We4all:


Don't start what you can't finish. She is probably trying to be nice by chatting with you and there may be nothing to it. Try to stick to this popular saying:"Never mix business with pleasure".

But some folks met their better halves while doing business. I think that quote is often misconstrued.

BabbanBura:


It's okay to ask her out but the manner you say it makes the difference. How about saying, Mickey, there is this nice restaurant that organises special valentine theme evenings of feb 14th, would you mind, perhaps if you are free this evening, so we can go there? We can as well see a movie at xxxx (must be a very unique place that meets her class) after the dinner. Believe me, she no go vex.

By the way, that's my package for my woman

Op, please approach it from this angle. Don't forget to shoot your shot.

iphi:
one cold Pepsi for you... I'm gonna be extra careful with words

Where is my own Pepsi?

iphi:
My boss posted on her WhatsApp story "Who will be my Val" and other series of messages concerning taking her out for Val.

I'm older than her and she respects me, deep down I really like her, I don't know if I should ask her playfully, we chat a lot. I tease her a little bit when she posts a picture that is not fine and we laugh over it.

I want to tell her if she is unsuccessful in her search for a date I can be her back up plan. I don't know if it's a good idea to tell her that. I need honest and matured opinions please.

Only if you know your BOSS though a woman think like a MAN then you should approach her.

Generally women are born with ARROGANCE and mostly manifest when they feel equal to MEN.

Now this is an African woman, a Nigerian lady likely from Sounthern part of the Nation (Can you see the bigger picture I am painting)?

Only women that think like a MAN are least ARROGANT amidst ladies of today.

Many of them whom have Tabaned forget that as to MENOPAUSE, it is for WOMEN NOT MEN!!

iphi:
My boss posted on her WhatsApp story "Who will be my Val" and other series of messages concerning taking her out for Val.

I'm older than her and she respects me, deep down I really like her, I don't know if I should ask her playfully, we chat a lot. I tease her a little bit when she posts a picture that is not fine and we laugh over it.

I want to tell her if she is unsuccessful in her search for a date I can be her back up plan. I don't know if it's a good idea to tell her that. I need honest and matured opinions please.

Ya Mad she we turned you down and later sack you

iphi:
My boss posted on her WhatsApp story "Who will be my Val" and other series of messages concerning taking her out for Val.

I'm older than her and she respects me, deep down I really like her, I don't know if I should ask her playfully, we chat a lot. I tease her a little bit when she posts a picture that is not fine and we laugh over it.

I want to tell her if she is unsuccessful in her search for a date I can be her back up plan. I don't know if it's a good idea to tell her that. I need honest and matured opinions please.

Way to employment market

iphi:
I can find another job, can I find a woman as humble as she can be? I wouldn't know unless I find out, and I'm playing it safe too

Guy your mind is made up, go and do what u want to do and stop disturbing us.

Please dont forget to do a thread after you lose you job

iphi:
ok yea I see why people are scared, she's from Indonesia, I will not even put this here if she's Nigerian

Please let us know her reply

kiddkash:

you read my mind. and he shouldn't make it like a date. just tell his boss
there are some friends from office hanging out and she could come if she's interested

Say no to group dates.

iphi:
no bro, I'm not in Nigeria and she's not Nigerian

owk then enjoy

iphi:
My boss posted on her WhatsApp story "Who will be my Val" and other series of messages concerning taking her out for Val.

I'm older than her and she respects me, deep down I really like her, I don't know if I should ask her playfully, we chat a lot. I tease her a little bit when she posts a picture that is not fine and we laugh over it.

I want to tell her if she is unsuccessful in her search for a date I can be her back up plan. I don't know if it's a good idea to tell her that. I need honest and matured opinions please.

Most companies I know dont exactly welcome relationships. It's an awkward move that can have real consequences. Control your emotion mehn, she might just be friendly. . to 10 other staff. I know many wonen that can make 10 men feel specil at the same time.

It is not likely to end well now or later. Your job could go for it, now or later.

Sexual harassment acusatiins, etc come with such arrangements when things go south.

Respect yourself.

iphi:
ouch!!! Too late already sent the text, no reply yet

Bros... Wts the response?

Excellent

iphi:
story has finished ooo... I got 1 hour with her... I know it might mean nothing bu It means so much to me

Yes, but make sure you have secured another job

JasonScoolari:
I equally want to do same with my boss, but I am scared.... She lost her boyfriend recently to a fatal motor accident, just wanna take her out tomorrow just to make her feel relaxed but...... Hmmmm!!!

You have to be very careful so she doesn't misconstrue your intention. I have this feeling though that you secretly hope for an intimate relationship to develop out of this.

Good luck.

victorian:







It's a no no

But some madams who love sex more than their reputation will disagree with me and encourage such. It's not because the Madam is in love but she just want to satisfy her sexual fantasies and desires on a young employee that catches her fancy.

So in some cases there are exceptions.
And such women could even have a permanent suite somewhere in a discreet hotel.

