Papanwamaikpe:
Mechionu!

Fvck off

The mistake you made was that you should not allow d pregnancy to happen.

Soulmender:
I guess he's going through a tough time there just like he complained about not having money. Most men don't really know how to handle difficult times. Just give him benefit of doubt and bear with him for a while and don't complain or nag then watch if he'll change. And please don't tamper with the pregnancy.

Hmmmm, thanks for this piece �

Nigerians can mis inform someone , if she gives birth to that baby can she take care of it on her own, have you guys asked her how to survive? Please get an abortion if you can , it’s not illegal in the world anymore , don’t let some religious bigot cloud your mind with guilt , tell your boyfriend your plan to go ahead with an abortion and if he says nothing serious to make you contemplate not doing it , go ahead..

sassysure:

Do u know them?

As for being in another relationship, no doubt about it especially if he isn't a citizen where he is.

It's naija babes I pity the most.
Waiting for abroad husband and the biological clock is ticking. Rejecting good and intended suitors cos u are beclouded by "abroad".

And maybe she purposely got pregnant thinking it will make him hasten up.
Who knows what stories he has been feeding her with.

And after giving birth and training the child. The man may then come for the child and take her or him with him to the so called abroad or she think the child wouldn't wanna follow his abroad daddy.
How many Nigerian men usually marry single mothers?

help the babe now

WildChild00:



Na be her fault, na so life be, you can never predict the outcome of life.

I hope it works out well for her,my inner spirit really does wish hers turns out to be one of those rare ones that turn out well but from what she has said,the guy is not serious . It's just a pity Sha.

Please don tamper with that pregnancy. Even if he doesn’t take your calls again make sure you give birth to that baby. You never know what that baby would bring you.

Lamanii22:
May we not meet someone that would waste our time.. 10 effing years... He probably has given birth over there... I wouldn't advice that you abort the pregnancy.. Kindly give birth to the baby, he would come back to his sense(s)..

The lady obviously took in delebrately with the hope that it could fast track her desire forgetting it doesn't always work for all. Abroad based relationship is always 50 50 based on the reality over there. A close friend had similar experience with his girl of over 15 years. He had to sadly open up and let her go because he couldn't keep up due to several uncertainty and not wanting to keep her hanging for God knows when even when he truly loved her. I also know of a close female friend who got pregnant as her guy was about to leave the country. She patiently & faithfully waited ignoring other suitors even single guys who were ready to take her and her child. Forward to 11 years later, the guy was deported and he didn't border to visit the girl. Rather started dating someone else upon his arrival. And the girl in question finally ended up with another man who had a wife & kids. Like it is commonly said, most ladies don't always marry who they truly loved rather they marry who is ready.

ednut1:
you may do abortion and die
You may give birth and see him next in 2030. U no get sense getting pregnant

As if it will be her first abortion

Strongmercy123:
Good evenin everyone. Pls I need a word of wisdom and advice from matured minds here. I’m 28 yrs I will be 29 in 2days.

I feel I’m about to make a life mistake. I have been dating my bf for 10yrs now, yes I was young and independent as at that time, the love was so sweet that we could do anything for each other. My bf left the country 5yrs ago and since then it has been long distance relationships, our communication was good.

He visited Nigeria December last yr and left the first week of January. He Begged me to wait for him again and I agreed. I’m currently pregnant and I’m scared to keep the baby, I spoke to him about it and he was happy.

Recently he is complaining of not having money and all. he has suddenly change with the way he talk to me and he doesn’t even have plans for me. He hardly calls and hardly pick my calls. I have tried to talk to him about his recent attitude and he will always end up calling me nag.

I’m thinking about going for abortion but I don’t know if it’s a great choice. He is 34yrs, pls I need advice.

Some men are really trash!

But I believe God has a reason for everything that happens in our lives.

I want to encourage you to have your child, in terms of your age, you’re not so young anymore.

It takes 9months to nurture and carry a pregnancy, please don’t abort it because is a sin against God and your beautiful body.

He’s a man and he doesn’t have anything to loose if the abortion goes south.

My honest and sincere advice is this:

1. Keep your pregnancy

2. Please buy Shea butter (original one) and be applying it on the stretch mark prone areas of your body like stomach, breast, waist etc to avoid stretch mark (please avoid scratching your stomach)

3. Register for anti natal early and always take your routine medicines.

4. Please be conscious of what you eat, if possible for you, consume more of protein and fruits (make sure you watch the back of the fruits tho)

5. Forget about your boyfriend/baby daddy for now until you have given birth. ( I know this advice is strange but that’s a bitter truth because high blood pressure is a very common sickness for pregnant women and is very deadly.)

