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Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by TheArchangel(f): 7:31pm On Feb 13
Deandean:

I'm sorry but u are very stupid...very very stupid...if u had said these b4 me,i definitely would av hit ur mouth...
Hit and rot in jail.

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Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by nahzyla: 7:48pm On Feb 13
All this back and forth arguments over a thread of lies

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Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by proclinician: 7:56pm On Feb 13
elektra:
The only time cheating bothers men is when it is a woman doing it.
Look at this OP, he is not even the one being cheated on, but it worries him so much he had to open a thread about it.

The woman left the kids for her husband. Who should she have left them for? Are the kids not bearing the man’s name?
There are many women tired from raising kids by themselves, have you ever noticed anyone of them? The moment you see one man raising his kids you come to open thread.
You men should get used to raising your own bloody kids.

Stupid woman. I wonder the sins your unborn kids must have committed or will commit that will make God send them a punishment like you as their mother. Nonsense

Men should raise their bloody kids becauee it is not you that bore them for 9 months.

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Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by Hisduchess(f): 7:57pm On Feb 13
elektra:


Go and marry the Ape.

grin grin grin grin.this one off me oooo.mad response

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Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by Hisduchess(f): 7:57pm On Feb 13
nahzyla:
All this back and forth arguments over a thread of lies

Very big lies ooo

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Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by nahzyla: 8:01pm On Feb 13
Hisduchess:


Very big lies ooo

I just tire

One frustrated man will just get up and tell lies to bash women and his fellow bitter men will jump in happily to release pent up hatred for women.


The way men are so quick to attack women online you'd think they are saints or something.

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Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by Hisduchess(f): 8:08pm On Feb 13
Kaycee54321:
Second scenario is the reason why I will never marry if I don't have a certain level of cash flow and why I CAN NEVER marry a female who has nothing going on for herself... That crap about men taking care of a woman doesn't work on me

I earn, you earn, we care for each other, we raise a family together like a damn team...if e no work, na to kuku dey single... No be by force to born. Can't imagine bringing innocent babies to suffer.

I hope no one will claim head or call the other tail in this kind of your arrangement abi.if yes then that settles it.

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Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by Jman06(m): 8:46pm On Feb 13
Fountainofyouth:



Was the husband blind of that fact when he was busy flaunting and spending on her to have her to himself? He didn't think of alternatives in case the one he had finishes?
The man might be oblivious of the fact that she was there for the money

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Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by Kaycee54321(m): 8:50pm On Feb 13
Hisduchess:


I hope no one will claim head or call the other tail in this kind of your arrangement abi.if yes then that settles it.


Lol. That 'head' and 'tail' thing no be my fancy. It's very backward.

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Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by Jim99: 8:59pm On Feb 13
elektra:
The only time cheating bothers men is when it is a woman doing it.
Look at this OP, he is not even the one being cheated on, but it worries him so much he had to open a thread about it.

The woman left the kids for her husband. Who should she have left them for? Are the kids not bearing the man’s name?
There are many women tired from raising kids by themselves, have you ever noticed anyone of them? The moment you see one man raising his kids you come to open thread.
You men should get used to raising your own bloody kids.

I wish your husband could see this. So he knows who he married and be prepared

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Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by alexmakaay(m): 9:24pm On Feb 13
OcVoice:
An older friend, who could pass as a dad to me owns a bar and few a letout rooms for short s*x or even a day booking.

He recently travelled to see his children abroad and asked me to come assist his wife once a while after work/hustle.


The first scenario:
I was there yesterday and I noticed a man in his 60's and a woman in her 50's, drinking and eating together. Their language was of the Eastern and I understood correctly.

After having some bottles, the woman talked about her husband who was on a business trip and her grown up children at the university and all. She locked her shop to come be with the man.
The man also talked about his wife in the village for a function and grown up children bla bla bla!

The shock:

The man was obviously trying to ask her out.....then she immediately told him that she wouldn't be interested in that. The man now asked what she wants and she said they should be fvck buddies. She said: "Any time my husband is away, I'll call u. "We would come here, drink and fvck well"
The man accepted and they booked an hour and went into a room!
Even though they are older and had grown up children, I still don't like adultery!



2nd scenario:

I noticed this last week.

