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ebijimi7:
shes from a home no mother and her father doesn't care it doesn't take me anything to help her without dating her but why trying to use the dating game to use me the worst part she doesn't allow me to make love to her as of recent she started ignoring my sexual desire and doesn't care what pain I'm going through

Bj5all:
All these dysfunctional girls everywhere.

From your first narration, she needs time to heal from her former relationship and she should not make you suffer the flaws of her ex. If she washes her ex clothes and the relationship didn't lead to marriage, why should she transfer that mindset of not assisting you domestically.

That's a mindset of one that is still dragging her past with her, every new relationship deserves a new start with clean mind to make things work.

That being said, bro, marriage na life long event. From the way things are going, your marriage fit suffer. You are the man here and the head of the Home when you get married, so you have to learn to lead and if she doesn't want to be on the same page with you in actions, thought and reasonings, Please tell her to look else where.

There is no pity in this game, marriage is based on selection of the best partner for long term survival.


If you like waste your money and mumu yourself, last last na you go suffer. If you think life is tight when you are dating, just wait till you get married. Expenses will likely triple and you need your sanity to think and make money, plan for the family and think of investment.

Common dating you are already having headache, in marriage na die you go die

abayomi27:
It's your right to stay off from this kind of relationship. She's a liar, an opportunist and a parasite...kill her and call police.

baralatie:
where did you get the impression that he wanted to marry the girl

ebijimi7:
what are you even saying even the rich ones don't want a gold digger I'm telling you that I don't like what she was doing more over are my not giving her what she wants not that I'm even broke I'm building my own house so I diverted my money that's the reason not that I'm broke go up there and read up MAN and stop acting like a p**y

GRIMMJOE:
Trying too hard as usual.

Bj5all:
Where they I say he was going to marry her?

Does his write up sounds like he wants to chop and run?


Does anyone ever get drained from a relationship they don't value?

Why waste money and time to build relationship with a girl you want to dump and at the same time conplains about her attitudes?

Who introduces a girl he wants to dump to his family members and ask her to deliver cake on his behalf?

Who takes a girl he wants to dump to a friend's mother's burial?

Olunmercy56:
Yes, for you to have shown her your own contributions, what stopped her from adding a little to it? Must it be men doing everything for ladies, I don't understand. She really bleeped up by lieing Move on, she is a parasite

HarunaWest:
Dude from the analysis so far, you are darn broke.. Stop dating for now, make money and enjoy your life.. You asking her for too much financial assistance and that's bad, she was on her own Na you say you love am say u was date am. Ladies like a guy they can rely on when it matters she feels that you keep asking her for money means in future, if she doesn't take care, she will be the one to cater for yah. Be a man, call of the relationship, be more comfortable financially, then from that vantage point, you can call the shots.

SweetCunt97:
Only 9k in one's account? After more than one year of dating the op, she got a paltry 9k in her account says alot.

No need for u to sound morally upright to appeal to anyone here OK... You probably yearning for Pms

HarunaWest:
Did that your building your house doesn't stop you from being broke mehn..You broke for a relationship. that's all

OlawaleBammie:
Madam why na, do u know how extravagant she spends??


No wonder u need an abroad based man, so dat u can add 3 zeroes to that 9k.

