I am dissapointed in you, didn't you read the part where she is epileptic.

TonyeBarcanista:
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You are not a man for allowing emotional blackmail manipulate you.

Yes, she owes you explanation who the guy IS! From your narrative I suspect foul play in the part of the girl!

NB: She will be laughing at you wherever she is now

Logan95:
My people, Something really terrible just occurred now.

I have dated my girlfriend for about 6 months, she is the most open individual I've ever met... She has told me most of her secrets. She is a very beautiful and intelligent girl and what really made us thick is that I was there when she had seizures in the past.

To the issue, She answered a call today and I felt suspicious and I decided to confront her immediately, but as she was trying to explain, I cut in and acted with mistrust and accusations that I suspect cheating. This was a major catalyst and it triggered her seizure. I started apologizing immediately to calm her down, she passed out for some minutes after she tried to use her clothes to suffocate herself.

She woke up irritated and I asked her to explain what is happening in her social world. She said it was really nothing and that she feels I don't trust her that's why she reduced telling me personal stuff. That there is no connection between her and the guy.

She said she has forgiven me but she has to leave my house that moment. I asked that I drop her but she refused and packed her belongings that has been here. She later accepted that I'd drop her because I could not stand the shame of her going alone but my car battery decided to die and she eventually entered bike home.

She left by saying she needs space but I feel I've lost her because I'll be once guilty of inducing her seuzures.

Ladies and gentlemen, red pillers, kindly advice me on how to handle this issue.

N:B kindly put into consideration that she is really emotional and her peculiar challenge.

Thank God she didn't die in your home. By now you would have been saluting kodo or pushing imaginary drawn car on the prison walls.

Its very risky to cohabit with someone who has health challenges especially when you are not yet married.

If she had died, are you aware that you could be accused of murder?

Yes!

Don't use your life to play kalo unless its not important to you. Na your people I dey pity sha.

keryj:
I'm still surprised at how people go about bringing their private life to the public for advice or judgment.

Now that most of them have end up twisting your mind on her honesty, i do hope you are happy, comfortable and at peace now.

Only you know your girl perfectly well, stop passing her to others who knows nothing about her for judgment.

Seriously most of the comments up there are so shocking.

There's no evidence to say she's cheating, from your write up. I think you should have allowed her to complete her explanation.There are still honest girls around eventhough they're not many. In the end, whatever is said here may not count much because you're the only one who truly knows her, we don't.

Ariza:
Hmmmmm You are a man, the Real Man. You know when I opened the thread and read some comments my heark was broken and moved to tears, then I asked "are these posts really made by humans?" I couldn't imagine the level of cruelty displayed by some mentally disturbed individuals who were so daft enough to assume she faked her siezures.Does red pills take people's reasonings too? . At some point I intended to advice/suggest you let the poor lady be and face your fellow Alfa idi.ots holding their stupid meetings on this thread. But seeing your response to the sensible comments here I believe there's hope.


Sir, your girl is going through a lot right now. The best you can give to her is peace of mind. Go to her, apologize and convince her that you made a mistake. Tell her you are sorry for not giving her a chance to explain herself but don't apologise for suspecting her wrongly ( she might think you are doing this out of pity i.e her condition) Let her know what you passed through with your ex, and your fear of it happening again. In fact tell her how scared you are to pass through it again or you losing her. This will restore some esteem that she's important to someone.

If she insist on space, don't feel bad about it.Some things need time to build back but let her realize that it's her decision and not yours. The future of the relationship depends on her. Let her decide. But please Brother, if you ever overcome this situation, never accuse your woman just because you want to put her on her toes. It's very wrong to emotionally instigate people for no reason. Very callous thing to do to a fellow human. Very callous!

That there is no connection between her and the guy.

I ask you: what if there is a connection between her and the guy? Doesn't this seem to you like Op will be left dry by the girl at the end of the day. Based on that simple statement from her, she's with the Op for now until someone who has connection with her surfaces. May be the person is already there. Who knows?

mrZENographer:


Logan95 this is true.

Also she can instantly get heal when she attend The Lord's Chosen Program. We are having a crusade 8th and 9th titled, "From Sorrow to Joy". People like her are desired in this program for God to demonstrate his power.

Venue: Odofin Park Estate by Ijesha Bustop

I agree with, CBD oil, it has proven effective for a some types of seizure disorders.


But that Lord's chosen program is a scam. That their church has a lot of patients in YABA LEFT hearing the voice of God upandan.

Don't be fooled, when a girl tells you there's no connection with a mystery man, there almost always is.

A true love will not just leave because you don't trust her, she'll stay and give you a thousand reasons to trust her.

Don't fall for emotional blackmail. Any girl who prioritizes her emotions over the strength of the relationship is a self-centered biitch you don't need to be with.

It's a big ocean out there with lots of fish....get yourself some bait and tackle and go fishing.

Logan95:


She's taking carzepin and it's managed

It's carbamazepine Sir

Bola146:


Exactly.. Also there is nothing like. " honest man" especially in Nigeria. Use your brain

Dumb Bole, bruised much?

