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Re: If You Were To Marry Again, Would You Marry Your Current Spouse? by Jimbadly: 8:05am On Jan 17, 2020

Sniper101:
If we should go ask Regina Daniels right now if she is very much in love with Ned and if she'll wish to have him again, as her husband, in her next life

...her reply would be Yes, isn't it?
But we all know what her "real" answer should be.

So therefore, we're not fooled by the high praise y'all are lauding on your spouse for us here.

Nexxxt...

I smell jelosi.

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Re: If You Were To Marry Again, Would You Marry Your Current Spouse? by LewsTherin: 8:14am On Jan 17, 2020

If you follow Nairalanders, you will believe life is only about sadness and misery.

The overwhelming consensus on marriage here is that 99% of marriages are sad, filled with cheating spouses, have financial disasters and are 1 step away from divorce or even murder! Yet outside of Nairaland.com, statistics say otherwise.

While I have been unable to find any stats concerning Nigeria directly (as per Naija factor, I'll bet), I came across this
https://www.wevorce.com/blog/poll-most-marriages-are-happy/

Long story short, 75% of people polled said they were happy up to 75% of the time in their marriages. This is in a country with an almost 50% rate of divorce! When you compare it with Nigeria that has a much MUCH lower rate of divorce then you wonder what Nairaland is all about.

In my small group of 7 couples, only 2 can be seen to have issues in their marriage (they don't come out to say so anyways but we can all see it) 2 out of 7. That rhymes with the stats of about 75% of marriages being happy.

So read these sob stories as what they are - sad stories that represent the percentage of sad stories only. I am not sayong they are fake stories. I am saying we get to hear only the sad stories which in itself is a good thing. It helps the rest of us know what to avoid, and it helps those affected find some therapy and answers.

In summary, most marriages are good. Marriage as an institution is basically a good thing. Your marriage can be good. Your marriage can be fixed. Like everything else in life, you have to work at it.

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Re: If You Were To Marry Again, Would You Marry Your Current Spouse? by black9: 8:56am On Jan 17, 2020

Greatdre:
This question is for the married folks!!! If you are to marry again, would you marry your current spouse? Please, be very honest with your answer.

Singles on the thread. Check out a nice girl with good head on her shoulders.

https://www.nairaland.com/5636009/she-wunmi-april-fashion-diary#85863660

Re: If You Were To Marry Again, Would You Marry Your Current Spouse? by Awesome01(m): 9:11am On Jan 17, 2020

YES!!! I will. 100 times over. She's the best for me. Completes me, compliments me, understand me and above all accepted me for who I am. She's my best friend.

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Re: If You Were To Marry Again, Would You Marry Your Current Spouse? by TheRedpillguy: 10:53am On Jan 17, 2020

darfay:
Some minutes ago I thought everyone was being unfair to you, but c what u quoted someone who is sort of depressed state to say, very insensitive of you
You perfect life isn't everyone's experience

Just pretend for one second that, I don't understand English and say that again.
From what I understood, you meant, I am not sensitive. Look at my name theredpillguy its in the name. My job is not to be sensitive, all am trying to tell you people is reality is harsh and if you go about with that sensitive mind set, you will get burn. So take the truth, digest it and rise to be strong and bold. Don't give a fvck today.

Re: If You Were To Marry Again, Would You Marry Your Current Spouse? by Aadiana(f): 10:56am On Jan 17, 2020

No no no.I will never

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Re: If You Were To Marry Again, Would You Marry Your Current Spouse? by TheRedpillguy: 11:04am On Jan 17, 2020

Vyolet:
Millionboi2, TheRedpillguy, Mrtruth4real, Jeff1607, Noblemarce

This is an interesting misery, gladen your hearts boys.

Lol, stories can be made up you know? Is eaither so or sombody is not telling you the full story. How about I hear from the husband first. Cus you know women think they are perfect and the little things thy do shouldnt matter. Yeah punishment cam come in many forms. You don't need to be violent. Me am always agaist violence except you are under attack then defence. So maybe you should here the whole story before mentioning me.

Re: If You Were To Marry Again, Would You Marry Your Current Spouse? by Sniper101(m): 11:19am On Jan 17, 2020

Jimbadly:
I smell jelosi.

na ur stupidity wey u dey perceive for there, Ogbení

Receive sense.

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Re: If You Were To Marry Again, Would You Marry Your Current Spouse? by Jimbadly: 11:38am On Jan 17, 2020

Sniper101:
na ur stupidity wey u dey perceive for there, Ogbení

Receive sense.

