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Skseries:
lol that's bcus u seat back and let most of those mehn do all the talking, while all u do is answer, have chat with some girls for the first time and conversations just click cus she is fun, but when i get one word response to my first two questions then I know the girl is most likely boring or forming yeye hard to get, what girls don't know is not every guy that tries to make conversation wants to get into ur pant.. I broke up with an ex I dated for 6minths cus of this boring attitude and inability to make conversation...

No matter how u fine, if we can't talk at length and play on phone or chat. Aunty then dey ur dey... Marriage is a far too long time for u to bore me..

Even the guys that ask something different do u girls give them the attention or respond well? Abegi na 9ja girl mentality

You completely missed my point here. Let me give you a scenario.

MORNING

Guy: Hi, Ardar how was your night?
Me: I slept well thanks and yours?
Guy: Same
Guy: have you eaten this morning
Me: No but am about to.
Guy: What are you planning on eating?
Me: Don't know yet but am thinking tea and bread will do for breakfast or just noodles.
Guy: Ok, that's cool

AFTERNOON

Guy: Hi Ardar, how was your day?
Me: Boring but ok, nothing major happened
Guy: What did you eat this Afternoon
Me: Nothing yet
Guy: Why? Don't you want to eat?
*I start getting irritated*
Me: I'll eat but later
*Proceeds to Change the topic*
Me: how far that stuff we talk about last week?
Guy: Ok yeah about it........


Those questions when asked once are not bad but when you continuously ask them especially when there are other important things I'd like to chat about, it becomes stale and boring.

I am not one of those girls around you that reply with lol, ok, wow, that's nice etc, I chat well when am in the mood besides am not even the chatting type, I prefer communicating through calls.

Tajbol4splend:
I know you are lying, but I won't talk

How am I lying?

ExAngel007:
hmm

not again!

Lol!!!!I can't stop laughing, truely 90% of Naija gals are very dumb,sorry to say but they are, and they can't strike a convo.Recently,I took over a chat convo one of my guy was having with a lady and the convo suddenly changed because i applied funny and sensual chatting techniques.I just wanted to show him that his chatting techniques was quite boring.guy leave it or take it ilegend get the Koko gals response change when ur chatting is interesting.I have hang my dating boots and deleted my chats.I would have showed you that even with the so called spirikoko,their responses can be striking.

Ardar:
Most Nigerian men I chat with always ask me the same boring dumb questions like,
" did you eat today"
"What did you eat this afternoon"
"How was your night"
"I hope you dreamt good dreams"

The annoying thing is not the questions itself but the number of times am been asked the same thing by one person.

Now, you don't see women opening threads and whining about Nigerian Men because of this.

You can also start an intelligent conversation with him .. you don’t have to wait for him to ..

Ardar:
You completely missed my point here. Let me give you a scenario.

MORNING

Guy: Hi, Ardar how was your night?
Me: I slept well thanks and yours?
Guy: Same
Guy: have you eaten this morning
Me: No but am about to.
Guy: What are you planning on eating?
Me: Don't know yet but am thinking tea and bread will do for breakfast or just noodles.
Guy: Ok, that's cool

AFTERNOON

Guy: Hi Ardar, how was your day?
Me: Boring but ok, nothing major happened
Guy: What did you eat this Afternoon
Me: Nothing yet
Guy: Why? Don't you want to eat?
*I start getting irritated*
Me: I'll eat but later
*Proceeds to Change the topic*
Me: how far that stuff we talk about last week?
Guy: Ok yeah about it........


Those questions when asked once are not bad but when you continuously ask them especially when there are other important things I'd like to chat about, it because stale and boring.

I am not one of those girls around you that reply with lol, ok, wow, that's nice etc, I chat well when am in the mood besides am not even the chatting type, I prefer communicating through calls.

Both party seems to be boring from what I observed up there....

The guy is 3 boring and you yourself is not excluded, most girls are boring they hardly initiate chat....

Ardar:
You completely missed my point here. Let me give you a scenario.

