Bola146:


Exactly.. Also there is nothing like. " honest man" especially in Nigeria. Use your brain

Don't mind him joor, there are still honest girls like you around.

Naturally, the fallen human nature is very selfish. For a human being to genuinely love another human being, he or she must first have genuinely loved and submitted to the our Creator and HIS rules first. This is why only genuinely bornagain Christians enjoy marital life the most. Stop wasting your precious time/life trying to find love without first submitting the control of your heart to Holy Spirit that sees into all hearts. Surrender your life to JESUS today, you can never find true Love/Spouse outside HIM.

Nothing last forever...No strings attached is always the best.


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Logan95:


Thanks man.
Her seizures is triggered by stress, emotions and fear. It's sometimes worse during her period. It happens often and it's usually mild like leg and hand shaking and total disconnection from the real world for like 2 to 5 mins.

The major seizures happen like once in 4 to 6 months, she loses consciousness totally and it's an emergency she's usually hospitalized but this happens when she misses her medication. She has depression tendencies so I always praise and flatter her because the condition makes her avoid people and she loses her self esteem.

I'm happy you understand seizures, the guys up there that suggests she's faking it.... It's ridiculous. With her she never fakes it and she crys anytime she regains consciousness.

I'm usually send less with girls but my girls own is very delicate.

If she developed it before the age of 12, chances of her outgrowing it are very high. I had a classmate who suffered from epilepsy as well. He's been seizure free for 2 years now. Medications should be taking regularly, at least to reduce the epilepsy seizures. You also need to give her a peace of mind since the seizures are triggered by stress and emotions.

If an argument occurs, which is totally normal try and discuss it calmly. You do not have to react immediately, you can talk things out later when everyone is calm.

As for her depression, I think knowing she's not the only one going through this might help. I'm sure there are a lot of communities she can join online.

AfroKnight:


Everything you have just written does not tell you if she’s faithful or not. Isn‘t that the bone of contention?

Her condition does not take away your privilege to expect honesty from her. There are many diversionary tactics to employ when in a tight corner and guilt tripping, using one’s health condition as an excuse, is not far down that list.

Your ignorance is astounding

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Toluwashe778:
op, u know what I discovered? bad boys rarely find good girl. those bad boys always think they are smart . always want to take advantage of girl and they met smarter ladies.
when all what they think is how to make love to her,
later they will come to Nl to cry.
dear op, if u are good , there are still good girls. probably ur bae is one of us .
u guys should talk things out
don't allow these badly oriented people mislead u.
they are bad so they cannot experience or find good girls
let them stop carry sex on their head about
if u look inward, no lady has nothing to offer.
but since all their life is sex and sucking breast, why won't they find people like them?

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Another trash from an emotional blackmailer

frozen70:


So the seizure was faked ❓

You are a Thomas

Can you state truthfully that you have never ever fake cried, or exaggerated an illness or pretended some emotional breakdown just to manipulate a male member of your family or bf into doing something you want? If yes, then you must be an extreme outlier from the norm. Women do this routinely. It is their version of a child's tantrum. They jnow most men get scared at the sight of a woman crying or fainting.

Davash222:
There’s nothing like a ‘Honest Girl’, especially in Nigeria.
She’s just manipulating you emotionally. Don’t fall for all these blackmails from Nigerian girls.

Imagine, she said she has forgiven you?? For what??
Obviously, you’re too immature to be in a relationship with a Nigerian girl.

Nope. I disagree.
Time will reveal if this girl the op is talking about is dishonest.
Let the op go & apologise.
The op has no concrete evidence against her.
Most girls in Nigeria today are bad. Blame the hardship & bad parenting. But the op hasn't given himself a good case here

Davash222:
There’s nothing like a ‘Honest Girl’, especially in Nigeria.
She’s just manipulating you emotionally. Don’t fall for all these blackmails from Nigerian girls.

Imagine, she said she has forgiven you?? For what??
Obviously, you’re too immature to be in a relationship with a Nigerian girl.

This mentality never fetches anything good.
What you desire, you might never get because you don't even believe you CAN have it.

That the most you have seen have broken trust or made you wary DOES NOT MEAN THAT THAT LESSER PERCENTAGE YOU HAVE BEEN LONGING/PRAYING FOR DOESN'T EXIST.

Your 'I already know who you are' and 'You're no different from them' is a GUARANTEE it will elude you.

OkikiOluwa1:
Nope. I disagree.
Time will reveal if this girl the op is talking about is dishonest.
Let the op go & apologise.
The op has no concrete evidence against her.
Most girls in Nigeria today are bad. Blame the hardship & bad parenting. But the op hasn't given himself a good case here

Op if you want to become a dullard (woman rapper) then take the advice above

AfroKnight:
She will come back. I hope you know you were right to not trust her. If you overlook certain signs you’d set yourself up for an unpleasant surprise.

