hybrid77:
Pls i need a sincere advice here.

Im 3 months old in marriage and im so unhappy about the set up (my wife too)

My wife is a student and she tried everything to shift the marriage until easter this year but i refused due to many projects for the year. so we got married 3 months ago.

I took care of her bills since she got admission and we dated for 5 years

But she is so disrespectful and want to make important decisions in marriage which ive refused to allow.

Now, she claims i forced her into marriage and she is not mentally ready because i asked her to change to my family's name.

She has been good then bad then worse..And i think her words about forcing her into marriage has irreparably hurt me.

I spent over 3m of my cash to give her the wedding she wanted (Without any support from her family) against my wish for a 1m wedding.

And despite getting the big wedding she wants before consenting to marry last year, she claims she is not mentally ready and was forced into marriage.

she has repeated this over and over and its making me go crazy..in fact im tired already

Right now she wants more time to be a wife..but im beginning to feel there is a love issue here..I feel she does not love me as she always claims

Though weve settled but we dont talk as usual..we dont even want to hear from each other...

it seems i nolonger love her like i used to..And worst still, continuing with the marriage when she claims she was forced is degrading and disreputable.

My question is, at what point should anyone seriously consider a divorce?

Sorry for what's going on in your home, but I feel this is a very simple issue to resolve, as the solution is clearly in the screenshots you posted.
Can't talk too much, but forget about divorce for now, it hasn't even gotten to that stage.
Wish we could talk more. But keep your head above this water!

Petyprincess:
The truth is your wife doesn't love you no more or never loved you!! Moreover why did you forced her into marriage with you? That's where the problem started.Nw the best way is to go your separate ways since the marriage is even early nd she's already gotten fed up with you,nw that you have no kids you still can still divorce nd let her continue her single life since that's what she always wanted!! If you dnt divorce she will keep on blaming you for forcing her into marriage when she wasn't ready.Its better divorcing that getting stalked in marriage that love isnt mutual!!

Are you married? Advice like this one drives me crazy. People who are being celebrated for staying long in marriage have experienced worse.

What the OP is complaining about is just a minor crises which can be sorted out by two willing adults who want to make their relationship work. I have experienced crises too in my home, but we both came out of it better individuals.

This needs very little effort to be fixed, believe me.

Kenoxman:
This is where u are required to act as the man. Getting emotional about the whole issue just like ur wife will ruin everything. Quit being emotional and device a practical way of solving ur marital problems. Real men are problem-solvers. And it takes a real man to build his family. Forget about whatever she had said. Women will always say hurtful things without considering the implication,that's their nature. Sit ur wife down and have a heart-to-heart talk with her. Maybe u've been overbearing all this while without knowing. Allow her to make suggestions on how to make things start working again. Then find a common ground between her opinion and urs. Relationship such as marriage is built on compromise. No marriage is perfect and most marriages just like any endeavour suffer many challenges from the beginning. Ur ability to manage these challenges will determine the longivity of such endeavours. U will grow past this phase if u are willing to work together. Mind u love is never enough.

my dear,if a woman even if she is a wife doesn't love you and thinks that you induced her to marry you,let her go,
If not your life will be miserable.
I will rather have miyetti Allah as outside enemy than a disgruntled wife as inside enemy
Women of these days are out to destroy men,it's alarming,men are now a means to their ends.
More like sperm donor and financial supports.
Give them nice looking son and daughter and they will start reasoning single mother.

toye440:
wrong advice, pls never make babies with pple u dont love, u r just going to put them through psychological and emotional trauma which is so unfair. They dont deserve it.

so tell the Op on how he can recover his money.

iLegendd:
Weak men with money always think women are meant to be forced to marriage because they have money.

I have told men there are three things they need to master before marriage, else they will regret.

1. Handle women skill
2. Make money skill
3. Manage money skill

You probably have skill 2 and 3, but you lack skill 1 and trust me, any man who lacks skill 1 will live a life of regrets.

Allow her to go. The mistake is 100% from you, not her.

Though, if she goes, she'll come back in the future pleading. If she doesn't go, she'll cheat behind your back whether you like it or not.

