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Some ladies really do not know how to balance being a wife and mother. It’s sad

Bro, try get one smally outside to dey take calm nerves

Vortex369:
Well, your last line was a question: What I think?

Are you sure you really want to know what I think?

Since you asked for it, then I have to tell you what I think and the reason for my conclusions.

I think you are stupid, and I am not joking. I think you are one of the stupid husbands who have no idea what Fatherhood means and what being a real man in your home entails and how to be a husband to your own wife.

The reason I think you are stupid, is because at this stage in your Life, when your wife is strugggling real hard to bond with the young kids you still are worried about your silly sex life.

You have failed to be an alpha male, a real man, a true husband, who will cuddle his wife and his children and generate happiness for your wife. What bothers you is sex. Do you have any idea that it is sex that brought those children to this world, and when they come, you now sound as if those kids are inconvenience for your silly sex life. Do you even know how silly it sounds?

My advise is that you grow up. Call your wife and kiss her then apologize for complaining about Sex, and move into your bedroom and nurse those children to reach an age of grace.

It is not you that should be complaining of sex dimwit. If your wife needs sex, then become creative, you can make move in the kitchen, bathroom, toilet, under the bed and even at the BQ for a change.

You must not come here and lament about this nonsense again.

Do we not have real men again in this forum that will chastise these Indomie men?

Take charge of your home and bear all inconveniences. Life is not a place for perfect joy and happiness. Embrace the sorrows and pains.

You are the STUPID person here, not the OP. The man loves his wife, that is why he is complaining. Sex is over available these days. If sex is his problem, he can get it outside, with girls that will even give him much better sex than his wife, for cheap too.
The wife is more stupid than you because her dead brain does not know that she is pushing the man outside.

pseudonomer:
If I call you cow now... you’ll be angry....

Smh

Vortex369:
Well, your last line was a question: What I think?

Are you sure you really want to know what I think?

Since you asked for it, then I have to tell you what I think and the reason for my conclusions.

I think you are stupid, and I am not joking. I think you are one of the stupid husbands who have no idea what Fatherhood means and what being a real man in your home entails and how to be a husband to your own wife.

The reason I think you are stupid, is because at this stage in your Life, when your wife is strugggling real hard to bond with the young kids you still are worried about your silly sex life.

You have failed to be an alpha male, a real man, a true husband, who will cuddle his wife and his children and generate happiness for your wife. What bothers you is sex. Do you have any idea that it is sex that brought those children to this world, and when they come, you now sound as if those kids are inconvenience for your silly sex life. Do you even know how silly it sounds?

My advise is that you grow up. Call your wife and kiss her then apologize for complaining about Sex, and move into your bedroom and nurse those children to reach an age of grace.

It is not you that should be complaining of sex dimwit. If your wife needs sex, then become creative, you can make move in the kitchen, bathroom, toilet, under the bed and even at the BQ for a change.

You must not come here and lament about this nonsense again.

Do we not have real men again in this forum that will chastise these Indomie men?

Take charge of your home and bear all inconveniences. Life is not a place for perfect joy and happiness. Embrace the sorrows and pains.

Madam shut up, u are talking trash

Prosper82:
I Feel Like My Marriage Is Falling Apart

I would like in advance to apologize for the long post but I think some background information is needed so you can assess the situation.

My wife and I have two kids. The oldest is turning 8 soon and the youngest is 7 months old.

Since our first child was born she has been co-sleeping with us. And ever since our sex life has been going down hill.

Now since our youngest child was born he has also been sleeping with us in a queen sized bed. But after two months of very poor sleep, I decided I couldn't follow that arrangement anymore so I went to sleep in the next room.

So since our kids were born my wife has been sleeping with them and now I sleep alone.

As you could imagine, you can't really have sex with two kids on the bed. We have gone weeks and even months without having any sex.
So my wife says that we should have sex in the room where I sleep after she puts the children to sleep.

This to me sounds like making an appointment to have sex. It isn't something you can have if you have to set up a time in advanced. I also miss cuddling with her and sleeping in our bed.


I feel like us sleeping in different rooms and beds has been the biggest hurdle to get back to the point we were before having kids.

We have a crib for the baby and a bed for our oldest daughter where each of the children could sleep separately but she's into attachment parenting so if the children cry (which I suppose they will when adapting to a new sleeping arrangement) is something that she wouldn't tolerate.

