Eva165:
O.p it seems you know what am passing through now, I met a lady 2017 when I was in Nigeria, then i left Nigeria that same year. Although we were not into any relationship then but I likes her,then earlier this year I gave her my foreign number so that can now be talking on watsap. I have planned to come home nextyear and get married to her since she told me that she is not into any relationship.I had expressed to her how much i likes her but I have never review my nextyear plans with her bcuz I don't want her to start packaging.Things have being moving well since January, but since we get into this March everything changed. I have called her severely to know what her problems, she was only given unnecessary excuses, I talked to her to be calm which she accepted. But a week latta everything became worst but I still maintain not to tell her my nextyear intentions. Am even fad up of the whole drama...Thinking of forgetting her and look for another babe.........Many ladies don't want to hear truth.

Do your self a favour and forget about her pls

No woman should make u turning into "bad guy", just because u need acceptance...

Just be good and be discipline when you need too and dnt be a weakly

obembet:
They sabi handle ladies well on bed. Kill your self

yinmu, joko sibe

Very true. A guy that is ready to treat a Lady like a Queen will be treated like thrash. I met a queen recently, wanted something serious. But a yahoo yahoo chap shows up flashed some cash she followed like a dog following bone. The yahoo guy later left her in a hostel after poking her & left huge bill after escaping. She called me to bail her out. What a life

Any woman who let guys treat her like trash is wounded in the soul and needs help. And the only person that can render that help is Jesus. Jesus did not invest his life on you to be treated like trash. They don't know they are Queens cuz they were birthed by a King. Truth, you can never live above who you know you are. You are reading and you know you are one of them, Jesus loves you and wants you to know you are the apple of his eyes. He has made you a queen so that humans shouldn't treat you like a slave or reject. If you can give him a chance, he will fill that voice all those men can never fill and will give you peace and joy you will never phatom. He loves you so much. Yes you! He does. Give him your life and you'll see what I mean.

Na 9ja babes dey behave like that, they show much love and respect to that guy who is very hard on them. In advanced world opposite is the case

Beckysexy:
Nah nah
Not me
If you treat me like trash, I'll also treat you like trash.That's my law
Me wey no gbadun before

. I like ur style i think we are good together

Kekereekun123:
Sometimes when you look back at how women treated you as a good and calm guy over the years you begin to think should I turn into a heartless beast?

I have friends who treat them like trash but the ladies still keep chasing them. Some don't even have money or cars o.

,I know Ur type.The amibo types,ur type does anything just to see the pant of a lady.u ar a weakling and ladies dnt feel secure with Ur type.who knows the lady u av been doing assignments for.car washer

Single as fuvck Have no worries at all, when d time comes d right one will show, no time to waste jare . Am also very honest, I don't pay any women bills except my blood relatives life's good

pocohantas:
Women love men who treat them like trash,
Most women date men who treat them like trash.

Do you treat your woman like trash?
Does your father treat your mother like trash?
Is your sister dating a man who treats her like trash?

The answer to ALL would be NO.

Who then are these women and men?
They should be in a better position to answer.

shey you dey take beer � ?

This is simply because women love what they can't understand

Women loves complications

So therefore they love complicated guys

Not some simple dude that they can read just like the front covers of dailies

Alexaonfleek:
Women who like men treating them like trash have insecurity issues.
That being said,no woman likes a doormat either.
Be loving,dotting but firm as a man.


But how many times will they flog this issue on nairaland sef

Come make I treat you like thrash

Its the feeling of adventure with the bad guys in the girls youthful days. Good guys are kind of boring to girls and majority are just plain introvert and vibe killers and are not willing to do the do. For example a good guy may find it hard to take advantage of a young inexperienced girl but the young girl wants a guy that will take advantage of her add do what she really wants which is sometimes to have sex with her or spoil her by living life like there is no tomorrow .
The good guys are like spare tyres in this modern world . When the girls are done playing wild they eventually come crawling to the good guys.

And guess what. Most good guys still fail to see through the vail or just decide to ride along with the wave

You wey no gbadun before and you are proud.

Beckysexy:
Nah nah
Not me
If you treat me like trash, I'll also treat you like trash.That's my law
Me wey no gbadun before

Beckysexy:
Nah nah
Not me
If you treat me like trash, I'll also treat you like trash.That's my law
Me wey no gbadun before

i know your type keyboard warrior but in real life nothing

Beckysexy:
Nah nah
Not me
If you treat me like trash, I'll also treat you like trash.That's my law
Me wey no gbadun before

Better see a psychiatrist fast before things get totally out of control.

"good boys go to heaven, but bad boys bring heaven to you" ....

Queenserah26:
Deep and insightful piece. Thing is, i have never really taken time to observe the sequence. All in all, I feel it just happens.

Thank you. I agree. Sometimes we choose our paths subconsciously.

AfroKnight:
Bro haven’t you heard? Good guys finish last.

Most babes reserve a spot in their hearts for good guys. They treat such guys as a fall-back plan in case the cocky bastàrds they want, leave them broken. This is so they can carry their broken selves to the good guy to patch up and marry.

If they’re lucky, the bad boy sticks with them and they endure a tumultuous marriage. If not, it’s mr nice guy they’d be buzzing on Whatsapp after 5 years incommunicado.

Don’t be the nice guy. Don’t be the last option on the list of an unstable untrustworthy woman.

Word

Infact 95% of ladies

Beckysexy:
Nah nah
Not me
If you treat me like trash, I'll also treat you like trash.That's my law
Me wey no gbadun before

Thats what they all say

Leezah:
Long Post Alert
I don’t think they start out looking for a guy to treat them wrongly.

