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Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by MondayOsunbor(m): 10:44am On Feb 07, 2020

Coldie:
If u know u love her and u believe u will marry her in future impregnate her now.

But if not allow her marry, it Wont make sense to date her for all these years deny her a chance of marriage then at the end u marry someone else.

yeye advice you think babies are for free?. he is 19

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by FuckAllTheMODs: 10:45am On Feb 07, 2020

Op, focus on yourself please.

You have a lot to achieve, don't limit yourself with this issue.

I know you love her and probably your first love, naso e dey be.
I faced something similar when I was with my first love ( tho I had gals before her but no love or feelings for them), her mom and sis was against the relationship, they never hide it. Later her mom soft pedaled and told her to do whatever makes her happy even it means dating or marrying me.
At a point she wanted us to swear an oath but I strongly rejected it, that was the beginning of the end of the relationship.
Later on we separated and everybody moved on.

Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by Howmon: 10:46am On Feb 07, 2020

Quality20:
in Islam parents are highly responsible for their children and wards under them. Pls allow the man do as he please, he isn't going to hurt his daughter. she is under his care and will account for her on judgement day. Pls don't spoil another man's family, u are only a random boyfriend who might eventually use,dump n spoil d innocent girls life.
I'm myself dating a Hausa lady and I know n accept that the father can chose to marry her out to any man he wish and I can't question that. Even though I love her, I'm not going to tell her to rebel against her parents. I repeat, don't spoil things for other ppl, u r not responsible for this girl and u can't change that. Cultures vary a lot, u can't impose ur cultural views on others

The girl will account for herself on judgement day, same with the father for himself

Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by Destined2win: 10:47am On Feb 07, 2020

Quality20:
in Islam parents are highly responsible for their children and wards under them. Pls allow the man do as he please, he isn't going to hurt his daughter. she is under his care and will account for her on judgement day. Pls don't spoil another man's family, u are only a random boyfriend who might eventually use,dump n spoil d innocent girls life.
I'm myself dating a Hausa lady and I know n accept that the father can chose to marry her out to any man he wish and I can't question that. Even though I love her, I'm not going to tell her to rebel against her parents. I repeat, don't spoil things for other ppl, u r not responsible for this girl and u can't change that. Cultures vary a lot, u can't impose ur cultural views on others

Make sure your own daughter marries at 9, it will please your religion

Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by Lovelash: 10:50am On Feb 07, 2020

Why is nobody saying anything about the fact that the boy said she is contemplating taking her life which is a very serious issue? Somebody should help safe this poor girl's life please!

Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by Lastmankc(m): 10:50am On Feb 07, 2020

Forced17:
Good morning Nairalanders

This has been eating me up for days. Me and this girl have been together for 3 years now, she's 17 and I'm 19.

I accept all bashings for being in a relationship at this age, she's the last born though and we perfectly understand each other.

Now her father is forcing her to marry a man in Kaduna, she refused and the father threatened to throw her and her siblings including the mum out into the streets or send them to the village if she doesn't marry the man.

Now she hasn't even for days now and she's contemplating on taking her life and she just told me about this yesterday and this has brought me down so much. I don't know what to do, I need help. This is about her future, I don't want her to be forced to become a mother at 17 and living under a man she doesn't know.

She has only three weeks before the man comes to take her away.
My girlfriend is being sold into marriage and I don't know what to do.

I need help, I'm heartbroken��
I don't know who can help me push this to front page

You wan marry am

Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by Mariangeles(f): 10:50am On Feb 07, 2020

Lovelyn451:
If she's ripe for dating at 17, she's also ripe for marriage...thank you

Ahn ahn!
Feelings and dating are part of growing up.
Dating is not reason enough to force someone into marriage.

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by sosa993: 10:51am On Feb 07, 2020

Like someone said involve ministry of women affairs or find all these agencies that fight for women’s right. Although fourteen is too young to start a relationship but you were also 16 then which means it’s a young love.

I met my partner at the age of 18 too and he was 21 (we met 9 years ago) and we are getting married this year.

I love young love but please while fighting to stop her from marrying, please be safe too.

Your girlfriend needs to be monitored too. Suicide is scary and I wish I could have a one on one talk with her. Really sorry about that.

Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by Nobody: 10:51am On Feb 07, 2020

Quality20:
in Islam parents are highly responsible for their children and wards under them. Pls allow the man do as he please, he isn't going to hurt his daughter. she is under his care and will account for her on judgement day. Pls don't spoil another man's family, u are only a random boyfriend who might eventually use,dump n spoil d innocent girls life.
I'm myself dating a Hausa lady and I know n accept that the father can chose to marry her out to any man he wish and I can't question that. Even though I love her, I'm not going to tell her to rebel against her parents. I repeat, don't spoil things for other ppl, u r not responsible for this girl and u can't change that. Cultures vary a lot, u can't impose ur cultural views on others

ISLAM kill you and your family there!!!

if only Islam does not exist, THE WORLD WILL BE VERY PEACEFUL grin

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by doggedfighter(f): 10:51am On Feb 07, 2020

Quality20:
in Islam parents are highly responsible for their children and wards under them. Pls allow the man do as he please, he isn't going to hurt his daughter. she is under his care and will account for her on judgement day. Pls don't spoil another man's family, u are only a random boyfriend who might eventually use,dump n spoil d innocent girls life.
I'm myself dating a Hausa lady and I know n accept that the father can chose to marry her out to any man he wish and I can't question that. Even though I love her, I'm not going to tell her to rebel against her parents. I repeat, don't spoil things for other ppl, u r not responsible for this girl and u can't change that. Cultures vary a lot, u can't impose ur cultural views on others

What nonsense did you just spew here? Rubbish !!!

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by Nobody: 10:54am On Feb 07, 2020

Quickly enjoy her very well so you can pass the remainder to the mugu who wants to marry her; congratulations tongue

Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by Adakintroy2: 10:56am On Feb 07, 2020

So which is worst you that have been chewing her illegally since she was an omormor. (14). Or a man that wants to legitimately marry her at seventeen.

You are the thief here. Until you man enough to come through the front door you are not allowed to speak.

Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by Ilufoye00(m): 10:56am On Feb 07, 2020

Her father is a very foolish man.
If you were older and you really like your so called girlfriend, u would have ask her to join u, and both of you will build your dreams together.
When your hope of making money depends on who marries you daughter, u r the most useless person in these present Nigeria...
Go to any government organization and report, just that our government are as useless as the father..they will stop the marriage but will not support the girl after her father ask her to live the house........but do the needful first...

Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by paulpery: 10:57am On Feb 07, 2020

Now that you 19 and and you are still sleeping with your so-called girl friend who is a minor, you should be charged to court for sexual child abuse.the father should be charged too for child abuse, for giving out minor in marriage . By law she is not ripe for marriage. Period.

Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by lebron7(m): 10:58am On Feb 07, 2020

Sterope:
Unfortunately for you, the Op says the babe is not a Muslim.

Mumu, read the reply I quoted

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by frozen70(f): 10:59am On Feb 07, 2020

Forced17:
Good morning Nairalanders

This has been eating me up for days. Me and this girl have been together for 3 years now, she's 17 and I'm 19.

I accept all bashings for being in a relationship at this age, she's the last born though and we perfectly understand each other.

Now her father is forcing her to marry a man in Kaduna, she refused and the father threatened to throw her and her siblings including the mum out into the streets or send them to the village if she doesn't marry the man.

Now she hasn't even for days now and she's contemplating on taking her life and she just told me about this yesterday and this has brought me down so much. I don't know what to do, I need help. This is about her future, I don't want her to be forced to become a mother at 17 and living under a man she doesn't know.

She has only three weeks before the man comes to take her away.
My girlfriend is being sold into marriage and I don't know what to do.

I need help, I'm heartbroken��
I don't know who can help me push this to front page

Do you really love her

Do you think you are set to marry with the support if your family

Are you sure you can stand the stress of marriage not even at this teenage age

How will both of you cope assuming you get her impregnated and decides to marry her if you are really set, get her into family way and inform your parents

But left for me, leave her alone to face her father and tell him she is nit interested in the so called husband

Let her father disown her or chase she and her mother to the village you can make arrangements for both of you to be seeing each other

If I may give you parental advice, you are too junior to start dragging an issue you can't handle

At your age, if your parents doesn't give you 100% support to marry her, hunger alone will deal with both of you

I repeat, you are not matured enough to understand what love is, no matter your experience so far, you can't understand what goes in and out of love, relationships, marriage, life struggle and life challenges

As it is, you are not even focusing on your self, if its because of free sex and the rest, you will get enough as you advance in age and even get tired of it

Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by pmoye(m): 11:03am On Feb 07, 2020

Thunder fire you there! Nonsense.
Don't be unfortunate early this morning. Generation of rapis.t.