I also I understand the 7 month old might need to be breastfed in the middle of the night so she says it's more convenient just to have him nearby in bed than having to get up to breastfeed him but I feel that my daughter should be learning to sleep independently.

Anyway, it's been quite a while without sex and I don't know what to tell her or do.
We have a lot of fights because of this.

I feel that attachment parenting might feel like you're doing the best for the kids, but if it also ends up destroying the marriage and we separate what good would that do for them?

What do you guys think?

What are you saying sef

@Op I know exactly how you feel, It’s not wrong to feel the way you feel. Matter of fact, I am on the same stage with you but here is how I handle it..

I don’t wait until the kid sleeps off before I make sexual moves, matter of fact, as soon as I am done with work, I don rush go house before the whole evening motherhood stress sets in, I do some magic and boom, I get me some love.. it doesn’t work all the time though but it works 70%


Don’t be a night sexual active man, matter of fact, since you have a 7 month old, forget about it.

Nothing is wrong with your marriage, just add some spice to your approach and ofcause your timing matters.

Ps: 8 year old shouldn’t be sleeping in your room though. That’s a lot!

Vortex369:
Well, your last line was a question: What I think?

Are you sure you really want to know what I think?

Since you asked for it, then I have to tell you what I think and the reason for my conclusions.

I think you are stupid, and I am not joking. I think you are one of the stupid husbands who have no idea what Fatherhood means and what being a real man in your home entails and how to be a husband to your own wife.

The reason I think you are stupid, is because at this stage in your Life, when your wife is strugggling real hard to bond with the young kids you still are worried about your silly sex life.

You have failed to be an alpha male, a real man, a true husband, who will cuddle his wife and his children and generate happiness for your wife. What bothers you is sex. Do you have any idea that it is sex that brought those children to this world, and when they come, you now sound as if those kids are inconvenience for your silly sex life. Do you even know how silly it sounds?

My advise is that you grow up. Call your wife and kiss her then apologize for complaining about Sex, and move into your bedroom and nurse those children to reach an age of grace.

It is not you that should be complaining of sex dimwit. If your wife needs sex, then become creative, you can make move in the kitchen, bathroom, toilet, under the bed and even at the BQ for a change.

You must not come here and lament about this nonsense again.

Do we not have real men again in this forum that will chastise these Indomie men?

Take charge of your home and bear all inconveniences. Life is not a place for perfect joy and happiness. Embrace the sorrows and pains.

I agree, as you conjure this epistle, op makes it sound as if he's having emotional battle with is kids, grow up bobo sex is nothing to be compared to seeing your kids grow together in love and harmony ..

I call tell you, you need alot of self education and improvement in within this jurisdiction, get books and get lost in it, rather than craving for some pleasures. we don't condemn sex with your spouse either, be creative with it ..

Winneygirl:
How long does this attachment parenting last for?
I don't subscribe to it.
Your kids will be too attached and dependent on the parent. Their personalities are forming now.
Your 8 year old is not too far from secondary school o.

God bless u.

Why on earth should an 8yr old still be sleeping with his parents every night?

Which parent does that?

As far back as my memory goes, that's wen i was about 4yrs old, my elder brother and i shared a room. I have no recollection of sharing a bed with my parents.

Sex!!

Sex!!!!

Everytime

Oga what you're feeling is normal. However there are better ways to handle it. Let the older girl sleep on her bed in her room, while the baby sleeps on his crib in your room as such free your bed for you and your wife. Babies shouldn't come in between you and your wife. However if she prefers to make them sleep then come be with you, fine dont see it as sex by appointment. you should understand that in marriage, nothing is cast on concrete. Negotiation and adjustments are required sometimes. It's not about what you like or is used to but what can be done under a circumstance. Just have a cordial talk with your wife about this. It can be resolved.

234GT:
You are the STUPID person here, not the OP. The man loves his wife, that is why he is complaining. Sex is over available these days. If sex is his problem, he can get it outside, with girls that will even give him much better sex than his wife, for cheap too.
The wife is more stupid than you because her dead brain does not know that she is pushing the man outside.

I'm not sure this guy above me is married !!

sex starved association's ..(SSA)

Greystone:
God bless u.

Why on earth should an 8yr old still be sleeping with his parents every night?