I saw 2 beautiful kids, a boy(about 4 years) and a girl(about 2 years) playing inside the bar. I asked my friend's wife and she said one of her customer had issues with his wife and the wife left him with the kids.
From her story, the guy use to work and provide for his family, till he lost his job and the wife couldn't cope with the hardship. She abandoned her kids and went away with a rich alhaji. This guy has been taking care of the kids....bathing and feeding them, taking them to school and bringing them back, cleaning poos, etc. His rent expired and the landlord sent him packing forcefully, after some months. The reason he stays in the bar in the mean time.

Around 8pm that day, while he was out hustling, I saw the girl sleeping in an uncomfortable manner; hitting her head on the table while she dozed off, and I just thought to myself while carrying her on my arms so she could sleep well; she's innocent. She didn't bring herself to this world. She should be on bed sleeping now. She obviously hadn't had dinner.

Why would a woman abandon her own kids? Even if u don't want the man, can't u take your kids to your parents or even siblings and look after them? Where is the love? Is marriage not in good times and in bad times anymore? I had to shed tears while pondering! I was told the man had no one in the city.
I waited till he came back and I spoke with him. He told me the same. I felt so sorry for him. He was looking so tired and stressed. I can't do more than supporting him financially with the little I can.

This has really been disturbing me. Pls ladies, if you know you're not ready to suffer with your man when things gets tough for him, don't bother going into marriage! Don't even bother. A rich man today could be poor tomorrow. Life happens....it might not be his making! Life is not always Rosy!

Our mothers suffered with our fathers when the going was tough, why can't we emulate it?



so you go there just to monitor people bah

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Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by Deandean: 9:36pm On Feb 13
TheArchangel:
Hit and rot in jail.

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Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by LadySarah(f): 9:45pm On Feb 13
OcVoice:


Raising children is the sole responsibility of both parents. Women are good at looking after and taking good care of children. That's why God made them as helps to men.
Par adventure she dies, the man can re-marry and allow another woman help him, so they can both take care of the children.

Marriage as I understand is for better, for worse. That he's facing challenges now doesn't mean it will end that way!

It is not right for a man to solely take care of his children. It is not also right for a woman. That's why a man and a woman need to take care of their children together, no matter the hardship that comes.

Can you abandon your kids with your husband because of hardship? Pls be factual.

Keep quiet!

The children are for both parents not for the woman's family. If she isn't around then the man should take care of them.
If she was around they'd still suffer financially or was it not rent that kept them outside.

The man should take care of his kids and stop blaming the woman or send them to his mother.

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Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by Arsenate(m): 9:53pm On Feb 13
Second story;

Women don't love their children like they pretend to do. Notice how none of the women on here criticized the woman for abandoning her children: because it's just what they'd do. Heck women don't love anyone but themselves.

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Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by Uyi168(m): 10:00pm On Feb 13
Arsenate:
Second story;

Women don't love their children like they pretend to do. Notice how none of the women on here criticized the woman for abandoning her children: because it's just what they'd do. Heck women don't love anyone but themselves.
..where did u get this lie from?

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Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by elektra(f): 10:01pm On Feb 13
Jim99:


I wish your husband could see this. So he knows who he married and be prepared

Don't worry. All of my future husbands will be informed. In the event of a divorce, they will get primary custody of the kids.

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Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by Arsenate(m): 10:04pm On Feb 13
Uyi168:
..where did u get this lie from?
From experience and observations. I refuse to swallow that bullshiiit "sweet mother I no go forget you ...bla bla bla"

Literally none of the ladies here empathize with those kids.

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Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by LadySarah(f): 10:04pm On Feb 13
Arsenate:
Second story;

Women don't love their children like they pretend to do. Notice how none of the women on here criticized the woman for abandoning her children: because it's just what they'd do. Heck women don't love anyone but themselves.

Focus on the problem Mr!
Was it the woman that ejected this man or stopped him from going to make provision for his kids?

Men blame women for everything.
Do you know that some children in Orphanages have living fathers who claimed they can't take care of them? The work you are claiming busy with, are their not mothers there?

Children need the love of their parents while one is absent the other should do it. We don't have two heads

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Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by Arsenate(m): 10:11pm On Feb 13
LadySarah:


Focus on the problem Mr!
Was it the woman that ejected this man or stopped him from going to make provision for his kids?

