Op pls to you, you think you have hit jackpot. Woman no be toy baby o. No matter how beautiful and inte'ligent she is .... She is still a woman full of emotions . You obviously derailing her life with this pregnancy and her plans are cut short. She doesnt think you are the ideal man for her and thisnpregnacy is forcing her to face the worst reality of her life.

One thing i have learnt about intelligent girls is that, you must be rich, very intelligent ( enough to counter their argument) before they can see you as equals..


Op this is a very bumpy ride. I pray God grant you the strenght.. The girls is not realy proud of you because she knows how the future is bleak having a child with an unmemployed father at church early age... Seems she doesnt want ýour opinon.

Am not adding the anger complaint...Seems you are a cool headed guy.... This one no Jackpot oh.... those your friend and mother inlaw that you are listening soon blame u.

Diligentnigga:
Good morning Nairalanders, I will make this as short as possible and please don't mind my punctuation as I am typing this in a rush

I am a graduate, though unemployed but doing one or two menial jobs to keep mind and soul together

I have this girlfriend I have been dating for almost two years now. We both love each other but the issue at hand is she's a stubborn, anger driven person that insults my parents. In fact hit me sometimes and says all manner of words at me.

Of recent, I found out she's pregnant this February. Now the issue is she's a finalist in the University as she will be serving this year October, but we had plans of not doing abortion but she's so ashamed of everything and just irrational and saying all manners like what people will say this and that, and I have told her I will stay by her through everything. I informed my mum and my immediate siblings about the pregnancy, they were angry but they were like it's fine sha since she's loved in the family

Now the issue is
1 She's very stubborn
2 she insults my parents at every small argument
3 she's anger driven, yes am anger driven to an extent also but I have never used my anger to do stupid things like hitting her before compare to many times she has Slapped, locked my shirt and punched me.
4 we had an issue last night and it was in public and she was just shouting at me, passers by and onlookers were just amused that why would a lady be like this that she now had to take a big stone and throw at me, though I dodged the stone all because i was gearing her to let's leave the public scene and go home
5 A baby is on the line cos she's pregnant and even if you will advise me to leave the relationship as it's toxic, what about the unborn child.
6 I am currently unemployed and in fact am still at home not yet balanced up well enough, but she has used nags to kill me, saying all manners at me

All insults are welcomed. Please I am in die need of advise thank you.

May you not let you die of high BP, because Bros you are going towards that direction, but why be with a woman who has such an attitude? Na this type go stab you for night ooo, run as far as your leg would take you.

This boy so,all this thing wey una dey talk,him go marry the girl later come they regret....still remember all una advice......misery Love

Kiddllc:

She will change probably with a knife in ur bleeding heart while u are fast asleep.. Better wise up and get out of that bondage

If the Op was my son I would disown him for his foolishness!!!!!!!

If u want better results, make better choices. .

Officialgarri:
Your girlfriend/potential killer only went to school but she isn't educated.

Stay by her till she delivers of the baby, then tell her why you can no longer stay in such an abusive relationship.

However, I doubt if you will be alive by the time she gives birth in jail

Ardar:
Oga you've not told us what you did to that girl, nobody will just start screaming at you without been provoked. She's probably frustrated with the burden of school plus the pregnancy hormones.

We need to hear from the girl too.

This kid should just shut up. Must you comment?

I will advise u when she finally stabs u. Idiat

There are always two sides to every story/write ups..Nonetheless, with what have read so far, You need to take care of that kid since you are ready to take up the responsibilities, But don't ever think someone with anger issues will change they just learn how manage it when they need something. Just work on giving your kid the best.. Switch to someone better... Don't make that mistake that she will change after marriage... As we don't really change we just become the better version of what we use to be...Peace

Run for your dear life, but take care of the pregnancy.

Becareful !!! Many have gone

She will kill everything in you,I meant any progressive mode,will be killed by her anger..You are a dead man walking corpse in quick advance if you didn't run for your safety..

toyobillz:
She is mad because she got pregnant for a broke dude.

Bro japa no oo.

Why are there more stupid and foolish people on Nairaland? Guy must you comment?

Diligentnigga:


Thanks alot

Yes u are right shes preety and intelligent a 4pointer cgpa in school even at that

I have informed her family about this though
Her mum has always been d one advising me on how to treat her when shes angry that she knows her too

i shield some of her insults of my parents from my family so they won't hate her

The most important thing a man seek from a woman is PEACE OF MIND, is NEITHER beauty nor intelligence.

