WoundedLamb:


The issue with this is that if something goes wrong in future and she comes here to share her story, the same people that gave her this advice will be the ones to call her olosho who threw herself at a man. It's never really easy for the women folks to express such desires.

YES WE KNOW .
SO , LET HER KEEP ON WAITING.




WHAT IF IT DIDN'T GET WRONG ?
WILL PEOPLE STILL CALL HER AN OLOSHO ?

PrimadonnaO:
Please, just move on with your life.
If he wanted you, he'd have made his intentions known a long time ago.If you're not careful you'll end up in a friends-with-benefit situation, deceiving yourself that it's become a relationship.

Open your heart to someone else, and let that other one continue living his life.

She will forever be wondering. She should shoot her shot and have a heart to heart talk with home and clear her conscience. Women desire men that can care and protect them. He has convinced her he can. She would have regrets if she does not conclude. Conclude and stay or move on.

prepresh:
There is this guy that is very close to me, he calls me often, but has never asked me out.

I don't know his house, he doesn't know mine, he has never taken me out on a date but does more than enough for me.

What should I do? Because other suitors are coming and I like him.

MISS , PLEASE THIS IS NOT A SHY ISSUE .
READ HIS INTENTION VERY WELL , AND LET HIM DO HIS THING.

prepresh:
There is this guy that is very close to me, he calls me often, but has never asked me out.

I don't know his house, he doesn't know mine, he has never taken me out on a date but does more than enough for me.

What should I do? Because other suitors are coming and I like him.

ALSO CHECK WEDA LIKE HIM , ABI NA HOW HE THE SPEND ON U NA IM U LIKE.

I KNOW OUR GIRLS CAN LOVE MONEY FOR AFRICA

Tallesty1:
Laughable.




You've no experience when it comes dating a woman that asked you out so I told you to shut up because you were beginning to sound foolish.



How's that fear?


Abi I need to say yes to your question before you know that?

IF U AREN'T OK WITH SOMEONE'S COMMENT , U JUST RUN ALONG.

U VYING FOR DISSING?

cRobo:


I won't say a word

MATURED

This is a very simple issue but making it complicated yourself...just ask him on phone whenever he calls you to define the reason why behind his kind gesture to you and be careful enough to listene to his responses so that tomorow he wil not come here and tel us how you eat his money and broke his heart.wheather it works out or not pls never forget the lesson you learnt.good luck vquote author=prepresh post=87391874]
Oga, I like him because he is a born again and a brother in my church and very God fearing Christian, I'm only telling you people the things he does that made me think he has feelings for me, I don't like long story that's why I summarized. Please if you don't have advise to give people please read and pass and stop looking forward to criticism.
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prepresh:
There is this guy that is very close to me, he calls me often, but has never asked me out.

I don't know his house, he doesn't know mine, he has never taken me out on a date but does more than enough for me.

What should I do? Because other suitors are coming and I like him.

see me see wahala.
If he has never asked out and is not interested in knowing about your relationship status.
Simply thing to do.
If the suitors are coming for marriage, accept the one you love after praying and confirming from God.
But if na boyfriend things, don't accept any of them.

prepresh:
There is this guy that is very close to me, he calls me often, but has never asked me out.

I don't know his house, he doesn't know mine, he has never taken me out on a date but does more than enough for me.

What should I do? Because other suitors are coming and I like him.

Use person walk up to him, like a friend you trust
He might open up to the person the reason he's doing all those stuffs
Such guys are rare tho
He might be shy to express his feeling to u directly

I wanted to comment on this buh no space. all the comments I am seeing are the ones replying each other. No fresh comment above just reply..... Anyways this lady is doing well. inbox me if you are available for date it can lead to something... Oooin

TheRedpillguy:

Dear lord! Do you guys have a book of the untold shit stories, you pull this shit out from.

I think they have such books.

Enwhen:



I know such kind of guys .... He is only studying her, he loves her beauty and physical appearance, but he wants to know her more before any move...it's better she also try to know him too, in order to know if he worth waiting for.

Ikr? Then he gets friendzoned and cries foul.. You know the usual.

JESU !!!,



Is that You In that your picture?

prepresh:
There is this guy that is very close to me, he calls me often, but has never asked me out.

I don't know his house, he doesn't know mine, he has never taken me out on a date but does more than enough for me.

What should I do? Because other suitors are coming and I like him.

We are the same way, but all I need to tell you is he is a good husband material, if he can do lots for you without asking for your body and also not stressing your life. Then you should try confront him or else you loose him to one kind woman you will see some day and regret you didn’t confront him..

Is better you let him know you like him because something like this has happen to me

Akuruoulo:


YES WE KNOW .
SO , LET HER KEEP ON WAITING.




WHAT IF IT DIDN'T GET WRONG ?
WILL PEOPLE STILL CALL HER AN OLOSHO ?

Most we call her names either way? The point is, if we want the ladies to approach guys like guys do ladies, we must provide an equal playing ground for both genders. We give guys the free hand and even encourage them to make these steps. But we slut-shame ladies and call them hoes, destiny killers, olosho, ashawo, etc. if and when they try to peg a guy. How do you really expect the same outcome? A lady goes for a younger guy, we call her shameless. She goes for the old one, we call her shameless. She tries to hit on her age mate, we call her ashawo. Haba! Funny thing is, ya'll don't even see anything wrong with the way the feminine gender is perceived back there in Nigeria. Terrible.

deltateam:


Then she should let him see her with another guy and see his reaction.

