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Re: Why Do Women Love Those Guys That Treat Them Like Trash??? by BodySh0pByEvie(f): 10:22pm On Mar 25
Nope we don't love guys that treat us like trash, it just happens that the ones we truly love are trash.

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Re: Why Do Women Love Those Guys That Treat Them Like Trash??? by Queenserah26(f): 10:22pm On Mar 25
This left me speechlesa
AfroKnight:
Bro haven’t you heard? Good guys finish last.

Most babes reserve a spot in their hearts for good guys. They treat such guys as a fall-back plan in case the cocky bastàrds they want, leave them broken. This is so they can carry their broken selves to the good guy to patch up and marry.

If they’re lucky, the bad boy sticks with them and they endure a tumultuous marriage. If not, it’s mr nice guy they’d be buzzing on Whatsapp after 5 years incommunicado.

Don’t be the nice guy. Don’t be the last option on the list of an unstable untrustworthy woman.

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Re: Why Do Women Love Those Guys That Treat Them Like Trash??? by sheriffindy(m): 10:23pm On Mar 25
luminouz:


Yinmu
im not wasting my sanitizer on that comment again.
Re: Why Do Women Love Those Guys That Treat Them Like Trash??? by Omnivalent(m): 10:23pm On Mar 25
luke55720:
The feeling women get from those type of guys make their pussy wet
no be lie
Re: Why Do Women Love Those Guys That Treat Them Like Trash??? by sheriffindy(m): 10:24pm On Mar 25
BodySh0pByEvie:
Nope we don't love guys that treat us like trash, it just happens that the ones we truly love are trash.
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Re: Why Do Women Love Those Guys That Treat Them Like Trash??? by AfroKnight: 10:25pm On Mar 25
Queenserah26:
This left me speechlesa

Is that a good thing or a bad thing?
Re: Why Do Women Love Those Guys That Treat Them Like Trash??? by luminouz(m): 10:25pm On Mar 25
grin
sheriffindy:
im not wasting my sanitizer on that comment again.
Re: Why Do Women Love Those Guys That Treat Them Like Trash??? by khalidx: 10:25pm On Mar 25
Leezah:
Long Post Alert
I don’t think they start out looking for a guy to treat them wrongly.

They start out looking for a guy who is assertive, stands his ground, demands his dues, is confident, does not back down, is not a doormat. This would imply that he has what it takes to later on protect her and the kids. Quite justifiable from a primordial point of view.

The problem is that there are limits to acceptable behavior. If you take it to an extreme, all of the above qualities could be associated with wife and child abusers, sociopaths and psychopaths. If the woman doesn’t have a gauge for “when is this too much of a good thing”, she may end up with quite the jerk.

It doesn’t help if the woman’s Father was a guy who abused or mistreated his wife, her mother. Because whatever our rational intentions, we do tend to become and marry our parents. Find me a woman who is a doormat and I have a pretty good idea of what her Father was like.

Guys have an obligation to get our s**t together when it comes to raising our daughters. Too many women with Father issues out there. Love and attraction are based on both psychology and spark of chemistry. It has been scientifically proven that both pleasure and pain are needed to create a long lasting attraction. Therefore, hot and cold formula to spicy up love life always seems to win.

However, if one consciously chooses their romantic partner who treats them badly only its a strong indicator of one's low self esteem. The person doesnt believe s/he can be loved by their partner, thus will keep choosing people who treat them badly to get a confirmation of their own beliefs.

In many cases such as person may also refuse the other person who doesnt communicate their intentions in the way they are familiar with.

Unfortunately, this is the first step towards creating a toxic relationships. I would highly suggest working on one's self esteem before deciding to get involved with the other person. Hope this answer helps.

This is an age-old conundrum wrapped up in a riddle. I’ve heard arguments bandied back and forth between girls and there male “friend zone” counterparts. Often, I’ve heard women say that they pray for and would kill for a “nice guy” as long as he is physically attractive, funny, smart, etc. I’ve had female friends who dated these nice guys and they would complain that these men are “too nice” and they could walk all over them, hence they are no longer attracted to them.

