rodgermetty:
well what do you expect the mum to do when they refused to see her or even allow the children go spend time at her place... they have never done any holiday with her b4

Your friend is gone.

AxelandRed:

I'm wondering if your opinion would be the same if it were the man's mom that's being discussed.

Will he drive his mum away?

rodgermetty:
they are both is same state... just that he manage a business in a village while he has his matrimonial home in the city

anyway, it still depends on how man enough he is, for the in-law to threaten him with police while it is supposed to be the other way round, shows that he may have presented himself as a weakling to them before. Anyway, just like I said, he has no choice, its either he chase the woman away or continue his enslavement to them. He can also call the wife's bluff and see what happens. The earlier he knows that of all his family members these two women, ( his wife n her mother) are not his relatives, the better for him.

Whew! All these long stories sef. He should simply not renew rent, find another school for his kids and move his nuclear family. If wifey doesn't want to move, na she sabi.

AxelandRed:

I'm wondering if your opinion would be the same if it were the man's mom that's being discussed.

Good question

crackkhaus:

Corrected.


Regardless of circumstance, anyone who prays for the death of another person is a devil's incarnate and deserves to die first...a horrifying death no less.

true

crackkhaus:

Your friend is gone.

Gone bawo ooo

Mizwisdom:



Will he drive his mum away?

hmmm if she has no business been there then she wouod be asked to go back to her home, dont forget it said she has her own house and other children too

bigiyaro:
anyway, it still depends on how man enough he is, for the in-law to threaten him with police while it is supposed to be the other way round, shows that he may have presented himself as a weakling to them before. Anyway, just like I said, he has no choice, its either he chase the woman away or continue his enslavement to them. He can also call the wife's bluff and see what happens. The earlier he knows that of all his family members these two women, ( his wife n her mother) are not his relatives, the better for him.

exactly

sisisioge:
Whew! All these long stories sef. He should simply not renew rent, find another school for his kids and move his nuclear family. If wifey doesn't want to move, na she sabi.

and if she doesnt want him to take the kids nko?

Since his wife family is shameless, he should just take his wife to where's working and abandon that house for a while perhaps the wife is on the same page with him

Whyzaid:
Since his wife family is shameless, he should just take his wife to where's working and abandon that house for a while perhaps the wife is on the same page with him

the wife is the arrowhead, she is the one insisting her mum must stay or they divorce

Please note that the husband mother got the wife the job she is presently working on

rodgermetty:
I have this friend of mine whose mother inlaw has been living with them since 2015.

The mother inlaw has her own house in the same town.

The friend of mine doesnt work in the town but somewhere else outside the city so he do come home once a while.

His wife mother has been living with them since 2015.

She goes and come initially, untill she later made the place her abode.

He has 3 kids and they are all in school and he pays the fees and provide for the family.

He has been having issue in his matrimonial home as his wife no longer respect him.

The wife initially had a daughter before meeting him and that daughter too live in the same house since 2015.

The mother inlaw recently brought one of their cousin with her 3 children to come live with them and its been several month now.

Now he said he doesnt want the mother inlaw living in his house anymore and this is what happened.

The mother inlaw threatened to get him arrested.

The wife threatened to divorce him if her mum were to leave.

They only did court wedding just a year ago.

So what will you advice him to do.

headache is real I swear especially when to women marries each other

rodgermetty:
the wife is the arrowhead, she is the one insisting her mum must stay or they divorce

oh! Guess she's tired of the marriage

Whyzaid:
oh! Guess she's tired of the marriage

well if she is then they better divorce

pocohantas:



I’ll advise him to check his BP, as I will be amazed if he isn’t hypertensive yet.

DAMN POCO...

SAVAGE !!!

rodgermetty:
well if she is then they better divorce

or better still, she should be taken to a counselor. Maybe she's acting out of ignorance

Mykel51:


DAMN POCO...

SAVAGE !!!

its even true

Whyzaid:
or better still, she should be taken to a counselor. Maybe she's acting out of ignorance

its not, dont you read she has been there since 2015, initially started as coming and going

rodgermetty:
its even true

Your friend should divorce her !

Or else they would "ride" him for life !

namiji2598:
headache is real I swear especially when to women marries each other

lol

Mykel51:


Your friend should divorce her !

Or else they would "ride" him for life !

hmmm

rodgermetty:
and if she doesnt want him to take the kids nko?

Well, he can they leave her to be doing father and mother with them alone. Hopefully, she would be able to afford it.

sisisioge:


Well, he can they leave her to be doing father and mother with them alone. Hopefully, she would be able to afford it.

lol she cant afford jack

bigiyaro:
he should simply move his wife to the town where he works and if the house is a rented one, he shouldn't renew the rent. Las las its obvious he is been blackmailed, so it depends on how strong he is, either he calls their bluff and chase the in-law away or continue living as their slave.

The wife wants to divorce him if the mother leaves so will she want to move?

Besides, why should a man run away from his own house because of his in-laws?

He is clearly not assertive with a very disrespectful wife.

bukatyne:


The wife wants to divorce him if the mother leaves so will she want to move?

Besides, why should a man run away from his own house because of his in-laws?

He is clearly not assertive with a very disrespectful wife.

he isint running away. He doesnt work in the town, so he isint mostly around

rodgermetty:
uncle he is the one providing, the mama is on pension, she have other children too. She doesnt allow the guys family , they dont go to see the guys mum,... infact the last time he wanted to take his children to spend Christmas with his mum after he came home but the wife disagreed and started a fight. She never visited his own mother but her own mother lives in the house.

This husband needs to be assertive.

A walk over is unattractive.

rodgermetty:
she is not working for anybody. Several time he has asked her to leave and she would and then come back again uninvited. they dont welcome the mans family, they dont even take the kids to see them in years yet they are in same city.

Who the heck are the 'they'?

The only person's opinion who counts is the wife's.

So we should be talking she.

Or the wife's free loading mother shook mouth for the matter too?

Was the father of the husband present in his life? Does he lack self esteem? Is he afraid to confront people when needed or.....

IS HE JAZZED?!

CAPSLOCKED:


MOTHERS-IN-LAW SHOULD LEARN TO LEAVE THEIR CHILDREN'S MARRIAGES ALONE.
I DON'T BLAME WOMEN WHO PRAY FOR THE DEATH OF THEIR MOTHERS-IN-LAW BECAUSE MOST TIMES, THOSE PEOPLE CONSTITUTE THE WORST NUISANCE.

You know, when we say a couple should leave their families and cleave to one another, they automatically assume it is against the man.

If the wife in this case understood marriage, we would not have this thread.

Mizwisdom:



Will he drive his mum away?

Aunty when the mother invited another cousin with her three kids and does not let him have peace after overstaying her welcome.