So, choose what you want. Letting her go is the better option.

Your first paragraph is well said

Bro take things easy with her. Communication is the bedrock of relationship. Bridge the gap, show her love, give her reason to trust you.

Like John Mason said, if you want to win a man to your course, first show him that you are his best friend.

You are the driver, don't allow that gap else you will regret it. She is not yet the wife you desire, you have to help her become. Don't forget, love conquers all.

Thank you!

femalecobra:
But in summary one thing I know
1. You are married to a lady who wants a friend and companion in a man not a bossy person. Someone who can allow her think n reason with u. You bring your idea and she brings hers and u reason together n male a logical conclusion.
Imposing yourself won’t work and that’s just the truth.
I am that type of lady too. “You can’t tell me to always DO your decision” you have to bring d logical analysis that led to ur idea...I may have mine and suggest and if after you advised and I do mine having considered both options ....I need you to respect my choice as a “human” not a compelled slave called “wife” that must do what you want” . After all, I would respect your choices so I expect you respect mine when the sometimes differ from yours.

But when I know it’s what u want that must work out, Then I feel I am dealing “with a bossy man” and I can’t stand it...hell cant...I would be miserable.
Why would I choose that for the rest of my life?
“Why would I want to choose submitting” to a man Dt “compels” submission for the rest of my life when I can choose to date a man that is a friend in a husband?

So if u wanna keep bossing ....as per I am the man!!!!...you must do as I say.....from the message I think there would be a problem....
Cus your kind woman no go gree

That cost me a relationship but I walked out of it. I cried. I loved him. But I couldn’t think of forever with a man that wants to “lord” “rule” “question my friendships or even cut my normal ties with male colleagues” simply because they are males etc on top of “marriage”. He too was in a haste like you that we married. But having seen people’s experience in life, I Was of the opinion we get to know each other....and I greatfull for that that I over stood my grounds on that.
I cried n wept but I know it’s the best choice of my life!!!

2. You love her more than she loves u. Why it’s true it’s good for a man to love a woman very well and sometimes they say even more than she loves him....you must be sure she at least has 70% of what u feel for her....else she would treat you anyhow ooo....except over time and experience she gets to see that u are a good guy and begin to value u.

3. No doubt she is quite rude. So sorry to say. Because that tone is not even one that would bring peace. Even if you are bossy to her...it’s not by her being bossy in addressing the issue that would solve it.
Her tone is not one of love....that is crying desperately for a bossy husband to stop as she can’t stand it anymore and would likely quit if he doesn’t.

How did u guys date for 5 years and not get to be friends
Or fully understand each other
Was it 5 years or 5 months?

I don’t know the solution ...what I can identify here though is the problem�

Well my solution is that if you want the marriage to work you would need to sacrifice more as it’s obvious you are the one that loves her more for you to have said the marriage be rushed.
Just ignore her rudeness, do what you are to do, play your role, Love and gentleness in most time calms a lady....our conscience tells us to act better as we get to know it’s only a man that loves us that has come so low to take our bullshit and we just get to know that we just have to treat him right over time.

But if you keep fighting same way with a loud mouthed lady...you won’t make progress...
Resentment would only just Set in deeper and deeper!!!

So the ball is in your court,
Is the marriage worth fighting for?

Most women who want to "do as they like"...Dont always want to bear the consequence of their action
....As a woman not bn agreeable with your husband is a major character flaw...one of the manifestations of lack of love and respect for him

One of the easy reflection is having to discuss bearing his name....Everyman should run away from a woman who is difficult to him....the underlying issue is lack of love...This same woman will submit totally to another woman she truly loves and desires...The man shud withdraw all the benefits he puts forth as the man and let her do whatever she likes while he gradually drifts away...If that does not spur a change then he should divorce her

Gazzy88:
First thing I've learn here is never to bring your marital issues on here else, you will be getting wrong advise from kids, students, zanku and gbèsè children that know next to nothing about marriage. Seek God first and then a marriage counselor.