Na wa

Hmmm Nnkan mbeeee!!!! As it rocks their boats individually anyway...

Me am only interested in what happens after the lunch today, make he no finish lunch for UK con eat supper for ugheli

iphi:
ah!!! I have a date bro... Its a lunch date... Its just 1 hour though but I will take it

Take it bro and see how it goes.
Na so Obama take start with Michelle

Now thats a FUN DAY!
It will happen 86% of the time

victorian:









Lol @ pankere.

One actually sent a text message late at night, that he's in love with me

I thought I was seeing double.

I was like what?

I didn't reply for like an hour. I was like what gave him the guts?

Oh because I'm friendly? Sighs guys sef.

Do I need to start looking all bossy with frowns everyday.
I simply replied after one hour. I want to believe u are drunk. Go back to sleep.

He resumed work looking so uncomfortable. I called him to my office, and I said with a stony face, I knew u were drunk last night. He wanted to reply, I quickly said eshhhh! Not a word. Just listen.
I'm the boss here. I'm your boss. I don't allow any form of love relationship between I and anyone working here. No matter how nice I behave with anyone and wit u. Let this be the last time u text this nonsense to me. I don't like it. I don't mix business with pleasure. Never I don't.
Understood!

He replied yes ma!
I nod my head good! U can go back to your desk.

Op Op Op... Hope you have updated your cv cos you will definitely need it soonest. Oniranu

iphi:
I just want to jokingly ask her, if I see its getting interesting I will and focus on a real relationship with her

Don't try it. You can take her out 2day and blow her mind. But after today cut all ties and go back to your normal duty. It throws them off balance and puts you in control. Relationship discussions should be avoided....

iphi:
I summoned courage to call her just to ask her what was going on in the hospital turned out she was in the O.R, that was why she replied late... Ladies and gentlemen of this humble nairaland Romance section I'm glad to announce to you that she gave me 1 hour tomorrow, turned out she has a date already but she said during break we could go out and grab lunch before her date in the evening... My brothers and sisters this is a win for me...

Congrats man. Life itself is full of risk.

This reminds me of a certain year, I had this superior and I liked everything about her.
I have complemented her a lot and she is always positive about it.
So on her birthday, I planned to shoot my shot. Came to Nairaland and my people advised me against it. Some said I should look for another job but hey, I am a contract staff and I knew she will likely experience a brick wall trying to oust me.
With shaking body I went to her office and called her out in the midst of other employees.
I told her I plan hosting her in my house lol
She said why my house, I was like ha and kept shut. She told me she preferred a hotel but I told her I haven't done a hotel thing before and she was like you can try it for the first time.
Although she later refused after some days because I was not around on that her day again and when I came back I told her " Hey Quality I wasn't around but I can take you out today" She looked at me and hey DID YOU ACTUALLY THOUGHT I WOULD GO OUT WITH YOU? I almost dropped death and sink in while she walked away. The following I called her to sit down and she did but fear made me lost words so we sat gazing one another then she left. We were just good at the work premises and I still do love her till now but things are just left that way plus she resigned when she was transfered to Lagos as a branch manager.
Though office romance is a no no for me except fling on coded level but it still brews jealousy when she sees you with other girls or when you see her with other boys.

Congrats again dude.

iphi:
if its sex I want I meet patients everyday I can easily convert one... This fire inside for her is different...

Hmmm. Let me Give you my well earned verdict as a VETERAN!
. I BEG everyone to Read, and Comment on my responses, especially my closing remarks.

I am writing for every other guy in Europe or Overseas to understand that bosses and bosses.
If you have any shade of doubt put yourself in the position of a BOSS.

If that doesn't help imagine you are the overall Boss, and silently watching the juniors (this lover boy and his superior colleague) carry on flirtatious comedy in the 'workspace'. ..... You will naturally perceive that your first reaction will be "I hope these ones don't plan to wreck the relative courteous and VERY professional atmosphere here at work". The reasons are obvious to a fool.... Everyone and their mother knows how most work romances end!

There is an unspoken code, and heck you may even find it clearly written in the code of ethics for the work place that workers romance is not to be encouraged.. (i did not say forbidden). What happens is that only those who are thoroughly successful in these unwritten codes get to the very Top of Management. Bro trust me the Ultimate Bosses are watching closely. Also, I can even hazard a guess that if this sweet 'oyinbo sort of' girl is truly sooo wonderful, her mates or her bosses also have an eye or finger on her. Truth be told, they may be hindered by unwritten work ethics or codes.. and here you are upsetting the applecart like a "Hero" get a Brain son!

Even a gangster understands the code of don't shit where you eat... cos you are feeling pressed to shit on the table.
I call it the TABLE because what you do in the workplace affect many others and not just you, you can believe me or not.

And hey, you must be a serious dog you know! And probably Nigeria is not out of your system, so i understand why folks just saying Village People are calling you.

REASON lies in your response below....

iphi:
if its sex I want I meet patients everyday I can easily convert one... This fire inside for her is different...