Diligentnigga:
Good morning Nairalanders, I will make this as short as possible and please don't mind my punctuation as I am typing this in a rush

I am a graduate, though unemployed but doing one or two menial jobs to keep mind and soul together

I have this girlfriend I have been dating for almost two years now. We both love each other but the issue at hand is she's a stubborn, anger driven person that insults my parents. In fact hit me sometimes and says all manner of words at me.

Of recent, I found out she's pregnant this February. Now the issue is she's a finalist in the University as she will be serving this year October, but we had plans of not doing abortion but she's so ashamed of everything and just irrational and saying all manners like what people will say this and that, and I have told her I will stay by her through everything. I informed my mum and my immediate siblings about the pregnancy, they were angry but they were like it's fine sha since she's loved in the family

Now the issue is
1 She's very stubborn
2 she insults my parents at every small argument
3 she's anger driven, yes am anger driven to an extent also but I have never used my anger to do stupid things like hitting her before compare to many times she has Slapped, locked my shirt and punched me.
4 we had an issue last night and it was in public and she was just shouting at me, passers by and onlookers were just amused that why would a lady be like this that she now had to take a big stone and throw at me, though I dodged the stone all because i was gearing her to let's leave the public scene and go home
5 A baby is on the line cos she's pregnant and even if you will advise me to leave the relationship as it's toxic, what about the unborn child.
6 I am currently unemployed and in fact am still at home not yet balanced up well enough, but she has used nags to kill me, saying all manners at me

All insults are welcomed. Please I am in die need of advise thank you.

Look man, you are in the season of planning your life, the trajectory of your life is dependent on this season. You don't need this drama. You are clearly not prepared to make a commitment to this lady, you can barely take care of yourself not to talk of a woman and a child, you ought to be more responsible.

I greet u.
Dey careful nai I go tell u
Without finance u plan nothing!

Originalsly:


.... you are not responsible for the pregnancy.

u have a point ..he might not even be responsible for it..maybe the real guy responsible for it refused accepting the pregnancy hence she had no choice than to pin it on op since op is a calm gentle guy .i am even suspecting her frustration and anger comes from the fact that the main guy refused the pregnancy and she is transfering the agression to op.some girls are like that.

Davash222:

Don't listen to her mum. She will try to conjole you, but please be steadfast. Don't even think of marrying such girl, for your safety and sanity.

Her mum will be on her daughter's side what does he expect advice him to leave her daughter?. The OP non just wise.

Liamm:
actually dare sir

Bros it's dire. I hate what I don't like

@OP U are a useless GIRL

scaramucci:


I swear, dare is what I meant to type.

Don't mind the psychopath, he actually edited it, like I just did.

Diligentnigga:


Bro am just fedup,, her mum has even apologized her on her behalf and warned her to stop insulting my parents

Her mum complained several times about that she knows an coping and going through alot that i should be a man and be calm and understand her

You are On Your Own (OYO)

proclinician:


Oga ur imes or obatala no de cum again?

Man you got me laughing

Op

Davash222:
No be every woman wey get belle for man dem marry.
Never marry such woman!
She's carrying your child, no doubt, but please don't marry that girl out of pity.
She'll be kind, caring and loving to you from now henceforth, but, please don't fall for all these gimmicks.
If you truly value your life, don't marry that girl!

You said it all

@ Op. If she can insult your parent now without pride price. Tomorrow will be terrible.

SHE IS STUPID BECOS SHE IS PREGNANT FOR A JOBLESS GUY

3 she's anger driven, yes am anger driven to an extent also but I have never used my anger to do stupid things like hitting her before compare to many times she has Slapped, locked my shirt and punched me

You have been warned.

Diligentnigga:


I saw it ooo.
But people are always like she will change infact her mum likes me alot and she has even been d driving factor to me believing she will change

wait bro pls would the mother tell you she won't change? they say the devil you know is better than the angel you just meet, but devil wey persom don dey sure say fit kill person nah to run for am. Man up plan how to take care of your child when born.

Oboy u are adding to your problem when u died we will just post rest in peace in abbreviation not in full as I wrote here self. Be forewarned.

The only advise I can give u is to let the girl give birth. After seven month collect the baby and give the baby to ur parent . U can't marry d girl o otherwise she will send u to early grave .May God help u out.

Nooil:


You were the one who brought out the beast in her. What's her birth date let me see if I can give you the best solution to calm her.

December 15

Your stubnorn pregnant *girlfriend* slap you and insult your mother and you still come here to called her your girlfriend I don't get it.

Young man if you are still dating her pls just gerrah outta here and never you disturbs us here with your weaklink man in a woman body ok.

You upset me by still referring to her as your girlfriend. Cant advise youth like you.

Good day.