This could work

Coolcalmcollect:
all you weak and dull men will have sense by force, you paid her school fees when she's not an orphan, she pretended to love you but her plan to leave you before marriage failed cos you obviously rushed to Wed her, you thinking you've won lol, den came the shocker.....nice men una go get sense one day.....never raise a female child for her dad cos of marriage una no dey hear word...

Na igbo man way

I keep warning my brothers

They no go gree

hybrid77:
Pls i need a sincere advice here.

Im 3 months old in marriage and im so unhappy about the set up (my wife too)

My wife is a student and she tried everything to shift the marriage until easter this year but i refused due to many projects for the year. so we got married 3 months ago.

I took care of her bills since she got admission and we dated for 5 years

But she is so disrespectful and want to make important decisions in marriage which ive refused to allow.

Now, she claims i forced her into marriage and she is not mentally ready because i asked her to change to my family's name.

She has been good then bad then worse..And i think her words about forcing her into marriage has irreparably hurt me.

I spent over 3m of my cash to give her the wedding she wanted (Without any support from her family) against my wish for a 1m wedding.

And despite getting the big wedding she wants before consenting to marry last year, she claims she is not mentally ready and was forced into marriage.

she has repeated this over and over and its making me go crazy..in fact im tired already

Right now she wants more time to be a wife..but im beginning to feel there is a love issue here..I feel she does not love me as she always claims

Though weve settled but we dont talk as usual..we dont even want to hear from each other...

it seems i nolonger love her like i used to..And worst still, continuing with the marriage when she claims she was forced is degrading and disreputable.

My question is, at what point should anyone seriously consider a divorce?

It's well. I feel your pain. Especially having to hear such hurtfull words from your partner. That you forced her in. Nothing is as painful as that. But you for take style ask her if she no get no for mouth, since you no show her gun.

The truth is that many young girls are not mentally ready for marriage. She was not wrong on that. Many are in love with the ceremony, the bridal dress and the followup gossips. This why they insist on big weddings. I always have reservation for women who insist on big wedding. It explain to an extent what they place value on.

But I won't advice on divorce yet. And don't act like those words hurt you. Dont act weak especially on the emotional side.Don't act like a fool either. Women hate fools. Act like a man and stand straight. Some marriage are like that. They start slow but soon pick up at the middle. She may be blacking out...but when she wakes she will find you there holding her hands. Thats who you are. That's her assurance right there. you will always be by herside. No fear. Balm yourself.

Stop "acting" like you love her.and love her for Chritsake!
Love has its own boldness different from fear whatsoever

Aside its better she blacks out now...Am even more skeptical for the once that start with lovy, lovy...

Again be strong. You even have your oaths on your side to support you just in case you don't believe. for better for worst. Hold her with that. She can't move if you remind her of her own vows strongly. She is in she is in. Non of you is making it out alive. Tell her that. Till death do you part. It's too early in life not to take her own words seriously.

But then read your bible too. Love is an endurer And it's kind. It does not pursue it's own interest but of others. Bears all things, hope in all things, forgive all things. Hope in her. She will come through. If she said she is not mental ready. Notch her on gently. Again be the man. She may be the one to pick you up later. Don't feel hurt by her words. Pray. Give thanks and congratulation. You now a married man. Welcome to behind the scene. Hahahaha.

what are you waiting for, give her the break she wanted like the father to a prodigal son, when she has ruin herself, you take in another wife. let her go before she takes your life directly or indirectly.
you already made a mistake of forcing/persuading a woman to marry you but don't do it again. A WOMAN YOU WANT TO MARRY SHOULD BEG FOR THE MARRIAGE, BE AN ALPHA MALE(thanks to Ubunja).

hybrid77:
Pls i need a sincere advice here.

Im 3 months old in marriage and im so unhappy about the set up (my wife too)

My wife is a student and she tried everything to shift the marriage until easter this year but i refused due to many projects for the year. so we got married 3 months ago.

I took care of her bills since she got admission and we dated for 5 years

But she is so disrespectful and want to make important decisions in marriage which ive refused to allow.

Now, she claims i forced her into marriage and she is not mentally ready because i asked her to change to my family's name.

She has been good then bad then worse..And i think her words about forcing her into marriage has irreparably hurt me.