ebijimi7:
Good day guys
Please I need your advises on this issue on ground please nobody should attack me I know you guys knows how to attack someone
So here we go
I'm currently in a relationship which I started late 2018 after I broke up with my ex
So the relationship is just a year plus now and I have the intentions of getting married to this lady in picture,
On a blessed day I was so hungry so she came to visit me so I told her I was hungry thou that day I was tired so I asked could she help me cook so that we can eat together she refused telling me that she would never cook for me until I pay her bride price but I was like but I do cook for you and you eat and I never asked you to pay my groom price this is just to cook not that I'm asking you to wash my cloth or anything as a very gentle man I stood up went to the kitchen cooked my food myself and gave her to eat out of it after she left I thought of it that but this is the same person in assisting financially and the little favor I asked from her she could not do it?
Then I called her and discussed with her the only thing she could tell me was that she did everything to please him to the point of washing his cousins cloth and she talked about how she hated him because he took her love for granted.
Then I made her realize that remember I dated some one before yiu too despite what she did to me I didn't stop providing your own needs which means I don't care about my past I believe people are different I treated you right why are you acting like this to me.
So i didn't disturb her about anything again ever since then I believe I'm Alone to myself if I need anything I do it on my own I act like I don't have a girlfriend.
To cut the story short
We traveled for a burial so I already made plan on how we would stay and how I would take care of other things when we arrive but the plan didn't go as planned because I fell ill and I needed to go to the hospital so that I can treat my self so I was left with no option than to take from money that was kept aside for the trip,
So after the wake keeping as we were heading to our hotel room we were in a cab so she started analyzing how we would spend so I told her we have to manage what is left on us because there was no much left again
Do the next question she asked was that won't she do make up then I told her that pity me now I've been spending all this while can't you take money from your own pocket to pay the make yo artist I bought cloth for you 7k i still paid for the hotel 12k I still paid for transport and the feeding too and I'm still going to pay for transport back to lagos.
Then she started nagging why do I like to breach plan what kind of person are my I just kept quiet but the expression on the drivers face shows he really felt for me.
So on getting to the hotel room I didn't discuss anything with her I just gave her money to go and get food for her self then I slept off the next morning I don't know where the money from make up came out from and she has been claiming she doesn't have money
I just lock up.
After the burial event and everything we decide to return back to the hotel so my friend whose mother in-law burial we went for called me that he misplaced his ATM card and needed to withdraw and I wasn't with my ATM card so I asked my girlfriend if she has her ATM card she said yes so I sent her account number to him,
So I was using her phone to check for something then boom alert came in my gf has 9k in her account and she claimed she had nothing I showed her the message and told her that but you said you had nothing on you why were you lying to me she said its not her money that if she told me that I would spend the money any how

SweetCunt97:
Only 9k in one's account? After more than one year of dating the op, she got a paltry 9k in her account says alot.

No need for u to sound morally upright to appeal to anyone here OK... You probably yearning for Pms

ebijimi7:
Good day guys
Please I need your advises on this issue on ground please nobody should attack me I know you guys knows how to attack someone
So here we go
I'm currently in a relationship which I started late 2018 after I broke up with my ex
So the relationship is just a year plus now and I have the intentions of getting married to this lady in picture,
On a blessed day I was so hungry so she came to visit me so I told her I was hungry thou that day I was tired so I asked could she help me cook so that we can eat together she refused telling me that she would never cook for me until I pay her bride price but I was like but I do cook for you and you eat and I never asked you to pay my groom price this is just to cook not that I'm asking you to wash my cloth or anything as a very gentle man I stood up went to the kitchen cooked my food myself and gave her to eat out of it after she left I thought of it that but this is the same person in assisting financially and the little favor I asked from her she could not do it?
Then I called her and discussed with her the only thing she could tell me was that she did everything to please him to the point of washing his cousins cloth and she talked about how she hated him because he took her love for granted.
Then I made her realize that remember I dated some one before yiu too despite what she did to me I didn't stop providing your own needs which means I don't care about my past I believe people are different I treated you right why are you acting like this to me.
So i didn't disturb her about anything again ever since then I believe I'm Alone to myself if I need anything I do it on my own I act like I don't have a girlfriend.
To cut the story short
We traveled for a burial so I already made plan on how we would stay and how I would take care of other things when we arrive but the plan didn't go as planned because I fell ill and I needed to go to the hospital so that I can treat my self so I was left with no option than to take from money that was kept aside for the trip,
So after the wake keeping as we were heading to our hotel room we were in a cab so she started analyzing how we would spend so I told her we have to manage what is left on us because there was no much left again
Do the next question she asked was that won't she do make up then I told her that pity me now I've been spending all this while can't you take money from your own pocket to pay the make yo artist I bought cloth for you 7k i still paid for the hotel 12k I still paid for transport and the feeding too and I'm still going to pay for transport back to lagos.
Then she started nagging why do I like to breach plan what kind of person are my I just kept quiet but the expression on the drivers face shows he really felt for me.
So on getting to the hotel room I didn't discuss anything with her I just gave her money to go and get food for her self then I slept off the next morning I don't know where the money from make up came out from and she has been claiming she doesn't have money
I just lock up.
After the burial event and everything we decide to return back to the hotel so my friend whose mother in-law burial we went for called me that he misplaced his ATM card and needed to withdraw and I wasn't with my ATM card so I asked my girlfriend if she has her ATM card she said yes so I sent her account number to him,
So I was using her phone to check for something then boom alert came in my gf has 9k in her account and she claimed she had nothing I showed her the message and told her that but you said you had nothing on you why were you lying to me she said its not her money that if she told me that I would spend the money any how

