Quality20:
in Islam parents are highly responsible for their children and wards under them. Pls allow the man do as he please, he isn't going to hurt his daughter. she is under his care and will account for her on judgement day. Pls don't spoil another man's family, u are only a random boyfriend who might eventually use,dump n spoil d innocent girls life.
I'm myself dating a Hausa lady and I know n accept that the father can chose to marry her out to any man he wish and I can't question that. Even though I love her, I'm not going to tell her to rebel against her parents. I repeat, don't spoil things for other ppl, u r not responsible for this girl and u can't change that. Cultures vary a lot, u can't impose ur cultural views on others

You guys should stop reasoning like this even if you are muslim.
So the man should be allowed to do anything he likes to the girl by your assertion?
Parents should care for them not marry off a minor.
Developed nations including muslim dominated are stopping this barbaric act!

That's worrisome...... However, this same girl has been having sex at age 14, ask her what her issue is she would say that she is too young to marry when in actual fact she has been "married for years"

Forced17:
Good morning Nairalanders

This has been eating me up for days. Me and this girl have been together for 3 years now, she's 17 and I'm 19.

I accept all bashings for being in a relationship at this age, she's the last born though and we perfectly understand each other.

Now her father is forcing her to marry a man in Kaduna, she refused and the father threatened to throw her and her siblings including the mum out into the streets or send them to the village if she doesn't marry the man.

Now she hasn't even for days now and she's contemplating on taking her life and she just told me about this yesterday and this has brought me down so much. I don't know what to do, I need help. This is about her future, I don't want her to be forced to become a mother at 17 and living under a man she doesn't know.

She has only three weeks before the man comes to take her away.
My girlfriend is being sold into marriage and I don't know what to do.

I need help, I'm heartbroken��
I don't know who can help me push this to front page

Jeez

17 years old girl has been in a relationship for 3 years

She started at 14, odi egwu

Forced17:

she's not a Muslim and we have a future together

Thays good, Christians don't marry as underaged, they just sleep around.

Duru009:
Nairaland has finally turn to teenages forum

Simply tell them to go underground and not grow.

met a human right activist

Davash222:
She’s 14 when you started dating her
You’re worse than the father!


Anyways, na Small pikin still dey worry both of una.

You stated the obvious in the most perfect way it could be said

FA13:


You guys should stop reasoning like this even if you are muslim.
So the man should be allowed to do anything he likes to the girl by your assertion?
Parents should care for them not marry off a minor.
Developed nations including muslim dominated are stopping this barbaric act!

The op and his girlfriend have been dating since she was 14

Who is worse, the op who has no plan for her and has been using her for 3 years or the father who wants to marry off his 17 year old daughter

I am in no way in support of child marriage but let's call a spade what it is

Quality20:
in Islam parents are highly responsible for their children and wards under them. Pls allow the man do as he please, he isn't going to hurt his daughter. she is under his care and will account for her on judgement day. Pls don't spoil another man's family, u are only a random boyfriend who might eventually use,dump n spoil d innocent girls life.
I'm myself dating a Hausa lady and I know n accept that the father can chose to marry her out to any man he wish and I can't question that. Even though I love her, I'm not going to tell her to rebel against her parents. I repeat, don't spoil things for other ppl, u r not responsible for this girl and u can't change that. Cultures vary a lot, u can't impose ur cultural views on others

Why do people hide under religion to perpetrate evil? May God deliver the innocent ones.

PrimadonnaO:


That's why her father thinks she's ready for marriage. She's got three years' experience. She'll learn the rest on the "job."

@OP Isn't there anyone else in her family who is enlightened and can step in talk to her father?

Maybe the father didn't want to give her hand in marriage this early but looking at how she and the supposed op have been living as couples waywardly he decided she should be married before they bring shame to his family

The guy date 14 years old girl and he thinks he has a right stepping in when her own father wants to marry her off at 17

3 years experience indeed

My padi was being toasted by a 16year old girl who had done an abortion earlier, the world as we know it has changed a lot

Nawa ooh.