They start out looking for a guy who is assertive, stands his ground, demands his dues, is confident, does not back down, is not a doormat. This would imply that he has what it takes to later on protect her and the kids. Quite justifiable from a primordial point of view.

The problem is that there are limits to acceptable behavior. If you take it to an extreme, all of the above qualities could be associated with wife and child abusers, sociopaths and psychopaths. If the woman doesn’t have a gauge for “when is this too much of a good thing”, she may end up with quite the jerk.

It doesn’t help if the woman’s Father was a guy who abused or mistreated his wife, her mother. Because whatever our rational intentions, we do tend to become and marry our parents. Find me a woman who is a doormat and I have a pretty good idea of what her Father was like.

Guys have an obligation to get our s**t together when it comes to raising our daughters. Too many women with Father issues out there. Love and attraction are based on both psychology and spark of chemistry. It has been scientifically proven that both pleasure and pain are needed to create a long lasting attraction. Therefore, hot and cold formula to spicy up love life always seems to win.

However, if one consciously chooses their romantic partner who treats them badly only its a strong indicator of one's low self esteem. The person doesnt believe s/he can be loved by their partner, thus will keep choosing people who treat them badly to get a confirmation of their own beliefs.

In many cases such as person may also refuse the other person who doesnt communicate their intentions in the way they are familiar with.

Unfortunately, this is the first step towards creating a toxic relationships. I would highly suggest working on one's self esteem before deciding to get involved with the other person. Hope this answer helps.

This is an age-old conundrum wrapped up in a riddle. I’ve heard arguments bandied back and forth between girls and there male “friend zone” counterparts. Often, I’ve heard women say that they pray for and would kill for a “nice guy” as long as he is physically attractive, funny, smart, etc. I’ve had female friends who dated these nice guys and they would complain that these men are “too nice” and they could walk all over them, hence they are no longer attracted to them.

-It goes back to the hunter-gatherer days, where the alpha male was the most sought after. 10,000 years of societal evolution has yet to ween humanity of this attraction. The beta males (or alpha aspirants) wait for the scraps of the hunt, and contend for the women who would settle for them.

-Alpha males can either be benevolent or bullies. They are seen as dominant, so even a “nice alpha male” can be resented for being seen as a tyrant. Most women see the alpha as their ideal - though alphas may not be compatible with them.

-There are also sigma males - they don’t subscribe to alpha or beta tendencies, but are in a class by themselves and don’t care for anyone’s opinion of them. They don’t necessarily treat women poorly. They do their own thing and there is that breed of woman who finds this trait attractive.

-Bad boys and rebels - women find them attractive as well. They think these men have more courage than the other men, and chutzpah is an attractive trait.

Do nice guys finish last? Not necessarily.

Many successful men exist in the workplace today that are very kind and compassionate. The smart women prize these men who bring home the proverbial bacon, or the “largest kill”, yet are generous, loving and in their eyes attractive.

its like youre crafting this words for me to fall for u.. Hahah. Beautiful

Beckysexy:
Nah nah
Not me
If you treat me like trash, I'll also treat you like trash.That's my law
Me wey no gbadun before

yinmu. Na people like you dey always cry because of big prick

Kekereekun123:
Sometimes when you look back at how women treated you as a good and calm guy over the years you begin to think should I turn into a heartless beast?

I have friends who treat them like trash but the ladies still keep chasing them. Some don't even have money or cars o.

according to a lady she said most women are attracted to drama and men who make them feel jealous,because it gives the relationship a soul,the fact is that there are those women that are just attracted to you and your type of person,as for me I let my aura do the magic.

jayaim:
Very true. A guy that is ready to treat a Lady like a Queen will be treated like thrash. I met a queen recently, wanted something serious. But a yahoo yahoo chap shows up flashed some cash she followed like a dog following bone. The yahoo guy later left her in a hostel after poking her & left huge bill after escaping. She called me to bail her out. What a life

Hope you blocked her number right away ?

AfroKnight:
Bro haven’t you heard? Good guys finish last.

Most babes reserve a spot in their hearts for good guys. They treat such guys as a fall-back plan in case the cocky bastàrds they want, leave them broken. This is so they can carry their broken selves to the good guy to patch up and marry.

If they’re lucky, the bad boy sticks with them and they endure a tumultuous marriage. If not, it’s mr nice guy they’d be buzzing on Whatsapp after 5 years incommunicado.

Don’t be the nice guy. Don’t be the last option on the list of an unstable untrustworthy woman.

100% true!!



Ladies can deny but once they log out they face the reality, some are currently lying in the arms of that stupid bad guy treating them like thrash, but to her, he will change

Sorry, I can't relate.

bezimo:


Word

Thanks boss

Realmenlovetruly:
Back to the OP


Though am lazy to type but will try and give the original keypoint


When we are talking about being Nice, Please to be Nice Man is totally different from to be a Weak Man


Listen if you can not be real you when it comes to woman world then you are a weak man


A bad guy can be nice and also still wicked the wicked part is that the bad guy is always be real when it comes to ladies world


But the weak guy or over-nice guy always try to please the woman, even if what he is going to do is not that comfortable to him


He is always feel scared to says his opinion to the girl,scared of her leaving him


In which the real guy,popularly called Bad guy don't give a Bleep whether she leaves or she stays


He is always real and nice


We cant date for 2 seconds if you dont want me to be real with you


But i can still makes you pee in your pant with my jokes and attitudes

Op this is the answer. Thread closed

Not me
If you treat me like trash, I'll also treat you like trash.That's my law
Me wey no gbadun before[

Shut up, after wasting my time trying to see the sexy you.