MORNING

Guy: Hi, Ardar how was your night?
Me: I slept well thanks and yours?
Guy: Same
Guy: have you eaten this morning
Me: No but am about to.
Guy: What are you planning on eating?
Me: Don't know yet but am thinking tea and bread will do for breakfast or just noodles.
Guy: Ok, that's cool

AFTERNOON

Guy: Hi Ardar, how was your day?
Me: Boring but ok, nothing major happened
Guy: What did you eat this Afternoon
Me: Nothing yet
Guy: Why? Don't you want to eat?
*I start getting irritated*
Me: I'll eat but later
*Proceeds to Change the topic*
Me: how far that stuff we talk about last week?
Guy: Ok yeah about it........


Those questions when asked once are not bad but when you continuously ask them especially when there are other important things I'd like to chat about, it because stale and boring.

I am not one of those girls around you that reply with lol, ok, wow, that's nice etc, I chat well when am in the mood besides am not even the chatting type, I prefer communicating through calls.

if ur responses are like this then the guy is over boring, chai! If every lady response is like this then I doubt me personally will ever complain. I apologise for miss interpreting u with my earlier response.

Ardar:
Most Nigerian men I chat with always ask me the same boring dumb questions like,
" did you eat today"
"What did you eat this afternoon"
"How was your night"
"I hope you dreamt good dreams"

The annoying thing is not the questions itself but the number of times am been asked the same thing by one person.

Now, you don't see women opening threads and whining about Nigerian Men because of this.

Outline the kind of questions we should ask the woman race?


Not question like baby your acct balance is zero allow me to send money into it

Skseries:
if ur responses are like this then the guy is over boring, chai! If every lady response is like this then I doubt me personally will ever complain. I apologise for miss interpreting u with my earlier response.

Guy, what's special over the above convo, I asked a guy here with me if a guy chat u this way what will ur response?

He said a guy that chat this way shows he's not interested in chat then I asked what if a girl chat u this way, he replied with he will "okay" the chat b4 she does...

Skseries:
list of worries u say? That is even the greatest of worry. A partner that can't make conversation? That u can't joke with? U are my gf I try to make exciting conversation with u tell u abt how amazing my day was and here u tell me abt URS and all I get is, fine, yes, ok, yes.

Lol someone I wanna spend the rest of my life with, what is the bed rock of a good and lasting relationship? Friendship, communication and trust. Love is the least of them all..

Lol flimsy she calls it. Try dating a guy who can't make u smile or laff

Oh... I see.
I prolly misconstrued your post. I thought you were talking about girls that text with abbreviated words. I didnt know you were referring to their response. Now I understand.

you attract exactly wat you are oga...for you to only meet girls that cant hold a conversation means you cant either so it's you that need to change first and stop blaming others for ur low I.q

Ardar:
Most Nigerian men I chat with always ask me the same boring dumb questions like,
" did you eat today"
"What did you eat this afternoon"
"How was your night"
"I hope you dreamt good dreams"

The annoying thing is not the questions itself but the number of times am been asked the same thing by one person.

Now, you don't see women opening threads and whining about Nigerian Men because of this.

Op these are just the answers to your question.

Very Boring questions...Nigerian Men change pls! Lol

Ardar:
You completely missed my point here. Let me give you a scenario.

MORNING

Guy: Hi, Ardar how was your night?
Me: I slept well thanks and yours?
Guy: Same
Guy: have you eaten this morning
Me: No but am about to.
Guy: What are you planning on eating?
Me: Don't know yet but am thinking tea and bread will do for breakfast or just noodles.
Guy: Ok, that's cool

AFTERNOON

Guy: Hi Ardar, how was your day?
Me: Boring but ok, nothing major happened
Guy: What did you eat this Afternoon
Me: Nothing yet
Guy: Why? Don't you want to eat?
*I start getting irritated*
Me: I'll eat but later
*Proceeds to Change the topic*
Me: how far that stuff we talk about last week?
Guy: Ok yeah about it........


Those questions when asked once are not bad but when you continuously ask them especially when there are other important things I'd like to chat about, it because stale and boring.

I am not one of those girls around you that reply with lol, ok, wow, that's nice etc, I chat well when am in the mood besides am not even the chatting type, I prefer communicating through calls.