-It goes back to the hunter-gatherer days, where the alpha male was the most sought after. 10,000 years of societal evolution has yet to ween humanity of this attraction. The beta males (or alpha aspirants) wait for the scraps of the hunt, and contend for the women who would settle for them.

-Alpha males can either be benevolent or bullies. They are seen as dominant, so even a “nice alpha male” can be resented for being seen as a tyrant. Most women see the alpha as their ideal - though alphas may not be compatible with them.

-There are also sigma males - they don’t subscribe to alpha or beta tendencies, but are in a class by themselves and don’t care for anyone’s opinion of them. They don’t necessarily treat women poorly. They do their own thing and there is that breed of woman who finds this trait attractive.

-Bad boys and rebels - women find them attractive as well. They think these men have more courage than the other men, and chutzpah is an attractive trait.

Do nice guys finish last? Not necessarily.

Many successful men exist in the workplace today that are very kind and compassionate. The smart women prize these men who bring home the
proverbial bacon, or the “largest kill”, yet are generous, loving and in their eyes attractive.
learn something new thanks

Chutzpah

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Re: Why Do Women Love Those Guys That Treat Them Like Trash??? by bulbutcher(m): 10:25pm On Mar 25
viyon02:
All women my dear
sm grow wiser as they grow older nt all
Re: Why Do Women Love Those Guys That Treat Them Like Trash??? by ladyGKilaBCrueD(f): 10:26pm On Mar 25
Women like "bad boys" I guess?? I prefer a nice man though.
Re: Why Do Women Love Those Guys That Treat Them Like Trash??? by MYHUBBY(m): 10:27pm On Mar 25
maybe because women see men with gut as guys/men with class


many ladies see guys/men that do their bid easily as weak men. they give regards to men who have principles and can turn things around without having no reason to consult them before taking a stand or decision


my present babe is the only I had a lasting relationship with because of the way I handle the relationship, I always do the bid of other ex and they abused that privilege a lot


even if you don't have enough cash you can still have Ctrl in your relationship, I know of a lady that worked and still bring her salary to feed her guy. no be say the guy used something for her, na Ctrl

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Re: Why Do Women Love Those Guys That Treat Them Like Trash??? by square7: 10:27pm On Mar 25
viyon02:
My brother that is just my thought for today: I think being a gentleman is not enough to handle ladies, they just need to see that beast like trait in you just to correct their brain.

Don't you think you are the one going bunker in/with your brain rather than thinking you are resetting another's brain? lipsrsealed lipsrsealed shocked
Re: Why Do Women Love Those Guys That Treat Them Like Trash??? by MOnkeyBabe(f): 10:28pm On Mar 25
Kekereekun123:
Sometimes when you look back at how women treated you as a good and calm guy over the years you begin to think should I turn into a heartless beast?

I have friends who treat them like trash but the ladies still keep chasing them. Some don't even have money or cars o.
I Don't know if you are a ChRiStian. And your OPinion may be BiaSed. Maybe being a Good Guy whose feelinGs have been huRt. But what if God Sent that GooD girl to the BaD Guy on PuRpOSe to change them.
Re: Why Do Women Love Those Guys That Treat Them Like Trash??? by Injiggerwolf(m): 10:28pm On Mar 25
Every female be it Humans or Animals will prefer a strong, rugged, and cocky partner. It's a natural thing.... a real man must be real and got some ”killer“ in his look.
Such attributes spills to Protection, Sexual performance and the likes.

So it's normal......maybe trash is not the appropriate adjective

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Re: Why Do Women Love Those Guys That Treat Them Like Trash??? by Joystark(f): 10:28pm On Mar 25
Let the wise ones come n answer.
Re: Why Do Women Love Those Guys That Treat Them Like Trash??? by Tosinayoko(m): 10:30pm On Mar 25
abi oooo
Re: Why Do Women Love Those Guys That Treat Them Like Trash??? by micxwell(m): 10:31pm On Mar 25
Beckysexy:

Foolish question
Does a guy bears Rebecca?
are you really alright?
You no gbadun true true cheesy
Re: Why Do Women Love Those Guys That Treat Them Like Trash??? by urboyAce(m): 10:32pm On Mar 25
MOnkeyBabe:

I Don't know if you are a ChRiStian. And your OPinion may be BiaSed. Maybe being a Good Guy whose feelinGs have been huRt. But what if God Sent that GooD girl to the BaD Guy on PuRpOSe to change them.
Shit! I hate hearing stuffs like this

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Re: Why Do Women Love Those Guys That Treat Them Like Trash??? by PerfectMaster: 10:32pm On Mar 25
Women love guys that treat them like trash because they are over fed with attention and commendations from simps.
Ladies are drawn to that bad guys they think they can fix, they want to overcome that which is proving stubborn to them and they want that man that will correct them without sugar coating it and at the same time they love lies, they level in that imaginary perfect world govern by emotions.

They are broken but dont know and seriously need help not from men but from their maker.

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Re: Why Do Women Love Those Guys That Treat Them Like Trash??? by brainhgeek(m): 10:33pm On Mar 25
There are four types of boos you should run away from in a relationship;
1. Bookata
2. Agbeleboo
3. Eleriiboo
4. Boohar---(fill in the gap)
Abeg o,na joke I dey o. Before somebody faya me katapot

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Re: Why Do Women Love Those Guys That Treat Them Like Trash??? by Freelane33(m): 10:33pm On Mar 25
Really ? Pls give me a chance for a month let’s date lol
Re: Why Do Women Love Those Guys That Treat Them Like Trash??? by franchasng: 10:33pm On Mar 25
Kekereekun123:
Sometimes when you look back at how women treated you as a good and calm guy over the years you begin to think should I turn into a heartless beast?

I have friends who treat them like trash but the ladies still keep chasing them. Some don't even have money or cars o.
it's because women are like kids, kids fear and respect the parent that flogs them while they disobey the parent that pampers them a lot because they know the cool headed parent won't flog them when they misbehave.


And again, ladies are born to desire to fix things. They love fixing things. Ladies always feel that if they fix a bad guy, especially a good looking bad guy or a rich bad guy, he will become theirs alone to enjoy, and in the process they get stuck in the fixing and end up being maltreated or treated like thrash like you said.


Don't blame them, blame their nature.


Many ladies won't understand why they love bad and rough looking guys but in reality they are usually attracted to them.


And lastly another reason is, women naturally want a protector and shield so they usually believe by default that a nice guy is weak and won't be strong enough to protect them, so they neglect him because they feel he is weak and not man enough while they innately fall for the bad guy because they naturally believe he can protect them at all time.

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Re: Why Do Women Love Those Guys That Treat Them Like Trash??? by JubiOmeiza(m): 10:33pm On Mar 25
especially guys that smoke weeds like nobody business...

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Re: Why Do Women Love Those Guys That Treat Them Like Trash??? by idonhammer: 10:33pm On Mar 25
Only your comment make sense here.oya take this one enjoy your stay at home.

sotherefore:
On my opinion....you don't have to be a jerk......the following are those things that make you a nice guy..

1)...if a girl cross your boundary...you will just overlook which means you don't know what you want......never fail to let a girl know when she has offended you no matter how beautiful she may be...

2)..laughing stupidly when you are around her..am not saying you should be Mr.serious but laff when is absolutely necessary or only when it funny to you.....don't be so happy because you have seen her and start smiling like a child....i mean laughed maturedly

3)being afraid to let a girl go....as a man your self respect is more important than her...if she can't respect you....let her go .

4)not having a life......as a man activists in your life should be the most important.....don't always be too available..she called you to come over...don't just agreed as if you are desperate...tell her that you have to check your schedule if there is Time.........don't cancel important events to hang out with a lady..

5)..don't give her money so easily....she ask you for 3000 and you just give to her like that without making her work for it...

MOST IMPORTANTLY.....Don't always try to make her happy....do only thing that you like whether she likes it or not as Long as you are comfortable with it........e.g....a girl may say you like ignoring her but when you start giving her too much attention...boom ! ...she throw you to the nice guy section because she has change you.....ignoring her was the challenge she was facing
.now she has changed you and no mystery left............IN A SIMPLE EXPLANATION...PLAY HARD TO GET...NEVER BE A CHEAP GUY..