I spent over 3m of my cash to give her the wedding she wanted (Without any support from her family) against my wish for a 1m wedding.

And despite getting the big wedding she wants before consenting to marry last year, she claims she is not mentally ready and was forced into marriage.

she has repeated this over and over and its making me go crazy..in fact im tired already

Right now she wants more time to be a wife..but im beginning to feel there is a love issue here..I feel she does not love me as she always claims

Though weve settled but we dont talk as usual..we dont even want to hear from each other...

it seems i nolonger love her like i used to..And worst still, continuing with the marriage when she claims she was forced is degrading and disreputable.

My question is, at what point should anyone seriously consider a divorce?

How do you force a woman to marry you? How is it done? Threats? Violence? Manipulation? Charms?
Make una educate me.

She doesnt even want to change her name? Your wife?

Truth is...she isnt yours to begin with. I dont want to go into the foolhardiness of seeing her through school, noble as it may have sounded.

But...she knew all of this and went through the wedding preparatioins with you, spending money you could have channelled elsewhere? Now bringing claims of force?

if she is truly serious and wants out of the marriage after all avenues of settlement are exhausted, simply let her go. Its the best you can do. Its hellish living with someone whose mind is elsewhere. but she shot herself in the foot, if she is a Christian. She remarries, and it will be a life fraught with daily deliberate offence to God.

Abeg free her before she stabs u to dead

poshestmina:
You are probably the problem in the marriage.

Why going around, reporting her to people?

A marriage is has barely passed the honeymoon stage.

From the screenshots ,you were the one that 1st talked about "been forced into the marriage " and she only agreed.

You both have your faults .

u talk too much, ur type of wife go bad no be here.

Morenikeji070:
First qurstion.. Do you guys did a legal court marriage

yes

hybrid77:
Pls i need a sincere advice here.

Im 3 months old in marriage and im so unhappy about the set up (my wife too)

My wife is a student and she tried everything to shift the marriage until easter this year but i refused due to many projects for the year. so we got married 3 months ago.

I took care of her bills since she got admission and we dated for 5 years

But she is so disrespectful and want to make important decisions in marriage which ive refused to allow.

Now, she claims i forced her into marriage and she is not mentally ready because i asked her to change to my family's name.

She has been good then bad then worse..And i think her words about forcing her into marriage has irreparably hurt me.

I spent over 3m of my cash to give her the wedding she wanted (Without any support from her family) against my wish for a 1m wedding.

And despite getting the big wedding she wants before consenting to marry last year, she claims she is not mentally ready and was forced into marriage.

she has repeated this over and over and its making me go crazy..in fact im tired already

Right now she wants more time to be a wife..but im beginning to feel there is a love issue here..I feel she does not love me as she always claims

Though weve settled but we dont talk as usual..we dont even want to hear from each other...

it seems i nolonger love her like i used to..And worst still, continuing with the marriage when she claims she was forced is degrading and disreputable.

My question is, at what point should anyone seriously consider a divorce?

cut your losses and walk away from this witch before she gets pregnant, gives birth to your child and ties you to her miserable, wretched self for the next eighteen years.

i repeat, let that witch go!

Very true

TheGift:
The quoted below is very good advise. Don't force anything. Understand she is am individual and give her time to breathe. Focus on your work and what you know is your purpose, with or without her,and on being the best version of you that you can, the universe will always align, at an appropriate time.

Many keep saying "let her be divorced" but they also forget that OP would labelled "Boda Ode" (Foolish Bro).

OP, if you are listening, that lady has got you tied up. She played you big time - emotionally, financially and in other ways. The saddest part of it is that she is still playing you and there is little you can do about it for now. Someone once said, no matter how much one has, one should ensure he reasons with his brain and not with his money. OP, how could you spend five good years of your precious life in a "relationship" and end up with this feminist-wanna-be? Like seriously?

