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Re: I Want To Marry From My Village Against Everyone's Will please help me by DedeNkem: 10:38am On Feb 22, 2020 |
72Morale: What? Are you crazy? So you could marry for marrying sake and not for love? Wow! |
Re: I Want To Marry From My Village Against Everyone's Will please help me by nnaeyes6: 10:40am On Feb 22, 2020 |
Neroiam: Like I said. Am not here to pick up bible school with u. All u are saying is One man sin came to the world bla bla bla Muslim don't believe in ur Christ does that make their sins not covered on the cross? The garden of Eden was special in God's creation. Bible said "and he took man and place him in the garden " u cannot take someone from the room and place him in the same room. Also Bible said " made him male and female and ask them to be fruitful and multiply even before Adam was given a wife. OGA I don't have to tell u more. I am in Genesis just explaining to u and u are busy referring me to New testament and yet there is no where it has said "God made Adam and Eve only. Don't just be dogmatic. |
Re: I Want To Marry From My Village Against Everyone's Will please help me by Funaki: 10:46am On Feb 22, 2020 |
einsteine: I don't understand all these people. I don't think some people know the meaning of "sister", "sibling" or "cousins". One even said it's incest to marry from your village |
Re: I Want To Marry From My Village Against Everyone's Will please help me by 4xplore: 10:48am On Feb 22, 2020 |
Dizzyrascal: Dont mind them. Wan use dia own spoil oir own... |
Re: I Want To Marry From My Village Against Everyone's Will please help me by DedeNkem: 10:48am On Feb 22, 2020 |
As long as she is not related to you by blood in any way, go ahead! Follow your heart. You should not allow ANYONE to dictate to you who to marry! There are stupid traditions that have no place in today's society. There was a time Igbos killed twins because they thought it would bring them misfortune! Missionaries ended most of these stupid and barbaric traditions. Marry your love now. Your family will come around later. 2 Likes |
Re: I Want To Marry From My Village Against Everyone's Will please help me by nnaeyes6: 10:50am On Feb 22, 2020 |
Neroiam:Am not thinking differently. Is just a fact that are not being explained by our so called men of God. Although, it is a mystery, the only link that got us ALL connected is the Noah and his family that remained after the destruction of the world. However, the linking was evident in Abraham marrying his step sister Sarah and Isaac marrying his cousin Rebecca. Also, Esau married his distance cousin in Egypt ie the daughter of Ismail, the first son of Abraham. In fact, Rebecca hated Esau more because of picking his wife from that family. Now after the birth of the children of Esau, the division became glare because his sons eg Moab the first son ( later Persians and present day Iran declared that he will pay his cousins the children of Jacob back for what their father did to their own father. |
Re: I Want To Marry From My Village Against Everyone's Will please help me by Dsweetnigga: 10:52am On Feb 22, 2020 |
Hey bro, listen, as an igbo guy, same thing happened to me. I met a girl last year and we fell in love, last year Christmas I was making enquiries from my father about the girls village and he blatantly told me we can't marry from that village that we are the same blood. Based on olden days migration. . So I informed the babe and asked her to also inquire from her dad, she did and her dad said the same things. So, the babe understood and we went solo. A guy that did that against all odds later went mad with the girl after their wedding. So, bro, igbo tradition is real no matter the level of churches around. Marry that babe and your ancestors will serve you the best punishment that suits your stubbornness |
Re: I Want To Marry From My Village Against Everyone's Will please help me by Neroiam(m): 10:54am On Feb 22, 2020 |
nnaeyes6: Na u dey dogmatic sticking to Genesis alone.. Study vast. Muslims are ignorant and will be judged. And you don't have to say more.. Just reread all I've said i come to the understanding that male and female, He created them all isn't males and females he created them all if that would even help your understanding. Bro. Think about this, how old did men live until they bite the dust in the days of Seth and even down to Abraham? Or don't you know how many great great grand children Adam would have had during the 930yrs he lived!!!? And that one of the daughter offsprings had married Cain? And Cain wouldn't have known this because he wandered away!!? Wisdom..
