Kennedyiheme:
yes you are not in support of the archaic style of marriage but the modern style of marriage... the same modern stylenof marriage with high divorce rate... wow

And the traditional style has less divorce rate? Because women enjoy slavery? Who are you kidding? Women are not fools. Which woman will completely phase out her own life just because you want to feel complete as a man. Work on your insecurities and stop allowing a woman pay for your issues

ImaIma1:


Because you brought her into this world or created her? And so you decide her future because you think you bought her because you paid an inconsequential amount for bride price. You think that is enough for a human life?

So you kill her dreams and aspirations because she is unfortunate enough to be your wife. I see.

No one is killing anyone dreams or aspiration, the basic truth is without our primary/statuory roles and duties we are useless as humans.
One word women don't understand is "responsibility" for every choice made you must be ready to take & bear d responsibility that comes with it.
what these means is that if as a woman u feel ur career & aspiration is a primary priority then don't marry, also if a wife insist she must work,she can go ahead buh don't complain or nag about ur primary duties. you can't put ur leg in a pool n stil b complaining it is cold.

bottomline if a woman's life is all about career & aspiration i don't see why a woman shuld b in a man's house. just be single n enjoy ur life jeje instead of tryin to manipulate men into simps. You are not even caring you're not even romantic that is hw they start

ericsmith:





No one is killing anyone dreams or aspiration, the basic truth is without our primary/statuory roles and duties we are useless as humans.
One word women don't understand is "responsibility" for every choice made you must be ready to take & bear d responsibility that comes with it.
what these means is that if as a woman u feel ur career & aspiration is a primary priority then don't marry, also if a wife insist she must work,she can go ahead buh don't complain or nag about ur primary duties. you can't put ur leg in a pool n stil b complaining it is cold.

bottomline if a woman's life is all about career & aspiration i don't see why a woman shuld b in a man's house. just be single n enjoy ur life jeje instead of tryin to manipulate men into simps. You are not even caring you're not even romantic that is hw they start

What you are saying is different from what the OP is saying that a woman should not even think about a career.

Still, why should a woman be a t a disadvantage because she wants to get married. I have always worked right from before I even entered university. For a man to now come and say I should sit at home will be impossible.

Thank God I met a sensible one who doesn't feel threatened by a woman's success so much that he has to try to suppress her to make himself feel who and manly.

Cuteamigo1:

Actually you did

Just like you're seeing reasons with me right?

Lol please tell that to my husband who is a certified chef. I’m so blessed and grateful. My respect for him will always be on 1000.

Why are you stressing yourself? If that’s what he wants in a marriage, then leave him. He is going to marry ONE woman out of the millions in Nigeria. Why argue or force your opinion down his throat? If he doesn’t want his wife to work, then that’s his problem/issue to deal with. There is a woman out there who is more than happy to be a housewife. Please understand this.

This nairaland will not kill somebody lol.

ImaIma1:


Which nature? Or you mean it's your own idea of marriage? You think all the couples you see practise this archaic idea of marriage? It is peculiar to you and some few other that happen to think like you..

You think marriage is supposed to be a disadvantage for women and an advantage for men?

You obviously don't know what marriage is about. You are just using some traditional mumbo jumbo to make an excuse for you to intimidate and suppress an unfortunate woman

ImaIma1:


And the traditional style has less divorce rate? Because women enjoy slavery? Who are you kidding? Women are not fools. Which woman will completely phase out her own life just because you want to feel complete as a man. Work on your insecurities and stop allowing a woman pay for your issues

lol maybe you should compare the divorce rate in 1920s and now. Go check stats...

Women are happy taking traditional roles.. conservative women i mean.. not you spoilt feminists brats..

https://www.bbc.com/news/av/stories-51113371/submitting-to-my-husband-like-it-s-1959-why-i-became-a-tradwife

olabrinks:
Lol please tell that to my husband who is a certified chef. I’m so blessed and grateful. My respect for him will always be on 1000.

every little detail has to be explained to you people.. he is a certified chef.. thats his profession, thats what puts food on the table... do you need me to explain to you thats a different circumstance... na wa

ImaIma1:


What you are saying is different from what the OP is saying that a woman should not even think about a career.