Divorce her and get shamed. In fact, PM News wouldn't mind paying you for details. And the world would say that "wouldn't it have been better he spent 3months in the relationship and 5years in the marriage rather than the other way round? At least, it can be reasoned that the divorce happened because of the short courtship". Even the next lady you would approach for marriage would be skeptical that you could divorce her also within a short period of time. Some of us have this self-delusion that "if I marry her and it doesn't work out, I'll divorce her quickly." Unknown to us, divorce isn't the same as walking out of a bad relationship. Divorce isn't easy to come by apart from being very costly. And when eventually accomplished, the bruise remains all over for years. And when kids are involved, they share in it's effect, making their journey in life more difficult mentally than ever. This is why we don't have to be lazy in patiently searching for suitable ladies for marriage, particularly in this time of slay queens with no brain or heart for loyalty and so-called feminists who can never submit to any husband. To worsen the situation, Marlians (Mannerless) are also warming up.

Anyway, what you have to do is to up your game but first you've got to get along with her. To catch a monkey, you first have to act like one. Be that boyish lover. For now, let her have the control she is seeking. In case you are unaware, by telling you that you are bossy, it is a strong indication of her desiring that role the moment you relinquish it, then she's finally in charge of you. You are bossy while she is not but she got you to pay N3m instead of N1m you planned earlier. So who is bossy?

In fact, the moment she got you to spend N3m rather than the N1m you budgeted for the wedding (that what would bring her to a honorary position of "Mrs" rather than remaining the "Lord of the Rings" till age start telling badly on her); she definitely knew within her heart that she's got you. What you should have done back then was to reduce the N1m Budget to N800K just because she scaled it up to N3m and give her N200,000 cash as a gift after the wedding. She would certainly be unhappy and angry but she will respect you within her heart. So much, the day you choose to budget N20m to buy a house for the family, she wouldn't have the guts nor the brain to suggest additional N1 (not coming from her bank account to be added), let alone compel you to pay more. This is not wickedness or being egoistic. You're simply training her on how she wouldn't put you in trouble in the nearest future (whether intentionally or unintentionally) in your bid to make her happy. Many husbands are currently in jail or dead because of the insatiable greed of their wives who pushed them to either steal, defraud, kidnap, injure or even kill in order to increase family budget/spending arbitrarily.

But you can't do anything like that now. Just let her take control for now (but never in the area of finances), and even hail her for it. Then fake companionship (since she craves for that) for a while, and use it to lure her gradually into submission, while gradually taking back your control and maintaining your headship over her. Then you can begin to show her true companionship, which she would be needing like oxygen. Oga, that is the surest place to control her from and not your money o. Your money is only a compliment of the "real man" in you and not the other way round.

That doesn't mean you should overlook her desire or gag her. No, let her say her opinions without expecting it to be effected. And you must reason her opinions effectively (not hurriedly) so as to know those worthy of being implemented. Don't underestimate women's manipulation. Courtesy of their gender, they are the most emotional-intelligent being, and they can either use it for or against. They are not foolish as some men think. So ensure, you are always in the right frame of mind before reviewing or implementing her opinions. Also allow some girlish behaviour and gibberish ("being forced to wed earlier than planned" and the "change of name" stuff) for sometime pending when you nuture her mind accordingly. This is why submission is a major prerequisite when considering a lady for marriage. Reason why wise guys marry ladies that their parents did a good job in that area. Those wonderful parents save guys a whole lot of pain unlike "single parent" or the very busy couple that gives out ungroomed lady to gullible guys, which is some sort of scam.

Generally, you have to learn how to be a husband over a woman. And you have got to be the head in your own house without being a dictator. Don't mind feminists' opinion nor allow it in your lady. A woman can head a bank, company, government and lots more but never a family. The mystery behind that lies in the mind of the One (God Almighty), who created both male and female, and instituted marriage itself. I believe it's the same way he designed fish to live in water and not on land. In the Bible, Adam (first husband) ruined mankind the moment he ceded family headship to his wife, and the world is yet to recover from it till date. Ensure proper hierarchy and organization is in place in your young marriage before kids start showing up. If not, things will get more complicated.

