DesChyko:


Just some quick question.. How many cocks have you seen raising chicks? Or billy goats have you seen rearing kids? Or Lions have you seen weaning cubs?

Man is very intelligent, so intelligent that he begins to turn things upside down just for the sake of doing that.

But you know how they say in Igbo land, 'Aruruala gbaa afo, o buru zie omenala'. Be fashionable all you want, use the best gadgets as you like, you, like all others like you, remain animals subject to nature.

That is why I have told you people mentioning Apes, Chickens, Goats and Lions to find one and marry. Since they make such great wives and mothers for African men.

If you are man and you read this thread, I think you have gained some lessons about women, now go and act wise.

seunak2016:
so because children bear father names means what?apart from bearing father name ,let me tell you because you are kid, woman enjoy children more than father. the truth is before they give their father anything, they must have given their mother a lot. do your research on that and confirm. May God help all those father too.

Why are you men running away from this enjoyment you speak of?
Raise your kids and enjoy too like women. Abi, are you people allergic to enjoyment?

Kennedyiheme02:
kill yourself, you are our slaves

Finally, a man wey sabi .

elektra:


That is why I have told you people mentioning Apes, Chickens, Goats and Lions to find one and marry. They make the best wives and mothers for African men.

We'll be here to remind you the day you will embrace the title.

silibaba:


you must be from a broken home or raised by a single mother or father

LOL.
On the contrary, I was raised by my married mummy and daddy.

But if my mother ever left my dad, there was no way my father would have let her take us with her. Hell no. He would have kept us and raised us because we are his kids bearing his name.
Unlike majority of the men on this thread that are so used to women doing the heavy lifting. They are so used to the deadbeatness around them that they have no grasp of what it means to actually head your family.
That is why even the mere thought of raising their kids has them frothing at the mouth.

taylor89:
Such is life bro


After what I went through years back from a horrible ex I came to a conclusion that it's only ur parents and siblings that truly loves u genuinely that's why I can never trade their love for a pvssy I don't know its next benefactor


Life is so unfair, these kind of adulterous women hardly contact HIV, but cool dude that has been celibate for years now will just hit one night stand now, Boom HIV go show himself

BigJoe19:
I don't care what she does. I have paid her off, she has no right to the kids anymore.

Then, you don't have a babymama, you had a surrogate which most Nigerian men cannot afford.

Xisnin:

Then, you don't have a babymama, you had a surrogate which most Nigerian men cannot afford.

Ok.

Inside life

BigJoe19:
Stop creating scenarios, we are only working with what the OP gave us.

We normally make scenarios for women, because men are going through a lot, right? And women are all cheats and money grabbers, right? It's only fair to have these scenarios, because we don't know the other side of the story. Until we hear the woman's side of the story, it's not truth from the Op. You know how men like to make things up to gain the sympathy of the masses. They're emotional.

Some comments here dry shock me. I'm a mother and no matter how bad it gets, my kid goes with me..

Ganjafama:
I have seen a mother ape risk her life to save her baby's life from the bullet of my uncle who is a hunter. I quietly whispered to him not to shoot her. If an ape could be so motherly not to abandon her baby, why can't a human do more?. Again look at the language you used "bloody kids" - so unwomanly.

Thanks for pointing that out to the block head. She is the type that makes me thank God am still single. We men should be proactive in the taking care of our kids I support that but abandonding children when death is not involve is totally unacceptable to me. Thanks so much.

No wonder his wife left him.
Of all places he could his children to for a shelter is a a motel. What happened to his own relatives , even if none of them is the city he can still take them to the village.
Talking about the wife not taking the kids to her parents , he can still take the kids to the wife's parents or relatives if only he was a good husband.

There was this guy , in my area when he lost his wife , he took his three children to his in-law and they rejected them saying that if they accept the kids he won't care for their up bringing the reason is that the mother in-law is old so can't take care of them all alone and the guy is a drug addict.
So his sister took the children with her , after 2months she lost the youngest one cause just six months , not quite long again she lost the second one.

The funny part is that the idiot does not care about them even when they are sick.Anytime he is sick that is the only time he remembers his sister but immediately he is ok , you won't see him again.