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Re: I Want To Marry From My Village Against Everyone's Will please help me by Dsweetnigga: 10:54am On Feb 22, 2020 |
72Morale: Please what are the first 5 things to consider biko |
Re: I Want To Marry From My Village Against Everyone's Will please help me by Neroiam(m): 10:57am On Feb 22, 2020 |
Dsweetnigga: Lmao... Africans and fetish.. So na ancestors create you na.. Abi? Why you no dey worship una deity since you sabi fear well well so.. One day, all this stupid traditions will be long forgotten 2 Likes |
Re: I Want To Marry From My Village Against Everyone's Will please help me by Neroiam(m): 11:02am On Feb 22, 2020 |
nnaeyes6: Oh! So you know Sarah was the step sister of Abraham.. Terah, Abraham's father was an idolater.. Confirm babalawo, why Abraham ancestors no make am mad na? Now, we're talking of a village that maybe has more than 5000+ people(residents or in diaspora) people are saying they're are all siblings... If it can't be traced that they're are related by blood, Op, go ahead and marry her. Period. If you're serving God, no fucking ancestor go near you. You'll excel and people will envy you. It'll serve as a lesson to many and will be talked about by generations to come. 2 Likes |
Re: I Want To Marry From My Village Against Everyone's Will please help me by charlsecy(m): 11:07am On Feb 22, 2020 |
Mandem12:Which Igbo tradition? My parents are of the same village. Find out how you two are related. |
Re: I Want To Marry From My Village Against Everyone's Will please help me by AmeLonRo(m): 11:10am On Feb 22, 2020 |
Listen to advise. Weigh them well. But take your decision. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iUbdkkltXRk |
Re: I Want To Marry From My Village Against Everyone's Will please help me by Dsweetnigga: 11:23am On Feb 22, 2020 |
Neroiam: Tradition can't be swept away in igbo land |
Re: I Want To Marry From My Village Against Everyone's Will please help me by Neroiam(m): 11:26am On Feb 22, 2020 |
Dsweetnigga: This one na stupid tradition... Shay they used to dance juju in one community i once lived, gradually, the people were enlightened to know they were only inviting more evil spirits to the community.. Now they've stopped and are doing better than before. #sweepawaystupidtradition 3 Likes |
Re: I Want To Marry From My Village Against Everyone's Will please help me by Czartega(m): 11:28am On Feb 22, 2020 |
Mandem12: Ogbeni... Na your mama born am? When you were growing up with your siblings, was she among them? If your answer is no, then she is not your sister... Ride on |
Re: I Want To Marry From My Village Against Everyone's Will please help me by charlsecy(m): 11:32am On Feb 22, 2020 |
Justdogood:It's the culture that defines the degree of closeness within which a valid marriage cannot occur. My parents are from the same village, yet the OP cannot marry this girl because she is from the same village as him. It's culture, not necessarily GOD. priscaoge:You don't read your Bible, or you're being mischievous. The only incest form not permitted is first-line: father-daughter, mother-son, son-daughter, and the like. Any other stuff is permissible. michlins:According to the passage, they are of the same village. Is that what makes it incest? |
Re: I Want To Marry From My Village Against Everyone's Will please help me by michlins(m): 11:49am On Feb 22, 2020 |
charlsecy:some villages are large and diverse. Like the town I live in, there are neighbors who can marry but they can't marry someone from next village. In this situation,some migrated into this town and even though they claim to be indigenes,when it comes to marriage and chieftaincy, they will remind you your place. |
Re: I Want To Marry From My Village Against Everyone's Will please help me by Youngzedd(m): 12:18pm On Feb 22, 2020 |
MorataFC: Which of the God because the last time I checked, there are over 4,000 religions on earth. If over 4,000 religion exist, then there will be millions of traditions out there. So tell us which one? |
Re: I Want To Marry From My Village Against Everyone's Will please help me by prettysassygirl(f): 12:20pm On Feb 22, 2020 |
I know its not easy,but you have to let her go. 1 Like |
Re: I Want To Marry From My Village Against Everyone's Will please help me by Youngzedd(m): 12:22pm On Feb 22, 2020 |
Mandem12: Shibabrata Pattanayak: Do you think marriage within blood relations may be harmful to the children or next generations? Beemnet Mengesha Kassahun (Kyungpook National University): Dear Shibabrata Pattanayak , different studies revealed that children born from parents who were closely related increases the risks of having a baby with potentially life-threatening birth defects. Marrying within a family can lead to abnormalities in your future offspring. This is because within a family, certain genetic traits remain dormant and are known as recessive genes (they are not seen as a disease or condition). When two people having the same genes marry and reproduce, these once dormant recessive (ineffective) genes double, making them more likely to cause genetic abnormalities in children. Although, the fact that people who marry within the second generation are more susceptible