| Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by Forced17: 11:25am On Feb 07, 2020 |
PrimadonnaO:
The bone of contention isn't about saving his relationship. It's more about a little girl being married off to an old man (most likely) whom she's never met or loves. God bless you ma 2 Likes |
| Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by drnoel: 11:27am On Feb 07, 2020 |
joshjc:
Hmm,tell her to go to ministry of women affairs and report her dad
So you and your girlfriend started dating at the age of 16 and 14,you need serious flogging U are therefore people that liked her comment are a sad bunch,...or did u not see where he wrote that he was 2 years older than she was when they started. They were both underage when they started so pls look first before u write rubbish. God we have so many children on NL. Pls children should desist from commenting and writing rubbish here. Now to the OP. I believe there is a law against that now in Nigeria or not? Report the case to women and child affairs or is that not it's called. They will take it from there |
| Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by Forced17: 11:28am On Feb 07, 2020 |
Taywon:
Op focus on ur ambition in life....
Money will get u the good tinx of life....
But u need flogging I deserve any punishment but I want to save her from getting married to an old man she knows nothing about she has a future and dreams 2 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by Nobody: 11:29am On Feb 07, 2020 |
� the world we live in |
| Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by Hwy9: 11:30am On Feb 07, 2020 |
[color=#006600][/color] Quality20:
in Islam parents are highly responsible for their children and wards under them. Pls allow the man do as he please, he isn't going to hurt his daughter. she is under his care and will account for her on judgement day. Pls don't spoil another man's family, u are only a random boyfriend who might eventually use,dump n spoil d innocent girls life.
I'm myself dating a Hausa lady and I know n accept that the father can chose to marry her out to any man he wish and I can't question that. Even though I love her, I'm not going to tell her to rebel against her parents. I repeat, don't spoil things for other ppl, u r not responsible for this girl and u can't change that. Cultures vary a lot, u can't impose ur cultural views on others Salam... The father has no right to force his daughter into marriage... There must be agreement between the man and the woman before the father can exercise his consent. |
| Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by Nobody: 11:30am On Feb 07, 2020 |
Quality20:
in Islam parents are highly responsible for their children and wards under them. Pls allow the man do as he please, he isn't going to hurt his daughter. she is under his care and will account for her on judgement day. Pls don't spoil another man's family, u are only a random boyfriend who might eventually use,dump n spoil d innocent girls life.
I'm myself dating a Hausa lady and I know n accept that the father can chose to marry her out to any man he wish and I can't question that. Even though I love her, I'm not going to tell her to rebel against her parents. I repeat, don't spoil things for other ppl, u r not responsible for this girl and u can't change that. Cultures vary a lot, u can't impose ur cultural views on others In summary her opinion doesn't count. She has no say in who she marries right? Is this culture or religion? |
| Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by Peacefulgold(m): 11:30am On Feb 07, 2020 |
jeff1607:
Exkiss me please , you have a what together?
can u feed her?
can you handle her emotional needs
can you protect her
can you cater for kids coming in
Do you have a roof over your head?
will you be able to sponsor her education? and did he tell you he was about marrying her at 19yrs of age...d girl is just 17 for Christ sake..wat does she know about marriage ...he said they have a future together, dey mite have made their plans for d future .. 1 Like |
| Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by Unrated900(m): 11:30am On Feb 07, 2020 |
Instead of you to face your future and plan to be like David mark
Good luck Jonathan
Barak obama
And many more
You are here talking about gal friend at age 19.
Continue 
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| Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by Arijude(m): 11:31am On Feb 07, 2020 |
Tonyfx:
You've been dating her for 3years (since she was 14yrs) and she's the last, that means she must have been disobeying her father because of you and the man is fed up and wants her to marry since its man that is her problem. So you probably are the cause of her problem.
see your black man dark mentality |
| Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by OROSUNBOLB(m): 11:31am On Feb 07, 2020 |
Forced17:
Good morning Nairalanders
This has been eating me up for days. Me and this girl have been together for 3 years now, she's 17 and I'm 19.
I accept all bashings for being in a relationship at this age, she's the last born though and we perfectly understand each other.