Quality20:
in Islam parents are highly responsible for their children and wards under them. Pls allow the man do as he please, he isn't going to hurt his daughter. she is under his care and will account for her on judgement day. Pls don't spoil another man's family, u are only a random boyfriend who might eventually use,dump n spoil d innocent girls life.
I'm myself dating a Hausa lady and I know n accept that the father can chose to marry her out to any man he wish and I can't question that. Even though I love her, I'm not going to tell her to rebel against her parents. I repeat, don't spoil things for other ppl, u r not responsible for this girl and u can't change that. Cultures vary a lot, u can't impose ur cultural views on others

Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by Xclusiveme: 11:05am On Feb 07, 2020

My friend leave the girl alone. No allow the Dad table ur matter if you try anything

Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by MrCork: 11:07am On Feb 07, 2020

Forced17:
Good morning Nairalanders

This has been eating me up for days. Me and this girl have been together for 3 years now, she's 17 and I'm 19.

I accept all bashings for being in a relationship at this age, she's the last born though and we perfectly understand each other.

Now her father is forcing her to marry a man in Kaduna, she refused and the father threatened to throw her and her siblings including the mum out into the streets or send them to the village if she doesn't marry the man.

Now she hasn't even for days now and she's contemplating on taking her life and she just told me about this yesterday and this has brought me down so much. I don't know what to do, I need help. This is about her future, I don't want her to be forced to become a mother at 17 and living under a man she doesn't know.

She has only three weeks before the man comes to take her away.
My girlfriend is being sold into marriage and I don't know what to do.

I need help, I'm heartbroken��
I don't know who can help me push this to front page

Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by stevups(m): 11:08am On Feb 07, 2020

Forced17:
Good morning Nairalanders

This has been eating me up for days. Me and this girl have been together for 3 years now, she's 17 and I'm 19.

I accept all bashings for being in a relationship at this age, she's the last born though and we perfectly understand each other.

Now her father is forcing her to marry a man in Kaduna, she refused and the father threatened to throw her and her siblings including the mum out into the streets or send them to the village if she doesn't marry the man.

Now she hasn't even for days now and she's contemplating on taking her life and she just told me about this yesterday and this has brought me down so much. I don't know what to do, I need help. This is about her future, I don't want her to be forced to become a mother at 17 and living under a man she doesn't know.

She has only three weeks before the man comes to take her away.
My girlfriend is being sold into marriage and I don't know what to do.

I need help, I'm heartbroken��
I don't know who can help me push this to front page

At 14 you started a romantic affair with her. Well done sir! You did not love her.

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by Nobody: 11:09am On Feb 07, 2020

Quality20:
in Islam parents are highly responsible for their children and wards under them. Pls allow the man do as he please, he isn't going to hurt his daughter. she is under his care and will account for her on judgement day. Pls don't spoil another man's family, u are only a random boyfriend who might eventually use,dump n spoil d innocent girls life.
I'm myself dating a Hausa lady and I know n accept that the father can chose to marry her out to any man he wish and I can't question that. Even though I love her, I'm not going to tell her to rebel against her parents. I repeat, don't spoil things for other ppl, u r not responsible for this girl and u can't change that. Cultures vary a lot, u can't impose ur cultural views on others

Why am I not surprised? She has no choice of her own as a human being, anything the father likes he shoudld do with her. No respect or dignity of human life...no wonder almajiris litter the streets everywhere and turn out as bandits/extremists later in life...since the parents would account for the trash you wrote. All your self-righteousness, praying five times a day...is just smoke screen for your dark selfish hearts.

Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by Ingold(m): 11:09am On Feb 07, 2020

Boy, go and write jamb

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by GerogeI(m): 11:10am On Feb 07, 2020

Forced17:
Good morning Nairalanders

This has been eating me up for days. Me and this girl have been together for 3 years now, she's 17 and I'm 19.

I accept all bashings for being in a relationship at this age, she's the last born though and we perfectly understand each other.

Now her father is forcing her to marry a man in Kaduna, she refused and the father threatened to throw her and her siblings including the mum out into the streets or send them to the village if she doesn't marry the man.

Now she hasn't even for days now and she's contemplating on taking her life and she just told me about this yesterday and this has brought me down so much. I don't know what to do, I need help. This is about her future, I don't want her to be forced to become a mother at 17 and living under a man she doesn't know.

She has only three weeks before the man comes to take her away.
My girlfriend is being sold into marriage and I don't know what to do.