What the F! Are you Totally Crazy?.... You must be.
You should never never ever think of your Patients SEXUALLY!
Please this sort of means your headspace is all messed up and many were here thinking you were a sort of decent guy. If they catch you preying on patients and that kind of shit they will fire your ass and seize your license. Even if its an unwritten code, the doctors and your superiors will surely feeling you are a serious risk

iphi:
I like a lady and she turns out to be my boss it has absolutely nothing to do with sex buddy, I have genuine intentions

What intentions bro?

After all said and done, the matter or "romance" most times defies normal intelligence. Gangs, States, Associations, Nations and Empires have gone to war over matters of romance so I am never surprised by what the emotional drive does to people.


Okay, since you've no sence and insisted on going thru with this trainwreck in the making lets discuss your stupid approach...


A lot of young women work with me, and after a long while i realised that somehow i don't see them as human beings... i see them as robots. That is being a professional.

The girl you speak of probably doesn't have a real romantic date later today, but you talked to her like trash already when you referred to you being a . second option. No decent professional will allow another colleague, junior or senior look at her as unfit, and you used a word referring to her as second class.

iphi:
I can't tell you exactly what I sent to her, but it was something like this... Hello J, how are you? blah blah blah... I saw your WhatsApp story, just incase they still don't know your worth I can be the back up date.. Lol.. I know this awesome Chinese restaurant where you will be served your favourite, or I could just order it if you want... Blah blah blah.... Joking something

You could have said, hey join me and do something different for Vals day... i am going to see some sick or poor or homeless people... This would have raised your persona and after an emotional visit she would have suggested getting warm with coffee and damn she would have kissed you first without feeling under pressure about statuses because you've moved her into an entirely different headspace. She wont be ashamed to tell or be told upon because what else do you do to a guy who is so selfless ..right?

Anyway, pull back and get out if possible. If not, its called life cos it happens and yep she still could be your future wife but dont keep doing crap like this or your future colleague turned wife may never believe you when you say a work meeting/ relationship/trip or visit is "simply work!!"

Psyched Out!

Please go ahead and give it a try. You might be surprised that she has been waiting for you to make the move. Even if she doesn't, at least you have cleared your doubts. Happy Valentine.

iphi:
My boss posted on her WhatsApp story "Who will be my Val" and other series of messages concerning taking her out for Val.

I'm older than her and she respects me, deep down I really like her, I don't know if I should ask her playfully, we chat a lot. I tease her a little bit when she posts a picture that is not fine and we laugh over it.

I want to tell her if she is unsuccessful in her search for a date I can be her back up plan. I don't know if it's a good idea to tell her that. I need honest and matured opinions please.

LilMissFavvy:
I cannot understand why a woman should be rude, a yes/no is not too hard a reply. If you are very sure you like her, go ahead, but if you want a mere fling or casual friendship, keep off.

Maybe you are not a woman, there is no body more wicked and heartless than a woman in position, if they frustrate you, there is no begging, there is no sympathy they go all in. (Imagine sacking someone for sometime that is not yet confirmed and arresting the person as well, I mean, come on)

Even women don't want to work with a woman in power, they know themselves, there is a more likely chance that you will get help from a man! If you take a sample of 100 women in power, hardly will you find 2 that is sympathetic or have human feeling, they will unload all their life frustration on you.

iphi:
My boss posted on her WhatsApp story "Who will be my Val" and other series of messages concerning taking her out for Val.

I'm older than her and she respects me, deep down I really like her, I don't know if I should ask her playfully, we chat a lot. I tease her a little bit when she posts a picture that is not fine and we laugh over it.

I want to tell her if she is unsuccessful in her search for a date I can be her back up plan. I don't know if it's a good idea to tell her that. I need honest and matured opinions please.

YESSSSSILY!!!!!

COS UR LACK THE DEFINITION OF WHAT VALENTINE IS ALL ABOUT

Remember to come give us the final final gist, it could help a life here
All the best

Openbusiness:

Unless you are Denzel Washington or Anthony Joshua, abort mission

I love Danzel. The best American actor of all time for me.

Anyways, I see no reason why the op shouldn't take his shot if he is serious. If he plays it right, I see him doing an Idris Elba in the movie DADDY'S LITTLE GIRLS.

Una get mind oh..
Don't let the season take out your reasons.

Omoapena:

Don’t ask her directly,
Just reply to same status that you are in same shoe and you so wish to have a Val date.
Her reply would tell if you should go on and ask her out...

Naaa, not the best of replies. Looks desperate and pitiful. When going for a woman above your class, you need to show confidence and charm.

JasonScoolari:
I equally want to do same with my boss, but I am scared.... She lost her boyfriend recently to a fatal motor accident, just wanna take her out tomorrow just to make her feel relaxed but...... Hmmmm!!!

How far bro , did you ask her ?

louiziana:


Say no to group dates.

it is not entirely a group date. it is a hangout among people at work. after that,
you can walk her home