telling her (the friend) she was pretty and how i wanted her. This was almost 10 years ago and i swear i never meant any of those words. It was just a silly joke and i had completely forgotten all that.
My wife returned Nigeria in 2016 and somehow we reconnected and got married in 2018.

Just last week, she stumbled on those posts i made in 2010-2011 and got really heartbroken and upset. Right now, even after pleading with her, she says she wants to quit the marriage. She packed a few of her stuff and travelled home to Abia state from our base in Lagos. So far, what she told her family in the east is that she just came back to visit them for a little while because she couldn't come back during xmas.
Now she's threatening that i won't see my 1 year old son anytime soon cos she's already making plans of relocating abroad for good.


Please my question is this; Do you think this issue is enough to cause this kind of disharmony in our home?
What do you advice?
Thank you


If you can, take casual leave (if you're employed) or take some days off (if you're self-employed), you need to leave your base in Lagos and go visit, plead, talk with your wife in the village.

If you have a fake FB profile and you have used that profile to profuse love to her close friend and the said close friend is still very close to her and visit your apartment until the moment she read the message on Facebook, you have goofed.

Also if the FB profile is fake (as claimed), why do you still have access to it up till today? Something is fishy here sir.

Emotionally sir, you have cheated on her and I want to believe you have also given her some reasons to doubt your genuineness.

She is your wife, she has a child for you and with you, you have betrayed her, she is hurt, she need space (but not too much space) and she as not yet told her people anything according to your story, so she can still forgive you.

It's between you, no third party yet.

Kindly humble yourself, be ready to take all the shots to save your marriage (if you still want it saved).

Go visit your wife, go beg your wife, go woo your woman again, go date your woman again, go show your woman she means everything to you again.

All she need is your attention, assurance and commitment.

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Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by remirez07(m): 6:44am On Jan 15
Go get That money, she will come back.
Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by midnighter(f): 6:45am On Jan 15
The woman is not serious, she was already looking for an escape route. Sorry
Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by vikithor(m): 6:48am On Jan 15
Jewessgratitude:


Hahahaaa.. My dad was a senior NPS officer who dealt with criminals at the maximum prisons those days. So I gat his blood flowing in my veins.

Like seriously how you see that story? Guy man wan bobo us na. Hahahaaa
...
I haven't seen a police officer who wouldnt boast of having better detecting skills,they can label you any incriminating name and you will be struggling to prove innocence, that's been my experience though.
If leveraging on police lie detecting tricks,and this bros report of himself is false,can you come up with a truer version and evidence?
I don't have regards for any with lying gifts or grace.
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Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by Godmademan(m): 6:48am On Jan 15
Are you sure your wife is mentally stable? Don't beg her if she wants to leave. If she indeed has any form of sense she will come around but if not, good riddance. Make sure you get your lawyer to claim your child.


With so much breakups here and there, it is quiet discouraging to sought a partner. You are thinking 'till death do us part' and she is think, 'if I hear pim!! bye bye to this marriage'.

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Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by mechanics(m): 6:49am On Jan 15
Not at all, since it happened before you married her, she should forgive and forget, am sure she also has her past which you over looked, I guess there is more she's not telling you for her to leave, that alone is not a case, maybe her ex is disturbing her, that's why we need to be careful in what we do so our past won't hunt us.

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Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by Godmademan(m): 6:50am On Jan 15
Platini7:
Please i created this moniker to seek advise on this issue.

I got married to my wife in 2018 and there's already an issue that is threatening our young marriage.

We dated briefly 10 years ago before she travelled to the US for schooling. She stayed there for a while and then got into a relationship over there with a guy i know (I wasn't close friends with the guy). I had to move on with my life and got into a relationship of my own here in Nigeria.
Back then, i use to have this silly habit of creating anonymous facebook accounts where i would add people i know and comment on their posts and pictures without them ever knowing i was the one. I dropped many comments back then and one such incident happened to be a time i commented on her close friend's picture, telling her (the friend) she was pretty and how i wanted her. This was almost 10 years ago and i swear i never meant any of those words. It was just a silly joke and i had completely forgotten all that.
My wife returned Nigeria in 2016 and somehow we reconnected and got married in 2018.

Just last week, she stumbled on those posts i made in 2010-2011 and got really heartbroken and upset. Right now, even after pleading with her, she says she wants to quit the marriage. She packed a few of her stuff and travelled home to Abia state from our base in Lagos. So far, what she told her family in the east is that she just came back to visit them for a little while because she couldn't come back during xmas.
Now she's threatening that i won't see my 1 year old son anytime soon cos she's already making plans of relocating abroad for good.


Please my question is this; Do you think this issue is enough to cause this kind of disharmony in our home?
What do you advice?
Thank you




She stumbled on the account? One of several accounts for that matter. Are they not protected with passwords. Is it that they bore recognisable names and used the same password even with your main account? Ten years is a long time. Even you should have forgotten the login details of those random accounts. How come your wife got in.
Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by kellystone87: 6:52am On Jan 15
Op has been flirting online since time memorial... U ve refused to repent and free those random hoes...I believe u wia caught in the act...ur wife is right to leave u...click like for the wife,share for op
Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by heffem(m): 6:52am On Jan 15
izzou:
Is this the woman you dated for 10 years?
...bros abeg read the story again make you fit understand wella..

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