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Re: Why Do Women Love Those Guys That Treat Them Like Trash??? by Eva165: 10:34pm On Mar 25
O.p it seems you know what am passing through now, I met a lady 2017 when I was in Nigeria, then i left Nigeria that same year. Although we were not into any relationship then but I likes her,then earlier this year I gave her my foreign number so that can now be talking on watsap. I have planned to come home nextyear and get married to her since she told me that she is not into any relationship.I had expressed to her how much i likes her but I have never review my nextyear plans with her bcuz I don't want her to start packaging.Things have being moving well since January, but since we get into this March everything changed. I have called her severely to know what her problems, she was only given unnecessary excuses, I talked to her to be calm which she accepted. But a week latta everything became worst but I still maintain not to tell her my nextyear intentions. Am even fad up of the whole drama...Thinking of forgetting her and look for another babe.........Many ladies don't want to hear truth.

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Re: Why Do Women Love Those Guys That Treat Them Like Trash??? by bizhop01(m): 10:34pm On Mar 25
Is true just look around,

Ladies can never label men that treat them like trash MUGU,
Only those that treat them like queen of the south,
Those that offered them breakfast in bed every blessed day,
Those that even if they wrong them, he will apologize instead of her,
Upon all the sacrifice those guys passed through they no fear their creator still label this category of people like MUGU1, MUGU2, MUGU3,
Some time i wonder if they slay queen's had fish brain.

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Re: Why Do Women Love Those Guys That Treat Them Like Trash??? by Jamesrock(m): 10:34pm On Mar 25
Beckysexy:
Nah nah
Not me
If you treat me like trash, I'll also treat you like trash.That's my law
Me wey no gbadun before
Lols
My dear, u won’t know you’re being treated like trash

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Re: Why Do Women Love Those Guys That Treat Them Like Trash??? by Queenserah26(f): 10:34pm On Mar 25
Deep and insightful piece. Thing is, i have never really taken time to observe the sequence. All in all, I feel it just happens.
AfroKnight:


Is that a good thing or a bad thing?

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Re: Why Do Women Love Those Guys That Treat Them Like Trash??? by Freelane33(m): 10:35pm On Mar 25
Beckysexy:
Nah nah
Not me
If you treat me like trash, I'll also treat you like trash.That's my law
Me wey no gbadun before
.
How i wish we can date for just a month lol and come back on here to share your experience
Re: Why Do Women Love Those Guys That Treat Them Like Trash??? by JamesRiley(m): 10:36pm On Mar 25
luke55720:
The feeling women get from those type of guys make their pussy wet
DeyDonKnow
Re: Why Do Women Love Those Guys That Treat Them Like Trash??? by ibkkk(f): 10:37pm On Mar 25
viyon02:
My brother that is just my thought for today: I think being a gentleman is not enough to handle ladies, they just need to see that beast like trait in you just to correct their brain.

Reset smiley
Re: Why Do Women Love Those Guys That Treat Them Like Trash??? by vower(m): 10:37pm On Mar 25
Realmenlovetruly:
Back to the OP


Though am lazy to type but will try and give the original keypoint


When we are talking about being Nice, Please to be Nice Man is totally different from to be a Weak Man


Listen if you can not be real you when it comes to woman world then you are a weak man


A bad guy can be nice and also still wicked the wicked part is that the bad guy is always be real when it comes to ladies world


But the weak guy or over-nice guy always try to please the woman, even if what he is going to do is not that comfortable to him


He is always feel scared to says his opinion to the girl,scared of her leaving him


In which the real guy,popularly called Bad guy don't give a Bleep whether she leaves or she stays


He is always real and nice


We cant date for 2 seconds if you dont want me to be real with you


But i can still makes you pee in your pant with my jokes and attitudes
Realmenlovetruly:Though am lazy to type but will try and give the original keypoint

Realmenlovetruly:*goes on to type essay* angry

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