He died on 23rd of December last year of kidney failure after been warned severally by doctors to stop those drugs. Now the sister will be the one to take full responsibility , someone that can berely survived by two square meal.
Imagine what would have happened to that child if you were a phidaephile . Advice him to take those kids like away from there first please .

Lovelypet28:

Am very sure she has a deep hatred for your dad, am very she would cane you guys excessively out of frustration, am very sure there were nights she cried, over what? penis? MBA
See we are not ready for that, I should endure a bad marriage of over 40 years, that's even more I would have stayed with my parents.
You men scream endurance all the time, but you cant take even 1/3rd of what you dish out.
If una no wan marry, loneliness go deal with una for old age.

.all she has for us is love and affection. she endured for more than 20 years till my dad died.all we are basing for is a little bit of endurance just for the sake of the children. no relative or step mom or any woman can take care of the kids like their biological mom.i am married already already to a wonderful woman who in all honesty is enduring with me.i will still maintain that there are few good ones so all hope is not lost yet for the unmarried ones.just make sure u recognise one when u see her

OcVoice:


Women are very good at pretending! She could be displaying the character of a virtuous woman while courting. You can't know these things completely. It's only God that gives a good partner.

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If u don't have the habit of lying to yourself, you can see through pretense. By their fruits you shall know them. By the way they dress, talk, behaves etc, you will know them.

wengerman:
.all she has for us is love and affection. she endured for more than 20 years till my dad died.all we are basing for is a little bit of endurance just for the sake of the children. no relative or step mom or any woman can take care of the kids like their biological mom.i am married already already to a wonderful woman who in all honesty is enduring with me.i will still maintain that there are few good ones so allhope is not lost yet for the unmarried ones.just make sure u recognise one when u see her

oshheeey.... baddest

and the abuse and suffering continues
from generation to the next

marriage is meant to be enjoyed oga and not endured
that was the essence of the institution in the first place

it's not every woman that has a bad damaging self-esteem to put up with every thrash in the name of marriage. some women will pack up and leave, different strokes for different folks

the women in your life can keep on enduring sha__their path, their destiny

fg

OcVoice:
An older friend, who could pass as a dad to me owns a bar and few a letout rooms for short sex or even a day booking.

He recently travelled to see his children abroad and asked me to come assist his wife once a while after work/hustle.

The first scenario:
I was there yesterday and I noticed a man in his 60's and a woman in her 50's, drinking and eating together. Their language was of the Eastern and I understood correctly.

After having some bottles, the woman talked about her husband who was on a business trip and her grown up children at the university and all. She locked her shop to come be with the man.

The man also talked about his wife in the village for a function and grown up children bla bla bla!

The shock:
The man was obviously trying to ask her out.....then she immediately told him that she wouldn't be interested in that. The man now asked what she wants and she said they should be fvck buddies. She said: "Any time my husband is away, I'll call u. "We would come here, drink and fvck well"
The man accepted and they booked an hour and went into a room!
Even though they are older and had grown up children, I still don't like adultery!

2nd scenario:

I noticed this last week.

I saw 2 beautiful kids, a boy (about 4 years) and a girl (about 2 years) playing inside the bar. I asked my friend's wife and she said one of her customer had issues with his wife and the wife left him with the kids.

From her story, the guy use to work and provide for his family, till he lost his job and the wife couldn't cope with the hardship. She abandoned her kids and went away with a rich alhaji. This guy has been taking care of the kids....bathing and feeding them, taking them to school and bringing them back, cleaning poos, etc. His rent expired and the landlord sent him packing forcefully, after some months. The reason he stays in the bar in the mean time.

Around 8pm that day, while he was out hustling, I saw the girl sleeping in an uncomfortable manner; hitting her head on the table while she dozed off, and I just thought to myself while carrying her on my arms so she could sleep well; she's innocent. She didn't bring herself to this world. She should be on bed sleeping now. She obviously hadn't had dinner.

Why would a woman abandon her own kids? Even if u don't want the man, can't u take your kids to your parents or even siblings and look after them? Where is the love? Is marriage not in good times and in bad times anymore? I had to shed tears while pondering! I was told the man had no one in the city.