Rubbish.

I pity u.


You want to put up with seizure and also a cheat



Let me tell you the only reason u shld even believe 20% in the bullcraaap she told u.

She will hand over the phone and u read their chat and u must be sure she does not clear the chats regularly.


Anything short of that, I pity u once again.

franchasng:
You need to focus on making more money so that you can replace your car battery which to me is the most important thing here.....forget about the girl...when its time to settle down, if you are a wise guy with open eyes, trust me, you will definitely find a perfect lady to marry, unless you are one of those dull, non-street wise Nigerian guys who dignify mannerless ladies with a ring

You see are crazy...
But you've said nothing but the truth

Mymynd4u:

In Jesus name, Receive the spirit of punctuation marks in your life

Oya say Amen

Lol back to sender

funmisticqueen2:
I agree with, CBD oil, it has proven effective for a some types of seizure disorders.


But that Lord's chosen program is a scam. That their church has a lot of patients in YABA LEFT hearing the voice of God upandan.

Op incase you decide to attend the crusade Abeg I get imported chosen mopol apron for sale @ subsidized rate

Na inside life we dey, cool down and embrace life. Move on and be wise.

FrLukas:


Ok. But you should stop stressing that babe.

The likelihood that she'll cheat on you is low.

A girl with epilepsy ordinarily wouldn't want her situation public knowledge, so hopping from bed to bed is not likely.

Seek her out and have a heart to heart with her.

Let her know your insecurities as per infidelity.

She sounds like a good woman.

Try and make it work...and rest your suspicions in the grave of trust.

you've spoken well.

maasoap:


Bitter truth, hard facts. People are posting based on the real life experience.

THIER OWN experiences not yours or others
So why should someone hate their lover because yours cheated?!

@op follow the advices of the few sensible people here and save your relationship.

Davash222:
There’s nothing like a ‘Honest Girl’, especially in Nigeria.
She’s just manipulating you emotionally. Don’t fall for all these blackmails from Nigerian girls.

Imagine, she said she has forgiven you?? For what??
Obviously, you’re too immature to be in a relationship with a Nigerian girl.

lol dude you worse pass me

Biko give this guy one bottle of champagne... Add it to my bill.

The submission from guys on the first page has addressed this issue. Emotional tactics are common with Nigerian ladies the moment they have seen a better ship to sail on.

Expedite your mind into business engagement rather than suffocating yourself on a cheat.

Sarang:


THIER OWN experiences not yours or others
So why should someone hate their lover because yours cheated?!

@op follow the advices of the few sensible people here and save your relationship.

Yes op follow the SENSIBLE advice and save your relationship then @ the end you become a dullard even worst than the dullard we currently have in Abuja.

AfroKnight:


Everything you have just written does not tell you if she’s faithful or not. Isn‘t that the bone of contention?

Her condition does not take away your privilege to expect honesty from her. There are many diversionary tactics to employ when in a tight corner and guilt tripping, using one’s health condition as an excuse, is not far down that list.

I don't know what to say........
But God bless you

Bola146:


Exactly.. Also there is nothing like. " honest man" especially in Nigeria. Use your brain

"Most" ought to be in his sentence to make it real. Not all Nigerian girls are dishonest but MOST ARE WHENEVER THE OPPORTUNITY ARISE.

thunderfirebubu:
Let me share a story with you op. I dated a girl for like 8 months or so, this girl seemed a very honest girl bcus she lets me in on almost everything that goes on in her life, truth be told I wasn't really interested cus I didn't see the rship leading anywhere even tho she was a good girl. So there came dis guy she became friends with, the guy knows abt us. The guy na dis holy pass guys, he started drawing my girl close to God so she claimed. It came to a point we had issues and we decided to call it quit. After breaking up I found out that she had been sleeping with the said guy from day one. My point is not every one who appears honest is actually honest.

If your friend appears to put religion belief above commonsense reasoning, avoid him or her like a plague. Church thing is of the best tactics used by friends to cover up for their promiscuity.

Back to the op, I think people are unreasonably unfair with their comments to the op's girlfriend. We are talking about someone's life at stake, are we not humans first before all this boyfriend and girlfriend thing? Seizure is a deadly disease, I can't even stand seeing a stranger in that condition not to talk of loved one, without providing the help. If there is something you can do to help her recuperate her condition, kindly do it @op to save a life. She had even talked about her funeral, I think she figured out she needed a break from this relationship thing to avoid adding more stress to her health.

I really sympathize with your friend, @op

Davash222:
There’s nothing like a ‘Honest Girl’, especially in Nigeria.
She’s just manipulating you emotionally. Don’t fall for all these blackmails from Nigerian girls.

Imagine, she said she has forgiven you?? For what??
Obviously, you’re too immature to be in a relationship with a Nigerian girl.

was here

Nigerian girls...hahaha

Na u and ur brain get seizure not the girl. She's playing u

Davash222:
There’s nothing like a ‘Honest Girl’, especially in Nigeria.
She’s just manipulating you emotionally. Don’t fall for all these blackmails from Nigerian girls.