In all, don't divorce her but know that you have a huge project for yourself, with little or no available assistance. Sorry, you gave yourself this daunting task the moment you didn't stop at paying her fees and walk away, counting your losses but also went further to marry her. Your lady does not even seem to have who she listens to, judging by the way she yanked off her mum from the matter hence the huge task ahead of you. So brace up for much work. Pele

AshiraWealthy:
Hmmm...
You tot she loved you while she was only using you to aquire her education, and you being deceived decided to take it to next level even when that was not her mission (get married to you).
Who knows, prolly she has seen someone she plans to get married to after using you to complete her education. reason she was postponing the wedding.

Sit her down and ask her to tell you the truth if she has someone else, that you'll let her go if she wants. Then hear what she has to say cos whether you like it or not, both of you have lost interest and things might not be the same. So its better to ask, let everyone know their stand.

So why sit her down to discuss what is already written boldly on the wall. The guy should just man up and let her go. He is complaining of training her in school and a wedding of N5m, why not cut those losses and move on? You want to keep pouring more water into the basket?

Oh my goodness, this is so deep.. Not easy that way.. divorce has law that guide it i pray God help you both Broda. tho coz to file for a divorce there are two forms the lawyers gonna ask your woman to file if she's the one who wanna dirvoce you.. coz your marriage is under less than 2 years.. both forms are 250k each. So total gonna be 500k coz ur marriage is less that 2 years.. and if marriage is 2 years or more then the divorce form gonna be 250k.. and i know she alone may not have such money to pay for the divorce unless you agree to make the divorce happen maybe both party can agree to pay it out. mehn to make a divorce ain't easy at all especially legal court marriage..

hybrid77:


yes

Temptee101:


3 month old marriage? Just Imagine!

Stories like this and what I see in marriage these days makes marriage scare the shiit outta me.

Spits

shutup! Most marriages go through this phase.At the first three months of every marriage,issues like this often than not comes up; who give authority, who obeys authority, how finances can be planned out to favour the both parties,limits for extended family member and other minor issues that are not strange from every other marriage.As time goes on, with good understanding and compromise from all asaundry, everyone tends to know their places and things relatively start moving on smoothly.

I believe na money u use as the base of love she only loved ur money, its better u both settle it now , but I can say she doesn't love u, your wife is seeing another man, if I should ask wats ur own level of education.

I can't find the rest of them. I will look again.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nJKbtfKZy58&feature=share

I feel you should give it some more time. The first few years of marriage could be bumpy sometimes. You'll need time to adjust into each other you know. Then, leave kids for now. I'm sure you both have really beautiful qualities. Most beautiful marriages started on rough paths. Just be the best man you can be for now, even if you have to go against your will. Don't look back too soon pls. I wish you all the best.

hybrid77:
Pls i need a sincere advice here.

Im 3 months old in marriage and im so unhappy about the set up (my wife too)

My wife is a student and she tried everything to shift the marriage until easter this year but i refused due to many projects for the year. so we got married 3 months ago.

I took care of her bills since she got admission and we dated for 5 years

But she is so disrespectful and want to make important decisions in marriage which ive refused to allow.

Now, she claims i forced her into marriage and she is not mentally ready because i asked her to change to my family's name.

She has been good then bad then worse..And i think her words about forcing her into marriage has irreparably hurt me.

I spent over 3m of my cash to give her the wedding she wanted (Without any support from her family) against my wish for a 1m wedding.

And despite getting the big wedding she wants before consenting to marry last year, she claims she is not mentally ready and was forced into marriage.

she has repeated this over and over and its making me go crazy..in fact im tired already

Right now she wants more time to be a wife..but im beginning to feel there is a love issue here..I feel she does not love me as she always claims

Though weve settled but we dont talk as usual..we dont even want to hear from each other...

it seems i nolonger love her like i used to..And worst still, continuing with the marriage when she claims she was forced is degrading and disreputable.

My question is, at what point should anyone seriously consider a divorce?

That's where your problem started!
You want her to marry you because you trained her in school or rather she married you just to even the score since you sponsored her through school. She saw you as a means to an end not a lover.

Petyprincess:
The truth is your wife doesn't love you no more or never loved you!! Moreover why did you forced her into marriage with you? That's where the problem started.Nw the best way is to go your separate ways since the marriage is even early nd she's already gotten fed up with you,nw that you have no kids you still can still divorce nd let her continue her single life since that's what she always wanted!! If you dnt divorce she will keep on blaming you for forcing her into marriage when she wasn't ready.Its better divorcing that getting stalked in marriage that love isnt mutual!!

