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seanwilliam:
you are right especially about the last part.. I bin think say getting admitted in all these Scandinavia countries dey easy pass Europe and America.. concerning that house stuff, well if i were the one i would try to build house first, then any other money after that would go into investment.. the house doesn't need to be built in Lekki na, na just normal portable nuclear fam apartment.. atleast that is an assurance incase things no turn out as expected for investment..

Yeah, na to build house first o. Even if na just 3 bedroom bungalow.

I'm currently earning 6digits monthly after my expenses.. I will be 23 by June and I'm self employed... I'm praying of settling down at 25 by God's grace ..but then I never had a girlfriend and still finding it difficult to get one..

homiben:
Then wat is d attraction na... Why all this early marriage talks eh!! Abeg, anyone care to educate me ...

Na lack of sense of direction since many people na maale dey tell dem how to live their lives.

Budline1:
Yeah, na to build house first o. Even if na just 3 bedroom bungalow.

atleast, that one go dey for ground. No be say you go come invest in business wey fit crash at anytime

For example now, see wetin dey happen to bitcoin, see wetin corona cause now??. If person see 10 million now, make he use 7 million build portable bungalow, use 2 million invest , chop life with 1 million.. investment fit crash, but house no dey crash anyhow except say u use mediocre material or u build am near water or fire disaster( all these no fit happen if you take precautions)... nothing like precaution for investment oo, if e go boom e go boom if e go doom e go doom...house of 100 years ago still stand to this day..

At poster.... If you need a big frog you have to be ready for it ...
I have come to understand that most guys don't value who valued them....they all need sophisticated ladis

seanwilliam:
atleast, that one go dey for ground. No be say you go come invest in business wey fit crash at anytime

For example now, see wetin dey happen to bitcoin, see wetin corona cause now??. If person see 10 million now, make he use 7 million build portable bungalow, use 2 million invest , chop life with 1 million.. investment fit crash, but house no dey crash anyhow except say u use mediocre material or u build am near water or fire disaster( all these no fit happen if you take precautions)... nothing like precaution for investment oo, if e go boom e go boom if e go doom e go doom...house of 100 years ago still stand to this day..

U are right. This has always been my plan. When u talk am, e just be like sey u read my mind out. If house don dey ground, other things go dey go with ease. No wahala of paying any landlord any rent anymore, na why man gat hustle tight, make God dey bless wella.

Gandollaar:
See Lamentations!!


A thread for broke guys.

Helinues Sarrki.

u wen ur popsy and bf still dey feed dey call niggaz wen dey hustle broke guys.

I nor need TB Joshua to tell me say ur middle name na poverty. Ozuo

seanwilliam:
This life sha, as young guy like me wey no get stable source of income now, how e one take be?? And most naija girls are broke . I dont even have problem with dem being broke, the problem is their entitlement mentality....
Well as I dey so, I no fit kill myself atall, I go enjoy myself well well for this bachelor, and I go marry when I'm comfortable.. I no fit kon start my life with suffer suffer.. if I get this degree finish, na to travel go Scandinavian countries go do masters and find one shima, give am beta belle make she give me beta pikin..
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To people that are ready for marriage, no matter how, you still have to be comfortable small before you go consider settling down.. e better not to marry atall than to marry and begin to suffer yourself, yourwife and your innocent children..
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Afterall jesus no marry now.
If pressure too much on u, then become a baby daddy.. atleast you don get seed for ground..
Also if you are not really ready for marriage, there is no point in dating naija girls cos most of dem will just suck u financially, emotionally, materially and other ally
I no sure say this country get hope again..


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P.s. to anyone reading this my ranting abeg make una begin husle earlier ooo.. if you hit better money once, use am build house first.. after that one find beta investment and continue with your husle..