Men blame women for everything.
Do you know that some children in Orphanages have living fathers who claimed they can't take care of them? The work you are claiming busy with, are their not mothers there?

Children need the love of their parents while one is absent the other should do it. We don't have two heads



Women don't love their children like we were told. Obviously, if women have their way and things get rough like in this case, they'll abandon their kids without a second thought. I'm not angry or sad about that, I just want men to understand that and see women as the selfish and not-so empathetic gender that they are.

When you know someone is capable of disappointing you, you won't be heartbroken when they eventually do.

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Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by Hisduchess(f): 10:14pm On Feb 13
Kaycee54321:



Lol. That 'head' and 'tail' thing no be my fancy. It's very backward.

Ohhhh! That's cool.you and your wife will go far with this kinda mindset especially if you are going to marry a professional. jisie ike
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by Fountainofyouth(f): 10:16pm On Feb 13
Arsenate:
Second story;

Women don't love their children like they pretend to do. Notice how none of the women on here criticized the woman for abandoning her children: because it's just what they'd do. Heck women don't love anyone but themselves.

Arsenate:

From experience and observations. I refuse to swallow that bullshiiit "sweet mother I no go forget you ...bla bla bla"

Literally none of the ladies here empathize with those kids.


Shut da fvck up!!! Look around you and see many single mothers every where taking care of more than five kids SINGLEHANDEDLY, heaven did not fall, nobody bat an eyelid on the deadbeat dad because the usual slang these days is that "the children will look for me their father when they are grown", this particular woman did something rare by leaving the kids this time, all you could swallow is women love only themselves, smh!!!

Like it or not, those kids will one day grow up and look for their mother, love her, and sing "sweet mother". If you all dont like it, start killing yourselves one by one, rada rada.

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Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by LadySarah(f): 10:17pm On Feb 13
Arsenate:

Women don't love their children like we were told. Obviously, if women have their way and things get rough like in this case, they'll abandon their kids without a second thought. I'm not angry or sad about that, I just want men to understand that and see women as the selfish and not-so empathetic gender that they are.

When you know someone is capable of disappointing you, you won't be heartbroken when they eventually do.

Your opinion based on ur experience.
My mum loves me and I I turn love my kids. I don't support her leaving them but it has happened and women have suffered same fate even more yet they raise their kids without this bullshit story here.

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Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by Kaycee54321(m): 10:36pm On Feb 13
Hisduchess:


Ohhhh! That's cool.you and your wife will go far with this kinda mindset especially if you are going to marry a professional. jisie ike

Thanks Dear. Udo.

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Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by TiglathPILESER: 11:02pm On Feb 13
elektra:


Go and marry the Ape.
Paradventure life hits you or your descendants through the hands of any of those 'bloody kids' dont forget to say 'bloody criminal'. Correct yourself

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Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by BennyDGreat: 11:20pm On Feb 13
OcVoice:
An older friend, who could pass as a dad to me owns a bar and few a letout rooms for short s*x or even a day booking.

He recently travelled to see his children abroad and asked me to come assist his wife once a while after work/hustle.


The first scenario:
I was there yesterday and I noticed a man in his 60's and a woman in her 50's, drinking and eating together. Their language was of the Eastern and I understood correctly.

After having some bottles, the woman talked about her husband who was on a business trip and her grown up children at the university and all. She locked her shop to come be with the man.
The man also talked about his wife in the village for a function and grown up children bla bla bla!

The shock:

The man was obviously trying to ask her out.....then she immediately told him that she wouldn't be interested in that. The man now asked what she wants and she said they should be fvck buddies. She said: "Any time my husband is away, I'll call u. "We would come here, drink and fvck well"
The man accepted and they booked an hour and went into a room!
Even though they are older and had grown up children, I still don't like adultery!



2nd scenario:

I noticed this last week.