Now her father is forcing her to marry a man in Kaduna, she refused and the father threatened to throw her and her siblings including the mum out into the streets or send them to the village if she doesn't marry the man.
Now she hasn't even for days now and she's contemplating on taking her life and she just told me about this yesterday and this has brought me down so much. I don't know what to do, I need help. This is about her future, I don't want her to be forced to become a mother at 17 and living under a man she doesn't know.
She has only three weeks before the man comes to take her away.
My girlfriend is being sold into marriage and I don't know what to do.
I need help, I'm heartbroken��
I don't know who can help me push this to front page You are not ambitious as a young man and have chosen to focus your attention on irrelevance that you may regret later in life. Get a life please ! 1 Like |
| Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by Amhappy(f): 11:32am On Feb 07, 2020 |
Her father wants to use her and cash out or he is owing the Kaduna man. If not i see no reason for the threat to throw others out because of her. |
| Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by mechanics(m): 11:35am On Feb 07, 2020 |
She should report the case to NAPTIP. |
| Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by jamesversion: 11:35am On Feb 07, 2020 |
Forced17:
Good morning Nairalanders
This has been eating me up for days. Me and this girl have been together for 3 years now, she's 17 and I'm 19.
I accept all bashings for being in a relationship at this age, she's the last born though and we perfectly understand each other.
Now her father is forcing her to marry a man in Kaduna, she refused and the father threatened to throw her and her siblings including the mum out into the streets or send them to the village if she doesn't marry the man.
Now she hasn't even for days now and she's contemplating on taking her life and she just told me about this yesterday and this has brought me down so much. I don't know what to do, I need help. This is about her future, I don't want her to be forced to become a mother at 17 and living under a man she doesn't know.
She has only three weeks before the man comes to take her away.
My girlfriend is being sold into marriage and I don't know what to do.
I need help, I'm heartbroken��
I don't know who can help me push this to front page Hahahaha. See this small boy with his smallie girlfriend. If you were a big guy, atleast you could have accommodated her and provided for her so that her Dad wouldn't become a threat to your happiness. But you can't, so you came here to cry. oh Pele. take heart. The best you can do for yourself now is to continue with your education and become successful in life or learn a trade/start a business and become successful. That way, you can marry your next love. As for this particular one, she's a married woman. 2 Likes |
| Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by onyichick(f): 11:38am On Feb 07, 2020 |
maybe she should report to d relevant authorities or ministry in charge of things like this.Everyone deserves to be happy and make choices and this doesn't exclude her.she has a right to be happy, keep talking to her so she doesn't go through with the suicidal thoughts.you have a good heart and I pray things turn out OK for her at the end |
| Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by AreaFada2: 11:45am On Feb 07, 2020 |
Quality20:
in Islam parents are highly responsible for their children and wards under them. Pls allow the man do as he please, he isn't going to hurt his daughter. she is under his care and will account for her on judgement day. Pls don't spoil another man's family, u are only a random boyfriend who might eventually use,dump n spoil d innocent girls life.
I'm myself dating a Hausa lady and I know n accept that the father can chose to marry her out to any man he wish and I can't question that. Even though I love her, I'm not going to tell her to rebel against her parents. I repeat, don't spoil things for other ppl, u r not responsible for this girl and u can't change that. Cultures vary a lot, u can't impose ur cultural views on others How can any religious Faith justify forced marriage? Is it Hindu or Christian parents that are not highly responsible for their children? Bullcrap bigotry. Forcing an under age child into marriage is high level of irresponsibility. Parents being considerate of their children's views when taking decisions about their lives is responsibility. Irrespective of religion. |
| Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by lucky4west: 11:47am On Feb 07, 2020 |
allow the girl marry someone who can cater for her, obviously u are still a child and thinking of women from age 16 shows u are not serious about your future to be emotionally attached at this age....but if the lady continue to resist let her make an official report to the appropriate authority.. not because of you because you do not even know what u want in life at this stage but because of herself...do not encourage her to give up a life time opportunity because of you, i know your love/lust for her will not make you see reason why she should marry at this stage, but her family think otherwise and later she might come to appreciate it 1 Like |
| Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by Tonyfx: 11:47am On Feb 07, 2020 |
Sarah20A:
she's 17 she's just got to an adolescent age.her parents are supposed to do all the things you listed here for now.for christ sake she didn't begged to be brought into this world.if parents can't or don't have the necessity to Carter for their children then they should stop giving birth. I agree with you. |
| Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by Nickshrapnel: 11:49am On Feb 07, 2020 |
Quality20:
in Islam parents are highly responsible for their children and wards under them. Pls allow the man do as he please, he isn't going to hurt his daughter. she is under his care and will account for her on judgement day. Pls don't spoil another man's family, u are only a random boyfriend who might eventually use,dump n spoil d innocent girls life.