Do anything wey fit give you money , it might sound crazy, but no one is going to ask u how u take make money except SARS and Efcc.. ..
Afterall, orijin is a wonderful brand..
Aro1
Nextd18

e be like say you know wein dey my mind.

anonymuz:
e be like say you know wein dey my mind.

wetin dey your mind??

seanwilliam:
wetin dey your mind??

wetin him yan made sense

seanwilliam:
wetin dey your mind??

wetin him yan made sense

pmoye:
I feel your pain and your shock at what our society seems to have become. But you got a number of things wrong which I will treat point-by-point

1) the economy is never to be blamed for ladies who are materialist. Otherwise we can also go ahead and use the economy to justify why yahoo boys, ritualists, religious leaders, politicians, and armed robbers go ahead to rob people. Economy or no economy individuals reserve the right and the choice of their response to it. Some ladies respond with hard work, smart investment and building businesses, while other ladies choose to become entitled to other's money.
2) physical beauty must never be an important fact in choosing a lady. Once she feels entitled to what you have you have to cut her lose, except the sense of entitlement is mutually tolerated and exercised by the two of you. I don't have to point it out that many of our men too are too damn entitled to the possession of their friends, families and partners.
3) stop painting our mothers in holy halo: some of them are worse than the ladies of our generation. In summary, it takes a ph.u.cked up mother to raise a ph.uck.ed up daughters, and many of us men are also a culmination of our fathers. Accept that ugly side of the truth and then we all can admit that many of us have been messed up by the very parents and society that produced us. In fact a large number of Nigerian men and ladies are choosing not to marry because of the examples they have seen in their parents growing up.
4) A man should only marry when he is financially able to take care of himself, his wife and his children. The same goes for men that have reckless sex and later insist a lady should terminate the pregnancy. Only a stupid man makes such a mistake, and a dumber lady allows herself to be put in such a position like this by a man who has no plans. It doesn't matter how long it takes you as a man to become financially capable of marrying, make sure you are before you are married. It may take 1 year, 10 or 20 years: this life is not a competition. And it is highly irresponsible of you to try to marry and produce children when you are not economically equipped to do so. You end up producing materialistic girls that tax prospective suitors out of their mind, and boys that are subjected to the kind of hussle that their fathers should have done.
5) Yes, money is pretty much everything. It is only a freakishly rich man or woman who is qualified to say money is not everything. You may think it is not everything, but it damn well answers all things.
6) This is my last point on this. There are no rules for relationship or marriage. Each lady you meet as a man is different from the last. So, be kind enough to treat them with respect, of course until they mess up and show you that they are not deserving of that respect. We all have met great girls who give no rat's ass how much you have, and they are only interested in your vision. So, can we cut down on the stereotypes against women? Shall we?
And no, I ain't married either, but this hasn't stopped me from meeting some great ladies. And yes, I have had nasty experience with Nigerian babes. The entitlement mentally is almost strictly a Nigerian thing (some, not all though, but a significant 'some'). Many of the European girls I know would get offended if you even as much as try to pay for their meal.

Good luck searching for Ms Right.

you write ups made a lot of sense

pmoye:
I feel your pain and your shock at what our society seems to have become. But you got a number of things wrong which I will treat point-by-point

1) the economy is never to be blamed for ladies who are materialist. Otherwise we can also go ahead and use the economy to justify why yahoo boys, ritualists, religious leaders, politicians, and armed robbers go ahead to rob people. Economy or no economy individuals reserve the right and the choice of their response to it. Some ladies respond with hard work, smart investment and building businesses, while other ladies choose to become entitled to other's money.
2) physical beauty must never be an important fact in choosing a lady. Once she feels entitled to what you have you have to cut her lose, except the sense of entitlement is mutually tolerated and exercised by the two of you. I don't have to point it out that many of our men too are too damn entitled to the possession of their friends, families and partners.
3) stop painting our mothers in holy halo: some of them are worse than the ladies of our generation. In summary, it takes a ph.u.cked up mother to raise a ph.uck.ed up daughters, and many of us men are also a culmination of our fathers. Accept that ugly side of the truth and then we all can admit that many of us have been messed up by the very parents and society that produced us. In fact a large number of Nigerian men and ladies are choosing not to marry because of the examples they have seen in their parents growing up.
4) A man should only marry when he is financially able to take care of himself, his wife and his children. The same goes for men that have reckless sex and later insist a lady should terminate the pregnancy. Only a stupid man makes such a mistake, and a dumber lady allows herself to be put in such a position like this by a man who has no plans. It doesn't matter how long it takes you as a man to become financially capable of marrying, make sure you are before you are married. It may take 1 year, 10 or 20 years: this life is not a competition. And it is highly irresponsible of you to try to marry and produce children when you are not economically equipped to do so. You end up producing materialistic girls that tax prospective suitors out of their mind, and boys that are subjected to the kind of hussle that their fathers should have done.
5) Yes, money is pretty much everything. It is only a freakishly rich man or woman who is qualified to say money is not everything. You may think it is not everything, but it damn well answers all things.
6) This is my last point on this. There are no rules for relationship or marriage. Each lady you meet as a man is different from the last. So, be kind enough to treat them with respect, of course until they mess up and show you that they are not deserving of that respect. We all have met great girls who give no rat's ass how much you have, and they are only interested in your vision. So, can we cut down on the stereotypes against women? Shall we?
And no, I ain't married either, but this hasn't stopped me from meeting some great ladies. And yes, I have had nasty experience with Nigerian babes. The entitlement mentally is almost strictly a Nigerian thing (some, not all though, but a significant 'some'). Many of the European girls I know would get offended if you even as much as try to pay for their meal.