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Me I dey reply them with lolz,k, l , b , x,vv, w.....and all upper case letters.���. Do me I do you God no go vex, I can't come and kill myself ontop girls mata

Akinbahm:
Guy, what's special over the above convo, I asked a guy here with me if a guy chat u this way what will ur response?

He said a guy that chat this way shows he's not interested in chat then I asked what if a girl chat u this way, he replied with he will "okay" the chat b4 she does...

the response from her gives me the avenue to create topic to talk abt, it gives me the feeling that if I bring up something interesting I can get good response with her, am not in the habit of asking if u have eating or asking redundant questions when I chat, as long as I get more than a word response from a girl I chat I can walk my way around and crack her into talking freely, once I chat a girl for like 5min and check all Tru and all I see are just one word response am done... My number one rule is never force conversation.. I enjoy chatting just for the fun of it doesn't necessarily mean I Wanna toast u.

I can chat a girl today make her laugh her head out and tomorrow boom am gone have deleted the number.

Truth is some guys also can't talk to a girl.

Skseries:
list of worries u say? That is even the greatest of worry. A partner that can't make conversation? That u can't joke with? U are my gf I try to make exciting conversation with u tell u abt how amazing my day was and here u tell me abt URS and all I get is, fine, yes, ok, yes.mfe1

Lol someone I wanna spend the rest of my life with, what is the bed rock of a good and lasting relationship? Friendship, communication and trust. Love is the least of them all..

Lol flimsy she calls it. Try dating a guy who can't make u smile or laff

Oh... I see.
I prolly misconstrued your post. I thought you were talking about girls that text with abbreviated words. I didnt know you were referring to their response. Now I understand.

Guys let’s work on ourselves and let these gals do the chatting. No time to chat dumb gals which shows you are a busy man. Let’s get to work and make money. The gals we’ve now are too materialistic; wen u are rich they will be disturbing you and the table will turn.

kollinzgee:
Then you mean 90% of naija girls are dumb because 9 out of 10 girls are guilty of this even you yourself know this.

Bro its not about these gurls been dumb, i would av say maybe the gurl wants you off her back but since you insist she loves you then there can only two issues here;
1. You lack wittyness and ability to lay out an interesting conversation, not necessary jokes.
solution : find her interest n share it, e.g if she likes music wen you are lost of words dive into music topics,alway be updated n show it, if she loves you she wil also show interest in what u like as a way of compensating you.

2. Most naija gurls will give yu attitude when they knw dey stand to gain nothing from you other than talk!! talk .. gurls av so much needs, so naturally gurls think money 24/7 ... gurls are moved by what they see, if you personally av an interesting fun filled life gurls wil drop there attitude n alway want to knw whatsup wit you. just work on yourself,be beta than you are last yr

MrCork:
...we don't want them to change I beg .....
Bro if u can't aford women..STAY AWAY!!!(No oofeense)

Women are human beings like you not an object

Ardar:
Most Nigerian men I chat with always ask me the same boring dumb questions like,
" did you eat today"
"What did you eat this afternoon"
"How was your night"
"I hope you dreamt good dreams"

The annoying thing is not the questions itself but the number of times am been asked the same thing by one person.

Now, you don't see women opening threads and whining about Nigerian Men because of this.

Oga is pained, because he has been following low budget girls
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Skseries:
the response from her gives me the avenue to create topic to talk abt, it gives me the feeling that if I bring up something interesting I can get good response with her, am not in the habit of asking if u have eating or asking redundant questions when I chat, as long as I get more than a word response from a girl I chat I can walk my way around and crack her into talking freely, once I chat a girl for like 5min and check all Tru and all I see are just one word response am done... My number one rule is never force conversation.. I enjoy chatting just for the fun of it doesn't necessarily mean I Wanna toast u.
I can chat a girl today make her laugh her head out and tomorrow boom am gone have deleted the number.

Truth is some guys also can't talk to a girl.

Am not disputing the fact that some guys are just 3 timid to engage a girl and dont forget average Nigerian girls sees conversation as an interrogative section whereby a guy will lead the conversation as a FBI agent and she sit down there replying as a suspect.