Her condition does not preclude her willingness and ability to cheat when the opportunity appears. Babes are avid (but still amateur) manipulators.

If you still want her, you could go and put her mind at ease. Be cool but be vigilant. Don’t lose your guard.

Bros you have a very mature brain and way of reasoning I learnt a lot from you I need this kind of mentality

Davash222:
There’s nothing like a ‘Honest Girl’, especially in Nigeria.
She’s just manipulating you emotionally. Don’t fall for all these blackmails from Nigerian girls.

Imagine, she said she has forgiven you?? For what??
Obviously, you’re too immature to be in a relationship with a Nigerian girl.

Scorned bitter leaves of a man!

Tallesty1:
What in fvck's name did I just read?


A Nigerian girl in love is usually honest to a fault dude.

sucking your cap and opening her legs for you doesn't mean she's honest or can't cheat on you

Logan95:


My brother, the truth is that the call was just a friendly call...how was your night ish. Truth is that she's gorgeous and she has tons of admirers but she's with me most times. If anything it should be emotional cheating but I did this in order to put her on her toes, the outcome was unfortunate. In her defense she wanted to explain instantly but I cut her off and told her she is exhibiting cheating tendencies. She froze and her legs started shaking.....

She just came to my house now because she forgot her charger. She was looking unkempt and a shadow of herself, She refused to seat, I just escorted her but I told her that my apology is not working but she should talk to me normally without the moody face. I paid for a cab for her then she left.... We'll see what the future holds.

Guy, leave emotions for now, that can be sorted. Handle her seizures first, spiritually or medically.
Lost a Kenyan girl recently who had seizures and no one was there to help during the attack.
Show love by helping with her situation, otherwise you will end up a frustrated husband.

positivevibez:
[b]sucking your cap and opening her legs for you[/] doesn't mean she's honest or can't cheat on you

There's more to dating than the emboldened but you lots can't look beyond your nose.

Blind generations. By their actions they write the bible themselves.

" a good woman is hard to find"

Adakintroy2:
Blind generations. By their actions they write the bible themselves.

" a good woman is hard to find"

And that was even biblical times. These days it's impossible.

Just compare your grandmother's set with today's set to see how each successive generation is degenerating. I fear for our sons.

Davash222:
There’s nothing like a ‘Honest Girl’, especially in Nigeria.
She’s just manipulating you emotionally. Don’t fall for all these blackmails from Nigerian girls.

Imagine, she said she has forgiven you?? For what??
Obviously, you’re too immature to be in a relationship with a Nigerian girl.

And what in the world makes you think you are?....co ward!!!

]My people, Something really terrible just occurred now.

I have dated my girlfriend for about 6 months, she is the most open individual I've ever met... She has told me most of her secrets. She is a very beautiful and intelligent girl and what really made us thick is that I was there when she had seizures in the past.

To the issue, She answered a call today and I felt suspicious and I decided to confront her immediately, but as she was trying to explain, I cut in and acted with mistrust and accusations that I suspect cheating. This was a major catalyst and it triggered her seizure. I started apologizing immediately to calm her down, she passed out for some minutes after she tried to use her clothes to suffocate herself.

She woke up irritated and I asked her to explain what is happening in her social world. She said it was really nothing and that she feels I don't trust her that's why she reduced telling me personal stuff. That there is no connection between her and the guy.

She said she has forgiven me but she has to leave my house that moment. I asked that I drop her but she refused and packed her belongings that has been here. She later accepted that I'd drop her because I could not stand the shame of her going alone but my car battery decided to die and she eventually entered bike home.

She left by saying she needs space but I feel I've lost her because I'll be once guilty of inducing her seuzures.

Ladies and gentlemen, red pillers, kindly advice me on how to handle this issue.

N:B kindly put into consideration that she is really emotional and her peculiar challenge.

I so doubt that you really get the right words you yearn for here. You know your girl more than anybody in this forum so if I am you, I will follow my feelings and not emotions. I do wish you well with any action you wish to employ.

Logan95:


My brother, the truth is that the call was just a friendly call...how was your night ish. Truth is that she's gorgeous and she has tons of admirers but she's with me most times. If anything it should be emotional cheating but I did this in order to put her on her toes, the outcome was unfortunate. In her defense she wanted to explain instantly but I cut her off and told her she is exhibiting cheating tendencies. She froze and her legs started shaking.....

She just came to my house now because she forgot her charger. She was looking unkempt and a shadow of herself, She refused to seat, I just escorted her but I told her that my apology is not working but she should talk to me normally without the moody face. I paid for a cab for her then she left.... We'll see what the future holds.