Good luck searching for Ms Right.

Thanks, I agree with some points raised here

24kmagic:
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OP, if you know such type of girl who is in her early twenties, pm me. I will just date her for six months before doing the needful lol.

E be like say OP never know the situation weh we de face with 9ja girls.

9ja girls? Just forget.

If you no get money, ordinary greeting you no go see for road collect.

Me as I de like this, I just de pray make hustle pay.

If you don't have a job, you don't know how useless and irritating you look to a Nigerian girl.
If you don't have a source of income, just respect yourself and remain single.

PEOPLE MAK UNA LISTEN TO THIS ADVICE, This is the best advice, I'm talking from experience, dey no dey rush marriage ohhh. forget about our fathers. During their time, things were not this rough and tough and coupled with the mothers we had then, not the type we have now.
I rather remain single than marry in this present condition. See their is no competition in marriage, never allow anybody to pressurize u to marry, bcs when the main issue arise, that's when u will know how far.
Secondly love can only bring 2 people together, but it cannot sustain it. U need money to sustain that love, if not, if notttt, na suicide bi dat, bcs a woman will nag the heal out of your life. What works for A will not work for B.

That's true, just be wise in your selection, now you are working, most ladies will want to come near you and you won't easily know the genuine ones.

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WhatIf:
Another man food is another man poison.

I don't have a job when I met my wife, I am a hustler when I gave birth to my first daughter and my second son. Still, up till now, I don't have a stable job, my first daughter will sit for her W.A.E.C this year in one of the best private secondary school in Ijebu-Ode. What If I tell you I am living in my own house, will you believe?
What pains me most is that I got this knowledge very late, but All glory be to God.

wow. Pls can you show us the way, so we can learn?

Impostor:
Hello NLders

I just want to share my experience. I want people to learn from others.

So recently I started dating and meeting women with the mindset of getting married as everyone around me keep shouting that I am getting overripe. Some are even wondering if everything is ok downstairs lol. How can you not be married up till now? You know those types of comments. But how could I have gotten married when unemployment no release me until 36? Nigeria is something else. It was at that age that I finally landed a decent job. I am even lucky to be where I am now.

So many youths are underemployed/under paid. Less than a month ago, a good friend who is also my course mate messaged me to express his frustration at teaching somewhere for 50k and he said he's now ready to make money anyhow even if it will take someone's blood . It's just a threat out of frustration.

The problem now is that I don't know if there are still good women like our mothers in this country. I have met so many young girls that I have stopped trying, the quest and hunger of these girls for money is just too much.

You are unemployed and you want me to buy you an iPhone of 150,000 Naira and she was making so much noise about it. Meanwhile I use a phone of 30k lol. Almost all the ladies I am meeting are unemployed and expensive. I met one girl awaiting NYSC, she told me straight up, that I will have to be taking care of her, that she's tired of dating broke guys so she has decided that any man she wants to date will have to be responsible for her completely. It sounded like a transaction. Though she's a very pretty, tall girl but I am not even after all those facial beauty.