is fairly true. But for eg. If your grandfather and parents have had marriages within the family, your children are at greater risk due to the overcrowding of the gene pool. To explain better, think of it this way. If your grandfather had some recessive genes and he married someone in the family with those same recessive genes i.e. those once dormant genes become dominant (more likely to cause genetic abnormalities). Your parents then got married within the same family making the concentration of these recessive genes even more. Now when you marry someone within your family, this gene pool will further become dense with recessive genes, due to both your genes getting added to the pool, making the possibility of your children having genetic abnormalities very high. Kulvir Singh (Punjab Agricultural University): Well, Genetics forbids that because of more chances of mutations and related disorders. Azad Singh (Anjani Pharmaceutical) Yup there is more chances to genetics disorder.the proper genetic disorder take places.the immune system is also effected and the child become weak... Hassan Hammadi (University of Al-Qadisiyah) Of course yes. A link between cousin marriage and health problems– including heart and lung problems and recognised syndromes such as Down’s – linked to genetic inheritance, has been observed in communities around the world. Stanley Wilkin (University of London) I only know that of the immigrant groups in the UK, those from cultures which commonly practise marriaige with cousins, etc, have greater long term involvement with medical services. Abdelnaser Omran (Bright Star University) Yes, some cases had been proven that such marriage is harmful to the children and the next generation. However, there were few cases had been gone smooth. Overall, such marriage has a high risk and better advice to be avoided. Arvind Singh (Banaras Hindu University) Yes. Marriages within blood relations increses the risk of abortions, congenital anomalies and autosomal recessive disorders. The closer the relationship, the higher the risk. |
Re: I Want To Marry From My Village Against Everyone's Will please help me by nnaeyes6: 12:31pm On Feb 22, 2020 |
Neroiam:Thanks for the time. I hope u will learn more of what u don't know in the bible. Line by line u should read ur bible for proper understanding and fix all the punctuation marks where they are. God made the earth by separating the land from the sea and PLANTED a GARDEN called EDEN. God TOOK ADAM. the work TOOK should mean something to u by the way. Taken someone from Lagos to Aba where MALE AND FEMALE were created doesn't mean that life EXISTED only in ABA because stories were told only of ABA. |
Re: I Want To Marry From My Village Against Everyone's Will please help me by Yujin(m): 12:37pm On Feb 22, 2020 |
Bratking:Yeah but surprisingly, some communities forbid marrying even from the same village. I believe that's where he got confused. No one can marry from his umunna? Who are you taking the palmwine to? Your own umunna? |
Re: I Want To Marry From My Village Against Everyone's Will please help me by nnaeyes6: 12:38pm On Feb 22, 2020 |
Neroiam: U are just funny. Did I not say that all his village people are not his blood but he should inquire of his ikwu |
Re: I Want To Marry From My Village Against Everyone's Will please help me by Neroiam(m): 12:41pm On Feb 22, 2020 |
nnaeyes6: Na the punctuations be ur problem now? U and all ur grammatical errors, diluted colloquy et al. You win.. I hope you can stop quoting me now. Thank you. |
Re: I Want To Marry From My Village Against Everyone's Will please help me by sorepco(m): 1:01pm On Feb 22, 2020 |
This man mite be talking about UMMUNNA oh! Is that what u mean by same village? Mandem12: |
Re: I Want To Marry From My Village Against Everyone's Will please help me by sorepco(m): 1:06pm On Feb 22, 2020 |
U r funny...r u trying to say youthful exuberance? Reelmii: |
Re: I Want To Marry From My Village Against Everyone's Will please help me by Slimsly100(f): 1:11pm On Feb 22, 2020 |
You're right o bruh! I pray he listens. Come to think of it, how old is he sef Youthful exhuberance dey worry am. E think say na just to say I do, drink palmi, dance, wear fine clothes, it beyond that bro slam7000: |
Re: I Want To Marry From My Village Against Everyone's Will please help me by JKisOK(m): 1:55pm On Feb 22, 2020 |
Ramirezkhay: Although voting neither for nor against OP marrying his girl, I am acknowledging that this response is the most matured and the most enlightened submission I have seen in all the postings to this matter. You have got native intelligence and you are street-wise. 1 Like |
Re: I Want To Marry From My Village Against Everyone's Will please help me by sheDD(m): 2:09pm On Feb 22, 2020 |
FlyingTOMATOE:Awon inspiration talker |
Re: I Want To Marry From My Village Against Everyone's Will please help me by JKisOK(m): 2:19pm On Feb 22, 2020 |
nnaeyes6: Genesis 3:20 ¶ And Adam called his wife's name Eve; because she was the mother of all living. |
Re: I Want To Marry From My Village Against Everyone's Will please help me by mechanics(m): 2:34pm On Feb 22, 2020 |
FlyingTOMATOE:You are right. |
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