Which parent does that?

As far back as my memory goes, that's wen i was about 4yrs old, my elder brother and i shared a room. I have no recollection of sharing a bed with my parents.

Exactly! This is literally THE MOST ABSURD thing I have ever read on Nairaland!

Ladylite:
Your left over brain didn't tell you that child bearing affects the woman's hormones...

Monkey... Your selfishness is note worthy... So you should just have sex even if she is in the mood or not.

Pls sit in a grave

Jesus!!!!
Grave me...chai!!
Local woman is crying at the gate...
Why did I come to this life??

Since she said you should remain in the room where she is, you have to do as she has said.

Interesting topic to follow.

I've learnt alot already

Prosper82:
I Feel Like My Marriage Is Falling Apart

I would like in advance to apologize for the long post but I think some background information is needed so you can assess the situation.

My wife and I have two kids. The oldest is turning 8 soon and the youngest is 7 months old.

Since our first child was born she has been co-sleeping with us. And ever since our sex life has been going down hill.

Now since our youngest child was born he has also been sleeping with us in a queen sized bed. But after two months of very poor sleep, I decided I couldn't follow that arrangement anymore so I went to sleep in the next room.

So since our kids were born my wife has been sleeping with them and now I sleep alone.

As you could imagine, you can't really have sex with two kids on the bed. We have gone weeks and even months without having any sex.
So my wife says that we should have sex in the room where I sleep after she puts the children to sleep.

This to me sounds like making an appointment to have sex. It isn't something you can have if you have to set up a time in advanced. I also miss cuddling with her and sleeping in our bed.


I feel like us sleeping in different rooms and beds has been the biggest hurdle to get back to the point we were before having kids.

We have a crib for the baby and a bed for our oldest daughter where each of the children could sleep separately but she's into attachment parenting so if the children cry (which I suppose they will when adapting to a new sleeping arrangement) is something that she wouldn't tolerate.

I also I understand the 7 month old might need to be breastfed in the middle of the night so she says it's more convenient just to have him nearby in bed than having to get up to breastfeed him but I feel that my daughter should be learning to sleep independently.

Anyway, it's been quite a while without sex and I don't know what to tell her or do.
We have a lot of fights because of this.

I feel that attachment parenting might feel like you're doing the best for the kids, but if it also ends up destroying the marriage and we separate what good would that do for them?

What do you guys think?

You self u wan kill the woman, with 7months old baby habaaaaaaaaa brossssss

Get a Love Machine

Prosper82:
I Feel Like My Marriage Is Falling Apart

I would like in advance to apologize for the long post but I think some background information is needed so you can assess the situation.

My wife and I have two kids. The oldest is turning 8 soon and the youngest is 7 months old.

Since our first child was born she has been co-sleeping with us. And ever since our sex life has been going down hill.

Now since our youngest child was born he has also been sleeping with us in a queen sized bed. But after two months of very poor sleep, I decided I couldn't follow that arrangement anymore so I went to sleep in the next room.

So since our kids were born my wife has been sleeping with them and now I sleep alone.

As you could imagine, you can't really have sex with two kids on the bed. We have gone weeks and even months without having any sex.
So my wife says that we should have sex in the room where I sleep after she puts the children to sleep.

This to me sounds like making an appointment to have sex. It isn't something you can have if you have to set up a time in advanced. I also miss cuddling with her and sleeping in our bed.


I feel like us sleeping in different rooms and beds has been the biggest hurdle to get back to the point we were before having kids.

We have a crib for the baby and a bed for our oldest daughter where each of the children could sleep separately but she's into attachment parenting so if the children cry (which I suppose they will when adapting to a new sleeping arrangement) is something that she wouldn't tolerate.

I also I understand the 7 month old might need to be breastfed in the middle of the night so she says it's more convenient just to have him nearby in bed than having to get up to breastfeed him but I feel that my daughter should be learning to sleep independently.

Anyway, it's been quite a while without sex and I don't know what to tell her or do.
We have a lot of fights because of this.

I feel that attachment parenting might feel like you're doing the best for the kids, but if it also ends up destroying the marriage and we separate what good would that do for them?

What do you guys think?

The truth here is that the libido of every human beings is different. It is a natural trait in everyone. You should have noticed that during your courtship. It is one of the way compatibility come in. If u have high sex libido marry someone that share the same or almost the same trait.