Another lady told me she has half of her rent and she's looking for the remaining half. The stories are so many, I could write a book with them. I don't even know how to get working class ladies. But I have now realized that Nigerian ladies are not even the problem, it's the economy. Many young ladies are struggling just like guys and the only way they can meet up with their bills is by dating 3/4 guys.


Advise from my experience.

After my NYSC, over 10 years ago, I had this mind set that I won't get married without a job or funds to take proper care of my family. I think that mindset MAY be wrong, so many people still think this way.

I will advise you look at it again because it may take you 15/20 years after University to become comfortable (not your portion). Let me be sincere with you, this Nigeria is getting worse by the day especially with the type of leaders we have, who think only of themselves and their families/tribe.

For example, you can see for yourself what is happening with the outbreak of Corona Virus in the country. After 2 infection, people started advising that we should stop foreign flights, they refused until so many infected people got into the country, now they are running up&down. If we are lucky to get good leaders after now, it may take another 30 years of continuous good leadership to save Nigeria.

My advise is that after your NYSC, if you have a supportive family and a good/understanding girl friend, just marry her and start your family. You two will Hussle together and God will bless your hustle. You may ask why? Because most people finish around 25. If it takes you 10 years to become stable and get married, if you are lucky, you will have your first child at 36, 37. By the time you are 50, your child will be in junior secondary.

Be wise money is not everything.

This story of yours is directly relating to my present condition. I’ve decided to get married this year no matter what. As young guys, we usually make the mistake of waiting for the time we’ll be financially loaded before getting married, which doesn’t really pan out the way we want. The money might not come earlier in our 20s or 30s and we make the mistake of waiting and wasting valuable time instead of getting married at a youthful age. Guys, the main thing is to have a job, even if it’s not paying much and then find an understanding lady that will be ready to settle down with you. The fact is that not all ladies are overly materialistic and looking for rich guys, a lot of ladies just need an ambitious and purposeful man that has a means of livelihood to settle down with. Again, I wished I didn’t wait this long before deciding to get married. Anyways, it’s not too late. Thanks for your post bro.

Am 38 girls have shown me pepper..chop all my hard earned money and ran away..am poor now the one am with now that want to marry just dey misbehave...
She will be online on her WhatsApp for days and she won't say common hi or hello to me until l complain she will just say sorry...
For two years now she never give me 1 naira am d one given ..though I never asked her

Sheminator:
Am 38 girls have shown me pepper..chop all my hard earned money and ran away..am poor now the one am with now that want to marry just dey misbehave...
She will be online on her WhatsApp for days and she won't say common hi or hello to me until l complain she will just say sorry...
For two years now she never give me 1 naira am d one given ..though I never asked her

And you think you’re still in a relationship with her? You’re dating yourself o, she’s not your woman. She’s treating you like you don’t exist. Drop her and move on.

Impostor:
Hello NLders

I just want to share my experience. I want people to learn from others.

So recently I started dating and meeting women with the mindset of getting married as everyone around me keep shouting that I am getting overripe. Some are even wondering if everything is ok downstairs lol. How can you not be married up till now? You know those types of comments. But how could I have gotten married when unemployment no release me until 36? Nigeria is something else. It was at that age that I finally landed a decent job. I am even lucky to be where I am now.

So many youths are underemployed/under paid. Less than a month ago, a good friend who is also my course mate messaged me to express his frustration at teaching somewhere for 50k and he said he's now ready to make money anyhow even if it will take someone's blood . It's just a threat out of frustration.

The problem now is that I don't know if there are still good women like our mothers in this country. I have met so many young girls that I have stopped trying, the quest and hunger of these girls for money is just too much.

You are unemployed and you want me to buy you an iPhone of 150,000 Naira and she was making so much noise about it. Meanwhile I use a phone of 30k lol. Almost all the ladies I am meeting are unemployed and expensive. I met one girl awaiting NYSC, she told me straight up, that I will have to be taking care of her, that she's tired of dating broke guys so she has decided that any man she wants to date will have to be responsible for her completely. It sounded like a transaction. Though she's a very pretty, tall girl but I am not even after all those facial beauty.