I think she is carried away with she sees on the campus she want to live life I guess oooooo

hybrid77:
Pls i need a sincere advice here.

Im 3 months old in marriage

My question is, at what point should anyone seriously consider a divorce?

Your question has no specific answer. But if na me, I can't just let her go without her dropping one or two kids. It's also posible you both could grow up within that period, because sometimes, presence of kids do change lot of things in couple's life .

hardbody:


So why sit her down to discuss what is already written boldly on the wall. The guy should just man up and let her go. He is complaining of training her in school and a wedding of N5m, why not cut those losses and move on? You want to keep pouring more water into the basket?

They need to sit down and discuss a lot. 3ml is not a meager amount. 5 years of leading the man on is not a joke.
So he should ask certain questions like why she let him waste all that time and money despite knowing her heart is not with him. Or find out if he's the one causing the problem and needs to step things down a bit. Like the bossy attitude she complained about.

Petyprincess:
The truth is your wife doesn't love you no more or never loved you!! Moreover why did you forced her into marriage with you? That's where the problem started.Nw the best way is to go your separate ways since the marriage is even early nd she's already gotten fed up with you,nw that you have no kids you still can still divorce nd let her continue her single life since that's what she always wanted!! If you dnt divorce she will keep on blaming you for forcing her into marriage when she wasn't ready.Its better divorcing that getting stalked in marriage that love isnt mutual!!

Lol for a wedding the young man blew 3m on and to see that the marriage is not more than three months old is disheartening.
Well it is obvious they both never have the right concept of what marriage is. They never prepared for it. Like u pointed out, the lady never really loved him. She might have been benefiting from the dating, hence why she kept on till marriage probably out of fear that she will loose what she was gaining.
Whew besides looking at her message, the lady has issues... Unfortunately for the guy that he ended up with her.
MARRIAGE SCARES ME.

hybrid77:
Pls i need a sincere advice here.

Im 3 months old in marriage and im so unhappy about the set up (my wife too)

My wife is a student and she tried everything to shift the marriage until easter this year but i refused due to many projects for the year. so we got married 3 months ago.

I took care of her bills since she got admission and we dated for 5 years

But she is so disrespectful and want to make important decisions in marriage which ive refused to allow.

Now, she claims i forced her into marriage and she is not mentally ready because i asked her to change to my family's name.

She has been good then bad then worse..And i think her words about forcing her into marriage has irreparably hurt me.

I spent over 3m of my cash to give her the wedding she wanted (Without any support from her family) against my wish for a 1m wedding.

And despite getting the big wedding she wants before consenting to marry last year, she claims she is not mentally ready and was forced into marriage.

she has repeated this over and over and its making me go crazy..in fact im tired already

Right now she wants more time to be a wife..but im beginning to feel there is a love issue here..I feel she does not love me as she always claims

Though weve settled but we dont talk as usual..we dont even want to hear from each other...

it seems i nolonger love her like i used to..And worst still, continuing with the marriage when she claims she was forced is degrading and disreputable.

My question is, at what point should anyone seriously consider a divorce?

If I may go by your post.
Some girls needs to adjust to marriage life especially when still in school and her age. It also doing Her like India film like, "I'm married?". She's still in dream land struggling with trance.

Bro try and manage her emotions. She's still a student, that's a big hurdle for you to scale through. She sees her mates and other chaps, she may be feeling the school life. If you can manage and win her over now, then you're prepared for when she starts working and making her own money.
Just my thoughts �

juman:


Its small problem o. It can be settled easily.
They are learning to live a life of being married.

If you look around there are bigger problems in some families and they resolve them.

There are husbands that still stayed with their wives who cheated on them and have two or more bastard children. Confirmed bastard after DNA tests.

D Bible says when d foundation is destroyed, what can d righteous do? What type of foundation was laid b4 d marriage? Do u think u can convince a woman who doesnt love u to love u?