Retarrded and imbecilic cretin is who you are. Now Bleep off!

Re: If You Were To Marry Again, Would You Marry Your Current Spouse? by biggy26: 12:00pm On Jan 17, 2020

realtalk19:
It's a long,complicated story.its my past already.am in the future now.av moved on.

I actually like long stories...
But hope it won't affect your getting married again?

Re: If You Were To Marry Again, Would You Marry Your Current Spouse? by Sniper101(m): 12:45pm On Jan 17, 2020

Jimbadly:
Retarrded and imbecilic cretin is who you are. Now Bleep off!

useless son of a swine
...get the fvck outta here
will ya?

Re: If You Were To Marry Again, Would You Marry Your Current Spouse? by jeff1607(m): 12:46pm On Jan 17, 2020

Vyolet:
Millionboi2, TheRedpillguy, Mrtruth4real, Jeff1607, Noblemarce

This is an interesting misery, gladen your hearts boys.

first things first, ma'am I don't bask in the pain of others

secondly there are also other people who are happy with their marriage
not everyone is bitter

the said lady made a choice despite the red flags , some get lucky,some don't, but what you want doesn't exist.

You are still a child.

Re: If You Were To Marry Again, Would You Marry Your Current Spouse? by Vyolet(f): 1:27pm On Jan 17, 2020

jeff1607:
first things first, ma'am I don't bask in the pain of others

secondly there are also other people who are happy with their marriage
not everyone is bitter

the said lady made a choice despite the red flags , some get lucky,some don't, but what you want doesn't exist.

You are still a child.

Your sanctimonous response can't hide your bitterness, if you truly believe some are happy in their marriages, you would not say certain qualities don't exist simply because someone else has them. It's not what I want, it's what I have.

I only called your attention to such posts since those types are more believable.

Be happy for others grandpa.

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Re: If You Were To Marry Again, Would You Marry Your Current Spouse? by Digmygold: 1:49pm On Jan 17, 2020

I asked Ubunja ex wives they said they'd rather be married to poo. Lol!

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Re: If You Were To Marry Again, Would You Marry Your Current Spouse? by Jimbadly: 1:58pm On Jan 17, 2020*

Sniper101:
useless son of a swine
...get the fvck outta here
will ya?

You are as retardedd and useless as your father who later took his miserable life by taking sniper. Asswipe!

Re: If You Were To Marry Again, Would You Marry Your Current Spouse? by Ovawise2020: 2:27pm On Jan 17, 2020

I hope u wake up from your illusion soon

Vyolet:
When you are with a guy who is handsome facially with good physique, beautiful eyes, well behaved, not stingy, respectful, overall sexy and most importantly crazy in love with you. You will never want marriage with any other guy even if you come to this world ten times over.
So I will choose mine over and over and over again.

Re: If You Were To Marry Again, Would You Marry Your Current Spouse? by jeff1607(m): 2:44pm On Jan 17, 2020

Vyolet:
Your sanctimonous response can't hide your bitterness, if you truly believe some are happy in their marriages, you would not say certain qualities don't exist simply because someone else has them. It's not what I want, it's what I have.

I only called your attention to such posts since those types are more believable.

Be happy for others grandpa.

read my previous comment, also read your previous comment (the one I quoted first) , now read what you wrote here.

you are still a child

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Re: If You Were To Marry Again, Would You Marry Your Current Spouse? by belcom10(m): 2:58pm On Jan 17, 2020

see this one.I pity you.

HazzanTazzan:
I don't think theres any better woman out there for me.

If you see me with any other one, its just for the sex and exploring.

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Re: If You Were To Marry Again, Would You Marry Your Current Spouse? by HazzanTazzan(m): 3:12pm On Jan 17, 2020

belcom10:
see this one.I pity you.

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Mind your business

Re: If You Were To Marry Again, Would You Marry Your Current Spouse? by chrisbrain2: 4:32pm On Jan 17, 2020

Greatdre:
This question is for the married folks!!! If you are to marry again, would you marry your current spouse? Please, be very honest with your answer.

Re: If You Were To Marry Again, Would You Marry Your Current Spouse? by engrelvis(m): 4:36pm On Jan 17, 2020

LewsTherin:
If you follow Nairalanders, you will believe life is only about sadness and misery.

The overwhelming consensus on marriage here is that 99% of marriages are sad, filled with cheating spouses, have financial disasters and are 1 step away from divorce or even murder! Yet outside of Nairaland.com, statistics say otherwise.