Mummymahdi:
I need to flog u 2 for this. Will ur parent be happy of what u are doing? Allow d girl to take action not just random small cingum boy like u; at 19 u are trying to scatter another person life? Had it been u are a man that can take responsibility of marriage I would suggest u push to marry her
Back off boy

well composed post.
Very Intelligent Person.

Forced17:

I know what you're thinking but trust me
we dare not go there

nobody says they are having s*x till pregnancy shows

if you want to do things the right way even if u ain't ready for marriage but with serious intentions plus the love u claim you got for her involve your parents, tell them you want to marry her but when she is old enough and when the body is ripe enough to carry the pregnancy to term. young men in love involve parents to show seriousness and given a time frame you will come for her.

Forced17:
Good morning Nairalanders

This has been eating me up for days. Me and this girl have been together for 3 years now, she's 17 and I'm 19.

I accept all bashings for being in a relationship at this age, she's the last born though and we perfectly understand each other.

Now her father is forcing her to marry a man in Kaduna, she refused and the father threatened to throw her and her siblings including the mum out into the streets or send them to the village if she doesn't marry the man.

Now she hasn't even for days now and she's contemplating on taking her life and she just told me about this yesterday and this has brought me down so much. I don't know what to do, I need help. This is about her future, I don't want her to be forced to become a mother at 17 and living under a man she doesn't know.

She has only three weeks before the man comes to take her away.
My girlfriend is being sold into marriage and I don't know what to do.

I need help, I'm heartbroken��
I don't know who can help me push this to front page

Hate to break it to ya, but that girl, she needs to go.

YeyeBoyfriend:
read to comprehend, he said and I quote [they have a future together and he didnt say [they have the present together] do you know what he would become in future, so you know if he'll be able to do all what you just mentioned not only to his immediate family but extended and friends alike?

As I stated earlier,if he has serious intentions for her as it's done in the north his family would have been involved , if a young man is serious with ba young lady the first thing he puts forward is the girl child having an education but he didn't put it there ,his major concern is the love of his life taken away from him, if he complains about her getting bmarried by 17 he should also be worried about her being involved in a relationship by 14 ,haba! a girl that age should be more concerned about completing her education but here we are arguing about her being married off to another man.

no one knows tomorrow as u rightly said you don't Know what he might become tomorrow but he isn't thinking about that, parents of both parties would be involved.

Forced17:

she's not a Muslim and we have a future together

Not to be disrespectful but you are too young to be planning a future with a girl

Well you can still be collecting

thorpido:
Nonsense.What of the girl's rights?

Dont mind him sir, Islam does not forces marriage on anyone, both parties has to consent before it can be done.He is solely responsible for his writeup and not in anyway speaking for Islam.

Quality20:
in Islam parents are highly responsible for their children and wards under them. Pls allow the man do as he please, he isn't going to hurt his daughter. she is under his care and will account for her on judgement day. Pls don't spoil another man's family, u are only a random boyfriend who might eventually use,dump n spoil d innocent girls life.
I'm myself dating a Hausa lady and I know n accept that the father can chose to marry her out to any man he wish and I can't question that. Even though I love her, I'm not going to tell her to rebel against her parents. I repeat, don't spoil things for other ppl, u r not responsible for this girl and u can't change that. Cultures vary a lot, u can't impose ur cultural views on others

You are speaking for yourself and not Islam,mind what you say in a public forum if you have limited knowledge about Islamic stands and views concerning marriage

Forced17:
Good morning Nairalanders

This has been eating me up for days. Me and this girl have been together for 3 years now, she's 17 and I'm 19.

I accept all bashings for being in a relationship at this age, she's the last born though and we perfectly understand each other.

Now her father is forcing her to marry a man in Kaduna, she refused and the father threatened to throw her and her siblings including the mum out into the streets or send them to the village if she doesn't marry the man.

Now she hasn't even for days now and she's contemplating on taking her life and she just told me about this yesterday and this has brought me down so much. I don't know what to do, I need help. This is about her future, I don't want her to be forced to become a mother at 17 and living under a man she doesn't know.