I met a lady towards ending December last year mehn she's muah when it comes to convo (it was during our conversation I came to know she's a graduate) though she has the general mentality of girls "if u didn't strike a convo they wont either."

In conclusion girls won't lead a convo until u do which is not suppose to be....

Oga go and hustle. When you have like a house, a flourishing business and one small car, the girls will be the one trying to strike up a conversation.

If you already have a girl, she will be texting you every minute to keep you busy, so another chick won't take you from her.

She's your gf doesnt mean others guys are shooting their shoot. Go to her inbox and confirm. As she dey reply you with K, Nah so she dey sex chat with another guy..

Inside life!

kecee99:
Women are human beings like you not an object

..ok, u saying u dont have moiney yo pay for women? ...so u can't pay gorvpunnnnt?
.are they not human been? Bro I don't meaaanto be rude but u sound confuse. U don't like women & I really really really really hope u ain't gay sir!!

Well i don't know where you're driving at but as long as i have sex i don't really care. The rest of the productive discussions are for me with myself like just this afternoon i was taking a siesta and sleeptalking paypal paypal. Pls leave Nigerian young women.

Ardar:
Most Nigerian men I chat with always ask me the same boring dumb questions like,
" did you eat today"
"What did you eat this afternoon"
"How was your night"
"I hope you dreamt good dreams"

The annoying thing is not the questions itself but the number of times am been asked the same thing by one person.

Now, you don't see women opening threads and whining about Nigerian Men because of this.

If they/men ask this boring questions what will it take away from you if you answer them? I don't see anything boring in asking how your night was.

aimuan:
If they/men ask this boring questions what will it take away from you if you answer them? I don't see anything boring in asking how your night was.

And there's nothing boring in answering "k"

Ardar:
Most Nigerian men I chat with always ask me the same boring dumb questions like,
" did you eat today"
"What did you eat this afternoon"
"How was your night"
"I hope you dreamt good dreams"

The annoying thing is not the questions itself but the number of times am been asked the same thing by one person.

Now, you don't see women opening threads and whining about Nigerian Men because of this.

Hahahahahahahahahaha

Oh God abeg o!

My belle o!

Kikikikikikikikik!

Chai!

Lol

As in ehn? I cant just stop laughing cos i know how annoying and exasperating it can be .
One wil have several male friends and they keep asking same questions everyday and night, through chats .


Chai!

All you need to do is to advertise that you buy all USA gift card and ones you see who have it DM me on my contact and tell me the kind of card you have i will tell you rate like you ask now rate for iTunes $100 and i said 25k you can call it 20k for card owner ones he give you card and i load successful boom you have your 5k in your account already very simple if you don't understand tell me i will teach you more

kollinzgee:
Am not here to bash women as it is always done here but I want to address an issue which is becoming a problem amongst our women.
In the past I used to believe when you are chatting with a girl and she replies you with monosyllables like k,lol,hmm, and the rest it means she isn't into you just let her be but now i am even more confused than ever because even all my girlfriends who i am sure loves me even do the same and the I was forced to ask them why but I never got a straight logical answer..i keep hearing things like I am the boring one I adhered to this advice I improved my chatting skills yet I still got the same result I laughed..when a girl replies with the k or lol I just burst into laughter.

If you are a Nigerian lady reading this writeup and your communicating this way then you are literally shooting yourself in the leg..if you are in a relationship and you do this your are sitting on a time bomb even if your boyfriend is not complaining just wait and see.if you think it's a mind Game you are playing it will not benefit you because there are many women available this days .
I have broken up with many girls in the past I never told them it was because of this because to me when the communication is poor I loose interest gradually.
A man is first attracted to a woman's looks but this attraction will fade away with time.It is now her personality traits that will keep the relationship going.if good communication skills are not including in those traits the men will subconsciously assume you have nothing to offer and move on.
change or prepare for the worst.

Sheh I brought this issue up on one of my post and it seems as if I don't know what talking.. now someone else have brought it up again. Some ppl where saying.. talking to women is art u have to master. I most say our girls are becomin more annoying. Here's my post to reflect on
https://www.nairaland.com/5624435/bad-habit-must-stop

If you’re opportuned to date outside Nigeria, you no go wan waste ur love on any Naija girl.