While I have been unable to find any stats concerning Nigeria directly (as per Naija factor, I'll bet), I came across this
https://www.wevorce.com/blog/poll-most-marriages-are-happy/

Long story short, 75% of people polled said they were happy up to 75% of the time in their marriages. This is in a country with an almost 50% rate of divorce! When you compare it with Nigeria that has a much MUCH lower rate of divorce then you wonder what Nairaland is all about.

In my small group of 7 couples, only 2 can be seen to have issues in their marriage (they don't come out to say so anyways but we can all see it) 2 out of 7. That rhymes with the stats of about 75% of marriages being happy.

So read these sob stories as what they are - sad stories that represent the percentage of sad stories only. I am not sayong they are fake stories. I am saying we get to hear only the sad stories which in itself is a good thing. It helps the rest of us know what to avoid, and it helps those affected find some therapy and answers.

In summary, most marriages are good. Marriage as an institution is basically a good thing. Your marriage can be good. Your marriage can be fixed. Like everything else in life, you have to work at it.

thank u bro.

Re: If You Were To Marry Again, Would You Marry Your Current Spouse? by PapaBrown: 4:36pm On Jan 17, 2020

Greatdre:
This question is for the married folks!!! If you are to marry again, would you marry your current spouse? Please, be very honest with your answer.

Re: If You Were To Marry Again, Would You Marry Your Current Spouse? by LINTUNE(m): 5:28pm On Jan 17, 2020

pocohantas:
Women that brag about their men are being hypocritical.

Women that complain of their men are manhating feminist that need love from the same men that shouldn't be bragged about.

There is something very wrong with you and your kind. Confused entities.

i guess the males in ur family are from a different species....must u post everything on social media ...must u try and taunt ppl with ut happiness,or give ppl false hope with ur problems on social media?.instead of seeing my point,u are just blinded by ur usual sexist perspective..grow up gal...u talk like u dont have male in ur family,or u dont relate with males undecided

Re: If You Were To Marry Again, Would You Marry Your Current Spouse? by LINTUNE(m): 5:35pm On Jan 17, 2020

Vyolet:
If the women that brag about their husbands are hypocritical, what about men that brag about their wives? Are they also saying it to pepper single guy's?

I don't understand why you guys can't just be happy for others and move on with your lives.

..very myopic of u...try and understand what's going on on social media before countering my comment...most ppl especially women post about their martial to either taunt the singles or couples with issues or to discourage the same set of ppl from getting married tongue

Re: If You Were To Marry Again, Would You Marry Your Current Spouse? by pocohantas(f): 5:52pm On Jan 17, 2020*

LINTUNE:
Bleep off!...dont mention me again

Isi aki!! Go remove the quote button under your post. Nonsense and Lintune.

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Re: If You Were To Marry Again, Would You Marry Your Current Spouse? by LINTUNE(m): 6:04pm On Jan 17, 2020

pocohantas:
[s][/s]

Nonsense. People just said good things about the males in their family, you called them hypocritical and you are here again complaining about me? Can you see why I said you suffer chronic confusion? Get checked for that first, you insatiable creature.

Bleep off!...dont mention me again angry

Re: If You Were To Marry Again, Would You Marry Your Current Spouse? by Nobody: 7:52pm On Jan 17, 2020

victorian:
Wow! 11years!

And youve been the one taking care of a full grown man!
Na wa o

In the past i use to date broke ,poor or hustling guys .i almost made a terrible mistake marrying one ,but my eyes cleared when i asked him a simple question a day before meeting his dad .
I asked , honey if im broke tomorrow , will u help and assist me with money?
This is a guy ,i always stock up his fridge with lots of nigerian and foreign provisions including meats and Chicken.
I always want to make sure any guy i date at least look fresh like me . This is a guy i will use my own money to cook pot of soups and stew.

Guess his reply?
The fool said but Babe how can i run broke? Ha! No o , i should stop such jokes . A whole Ceo, broke ke? Its impossible .
I looked at this guy with shock.

Then he continued and said his best friend wife bought a jeep for his best friend and the guy is living large , and envy to all of them who are his friends and he was expecting i wil buy him a car , attached to the full wardrobe of clothes and shoes i promised him so he can match my level . Cause i always say he doesnt dress rich .

Mehn! That was the end of that relationship.

I told him point blank , its over . Go look for another rich maga to marry.