Anyone that understands zodiac signs would know better.

Vortex369:
Well, your last line was a question: What I think?

Are you sure you really want to know what I think?

Since you asked for it, then I have to tell you what I think and the reason for my conclusions.

I think you are stupid, and I am not joking. I think you are one of the stupid husbands who have no idea what Fatherhood means and what being a real man in your home entails and how to be a husband to your own wife.

The reason I think you are stupid, is because at this stage in your Life, when your wife is strugggling real hard to bond with the young kids you still are worried about your silly sex life.

You have failed to be an alpha male, a real man, a true husband, who will cuddle his wife and his children and generate happiness for your wife. What bothers you is sex. Do you have any idea that it is sex that brought those children to this world, and when they come, you now sound as if those kids are inconvenience for your silly sex life. Do you even know how silly it sounds?

My advise is that you grow up. Call your wife and kiss her then apologize for complaining about Sex, and move into your bedroom and nurse those children to reach an age of grace.

It is not you that should be complaining of sex dimwit. If your wife needs sex, then become creative, you can make move in the kitchen, bathroom, toilet, under the bed and even at the BQ for a change.

You must not come here and lament about this nonsense again.

Do we not have real men again in this forum that will chastise these Indomie men?

Take charge of your home and bear all inconveniences. Life is not a place for perfect joy and happiness. Embrace the sorrows and pains.

Stupid insensitive bit¢th is wat u are. U don't think u could have made ur point without insulting n cyber bullying him. Its not ur fault cos this is a faceless forum...

Get a Dildoooo

[quote author=Vortex369 post=86045981]Well, your last line was a question: What I think?

Are you sure you really want to know what I think?

Since you asked for it, then I have to tell you what I think and the reason for my conclusions.

I think you are stupid, and I am not joking. I think you are one of the stupid husbands who have no idea what Fatherhood means and what being a real man in your home entails and how to be a husband to your own wife.

The reason I think you are stupid, is because at this stage in your Life, when your wife is strugggling real hard to bond with the young kids you still are worried about your silly sex life.

You have failed to be an alpha male, a real man, a true husband, who will cuddle his wife and his children and generate happiness for your wife. What bothers you is sex. Do you have any idea that it is sex that brought those children to this world, and when they come, you now sound as if those kids are inconvenience for your silly sex life. Do you even know how silly it sounds?

My advise is that you grow up. Call your wife and kiss her then apologize for complaining about Sex, and move into your bedroom and nurse those children to reach an age of grace.

It is not you that should be complaining of sex dimwit. If your wife needs sex, then become creative, you can make move in the kitchen, bathroom, toilet, under the bed and even at the BQ for a change.

You must not come here and lament about this nonsense again.

Do we not have real men again in this forum that will chastise these Indomie men?

Take charge of your home and bear all inconveniences. Life is not a place for perfect joy and happiness. Embrace the sorrows and pains.

God bless you. This guy is very stupid, I think he married because of sex not love. People like this always run away from their responsibility.

Prosper82:
I Feel Like My Marriage Is Falling Apart

I would like in advance to apologize for the long post but I think some background information is needed so you can assess the situation.

My wife and I have two kids. The oldest is turning 8 soon and the youngest is 7 months old.

Since our first child was born she has been co-sleeping with us. And ever since our sex life has been going down hill.

Now since our youngest child was born he has also been sleeping with us in a queen sized bed. But after two months of very poor sleep, I decided I couldn't follow that arrangement anymore so I went to sleep in the next room.

So since our kids were born my wife has been sleeping with them and now I sleep alone.

As you could imagine, you can't really have sex with two kids on the bed. We have gone weeks and even months without having any sex.
So my wife says that we should have sex in the room where I sleep after she puts the children to sleep.

This to me sounds like making an appointment to have sex. It isn't something you can have if you have to set up a time in advanced. I also miss cuddling with her and sleeping in our bed.


I feel like us sleeping in different rooms and beds has been the biggest hurdle to get back to the point we were before having kids.

We have a crib for the baby and a bed for our oldest daughter where each of the children could sleep separately but she's into attachment parenting so if the children cry (which I suppose they will when adapting to a new sleeping arrangement) is something that she wouldn't tolerate.