She has only three weeks before the man comes to take her away.
My girlfriend is being sold into marriage and I don't know what to do.

I need help, I'm heartbroken��
I don't know who can help me push this to front page

.

Go and get rich
Your wife to be is btw 10 ,12 or 13 years old now
Get rich when she get to 23 or 25 you will ask her hand in marriage.
Then You will be on your 30s. With good comfort.

InfernoNig:
My guy, what you can do now is report to any organization in charge of girl marriage, or ministry of women affairs, or better still get her pregnant to spoil show for her father or you just leave family matter for them to solve. Nothing more you can do.

Report to the ministry ASAP or just put your juice in her like the dude above me said. Just don't bail out later

JosephXavier:
All this Muslims nawaa o
I thought your ladies are modest and wear hijab to cover themselves but they are only covering their sins. You all practice hypocrite as religion
Repent and give your life to Christ before his wrath descend on you

You see how foolish you are,because you want to bad mouth Islam you couldn’t read to understand what the thread is all about. The girl in question is a Christian. You don disgrace your self now body go cool you now .

JosephXavier:
All this Muslims nawaa o
I thought your ladies are modest and wear hijab to cover themselves but they are only covering their sins. You all practice hypocrite as religion
Repent and give your life to Christ before his wrath descend on you

You see how foolish you are,because you want to bad mouth Islam you couldn’t read to understand what the thread is all about. The girl in question is a Christian. You don disgrace your self now body go cool you no

Forced17:

what are you saying
we've never seen each other's unclothedness before
you think everyone is corrupt or spoilt �

If you are not corrupt, what need did you have for being with a 14 year old girl? Why don't you build your friendship with your family and others? Must you be in a relationship? TV series have made kids think life is about getting a boy/girlfriend before they turn 16.

Did you know that relationships are for adults? Yes, adults. Not people who know nothing about their full emotions and want to do what they want but still cry for their parents when things go sour.

You have no right to stop what her parents want. You are just a boyfriend. And if you think anyone here believes you've not had any sexual encounter with her, then you must think everyone here is 14 years old.

Impregnate her

21st century,so this kind of arranged marriage is still happening!!

GerogeI:


I love the fact that you do not have sexual relations with this girl. Secondly, you are very young. Getting outrightly married at this age will stunt your growth.

If you are sure this is the woman you want for a wife. Mind you as a man, before the age of 30 you would have seen so many other women that will be more attractive and desirable. So be very sure.

If you want her, then speak to your father about her. Mind you, your parents will be very happy you are thinking of marriage this early, but will be worried about the impact of the responsibility on you. So, do not ask your family for outright marriage, rather ask for some thing like a bethrotal, so you guys can get married say after tertiary education in the next 5 years.

Your father, will know how to approach the girls father. And if you are from a good background, the girls father will really give your offer a good consideration.

Cheers!
The first love is usually the sweetest, full of infactuations, but not the most attractive partner.

This is the best advice in this thread.

Contact this NGO BEHIND BARS 0906 877 3333,They are human rights activists and they have been stopping such early marriages,u can search for them on Facebook

bigt2:

Lol me too. What causes that?
NB We're of age. 29vs27

Bro Naija girls are so desperate that's it

Quality20:
in Islam parents are highly responsible for their children and wards under them. Pls allow the man do as he please, he isn't going to hurt his daughter. she is under his care and will account for her on judgement day. Pls don't spoil another man's family, u are only a random boyfriend who might eventually use,dump n spoil d innocent girls life.
I'm myself dating a Hausa lady and I know n accept that the father can chose to marry her out to any man he wish and I can't question that. Even though I love her, I'm not going to tell her to rebel against her parents. I repeat, don't spoil things for other ppl, u r not responsible for this girl and u can't change that. Cultures vary a lot, u can't impose ur cultural views on others

You and everyone who like your comment are completely mad

hustle ooo make them no force ur girlfriend marry another person