Can u imagine ? I rather remain single for life! Than marry a man i wil.be dashing money to all the rest of my life or taking care of his life style..

If a man is not rich dont fucvking come near me ! Dont even look at my direction, abeg!

You are really trying and God will keep blessing you , and open more doors of prosperity for u in Jesus name.amen.

Hes doing himself o.

That guy that opened his mouth to tell you that kinda thing is a learner grin

You don't steal a Goat & start showing it Firewood, Pot & Maggi without tying down the Goat first cheesy

That being said, you don't have to be hypergamous to ensure you don't suffer, you don't need a stinking Rich person.
Simply marry someone in your class & you would be fine.
You already know how much work you put in your business, marry someone that is also hard working like that.

Many Women marry ass holes, then come to NL & preach regret to younger women. They simply made that choice with clear eyes, no one forced them.

Things that are important to consider are:
i: Is he working? If yes, What kind of work. Is it a Salary job or a Contract job that comes only once in a year?
ii: How much does he earn now & Is it enough to sustain a Family of 3 at least?
iii: Where does he see himself in the future?
iv: Does he have savings, how often does he save?

I'm very sure that guy that asked you for a Car will fail most of these questions above, I am sure.

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Re: If You Were To Marry Again, Would You Marry Your Current Spouse? by Nobody: 8:16pm On Jan 17, 2020

This is really beautiful. Thank you for sharing!!!

KingSatan:
I knew I would meet your kind.

This is not a thread to breed competition or promote hypocrisy.

You woman are good at dropping lines like these in order to portray the luckiest woman on Earth.

I have been married for over 3 decades and I can say "Marriage is beautiful if both of you love each other truthfully" and are determined to make your marriage work. Though it's not a smooth sail but with a determined spirit, you will conquer all.

You will sometimes fight your extended family because of that woman you love and cherish. Marriage is not for the feeble heart.

I remember one time, I looked straight in her eyes and I saw a helpless woman. I stood up to my late uncle's and told them never to insult my wife again or I stop bearing their surname and cut ties with them forever.

I could remember when i slumped, my wife was crying like I child. I woke up to her screams and tears.

I love my wife and I am without any doubt that she loves me too. I married her because I couldn't imagine living so far away from such beautiful soul. I wanted to have her all to myself and I succeeded.

Today, I don't see the curves (Of course I wasn't interested in all that when I married her) and she isn't seeing the albs, afro hairstyle etc but she is still my "Sexy Amigo".

I will marry her over and over again if given a chance.

PS: Don't even think money brought us together. I was still trying to find my place in this world when I met her. She told me "I believe in you"

After my mother, no one else except her said those words to me.

I held on to those words and today, it's all history.

Re: If You Were To Marry Again, Would You Marry Your Current Spouse? by victorian(f): 8:55pm On Jan 17, 2020

truthsayer009:
That guy that opened his mouth to tell you that kinda thing is a learner
You don't steal a Goat & start showing it Firewood, Pot & Maggi without tying down the Goat first

That being said, you don't have to be hypergamous to ensure you don't suffer, you don't need a stinking Rich person.
Simply marry someone in your class & you would be fine.
You already know how much work you put in your business, marry someone that is also hard working like that.

Many Women marry ass holes, then come to NL & preach regret to younger women. They simply made that choice with clear eyes, no one forced them.

Things that are important to consider are:
i: Is he working? If yes, What kind of work. Is it a Salary job or a Contract job that comes only once in a year?
ii: How much does he earn now & Is it enough to sustain a Family of 3 at least?
iii: Where does he see himself in the future?
iv: Does he have savings, how often does he save?

I'm very sure that guy that asked you for a Car will fail most of these questions above, I am sure.

You are right with the questions a lady is meant to ask from any man , she feels she can settle with.
Those are very sound questions .

Then the stupid ex, who saw me as a maga thats foolishly inlove . He was really dumb saying his thoughts to me and i feel its God that made him, say those foolish things. Because in the morning , a day before we were meant to see his dad , an inner voice was challenging me and saying to me, as i was thinking about what to wear to meet with his parents . The inner vocie sneered at me and said that do i honestly think my bf loves me? I was like, cmon! of course he loves me . ( dont mind me, i do get a voice talking to me sometimes)

The inner voice laughed at me and called my native name , and it said you are just about to make a huge mistake! Pls calm down and rethink what u are about to do. He doesnt love you. Hes playing a script.
I sighed and replied but i love him angry

The inner voice ok ok, but pls can u ask him this simple question? And i wil let you guys be and i wont say a word again.
Just ask him this qyestion and whatever he says , u wil get your answer and see the real guy u want to settle with.
I sighed deeply and said ok ok. Whats the question? It told me . Ok then I will call him this minute and ask him.