Still, why should a woman be a t a disadvantage because she wants to get married. I have always worked right from before I even entered university. For a man to now come and say I should sit at home will be impossible.

Thank God I met a sensible one who doesn't feel threatened by a woman's success so much that he has to try to suppress her to make himself feel who and manly.

lol are you married?.. hope its not boyfriend

ericsmith:





No one is killing anyone dreams or aspiration, the basic truth is without our primary/statuory roles and duties we are useless as humans.
One word women don't understand is "responsibility" for every choice made you must be ready to take & bear d responsibility that comes with it.
what these means is that if as a woman u feel ur career & aspiration is a primary priority then don't marry, also if a wife insist she must work,she can go ahead buh don't complain or nag about ur primary duties. you can't put ur leg in a pool n stil b complaining it is cold.

bottomline if a woman's life is all about career & aspiration i don't see why a woman shuld b in a man's house. just be single n enjoy ur life jeje instead of tryin to manipulate men into simps. You are not even caring you're not even romantic that is hw they start

lol do you get.. if you wonna work, go ahead but you must fufill and perform your role as a wife well.. not situations where your husband comes home and there's no food...if you're so focused on your career, you should have stayed unmarried... now you wonna eat your cake and have it..

ednut1:
so women should not be empowered or strive to get better jobs When the man loses his job or dies no be god for pay bills

Now don't get me wrong or shuld i say twisted,i am not anti women empowerment, what am against is women using these same given privilege to subjugate men.
As much as i wil respect my wife choice she must fulfill her obligations to me. how she goes about it is now left to her.

ImaIma1:


What you are saying is different from what the OP is saying that a woman should not even think about a career.

Still, why should a woman be a t a disadvantage because she wants to get married. I have always worked right from before I even entered university. For a man to now come and say I should sit at home will be impossible.

Thank God I met a sensible one who doesn't feel threatened by a woman's success so much that he has to try to suppress her to make himself feel who and manly.

I do agree some men see women earning as threat or feel threatenes buh some men are not like that ... my concern is these so called career or job not gettin in the way of her primary duties to our home. a woman can work as long as it won't she doesnt let it distort her primary duties as a well.
now lets me put you in a not tew tight corner, does ur hubby do house chores occasionally or regularly.

ericsmith:




I do agree some men see women earning as threat or feel threatenes buh some men are not like that ... my concern is these so called career or job not gettin in the way of her primary duties to our home. a woman can work as long as it won't she doesnt let it distort her primary duties as a well.
now lets me put you in a not tew tight corner, does ur hubby do house chores occasionally or regularly.

The frequency depends on his free time. We both work and we don't have a maid.

A woman who works is a loser.

ImaIma1:


The frequency depends on his free time. We both work and we don't have a maid.

what i can induce is that he is probably self employed and he needs ur contribution, my sure guess is that he does those tinz out of freewill not becos you ask him to.
when a man get to that level he makes enough to cater for is home ... he won't just tolerate sometinz becos d woman is working.

ericsmith:



what i can induce is that he is probably self employed and he needs ur contribution, my sure guess is that he does those tinz out of freewill not becos you ask him to.
when a man get to that level he makes enough to cater for is home ... he won't just tolerate sometinz becos d woman is working.

Your deduction is just funny. He earns more than twice my salary. When I was out of work for over a year, his earning was enough for us. I almost got lazy about getting back into the job market.

He's just the rare kind. Not something most guys on this forum can understand. His upbringing was amazing. I wish I had met his father to really thank him. Because from what I see on this forum, he's superhuman.

Ladies are feeling the heat. .