I waited till he came back and I spoke with him. He told me the same. I felt so sorry for him. He was looking so tired and stressed. I can't do more than supporting him financially with the little I can.

This has really been disturbing me. Pls ladies, if you know you're not ready to suffer with your man when things gets tough for him, don't bother going into marriage! Don't even bother. A rich man today could be poor tomorrow. Life happens....it might not be his making! Life is not always Rosy!

Our mothers suffered with our fathers when the going was tough, why can't we emulate it?

It's only the lazy, heart less and unorganised woman would leave her children with her husband and pack away

If you want to leave your marriage, take your children away, they are the only thing that you have from the failed marriage

Ybaby:


The patrichiahy caused it. Our grandfathers and fathers and today's men caused it. Women are angry and have signed out. Today's men are in trouble but they only have themselves to blame. It is the kids my heart goes out to.

A woman carries a child for 9 months, breastfeed the child and nurtures the child, gives the child your name, changes her name to your name and you cannot pay the rent alone you are asking her for half of the rent. Men have really eaten the whole pie and now women have kuku broken the table too.

I dont pity the men o but my heart goes out to the kids. 85% of cheating is being done by women now unlike before women were faithful. Men have really dropped it and .....

Bullshiittt.

Today's men aren't in any trouble. Men will always adapt like they are already doing in the west with mgtow. We'll just go our ways if your craze too much. Let's see which gender needs the other the most

Xisnin:

It is no one's fault if you get dumped at a motherless home.

You create senseless threads to bash women every day.
You call them useless in marriage while you believe you are superman.
When they now decide to walk your talk, you start crying for attention.
Some women have realized that it is not worth it to sacrifice their life just for
you to be happy that is why no one is condemning the woman for doing what is best for herself.
If you want kids, be ready to babysit.

The age of emotional blackmail is over.

Lol, who da fvck is crying for attention. Mine is just to point out how much of cvnts women really are. They should stop taking the credit they do not deserve.
Both genders are equally mean.

Ladycewhy:
lol if we should take a cencus of cold hearted dead beat fathers I am sure you will be overwhelmed by the figures . You men just can't take what you dish. What else will you say again? Oh women are devils women are the reason the sun is too hot , women are the reason for Corona virus .

Las Las una go dey alright,this is the modern world ,if you want to continue with the old dynamics ,go sit in the grave with your forefathers ,ain't no more slave and master relationship,what is good for the goose is good for the gander .


Shey he will be the one to collect bride price in the future,well let him work for it now while they are young ,that "whole abandon kids come back when they are grown to reap where you did not sow and collect bride price" is so played out,I guess the lady wanted to change the narrative,

I'm perfectly fine sweetheart, thanks.

BigJoe19:
Wrong. Life won't be hell for man, infact it will bring freedom to mankind, the only thing women have over men is sex and masturbation has come to replace it. I have a babymama and two children and I must say I am living the best of my life. I have no need for a woman again!!!

You've probably done the right thing for you.
You were only able to do this because you're financially able to.
Contrary to popular beliefs, it seems more women contribute financially in their homes than men otherwise most children won't be allowed to go with their mothers when things fall apart.
We see how Churchill is fighting tooth and nail for his son, we saw the way Babangida's son fought for his children with the ex wife, we see how Emeka Ike grabbed all his children from his wife.
However, single mothers doing it all alone far exceeds the number of men who do.
To those shouting in outrage that a woman left her children behind:
I really believe the most capable parent should raise the children, and not necessarily the woman.
It's the normal thing for fathers to also raise their children, but it seems it's only the black race that has a problem with this. Other races will do everything to have access to their children, infact complete custody but here we are arguing that a woman should have complete custody of her children and a father shouldn't have that privilege.
It's a joy to instill your principles, values on your progeny despite the challenges of raising them.
Life in itself is not a smooth ride, and it's time for many men to face their fears of directly raising their children, and conquering those fears.
Women have done it for centuries, some other men are doing it gallantly too. It can be done. You don't need the brain of Einstein , nor the experience of Metuselah. You learn along the way, just as the woman too would. Nothing special when a woman raises a child except for breastfeeding in the first year (maximum). The child will get nourishment, but after that a man can comfortably raise the child. Even without breastfeeding, it can be done with formula, and the child less than 1year would still thrive under its father.
BigJoe19: Please, kindly share with other men on here practical steps you take to raise your children, and how you cope doing so. It might go a long way to dispel the special magic people think they need to raise their own children.