So i called him on phone to please come upstairs , there is something bugging my mind .He works for a company downstairs, the same building with mine . He then walked into my office within 15mins . We pecked and hugged, then we sat down and he smiled brightly, asking so whats up?

Thats i asked him the question and he failed woefully .he just blurted out the first thing that came out from his head and he was even smiling as he was saying , there is no way i can be broke! Nah! You are Princess Victoria, the bla bla of bla , the this and that of this! cmon u are joking right ? There is no way u can be broke! You cant be like me , who is an employee, u are a boss! As in Ceo!

He was still smiling and trying to hold his laugh and said its that why i called him? One sharp piercing headache just rammed inbetween my eyes. I was like what?

Sighs! Struggling guys ehn? Jeez!

Anyways i made up my mind and decided to date guys my level but God surprised me with a super rich handsome classy guy and i honestly cannot reject such cool offer from God . He loves me to pieces and he always avoid looking at my eyes for like a minute and his eyes darts off .lol
I love the way hes shy to look at me. Its refreshing and funny. cheesy

One day i dragged my new guy's head and im like look at me! Stop avoidng my eyes! Cmon?

Guess what he said, he smiled ,removed my hands from his face and he replied , i have the most sexy eyes he has ever seen with a perfect skin tone and its so overwhelming, then he looked away. I was so shocked and my heart melted and i was like awwww! cheesy

sighs i was quiet for like a minute and i muttered : Thats so sweet. Then i hugged him.

And he chuckled.

cheesy

Sighs anyways lemme cut my long story short, i have the kind of man i want and im very cool with him. Hes so charming ! cheesy

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Re: If You Were To Marry Again, Would You Marry Your Current Spouse? by Nobody: 9:15pm On Jan 17, 2020

victorian:
Anyways i made up my mind and decided to date guys my level but God surprised me with a super rich handsome classy guy and i honestly cannot reject such cool offer from God . He loves me to pieces and he always avoid looking at my eyes for like a minute and his eyes darts off .lol
I love the way hes shy to look at me. Its refreshing and funny.

One day i dragged my new guy's head and im like look at me! Stop avoidng my eyes! Cmon?

Guess what he said, he smiled ,removed my hands from his face and he replied , i have the most sexy eyes he has ever seen with a perfect skin tone and its so overwhelming, then he looked away. I was so shocked and my heart melted and i was like awwww! sighs i was quiet for like a minute and i muttered : Thats so sweet. Then i hugged him.

And he chuckled.

Sighs anyways lemme cut my long story short, i have the kind of man i want and im very cool with him. Hes so charming !

Congratulations Sis! make you forget to invite us ooh.

By the way, this your inner voice calling you by Native name, Na Wa oh! grin

victorian:
The inner voice laughed at me and called my native name

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Re: If You Were To Marry Again, Would You Marry Your Current Spouse? by victorian(f): 9:37pm On Jan 17, 2020

truthsayer009:
Congratulations Sis! make you forget to invite us ooh.

By the way, this your inner voice calling you by Native name, Na Wa oh!

Definitely i will send invites to my well wishers on nairaland , including you.

I cant wait to spend the rest of my life with him. Hes so refreshing , different and calm unlike the tigers wey full nairaland remain.

Sighs yes , i have an inner voice that speaks to me in my mind . Its a feminine voice most times and sometimes a young guy's voice too. Feminine voice advise and questions any wrong move i want to make.
Its wierd shey? I thought so before but not any more im used to them. Sometimes the guy talking can be funny with jokes , i think its my late brother , cos he reminds me of his jokes and i wil remember smile, call his name and shake my head, say to him its enough jor! Pls stop. Then he wil become quiet cheesy

Hes a funny guy when he was alive .

Anyways thank God for life . Thank you Jesus.

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Re: If You Were To Marry Again, Would You Marry Your Current Spouse? by Sniper101(m): 9:53pm On Jan 17, 2020

Jimbadly:
You are as retardedd and useless as your father who later took his miserable life by taking sniper. Asswipe!

Stüpid degenerate who's refused to be useful to himself, his family and the society.
May thunder fire you there and damage your destiny.
Silly nitwit.

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