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Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by elektra(f): 7:55pm On Feb 17, 2020 |
DesChyko: That is why I have told you people mentioning Apes, Chickens, Goats and Lions to find one and marry. Since they make such great wives and mothers for African men. 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by BigJoe19: 7:56pm On Feb 17, 2020 |
If you are man and you read this thread, I think you have gained some lessons about women, now go and act wise. 1 Like |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by elektra(f): 7:59pm On Feb 17, 2020 |
seunak2016: Why are you men running away from this enjoyment you speak of? Raise your kids and enjoy too like women. Abi, are you people allergic to enjoyment? 10 Likes |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by elektra(f): 8:01pm On Feb 17, 2020 |
Kennedyiheme02: Finally, a man wey sabi . |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by DesChyko: 8:13pm On Feb 17, 2020 |
elektra: We'll be here to remind you the day you will embrace the title. 1 Like |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by elektra(f): 8:13pm On Feb 17, 2020 |
silibaba: LOL. On the contrary, I was raised by my married mummy and daddy. But if my mother ever left my dad, there was no way my father would have let her take us with her. Hell no. He would have kept us and raised us because we are his kids bearing his name. Unlike majority of the men on this thread that are so used to women doing the heavy lifting. They are so used to the deadbeatness around them that they have no grasp of what it means to actually head your family. That is why even the mere thought of raising their kids has them frothing at the mouth. 13 Likes |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by ACE1010: 8:18pm On Feb 17, 2020 |
taylor89: 1 Like |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by Xisnin(m): 8:37pm On Feb 17, 2020 |
BigJoe19:Then, you don't have a babymama, you had a surrogate which most Nigerian men cannot afford. 3 Likes |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by BigJoe19: 8:49pm On Feb 17, 2020 |
Xisnin:Ok. |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by mrdipye(m): 9:30pm On Feb 17, 2020 |
Inside life |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by BRATISLAVA: 9:33pm On Feb 17, 2020 |
BigJoe19: We normally make scenarios for women, because men are going through a lot, right? And women are all cheats and money grabbers, right? It's only fair to have these scenarios, because we don't know the other side of the story. Until we hear the woman's side of the story, it's not truth from the Op. You know how men like to make things up to gain the sympathy of the masses. They're emotional. 3 Likes |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by Rittysylvia(m): 9:43pm On Feb 17, 2020 |
Some comments here dry shock me. I'm a mother and no matter how bad it gets, my kid goes with me.. 6 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by kunletexs: 10:19pm On Feb 17, 2020 |
Ganjafama: Thanks for pointing that out to the block head. She is the type that makes me thank God am still single. We men should be proactive in the taking care of our kids I support that but abandonding children when death is not involve is totally unacceptable to me. Thanks so much. 1 Like |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by Exodora: 10:31pm On Feb 17, 2020 |
No wonder his wife left him. Of all places he could his children to for a shelter is a a motel. What happened to his own relatives , even if none of them is the city he can still take them to the village. Talking about the wife not taking the kids to her parents , he can still take the kids to the wife's parents or relatives if only he was a good husband. There was this guy , in my area when he lost his wife , he took his three children to his in-law and they rejected them saying that if they accept the kids he won't care for their up bringing the reason is that the mother in-law is old so can't take care of them all alone and the guy is a drug addict. So his sister took the children with her , after 2months she lost the youngest one cause just six months , not quite long again she lost the second one. The funny part is that the idiot does not care about them even when they are sick.Anytime he is sick that is the only time he remembers his sister but immediately he is ok , you won't see him again. He died on 23rd of December last year of kidney failure after been warned severally by doctors to stop those drugs. Now the sister will be the one to take full responsibility , someone that can berely survived by two square meal. Imagine what would have happened to that child if you were a phidaephile . Advice him to take those kids like away from there first please . 3 Likes |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by wengerman: 10:33pm On Feb 17, 2020 |
Lovelypet28:.all she has for us is love and affection. she endured for more than 20 years till my dad died.all we are basing for is a little bit of endurance just for the sake of the children. no relative or step mom or any woman can take care of the kids like their biological mom.i am married already already to a wonderful woman who in all honesty is enduring with me.i will still maintain that there are few good ones so all hope is not lost yet for the unmarried ones.just make sure u recognise one when u see her 1 Like |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by FarmTech(m): 11:29pm On Feb 17, 2020 |
OcVoice:. If u don't have the habit of lying to yourself, you can see through pretense. By their fruits you shall know them. By the way they dress, talk, behaves etc, you will know them. 2 Likes |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by rain21(f): 11:37pm On Feb 17, 2020 |
wengerman: oshheeey.... baddest and the abuse and suffering continues from generation to the next marriage is meant to be enjoyed oga and not endured that was the essence of the institution in the first place it's not every woman that has a bad damaging self-esteem to put up with every thrash in the name of marriage. some women will pack up and leave, different strokes for different folks the women in your life can keep on enduring sha__their path, their destiny 5 Likes |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by Meti99(m): 12:09am On Feb 18, 2020 |
fg |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by frozen70(f): 5:40am On Feb 18, 2020 |