Arsenate:

I'm perfectly fine sweetheart, thanks.

good to know darling.

Lovelypet28:

Your ex was a BITCH, am not sorry, OMG, she lost a good guy because of greed, she definitely doesn't deserve you.
Am sorry you had to meet the worst of the worst, well her background had a role to play, almost date pple in your class, unfortunately the situation of the country has a lot to play where marriage is seen as a poverty alleviation programme. Keep searching you will see a better person.

almost date pple in your class,


Why the above statement?.. IF we all date people in our social class, how then will people migrate to higher class?.. So the rich should marry the rich and the poor should marry the poor?.. That's not right

frozen70:


It's only the lazy, heart less and unorganised woman would leave her children with her husband and pack away

If you want to leave your marriage, take your children away, they are the only thing that you have from the failed marriage

So what about the man, what does he get from the failed marriage?

It’s so funny how you can seat in your high horse and call a woman lazy, heartless and unorganized without even knowing her story.

Mstick:



So what about the man, what does he get from the failed marriage?

It’s so funny how you can seat in your high horse and call a woman lazy, heartless and unorganized without even knowing her story.

My dear those kids would grow to hate their mother. I'm talking from experience.. No matter the story no matter the situation, unless death. This selfish action would destroy those kids. It took me a decade to get over my mums action.

Rittysylvia:



My dear those kids would grow to hate their mother. I'm talking from experience.. No matter the story no matter the situation, unless death. This selfish action would destroy those kids. It took me a decade to get over my mums action.

WHAT about their father? No hatred for him for not doing the needful.
Lets stop making excuses here
This is a selective emotional blackmail societies uses to continue producing deadbeat dads. We are not animals that donate sperms for procreation and run. We are homo-sapiens and rearing of kids by both parents are one of the things that distinguished us from lesser animals.

Theyoungmatron:

WHAT about their father? No hatred for him for not doing the needful.
Lets stop making excuses here
This is a selective emotional blackmail societies uses to continue producing deadbeat dads. We are not animals that donate sperms for procreation and run. We are homo-sapiens and rearing of kids by both parents are one of the things that distinguished us from lesser animals.

My dear like I said I'm talking out of experience. When mum left dad didn't even treat us better, I was 10 and had a 3yr lil one to take care of. Evry experiences I had I blamed my mother. Only if you have experienced you would understand. My elder brother doesn't even communicate with my mum and I know how much hate he has for her. Mum on the other and, I feel for her. But the nothing is enuf reason to leave your kids. I'm not saying she should have endured. No leave the man and don't leave your Kids behind. It messes them up.

Rittysylvia:


My dear like I said I'm talking out of experience. When mum left dad didn't even treat us better, I was 10 and had a 3yr lil one to take care of. Evry experiences I had I blamed my mother. Only if you have experienced you would understand. My elder brother doesn't even communicate with my mum and I know how much hate he has for her. Mum on the other and, I feel for her. But the nothing is enuf reason to leave your kids. I'm not saying she should have endured. No leave the man and don't leave your Kids behind. It messes them up.

I do not advocate for mothers to leave their children and I, also do not advocate for men to be exonerated for willingly shifting their responsibilities to women. This attitude is rampant in black culture where women are forced to adopt a role of pseudo-matriarchs because most men are not willing to be fathers and leaders in their households. Check out the current trends of baby-mamas. Very rampant in black culture.

Mstick:



So what about the man, what does he get from the failed marriage?

It’s so funny how you can seat in your high horse and call a woman lazy, heartless and unorganized without even knowing her story.

You got it wrong

If a woman wants to pull out of marriage, she should go with her children if any

But a woman who is depending on her man alone for everything won't be able to take the kids alone

Is she not lazy ❓

SpecialAgent:


Not all sha, You will hardly see brothers personally kill each other unlike couples way go kolo for one night, in a twisted sense of love starb his/her partner to death

U haven't seen blood against each other?
Or u haven't seen blood kill each other??