Another lady told me she has half of her rent and she's looking for the remaining half. The stories are so many, I could write a book with them. I don't even know how to get working class ladies. But I have now realized that Nigerian ladies are not even the problem, it's the economy. Many young ladies are struggling just like guys and the only way they can meet up with their bills is by dating 3/4 guys.


Advise from my experience.

After my NYSC, over 10 years ago, I had this mind set that I won't get married without a job or funds to take proper care of my family. I think that mindset MAY be wrong, so many people still think this way.

I will advise you look at it again because it may take you 15/20 years after University to become comfortable (not your portion). Let me be sincere with you, this Nigeria is getting worse by the day especially with the type of leaders we have, who think only of themselves and their families/tribe.

For example, you can see for yourself what is happening with the outbreak of Corona Virus in the country. After 2 infection, people started advising that we should stop foreign flights, they refused until so many infected people got into the country, now they are running up&down. If we are lucky to get good leaders after now, it may take another 30 years of continuous good leadership to save Nigeria.

My advise is that after your NYSC, if you have a supportive family and a good/understanding girl friend, just marry her and start your family. You two will Hussle together and God will bless your hustle. You may ask why? Because most people finish around 25. If it takes you 10 years to become stable and get married, if you are lucky, you will have your first child at 36, 37. By the time you are 50, your child will be in junior secondary.

Be wise money is not everything.

your experience is common in Nigeria sadly.

The major problem Nigeria have is poverty, widespread poverty due to mass youth unemployment and underemployment.

Despite graduating with a wonderful result and in a great field, coupled with great trending skills then, I struggled for years to find a decent job. I bought my first car from my personal struggle not through formal job. 95% of my life's achievement so far came from my personal skill, struggle and initiative. What saved me was my business sense, it helped me to startup and build a thriving business that have taken me places, what if I didn't have such business acumen What of Nigerian youths that don't have such business acumen like me Maybe they will end up wretched and miserable for life


My only anger with Nigerian youths is they allow politicians use tribalism and religious hogwash to deceive them into voting foolish men and hating some tribes that condemn and try to push these foolish leaders to do what is right.


I sincerely pity Nigerian youths because the future looks dark, I see no hope or improvement. With time, 40yrs will become the youngest age Nigerian guys marry while 35yrs will be for ladies all because of rising youth unemployment and underemployment in Nigeria.

Any Nigerian youth that see an opportunity to migrate out of Nigeria legally should please do it unless you are earning good income in Nigeria as an employee or a business owner, if not, find way and leave for your own future good

24kmagic:
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OP, if you know such type of girl who is in her early twenties, pm me. I will just date her for six months before doing the needful lol.

E be like say OP never know the situation weh we de face with 9ja girls.

9ja girls? Just forget.

If you no get money, ordinary greeting you no go see for road collect.

Me as I de like this, I just de pray make hustle pay.

If you don't have a job, you don't know how useless and irritating you look to a Nigerian girl.
If you don't have a source of income, just respect yourself and remain single.

You are exaggerating.
Most men who get married are not rich!

How can you attract someone when you have already written yourself off?

Sheminator:
Am 38 girls have shown me pepper..chop all my hard earned money and ran away..am poor now the one am with now that want to marry just dey misbehave...
She will be online on her WhatsApp for days and she won't say common hi or hello to me until l complain she will just say sorry...
For two years now she never give me 1 naira am d one given ..though I never asked her

Bros, it's like u are datin urself o, biko. U just av 2 wise up nd be diplomatic. Even if u r desperate 2 settle down, don't show it.

Sm girls sha, hw can u be online nd neglect sm1 u claim 2 be datin? Wu den av u been busy chatin wif? Smtin is amiss.

Use wateva money dat komz ur way 2 develop urself nd plan 4 ur future, stop investin in a girl dat cud leave u wen a beta offer show up. Dia approach is mostly goin 4 d highest bidder.

U can kip her, but still be on a look out 4 a beta lady who wud be on same page wif u instead of putin ol ur eggs in one basket. Dis isn't necessary thou, shud u don't av plan 2 settle down any moment as one will continue 2 learn in life nd relationship.