Olunmercy56:
Madam, wake up! Go and hustle lady, stop depending on men!!!! Must man do everything for you?! Parasite!

baralatie:
Oga if you want help her life move forward then help her life to move forward.
as it stands it is more like ,you are the one manipulating her into a relationship and asking her to be a sex.ting ground with no responsibility from your part.
she already has seen that you are using for plain sex .
Oga na beg I dey beg o.if you want to help help.if you no wan help leave am

HarunaWest:
Did that your building your house doesn't stop you from being broke mehn..You broke for a relationship. that's all

baralatie:
Go through all his comments and you will see his exposed flaw which the girl picked up instantly. This relationship is based on plain "no responsibility to perform basis" but sex is involved

the girl is from a no home support as claimed by him.He steps in to "support" with benefit of sex in return, she already is a victim in her last relationship where at the end the ex walks away with another "virgin". this present one does not want to pay her school like that (smart) but does not want marriage because he is building his house.it you be girl what do you think will going on in her mind

RisenPhoenix:
Op. I have only one question for you. Exactly what is your gain from this relationship where you are just spending all this money? List out for me the tangible, material benefits in descending order please. I need the list to advice you.

ebijimi7:
then you are lost I never stated that I'm not marrying her read everything man I wouldn't want to marry her and I would sit her down to talk about what she was doing that was hurting me?

Olunmercy56:
Madam, wake up! Go and hustle lady, stop depending on men!!!! Must man do everything for you?! Parasite!

2Radii:
Dont mind dat one, na dem dey make men speak ill of women all d tym. See as she spoke like a gold digger.

ebijimi7:
no bro I stop dating her automatically means no intimacy will go on again

ebijimi7:
Good day guys
Please I need your advises on this issue on ground please nobody should attack me I know you guys knows how to attack someone
So here we go
I'm currently in a relationship which I started late 2018 after I broke up with my ex
So the relationship is just a year plus now and I have the intentions of getting married to this lady in picture,
On a blessed day I was so hungry so she came to visit me so I told her I was hungry thou that day I was tired so I asked could she help me cook so that we can eat together she refused telling me that she would never cook for me until I pay her bride price but I was like but I do cook for you and you eat and I never asked you to pay my groom price this is just to cook not that I'm asking you to wash my cloth or anything as a very gentle man I stood up went to the kitchen cooked my food myself and gave her to eat out of it after she left I thought of it that but this is the same person in assisting financially and the little favor I asked from her she could not do it?
Then I called her and discussed with her the only thing she could tell me was that she did everything to please him to the point of washing his cousins cloth and she talked about how she hated him because he took her love for granted.
Then I made her realize that remember I dated some one before yiu too despite what she did to me I didn't stop providing your own needs which means I don't care about my past I believe people are different I treated you right why are you acting like this to me.
So i didn't disturb her about anything again ever since then I believe I'm Alone to myself if I need anything I do it on my own I act like I don't have a girlfriend.
To cut the story short
We traveled for a burial so I already made plan on how we would stay and how I would take care of other things when we arrive but the plan didn't go as planned because I fell ill and I needed to go to the hospital so that I can treat my self so I was left with no option than to take from money that was kept aside for the trip,
So after the wake keeping as we were heading to our hotel room we were in a cab so she started analyzing how we would spend so I told her we have to manage what is left on us because there was no much left again
Do the next question she asked was that won't she do make up then I told her that pity me now I've been spending all this while can't you take money from your own pocket to pay the make yo artist I bought cloth for you 7k i still paid for the hotel 12k I still paid for transport and the feeding too and I'm still going to pay for transport back to lagos.
Then she started nagging why do I like to breach plan what kind of person are my I just kept quiet but the expression on the drivers face shows he really felt for me.
So on getting to the hotel room I didn't discuss anything with her I just gave her money to go and get food for her self then I slept off the next morning I don't know where the money from make up came out from and she has been claiming she doesn't have money
I just lock up.
After the burial event and everything we decide to return back to the hotel so my friend whose mother in-law burial we went for called me that he misplaced his ATM card and needed to withdraw and I wasn't with my ATM card so I asked my girlfriend if she has her ATM card she said yes so I sent her account number to him,
So I was using her phone to check for something then boom alert came in my gf has 9k in her account and she claimed she had nothing I showed her the message and told her that but you said you had nothing on you why were you lying to me she said its not her money that if she told me that I would spend the money any how