Imagine, she said she has forgiven you?? For what??
Obviously, you’re too immature to be in a relationship with a Nigerian girl.

Very Very True

A lot of brain dead comments on the first page.

op, u know what I discovered? bad boys rarely find good girl. those bad boys always think they are smart . always want to take advantage of girl and they met smarter ladies.
when all what they think is how to make love to her,
later they will come to Nl to cry.
dear op, if u are good , there are still good girls. probably ur bae is one of us .
u guys should talk things out
don't allow these badly oriented people mislead u.
they are bad so they cannot experience or find good girls
let them stop carry sex on their head about
if u look inward, no lady has nothing to offer.
but since all their life is sex and sucking breast, why won't they find people like them?

Wendybrown:





you've spoken well.

Thank you.

[quote author=Ariza post=86082515]Hmmmmm You are a man, the Real Man. You know when I opened the thread and read some comments my heark was broken and moved to tears, then I asked "are these posts really made by humans?" I couldn't imagine the level of cruelty displayed by some mentally disturbed individuals who were so daft enough to assume she faked her siezures.Does red pills take people's reasonings too? . At some point I intended to advice/suggest you let the poor lady be and face your fellow Alfa idi.ots holding their stupid meetings on this thread. But seeing your response to the sensible comments here I believe there's hope.


Sir, your girl is going through a lot right now. The best you can give to her is peace of mind. Go to her, apologize and convince her that you made a mistake. Tell her you are sorry for not giving her a chance to explain herself but don't apologise for suspecting her wrongly ( she might think you are doing this out of pity i.e her condition) Let her know what you passed through with your ex, and your fear of it happening again. In fact tell her how scared you are to pass through it again or you losing her. This will restore some esteem that she's important to someone.

If she insist on space, don't feel bad about it.Some things need time to build back but let her realize that it's her decision and not yours. The future of the relationship depends on her. Let her decide. But please Brother, if you ever overcome this situation, never accuse your woman just because you want to put her on her toes. It's very wrong to emotionally instigate people for no reason. Very callous thing to do to a fellow human. Very callous!

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Guy u sounded sissy
Those guys that commented talked from experiences, I once dated a girl like that her health challenge was shivering like somebody who is sickle cell patient, she had special drugs for her ailment, when I met her she was accommodating , homely , jovial, good adviser , and very honest ,she didn't hide anything from me ,she used to tell me everything that came her way including toasters , she used to be with me every time she was off work , that made me fell in love with her and believed God has sent an angel to me as a live partner , she was in school at that time, out of the little amount I was earning I paid her school fees ,got her phone and made sure she was comfortable, she loved chatting with men a lot sometimes I would confront her ,she made me realized that all guys were just her friends and nothing more so I trusted her a lot, went extra mile to get anything she liked , she started withdrawing from coming to my house gradually, I didn't pay attention to it because I still trusted her, the rate at which she used to come started reducing drastically I drew her attention to it she claimed busy, at this time she had finished university, on this faithful day I called her to ask when she ll b coming the next thing she did was yelling at me that y am I always interested in her coming to my house? this looked strange to me and I was confused I called the following day she picked the call and banged it on me that was how things fell apart . When we were together she used to make a move for me to torch her but I did reject it stylishly because I believed I ll do more of it when we get married a church girl o for that matter , she she left I regretted not smashing that thing badly lolzz
Note: I don't know much about ur girl she might b genuine in what she did or pretended ,as a man never TRUST any woman .
*Never fall in love with woman but be friendly.
*Never believe that irrespective of her level of trustworthiness she can't change.
*Always learn how to handle ur emotions or else u ll b easily blackmailed emotionally by pretence and lies.
*Don't spend what u can't loose on any woman .
*Believe that for one Vashti there are ten Esthers so dont loose ur self esteem on Vashti ,be bold and always act like a man.
If u can't follow all of the above but just one out of it you ll b alright even she disappoints u . If u fail to follow any one of it hypertension, suicide, sniper or graveyard is very close to u.

Logan95:


My brother, the truth is that the call was just a friendly call...how was your night ish. Truth is that she's gorgeous and she has tons of admirers but she's with me most times. If anything it should be emotional cheating but I did this in order to put her on her toes, the outcome was unfortunate. In her defense she wanted to explain instantly but I cut her off and told her she is exhibiting cheating tendencies. She froze and her legs started shaking.....

She just came to my house now because she forgot her charger. She was looking unkempt and a shadow of herself, She refused to seat, I just escorted her but I told her that my apology is not working but she should talk to me normally without the moody face. I paid for a cab for her then she left.... We'll see what the future holds.

na this post show the extent of your mumu and pussification

A male calling your girl about how her night was is a friendly call?

You allow cobwebs all along and you're now fretting over spiders.

You didn't lose anything because she is not yours. How can u lose what is not yours? Carry yourself n rent another space b4 d real owner comes