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Your deduction is just funny. He earns more than twice my salary. When I was out of work for over a year, his earning was enough for us. I almost got lazy about getting back into the job market.

He's just the rare kind. Not something most guys on this forum can understand. His upbringing was amazing. I wish I had met his father to really thank him. Because from what I see on this forum, he's superhuman.



There is stil one question you avnt answered, does ur hubby do house chores out of freewill or becos yu xpected him to or asked him to. ??

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If you are asking if I assign chores to him, the answer is no

ImaIma1:


If you are asking if I assign chores to him, the answer is no

The fact that you don't assign chores to him literally means you don't xpect him to do those chores, but on is own freewill he does it anyways, my sista maafor some guys here assist tew, no marvel we aint superhumans either .... even God said he wil lift d humble ones.
The ones men will continue to show pepper & throw out are those gurls that feel they know there right and alway in power tussel with men.

ericsmith:




I do agree some men see women earning as threat or feel threatenes buh some men are not like that ... my concern is these so called career or job not gettin in the way of her primary duties to our home. a woman can work as long as it won't she doesnt let it distort her primary duties as a well.
now lets me put you in a not tew tight corner, does ur hubby do house chores occasionally or regularly.

threat to what kwanu.. what are they afraid of?

ericsmith:





No one is killing anyone dreams or aspiration, the basic truth is without our primary/statuory roles and duties we are useless as humans.
One word women don't understand is "responsibility" for every choice made you must be ready to take & bear d responsibility that comes with it.
what these means is that if as a woman u feel ur career & aspiration is a primary priority then don't marry, also if a wife insist she must work,she can go ahead buh don't complain or nag about ur primary duties. you can't put ur leg in a pool n stil b complaining it is cold.

bottomline if a woman's life is all about career & aspiration i don't see why a woman shuld b in a man's house. just be single n enjoy ur life jeje instead of tryin to manipulate men into simps. You are not even caring you're not even romantic that is hw they start

the primary role of a husband is too provide and protect for his family... he does that while he chases his dreams... can a woman chase her dreams while she fufill her sensitive role in the family as a wife?.. i pretty much doub that... in whose hands would you leave your 2 year old kid while you go to work?.. is it daycare?, in the hands of someone else, for proper development the child needs his mother at all times.... if you knew you weren't ready you shouldn't have gotten married... isn't it just here on nairaland were i saw several posts of nannys/househelp beat up toddlers because the mother was at work... see the divorce rate is just starting, the amount of people that would comeoff marriage ehn...

Kennedyiheme:
the primary role of a husband is too provide and protect for his family... he does that while he chases his dreams... can a woman chase her dreams while she fufill her sensitive role in the family as a wife?.. i pretty much doub that... in whose hands would you leave your 2 year old kid while you go to work?.. is it daycare?, in the hands of someone else, for proper development the child needs his mother at all times.... if you knew you weren't ready you shouldn't have gotten married... isn't it just here on nairaland were i saw several posts of nannys/househelp beat up toddlers because the mother was at work... see the divorce rate is just starting, the amount of people that would comeoff marriage ehn...

whatever d world is gonna evolve into or change into .... thank God i am a man

ericsmith:




whatever d world is gonna evolve into or change into .... thank God i am a man

lol abi... women don't want to accept the fact that nature favours men more.. nobody likes it but you just have to accept it

Kennedyiheme:
lol times have changed but the laws of matrimony hasn't.. a woman who can't perfect the duty of a wife should stay unmarried and go to work...

A man who can't perfect the duty of a husband to provide for his family financially without the help of his wife should stay unmarried.

khiaa:


A man who can't perfect the duty of a husband to provide for his family financially without the help of his wife should stay unmarried.

we aren't the ones rushing marriage.. is it not the women complaining on social media how men shouldn't date more than 2 years before marriage.. left to men we aren't interested in marriage... its women that go to Shiloh.. have you ever heard that a man is seriously looking for a wife ?