I need help, I'm heartbroken��
I don't know who can help me push this to front page

I love the fact that you do not have sexual relations with this girl. Secondly, you are very young. Getting outrightly married at this age will stunt your growth.

If you are sure this is the woman you want for a wife. Mind you as a man, before the age of 30 you would have seen so many other women that will be more attractive and desirable. So be very sure.

If you want her, then speak to your father about her. Mind you, your parents will be very happy you are thinking of marriage this early, but will be worried about the impact of the responsibility on you. So, do not ask your family for outright marriage, rather ask for some thing like a bethrotal, so you guys can get married say after tertiary education in the next 5 years.

Your father, will know how to approach the girls father. And if you are from a good background, the girls father will really give your offer a good consideration.

Cheers!
The first love is usually the sweetest, full of infactuations, but not the most attractive partner.

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by Calenikan(m): 11:12am On Feb 07, 2020

Let her go n move on with your life so that both of u will not regret it later in life

Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by MrCork: 11:14am On Feb 07, 2020

Forced17:
Good morning Nairalanders

This has been eating me up for days. Me and this girl have been together for 3 years now, she's 17 and I'm 19.

I accept all bashings for being in a relationship at this age, she's the last born though and we perfectly understand each other.

Now her father is forcing her to marry a man in Kaduna, she refused and the father threatened to throw her and her siblings including the mum out into the streets or send them to the village if she doesn't marry the man.

Now she hasn't even for days now and she's contemplating on taking her life and she just told me about this yesterday and this has brought me down so much. I don't know what to do, I need help. This is about her future, I don't want her to be forced to become a mother at 17 and living under a man she doesn't know.

She has only three weeks before the man comes to take her away.
My girlfriend is being sold into marriage and I don't know what to do.

I need help, I'm heartbroken��
I don't know who can help me push this to front page

Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by str8talk1: 11:14am On Feb 07, 2020

Another Maryam Sanders loading......

Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by MrCork: 11:17am On Feb 07, 2020

Forced17:
Good morning Nairalanders

This has been eating me up for days. Me and this girl have been together for 3 years now, she's 17 and I'm 19.

I accept all bashings for being in a relationship at this age, she's the last born though and we perfectly understand each other.

Now her father is forcing her to marry a man in Kaduna, she refused and the father threatened to throw her and her siblings including the mum out into the streets or send them to the village if she doesn't marry the man.

Now she hasn't even for days now and she's contemplating on taking her life and she just told me about this yesterday and this has brought me down so much. I don't know what to do, I need help. This is about her future, I don't want her to be forced to become a mother at 17 and living under a man she doesn't know.

She has only three weeks before the man comes to take her away.
My girlfriend is being sold into marriage and I don't know what to do.

I need help, I'm heartbroken��
I don't know who can help me push this to front page

..don't u have school homework? angry

Anyways ..gimmmme her nomba so I can help u

Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by YeyeBoyfriend: 11:19am On Feb 07, 2020

jeff1607:
Exkiss me please , you have a what together?

can u feed her?

can you handle her emotional needs

can you protect her

can you cater for kids coming in

Do you have a roof over your head?

will you be able to sponsor her education?

read to comprehend, he said and I quote [they have a future together and he didnt say [they have the present together] do you know what he would become in future, so you know if he'll be able to do all what you just mentioned not only to his immediate family but extended and friends alike?

Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by PrimadonnaO(f): 11:22am On Feb 07, 2020

MondayOsunbor:
oga you are 19 ! . the earlier you forget her the better

The bone of contention isn't about saving his relationship. It's more about a little girl being married off to an old man (most likely) whom she's never met or loves.

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by Forced17(op): 11:23am On Feb 07, 2020

sosa993:
Like someone said involve ministry of women affairs or find all these agencies that fight for women’s right. Although fourteen is too young to start a relationship but you were also 16 then which means it’s a young love.

I met my partner at the age of 18 too and he was 21 (we met 9 years ago) and we are getting married this year.

I love young love but please while fighting to stop her from marrying, please be safe too.

Your girlfriend needs to be monitored too. Suicide is scary and I wish I could have a one on one talk with her. Really sorry about that.

I cried while begging her before she opened up to me that she has bought more than enough sleep inducing tablets and she wants to take all at once so as to end everything �

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by Taywon: 11:25am On Feb 07, 2020

Op focus on ur ambition in life....
Money will get u the good tinx of life....

But u need flogging

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