I'm myself dating a Hausa lady and I know n accept that the father can chose to marry her out to any man he wish and I can't question that. Even though I love her, I'm not going to tell her to rebel against her parents. I repeat, don't spoil things for other ppl, u r not responsible for this girl and u can't change that. Cultures vary a lot, u can't impose ur cultural views on others Even if she’s a Muslim, I read that parents can’t force their child or ward into a marriage they do not want so what are you saying? 1 Like 1 Share |
| Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by Zeinymira(f): 11:54am On Feb 07, 2020 |
Quality20:
in Islam parents are highly responsible for their children and wards under them. Pls allow the man do as he please, he isn't going to hurt his daughter. she is under his care and will account for her on judgement day. Pls don't spoil another man's family, u are only a random boyfriend who might eventually use,dump n spoil d innocent girls life.
I'm myself dating a Hausa lady and I know n accept that the father can chose to marry her out to any man he wish and I can't question that. Even though I love her, I'm not going to tell her to rebel against her parents. I repeat, don't spoil things for other ppl, u r not responsible for this girl and u can't change that. Cultures vary a lot, u can't impose ur cultural views on others In Islam, it is haraam to force a girl to marry someone she does not want and does not like. 2 Likes |
| Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by k2money(m): 11:56am On Feb 07, 2020 |
Tonyfx:
You've been dating her for 3years (since she was 14yrs) and she's the last, that means she must have been disobeying her father because of you and the man is fed up and wants her to marry since its man that is her problem. So you probably are the cause of her problem.
Thank you my brother 1 Like |
| Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by ibnzubair(m): 11:56am On Feb 07, 2020 |
Quality20:
in Islam parents are highly responsible for their children and wards under them. Pls allow the man do as he please, he isn't going to hurt his daughter. she is under his care and will account for her on judgement day. Pls don't spoil another man's family, u are only a random boyfriend who might eventually use,dump n spoil d innocent girls life.
I'm myself dating a Hausa lady and I know n accept that the father can chose to marry her out to any man he wish and I can't question that. Even though I love her, I'm not going to tell her to rebel against her parents. I repeat, don't spoil things for other ppl, u r not responsible for this girl and u can't change that. Cultures vary a lot, u can't impose ur cultural views on others Let's be clear sir, forced marriage is not and has never been a part of Islam 2 Likes |
| Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by Laidebrain(m): 12:02pm On Feb 07, 2020 |
But you dated her for 3years already.. she was not too young then. You talk like you reside in the north, and that is more like their culture. Perhaps 17years is eligible to go into marriage so far all other requirements are being met. You just trend softly, and don't over put mouth in other family's affair because of young Love. Pray Forced17:
is that a reason for her to marry at that age?at 17!!!! 1 Like |
| Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by michaelwilli(m): 12:07pm On Feb 07, 2020 |
Kobicove:
You're 19 and you say you and a 17 year old girl have a future together...boy can you even feed yourself not to talk of taking care of a wife and child?!  That's why he said future, not we have a present together |
| Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by Lovelash: 12:12pm On Feb 07, 2020 |
Lovelash:
Why is nobody saying anything about the fact that the boy said she is contemplating taking her life which is a very serious issue? Somebody should help save this poor girl's life please! |
| Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by Nobody: 12:17pm On Feb 07, 2020 |
Forced17:
stop saying rubbish
you have a dirty mind and not everyone is like you
we have never gotten intimate for once since we knew each other It means you must have been destroying your young life with masturbation. At your age,the sexual hormones and urge are very high,coupled with sexual distraction and confusion. Boy you need to be rescued more than the girl in question. Your future is getting dark if you continue to talk about love @ just 19 in this hard country of us...las las na ur body go tell you wen you grow up sha 1 Like |
| Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by PrinceGallant: 12:19pm On Feb 07, 2020 |
Quality20:
in Islam parents are highly responsible for their children and wards under them. Pls allow the man do as he please, he isn't going to hurt his daughter. she is under his care and will account for her on judgement day. Pls don't spoil another man's family, u are only a random boyfriend who might eventually use,dump n spoil d innocent girls life.