I also I understand the 7 month old might need to be breastfed in the middle of the night so she says it's more convenient just to have him nearby in bed than having to get up to breastfeed him but I feel that my daughter should be learning to sleep independently.

Anyway, it's been quite a while without sex and I don't know what to tell her or do.
We have a lot of fights because of this.

I feel that attachment parenting might feel like you're doing the best for the kids, but if it also ends up destroying the marriage and we separate what good would that do for them?

What do you guys think?

MY FRIEND BEHAVE AND BE DISCIPLINED TOO. U ARE NOT ALONE GOING THRO THIS.GIVE IN TO HER DESIGN FOR GOOD. TALK WITH HER MORE TO RESOLVE SAME.ITS UR HOME, THERE IS NOTHING IN IT TO DESTROY UR MARRIAGE, BEHAVE AND BE DISCIPLINED. NO EXCUSES FOR RASCALITY.IT CAN BE SOLVED WITH OUT MUCH ADO... DON'T BE CHILDISH.

OP: when the 8-year old is at school, come home and bang your wife while the 7month old is napping. Weekend nko?
Also what is wrong with the "appointment" method, after the kids have gone to bed at night? You can still cuddle with her for a while, at least until one of the children cries and she needs to go back to the other room.

Personally, I see this as a non issue. I'm married with kids.

bukatyne:
You have no inkling about what marriage is.

By the time the husband grows cold and gets used to surviving the marriage emotionally without her, I hope she marries those kids.

If she not behaving like Alpha & Omega over those kids, she would actually get her husband to be more participatory if it is an issue.

100 gbosa for you! I am more worried about the number of people who agree with her though.

Marriage is first and foremost between the man and the woman, everybody else, including the children that come before/ afterwards are secondary. Emotional detachment is perhaps the biggest risk in marriages, particularly in young marriages, because once a partner figures out they can survive independently without the other because they are unavailable, it would be difficult or nearly impossible to realign.

If your relationship (emotional, sexual, physical, etc) with your partner is not healthy, you will struggle to provide the love and care the family needs to succeed long term. The next post we will be reading from the OP is quite predictable, your guess is as good as mine!

My advice will be to be very clear about how he feels and how the current situation is leaving him detached and unhappy. Also, it is time make tough decisions. It is time for the kids to move to their own room, I don't care if the baby needs to be breastfed, they can support each other to ensure that happens. Furthermore, having kids sleep with parents for a long time is very dangerous to the development of the child as those children tend to be overtly dependent and unable to socialize which is an integral aspect of child development.

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Davash222:
After the day's toil, a married man needs the wife's cuddle and touches at night. It's essential in every young marriage. Coming back home at night to behold your sexy wife alone with lingerie at your wide bed gives joy and also elongates life's span. Wives should stop depriving their husbands this privilege.
One of the reasons for having children bedrooms is to create provisions for these things.


OP, I understand how you feel. Imagine a 7 month old baby dragging your breast with you.. Breast that you paid for. I know you dont have access to that breast again. Nawao

Jesus Christ. Breast you paid for? You see why Nigerian men are trash? You see why they are entitled, unromantic animals with over inflated egos? You see why 'bride price' is a barbaric practice? Dude, you're an uneducated person.

I wonder what kind of advice is this. We are talking about a major issue here and then you’re talking about buying gift and treating the wife right. This is ridiculous to say the least

Hmmmm.Bros,your wife did not and is not even denying you sex! Since there is an extra room why not have the whole fun there? Just be thankful she didn't deny you for life. After having the kids they want, the woman concentrates on her kids and shuts that place.you beta dey meet her for the Oza room o make konji no kee you

Your wife’s simply not into you anymore bro, the love and attachment is dead, what about those living in a way smaller apartment with kids and still do it even while the kids are sleeping, for example people living in face me I slap you with many kids inside,She’s just giving you an excuse. My advise just tell her you going to get someone else to satisfy you but if she doesn’t show any seriousness in what you said then her love for you is dead, she’s just using the kids for cover up. 7 months too damm long.

Must you have sex? hold yourself na

If only you niggas will stop acting like big babies and stop posting every trivial thing here for nonsense attention. What exactly do you hope to hear from here? Encouragement to cheat? To divorce? Or are you hoping to get someone to volunteer to care for your children for you?? You're sex starved, the f..uck should we do? Goat.