6. Prepare yourself not to breast feed your child (don’t be surprised, if you follow all the advice, you will be sure of having a very healthy baby and preserving your body like breast from sagging will make you happy later since you don’t have a husband yet. Lol! You will thank me later am sure)

7. Give your life to God, get closer to God like never before. He will make everything easy for you and give you rest.

8. Never stay alone, surround yourself with only people that makes you happy and smiling.

Bonus advice: If you like reading, try to get a book called supernatural childbirth by Jackie Mize

I hope you can pick something valuable from my contribution, I wish you all the best.
God be with you.

merahki:



I am very pro - live-your- life- as -it -suits- you (and also pro-choice with regards to having babies or not)
But that picture of a glowing foetus inside cupped hands is beautiful
Even though your post is a blackmailing one? I like the picture cos it warms my heart. But the poster should “do” her and not you! No?
Cheers

It's not. Yes, is better one doesn't seek for a child than killing one which has life ! Stigmatization is in everything we do in life. Pregnancy is even the least to me. Do you know what some persons who are physically challenged in one way or the other feel? How about those with down syndrome who still communicate but has changed their physical appearances, do we feel what they go through when they seek out for jobs or even try to associate or socialise with individuals in the society? If a girl thinks because she is pregnant, and afraid of not being a short one or whatever it's called, that lady needs a rethink and Good counselling cos that's the least stigmatized situation in the society. Telling someone to go for abortion is like assisting death/suicide (euthanasia) so why must I. Even Drs. enjoy their job if their patients have hope of being cured from their sickness, but if no hope, whatever the Dr does, it becomes hopeless case.

Oh

IMASTEX:

The lady obviously took in delebrately with the hope that it could fast track her desire forgetting it doesn't always work for all. Abroad based relationship is always 50 50 based on the reality over there. A close friend had similar experience with his girl of over 15 years. He had to sadly open up and let her go because he couldn't keep up due to several uncertainty and not wanting to keep her hanging for God knows when even when he truly loved her. I also know of a close female friend who got pregnant as her guy was about to leave the country. She patiently & faithfully waited ignoring other suitors even single guys who were ready to take her and her child. Forward to 11 years later, the guy was deported and he didn't border to visit the girl. Rather started dating someone else upon his arrival. And the girl in question finally ended up with another man who had a wife & kids. Like it is commonly said, most ladies don't always marry who they truly loved rather they marry who is ready.

Hmmmm... Mehn... This life seem really long and at the same time short, one's youthful age would just pass in split seconds.... Your saying at the end's so true..





It happened to my neighbour too.. She's got two daughters, her husband went to the UK after they did their wedding.. He came home just once and that once was like after 10years... He travelled back shortly... He later sent a text saying that she should find somebody else, he specifically said she should find someone that can satisfy her sexually... Imagine.. I never desired abroad based relationship ever since.. It's either we go together or we should manage Naija like that...

Strongmercy123:
Good evenin everyone. Pls I need a word of wisdom and advice from matured minds here. I’m 28 yrs I will be 29 in 2days.

I feel I’m about to make a life mistake. I have been dating my bf for 10yrs now, yes I was young and independent as at that time, the love was so sweet that we could do anything for each other. My bf left the country 5yrs ago and since then it has been long distance relationships, our communication was good.

He visited Nigeria December last yr and left the first week of January. He Begged me to wait for him again and I agreed. I’m currently pregnant and I’m scared to keep the baby, I spoke to him about it and he was happy.

Recently he is complaining of not having money and all. he has suddenly change with the way he talk to me and he doesn’t even have plans for me. He hardly calls and hardly pick my calls. I have tried to talk to him about his recent attitude and he will always end up calling me nag.

I’m thinking about going for abortion but I don’t know if it’s a great choice. He is 34yrs, pls I need advice.

He probably used someone to get Pali and he need someone to legit give him a child that won’t be taken away from him ....you’re just a baby mama till further notice.