I saw 2 beautiful kids, a boy(about 4 years) and a girl(about 2 years) playing inside the bar. I asked my friend's wife and she said one of her customer had issues with his wife and the wife left him with the kids.
From her story, the guy use to work and provide for his family, till he lost his job and the wife couldn't cope with the hardship. She abandoned her kids and went away with a rich alhaji. This guy has been taking care of the kids....bathing and feeding them, taking them to school and bringing them back, cleaning poos, etc. His rent expired and the landlord sent him packing forcefully, after some months. The reason he stays in the bar in the mean time.

Around 8pm that day, while he was out hustling, I saw the girl sleeping in an uncomfortable manner; hitting her head on the table while she dozed off, and I just thought to myself while carrying her on my arms so she could sleep well; she's innocent. She didn't bring herself to this world. She should be on bed sleeping now. She obviously hadn't had dinner.

Why would a woman abandon her own kids? Even if u don't want the man, can't u take your kids to your parents or even siblings and look after them? Where is the love? Is marriage not in good times and in bad times anymore? I had to shed tears while pondering! I was told the man had no one in the city.
I waited till he came back and I spoke with him. He told me the same. I felt so sorry for him. He was looking so tired and stressed. I can't do more than supporting him financially with the little I can.

This has really been disturbing me. Pls ladies, if you know you're not ready to suffer with your man when things gets tough for him, don't bother going into marriage! Don't even bother. A rich man today could be poor tomorrow. Life happens....it might not be his making! Life is not always Rosy!

Our mothers suffered with our fathers when the going was tough, why can't we emulate it?


Chai Lord have mercy
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by greenmonk: 11:46pm On Feb 13
elektra:


Go and marry the Ape.

These are the type of females in our society now and when no man wants to marry her she'll resort to diabolical means to hook a man.

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Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by Luckysbab: 11:51pm On Feb 13
elektra:


Can you imagine?
These men truly believe the woman is responsible for raising the man's offspring. If the woman is indisposed, then her own family must step up and fill in for her. As if the kids are bearing the woman's name.
Meanwhile the men and their families will relax till the kids are grown before they come to claim the kids. Bunch of cowards.

When you have your own children, abandon them to their father and stop ranting about like someone deranged.

It's every issue that's men vs women to you these little girls with low IQ.

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Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by cococandy(f): 11:55pm On Feb 13
You noticed? cheesy
elektra:
The only time cheating bothers men is when it is a woman doing it.
Look at this OP, he is not even the one being cheated on, but it worries him so much he had to open a thread about it.

The woman left the kids for her husband. Who should she have left them for? Are the kids not bearing the man’s name?
There are many women tired from raising kids by themselves, have you ever noticed anyone of them? The moment you see one man raising his kids you come to open thread.
You men should get used to raising your own bloody kids.

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Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by elektra(f): 12:06am On Feb 14
greenmonk:


These are the type of females in our society now and when no man wants to marry her she'll resort to diabolical means to hook a man.

You men must think juju was created for you alone.

Man dies - wife must have killed him with juju.
Man marries - wife must have hooked him with juju.
Man love wife - wife must have put him in bottle.

You people don’t realize how ridiculous you sound?

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Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by eni4real(m): 12:14am On Feb 14
Nooil:


Abeg leave that thing. When men see beautiful women, they throw their brain into the ocean.

But one thing they don't know is that to keep a beautiful woman you have to be prepared to work all the days of your life even at old age.

If you don't do your job, another man (alhaji) will carry them sharp sharp. Let him go and look for work, at least the face of the fine kids should encourage him.
See entitlement ooo shocked shocked shocked shocked shocked
She must be the most beautiful lady in her village... undecided

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Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by We4all: 12:43am On Feb 14
Deandean:

I'm sorry but u are very stupid...very very stupid...if u had said these b4 me,i definitely would av hit ur mouth...

I'm sorry but u are very stupid...very very stupid..

Yeah, stupid enough to know that a 'stupid man' is quick to call another stupid, if he got nothing to say.


if u had said these b4 me,i definitely would av hit ur mouth...

And I wouldn't be surprised if you did that cos obviously, hitting people is the only stupid thing you are good at.

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Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by elektra(f): 12:50am On Feb 14
Luckysbab:


When you have your own children, abandon them to their father and stop ranting about like someone deranged.

It's every issue that's men vs women to you these little girls with low IQ.

I already said so myself. What else is new?
Why TF does the thought of raising your own kids trigger you people so much?

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