If he complains, she should let him define it and give him max. of 2 years to see her parents.

If no reaction, she should move on for real.

I hate guys keeping girls for years without any commitment only to dump them 8 years later.

I agree with you.

corona killing people this one is here blabing madam if u are not safe with the guy,travel to China. If I ask u ur purpose on earth u won't know,rubbish post,end time

cRobo:



I won't say a word

It's only when you date a woman that ask you out that you will understand.
No dey act like all these motivational speakers.

prepresh:



There is this guy that is very close to me, he calls me often, but has never asked me out.

I don't know his house, he doesn't know mine, he has never taken me out on a date but does more than enough for me.

What should I do? Because other suitors are coming and I like him.

If the guy love you for a keep/date, there is no way he won't show you sign even if he's the shy type.
Do you guys always talk on phone or is he too caring or it is just normal care people give to those around them?

He might just be a helper...

Give him a green light, if he has interest he will pick it up.
Note: Giving him greenlight is risky, because some will take the advantage and strike the deal. I mean those that never had any interest or had just lust.

Asking him out is only advisable if you're 80% -99% sure that he wants you but can't tell.
Most, if not all men value what they work(ed) for over what they get(got) freely.
Asking him out fully might not be a good advice, tho people differs but from experience I don't think it's advisable.

WoundedLamb:


The issue with this is that if something goes wrong in future and she comes here to share her story, the same people that gave her this advice will be the ones to call her olosho who threw herself at a man. It's never really easy for the women folks to express such desires.

From an African perspective you are right.

prepresh:
There is this guy that is very close to me, he calls me often, but has never asked me out.

I don't know his house, he doesn't know mine, he has never taken me out on a date but does more than enough for me.

What should I do? Because other suitors are coming and I like him.

aunty, entertain other suitors, this your crush has voluntarily placed himself as your side guy.

So someone can't just be friends in peace again without wanting to date you. Better don't ruin that friendship!!

While you are trying to know what's on his mind, some men have the one they need but can't even play romance well. This is weird.

Here are ways to play romance well at home.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tFxRwh7udnw

prepresh:
There is this guy that is very close to me, he calls me often, but has never asked me out.

I don't know his house, he doesn't know mine, he has never taken me out on a date but does more than enough for me.

What should I do? Because other suitors are coming and I like him.

Just tell you like the way he calls and takes care of you. Reciprocate the gesture by taking him out for a meal, when he's eating, use style to know his interests and intentions.... If you feel secure, give him description to your house. Ask for the descriptions to his house, watch his reaction if he's comfortable if you want to visit.

Make sure you know him well and his home to make sure he's not married o. All the best sis

Typical Nigerian ladies
Only love once u can pay the bills

LifeOfTrigga:



We are the same way, but all I need to tell you is he is a good husband material, if he can do lots for you without asking for your body and also not stressing your life. Then you should try confront him or else you loose him to one kind woman you will see some day and regret you didn’t confront him..

.

So he is a good husband material cos he pays the bills
Who did this to u
Why has materialism become the only way to view a man
Smh
No wonder wen u guys cant meet up
U turn around to call ladies like this olosho

ValCon888:
You're like a cow he's fattening up for Christmas. The day he will lash you ehn, he will do 10 rounds in one visit. He will take more than enough from you including principal, collateral, and interest.

Smile...
Last sentence attracted my comment.
It is a 50/50 issue.
I will only advise the Lady to control her emotions be it good or fair.

SavageMaster:


Set up a meeting with him in a public place, say a restaurant. Thank him for the attention, care and for providing for you.

Then tell him you need him to define what both of you are doing, and what he is up to. Tell him you need him to define his relationship with you. Go ahead to tell him you have suitors coming for your hand in marriage, and you don't want him to receive your wedding invitation unexpectedly.

I think you should be bit soft on him, since you really like him. If he is sensible, after your saying these, he'll take the hint and do the needful.

If he intends to marry you, he should give you a timeframe, and then you go back, think about it, and reply him later.

If he's not yet ready to settle down, I think you should move on.

I think you should be bit soft on him, ...nice part

SavageMaster:


Set up a meeting with him in a public place, say a restaurant. Thank him for the attention, care and for providing for you.

Then tell him you need him to define what both of you are doing, and what he is up to. Tell him you need him to define his relationship with you. Go ahead to tell him you have suitors coming for your hand in marriage, and you don't want him to receive your wedding invitation unexpectedly.

I think you should be bit soft on him, since you really like him. If he is sensible, after your saying these, he'll take the hint and do the needful.

If he intends to marry you, he should give you a timeframe, and then you go back, think about it, and reply him later.

If he's not yet ready to settle down, I think you should move on.

I think this is the right answer to this thread, is as simple as applying common sense which I know is not common.



I arrest my case.

tiredoflife:
Typical Nigerian ladies Only love once u can pay the bills

my dear no be lie

prepresh:
There is this guy that is very close to me, he calls me often, but has never asked me out.

I don't know his house, he doesn't know mine, he has never taken me out on a date but does more than enough for me.

What should I do? Because other suitors are coming and I like him.

A short text message like "I would love to go out on a date with you" will suffice.

If he's interested in you, he will take action. Otherwise, he will let you know.