It simply shows that she herself knows she has the tendencies ....her shock was that she's dint know u were gonna notice it too

Logan95:


My brother, the truth is that the call was just a friendly call...how was your night ish. Truth is that she's gorgeous and she has tons of admirers but she's with me most times. If anything it should be emotional cheating but I did this in order to put her on her toes, the outcome was unfortunate. In her defense she wanted to explain instantly but I cut her off and told her she is exhibiting cheating tendencies. She froze and her legs started shaking.....

She just came to my house now because she forgot her charger. She was looking unkempt and a shadow of herself, She refused to seat, I just escorted her but I told her that my apology is not working but she should talk to me normally without the moody face. I paid for a cab for her then she left.... We'll see what the future holds.

she got the seizure because she got caught

chigoizie7:
She is really scared.

All that happened wasn’t because of the trust issues.

She is only scared that you blew something that has no significance out of proportion.

In her mind, you are only finding a flimsy excuse to break up with her because you can not stay with her based on her conditions. I know that wasn’t what you were thinking.

But trust me, from the onset of that relationship, she already had it at the back of her mind that you will leave her , not because she is not a good person or beautiful enough to date , but because of her conditions, she already prepared her mind towards that and when you did what you did, she only saw it as an indicator.


Brother, if you really want to be with her, go and get her.

A friends younger brother was having same issues, but after a medical trip to India last year, it has stopped, this guys case is not responsive to drugs.

Then my younger sister too, she do have seizures too. But she is married with three kids, the husband knew about it but it never stopped him from marrying her, and she got married at 22. Once I am back, I am arranging for her to go to India and get it sorted out.


So bro, if you really love this girl, please go back and win her back.

Pls nwanne mmadu do you have the address of the hospital that cures epilepsy in India and the possible cost?
Really need to do something about my elder brother's own. I fear his life hangs in the balance cos of this. I also think that his being given to a lot of wine is a contributory factor. Although my research shows that alcohol has little or no effect on the trigger.

Logan95:


Very encouraging. I want to see her win regardless.

I can relate to the first paragraph because when we started she kept it away from me until it happened on night and I was sacred and almost rushing her to the hospital. She just took her drug and said it will stop.

I later became over careful with her and she hated it and said I should treat her like a normal human being, that I seem scared of being with her and many guys have left.

I will try to get her back because she appreciates my support when the communication was good.

You are a nice guy regardless.
Your type are rare in Africa mostly because we only love with condition. Pls seek her out no matter how she tries to shut you out and reassure her of your support. Trust me this incident would strengthen your relationship more if it didn't break it.

Never trust any man around your girl, not even her brother

AWFCNAIJA:
@logan95 CBD oil would do a lot to help her condition. Quite expensive but worth the money spent. You don't want to continue to seat on a time bomb... Not when you can still detonate it.

Help restore her self esteem.

Pls bro what's CBD oil and where can I get it?
I have a patient amongst my siblings

Bola146:


Exactly.. Also there is nothing like. " honest man" especially in Nigeria. Use your brain

That's fact, though this thread ain't a contest between 'man' and 'lady'

Davash222:
There’s nothing like a ‘Honest Girl’, especially in Nigeria.
She’s just manipulating you emotionally. Don’t fall for all these blackmails from Nigerian girls.

Imagine, she said she has forgiven you?? For what??
Obviously, you’re too immature to be in a relationship with a Nigerian girl.

Oga shot up
u de gam so so olosho no mean say all girls re same. there re 1000 and 1 hard working and loyal Nigeria girls out there. solve ur issue and don't affect others wit ur bad luck

Oga is like you are new in this game, all that her forming is cover up. no girl is honest and no man is honest. just behave as if nothing happens and try bring her back but don't beg her, if you do , she has gotten you well. just be diplomatic, but inside you , know who you are dating. girls these days, if you try to ask to know the wrong thing they are doing, they will pick offence and say is over while they are doing the wrong thing.
what i do now is follow every girl according to the format . if you say na pet, i go pet you like dog. if na to just dee look, i go just dee look but inside me i know who to marry when is time.

Tallesty1:
What in fvck's name did I just read?


A Nigerian girl in love is usually honest to a fault dude.

That's not true!

Let ANY girl see an opportunity to cheat if she will not surprise u

Send her best friend to go and tell her how miserable you have become.
SHE'LL CALL YOU IMMEDIATELY.

Nnamebuka:

Pls bro what's CBD oil and where can I get it?
I have a patient amongst my siblings

There are some sellers here on Nairaland. Search for them you would them.

franchasng:
You need to focus on making more money so that you can replace your car battery which to me is the most important thing here.....forget about the girl...when its time to settle down, if you are a wise guy with open eyes, trust me, you will definitely find a perfect lady to marry, unless you are one of those dull, non-street wise Nigerian guys who dignify mannerless ladies with a ring

Everything to you Average Nigerians is about money
This oga is even asking him to make money first, then buy car battery
oh chim