I'm myself dating a Hausa lady and I know n accept that the father can chose to marry her out to any man he wish and I can't question that. Even though I love her, I'm not going to tell her to rebel against her parents. I repeat, don't spoil things for other ppl, u r not responsible for this girl and u can't change that. Cultures vary a lot, u can't impose ur cultural views on others Keep your stinking mouth shut there. First, did the guy mention anything Islam in the post? And let even assume that Islam was there, where is it in Shari'ah that a man can forcefully marry her daughter out of her consent? Woe to a liar. 1 Like |
| Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by CorleonOfSicily: 12:39pm On Feb 07, 2020 |
Quality20:
owk. I thought she is from a muslim home. Anyway, it's still good u thread softly Actually it is from Muslim homes you hear this kind of stories. Intact, it is absurd to be coming from somewhere else |
| Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by k2money(m): 12:39pm On Feb 07, 2020 |
chichiana:
It means you must have been destroying your young life with masturbation. At your age,the sexual hormones and urge are very high,coupled with sexual distraction and confusion. Boy you need to be rescued more than the girl in question. Your future is getting dark if you continue to talk about love @ just 19 in this hard country of us...las las na ur body go tell you wen you grow up sha Don't mind that good for nothing boy. For the father he must be an animal to want to cause such pain for his daughter 1 Like |
| Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by alphaNomega: 12:40pm On Feb 07, 2020 |
Forced17:
Good morning Nairalanders
This has been eating me up for days. Me and this girl have been together for 3 years now, she's 17 and I'm 19.
I accept all bashings for being in a relationship at this age, she's the last born though and we perfectly understand each other.
Now her father is forcing her to marry a man in Kaduna, she refused and the father threatened to throw her and her siblings including the mum out into the streets or send them to the village if she doesn't marry the man.
Now she hasn't even for days now and she's contemplating on taking her life and she just told me about this yesterday and this has brought me down so much. I don't know what to do, I need help. This is about her future, I don't want her to be forced to become a mother at 17 and living under a man she doesn't know.
She has only three weeks before the man comes to take her away.
My girlfriend is being sold into marriage and I don't know what to do.
I need help, I'm heartbroken��
I don't know who can help me push this to front page Mind your effing business boy 1 Like |
| Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by Engrgreg231(m): 12:41pm On Feb 07, 2020 |
Boy you need to be arrested for child abuse |
| Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by ogubolokento(m): 12:49pm On Feb 07, 2020 |
You want her to wait for you  ? 1 Like |
| Re: My Girlfriend Is Being Forced Into Marriage by alphaNomega: 1:18pm On Feb 07, 2020 |
Forced17:
Good morning Nairalanders
This has been eating me up for days. Me and this girl have been together for 3 years now, she's 17 and I'm 19.
I accept all bashings for being in a relationship at this age, she's the last born though and we perfectly understand each other.
Now her father is forcing her to marry a man in Kaduna, she refused and the father threatened to throw her and her siblings including the mum out into the streets or send them to the village if she doesn't marry the man.
Now she hasn't even for days now and she's contemplating on taking her life and she just told me about this yesterday and this has brought me down so much. I don't know what to do, I need help. This is about her future, I don't want her to be forced to become a mother at 17 and living under a man she doesn't know.
She has only three weeks before the man comes to take her away.
My girlfriend is being sold into marriage and I don't know what to do.
I need help, I'm heartbroken��
I don't know who can help me push this to front page Fucking bloggers. |