Villain7:

but has life not started at that level?
It's time we tell ourselves the truth. This is not sentimental, it's reality! Once Dr has confirmed conception has taken place, and you want the baby, how do you feel of your girl says she lost the pregnancy at even 1 month old?

life doesn't begin at conception

olabrinks:
even if the doctor is a professional, the instruments they use weaken the uterus. Making you more prone to miscarriages and fertility issues, because it’s not a natural process. Even these pills you take are not good. These doctors will never tell you this because they make money from you. My sister is a doctor so I know. Why is infertility such an issue in this day and age? You young girls don’t understand what you’re doing to your bodies, and it’s when you get to a certain age you’ll be crying on top of a mountain begging God for blessings.

your sister is a doctor is not the same as you are a doctor. So please don't talk like to know everything.

funmisticqueen2:
your sister is a doctor is not the same as you are a doctor. So please don't talk like to know everything.

i dont know everything, but what I do know is that abortion is not natural or safe so stop deceiving people. Thanks

olabrinks:
i dont know everything, but what I do know is that abortion is not natural or safe so stop deceiving people. Thanks

neither is appendectomy, or ceasarian section. But does that mean that doctors should not perform those too. Who told you that abortion is not safe. It is only unsafe in a useless country like nigeria.

funmisticqueen2:
neither is appendectomy, or ceasarian section. But does that mean that doctors should not perform those too. Who told you that abortion is not safe. It is only unsafe in a useless country like nigeria.

they are not safe hence why they are only done to save the child or mothers life. It’s a life or death situation. Abortion is not a life or death situation in most case and you are putting your reproductive organs at risk for what? To forcefully vacuum out a living child that is implanted in the womb securely is damaging to the uterus. Take it or leave it.

I won't support abortion. Give birth to your baby and enjoy the joy of motherhood. Right now, the guy's mind is divided cos he's not settled where he is abroad.

olabrinks:
they are not safe hence why they are only done to save the child or mothers life. It’s a life or death situation. Abortion is not a life or death situation in most case and you are putting your reproductive organs at risk for what? To forcefully vacuum out a living child that is implanted in the womb securely is damaging to the uterus. Take it or leave it.

Appendectomy is not safe abi. C/S is not safe abi. Now you are contradicting yourself. Abortion is not a life or death situation. Lol!!

Just stop already, perish the thought of arguing further before you dig yourself a pit you cannot come out of.

saajus:
I won't support abortion. Give birth to your baby and enjoy the joy of motherhood. Right now, the guy's mind is divided cos he's not settled where he is abroad.

let her give birth to the baby and drop it at your house.

Strongmercy123:
Good evenin everyone. Pls I need a word of wisdom and advice from matured minds here. I’m 28 yrs I will be 29 in 2days.

I feel I’m about to make a life mistake. I have been dating my bf for 10yrs now, yes I was young and independent as at that time, the love was so sweet that we could do anything for each other. My bf left the country 5yrs ago and since then it has been long distance relationships, our communication was good.

He visited Nigeria December last yr and left the first week of January. He Begged me to wait for him again and I agreed. I’m currently pregnant and I’m scared to keep the baby, I spoke to him about it and he was happy.

Recently he is complaining of not having money and all. he has suddenly change with the way he talk to me and he doesn’t even have plans for me. He hardly calls and hardly pick my calls. I have tried to talk to him about his recent attitude and he will always end up calling me nag.

I’m thinking about going for abortion but I don’t know if it’s a great choice. He is 34yrs, pls I need advice.

Please do not abort it....my sincere advice...

funmisticqueen2:
life doesn't begin at conception

My brother, life begins at Conception!

Villain7:

My brother, life begins at Conception!

if that is the case, then the fetus should be able to survive on its own, outside the woman.

give birth to the baby.. it won't be easy but better than abortion at the long run...

abroad nor easy my sista

I don't think that guy truly loves you. You love him more than he does....

Giving birth to that child outside wedlock might complicate your FUTURE..

Sit down and think, don't be carry away pls.

Zuriel100:
give birth to the baby.. it won't be easy but better than abortion at the long run...

Yes....
Later later things

funmisticqueen2:
Appendectomy is not safe abi. C/S is not safe abi. Now you are contradicting yourself. Abortion is not a life or death situation. Lol!!

Just stop already, perish the thought of arguing further before you dig yourself a pit you cannot come out of.

Theres no medical safe surgery hence why it’s only done when necessary. There’s nothing necessary about an abortion if not for the selfish reasons of the mother. So why put your reproductive organs at risk for something that is not necessary? Continue lying to yourself. Hopefully you will not have to go through having an abortion if you have not done so already. Good luck.

funmisticqueen2:
if that is the case, then the fetus should be able to survive on its own, outside the woman.

if you leave a fully developed baby on its own for longer that 24 -48 hours without care, the baby will die. So what is your point? Whether it’s from the point of conception to a two month old baby, it is a life.