OcVoice: It's only the lazy, heart less and unorganised woman would leave her children with her husband and pack away If you want to leave your marriage, take your children away, they are the only thing that you have from the failed marriage 1 Like |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by Arsenate(m): 6:12am On Feb 18, 2020 |
Ybaby:Bullshiittt. Today's men aren't in any trouble. Men will always adapt like they are already doing in the west with mgtow. We'll just go our ways if your craze too much. Let's see which gender needs the other the most 4 Likes |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by Arsenate(m): 6:17am On Feb 18, 2020 |
Xisnin:Lol, who da fvck is crying for attention. Mine is just to point out how much of cvnts women really are. They should stop taking the credit they do not deserve. Both genders are equally mean. 4 Likes |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by Arsenate(m): 6:19am On Feb 18, 2020 |
Ladycewhy:I'm perfectly fine sweetheart, thanks. 3 Likes |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by yeyeosoronga: 6:39am On Feb 18, 2020 |
BigJoe19: You've probably done the right thing for you. You were only able to do this because you're financially able to. Contrary to popular beliefs, it seems more women contribute financially in their homes than men otherwise most children won't be allowed to go with their mothers when things fall apart. We see how Churchill is fighting tooth and nail for his son, we saw the way Babangida's son fought for his children with the ex wife, we see how Emeka Ike grabbed all his children from his wife. However, single mothers doing it all alone far exceeds the number of men who do. To those shouting in outrage that a woman left her children behind: I really believe the most capable parent should raise the children, and not necessarily the woman. It's the normal thing for fathers to also raise their children, but it seems it's only the black race that has a problem with this. Other races will do everything to have access to their children, infact complete custody but here we are arguing that a woman should have complete custody of her children and a father shouldn't have that privilege. It's a joy to instill your principles, values on your progeny despite the challenges of raising them. Life in itself is not a smooth ride, and it's time for many men to face their fears of directly raising their children, and conquering those fears. Women have done it for centuries, some other men are doing it gallantly too. It can be done. You don't need the brain of Einstein , nor the experience of Metuselah. You learn along the way, just as the woman too would. Nothing special when a woman raises a child except for breastfeeding in the first year (maximum). The child will get nourishment, but after that a man can comfortably raise the child. Even without breastfeeding, it can be done with formula, and the child less than 1year would still thrive under its father. BigJoe19: Please, kindly share with other men on here practical steps you take to raise your children, and how you cope doing so. It might go a long way to dispel the special magic people think they need to raise their own children. 6 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by Ladycewhy(f): 7:04am On Feb 18, 2020 |
Arsenate:good to know darling. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by babyfaceafrica: 7:15am On Feb 18, 2020 |
Lovelypet28: almost date pple in your class, Why the above statement?.. IF we all date people in our social class, how then will people migrate to higher class?.. So the rich should marry the rich and the poor should marry the poor?.. That's not right |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by Mstick: 7:58am On Feb 18, 2020 |
frozen70: So what about the man, what does he get from the failed marriage? It’s so funny how you can seat in your high horse and call a woman lazy, heartless and unorganized without even knowing her story. 6 Likes |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by Rittysylvia(m): 8:38am On Feb 18, 2020 |
Mstick: My dear those kids would grow to hate their mother. I'm talking from experience.. No matter the story no matter the situation, unless death. This selfish action would destroy those kids. It took me a decade to get over my mums action. 3 Likes |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by Theyoungmatron: 9:01am On Feb 18, 2020 |
Rittysylvia:WHAT about their father? No hatred for him for not doing the needful. Lets stop making excuses here This is a selective emotional blackmail societies uses to continue producing deadbeat dads. We are not animals that donate sperms for procreation and run. We are homo-sapiens and rearing of kids by both parents are one of the things that distinguished us from lesser animals. 5 Likes |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by Rittysylvia(m): 9:12am On Feb 18, 2020 |
Theyoungmatron: My dear like I said I'm talking out of experience. When mum left dad didn't even treat us better, I was 10 and had a 3yr lil one to take care of. Evry experiences I had I blamed my mother. Only if you have experienced you would understand. My elder brother doesn't even communicate with my mum and I know how much hate he has for her. Mum on the other and, I feel for her. But the nothing is enuf reason to leave your kids. I'm not saying she should have endured. No leave the man and don't leave your Kids behind. It messes them up. 1 Like |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by Theyoungmatron: 9:59am On Feb 18, 2020 |
Rittysylvia:I do not advocate for mothers to leave their children and I, also do not advocate for men to be exonerated for willingly shifting their responsibilities to women. This attitude is rampant in black culture where women are forced to adopt a role of pseudo-matriarchs because most men are not willing to be fathers and leaders in their households. Check out the current trends of baby-mamas. Very rampant in black culture. 5 Likes |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by frozen70(f): 12:02pm On Feb 18, 2020 |
Mstick: You got it wrong If a woman wants to pull out of marriage, she should go with her children if any But a woman who is depending on her man alone for everything won't be able to take the kids alone Is she not lazy ❓ 3 Likes |
Re: Things I Saw In A Coded Bar/motel, Bothering Me About Marriage! by thelish(f): 4:04pm On Feb 18, 2020 |
SpecialAgent: U haven't seen blood against each other? Or u haven't seen blood kill each other?? 1 Like |
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