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stevups:
Ladies don't like weakly guys. You have to be tough

Leezah:
Long Post Alert
I don’t think they start out looking for a guy to treat them wrongly.

They start out looking for a guy who is assertive, stands his ground, demands his dues, is confident, does not back down, is not a doormat. This would imply that he has what it takes to later on protect her and the kids. Quite justifiable from a primordial point of view.

The problem is that there are limits to acceptable behavior. If you take it to an extreme, all of the above qualities could be associated with wife and child abusers, sociopaths and psychopaths. If the woman doesn’t have a gauge for “when is this too much of a good thing”, she may end up with quite the jerk.

It doesn’t help if the woman’s Father was a guy who abused or mistreated his wife, her mother. Because whatever our rational intentions, we do tend to become and marry our parents. Find me a woman who is a doormat and I have a pretty good idea of what her Father was like.

Guys have an obligation to get our s**t together when it comes to raising our daughters. Too many women with Father issues out there. Love and attraction are based on both psychology and spark of chemistry. It has been scientifically proven that both pleasure and pain are needed to create a long lasting attraction. Therefore, hot and cold formula to spicy up love life always seems to win.

However, if one consciously chooses their romantic partner who treats them badly only its a strong indicator of one's low self esteem. The person doesnt believe s/he can be loved by their partner, thus will keep choosing people who treat them badly to get a confirmation of their own beliefs.

In many cases such as person may also refuse the other person who doesnt communicate their intentions in the way they are familiar with.

Unfortunately, this is the first step towards creating a toxic relationships. I would highly suggest working on one's self esteem before deciding to get involved with the other person. Hope this answer helps.

This is an age-old conundrum wrapped up in a riddle. I’ve heard arguments bandied back and forth between girls and there male “friend zone” counterparts. Often, I’ve heard women say that they pray for and would kill for a “nice guy” as long as he is physically attractive, funny, smart, etc. I’ve had female friends who dated these nice guys and they would complain that these men are “too nice” and they could walk all over them, hence they are no longer attracted to them.

-It goes back to the hunter-gatherer days, where the alpha male was the most sought after. 10,000 years of societal evolution has yet to ween humanity of this attraction. The beta males (or alpha aspirants) wait for the scraps of the hunt, and contend for the women who would settle for them.

-Alpha males can either be benevolent or bullies. They are seen as dominant, so even a “nice alpha male” can be resented for being seen as a tyrant. Most women see the alpha as their ideal - though alphas may not be compatible with them.

-There are also sigma males - they don’t subscribe to alpha or beta tendencies, but are in a class by themselves and don’t care for anyone’s opinion of them. They don’t necessarily treat women poorly. They do their own thing and there is that breed of woman who finds this trait attractive.

-Bad boys and rebels - women find them attractive as well. They think these men have more courage than the other men, and chutzpah is an attractive trait.

Do nice guys finish last? Not necessarily.

Many successful men exist in the workplace today that are very kind and compassionate. The smart women prize these men who bring home the proverbial bacon, or the “largest kill”, yet are generous, loving and in their eyes attractive.

Youngjohnosas:
it's a misery, women r just too complex to understand.i dated my ex for 3 years and fell so much in love with her because she was so understanding and nice.i messed things up by becoming too nice to her.Each time we had a disagreement she would always play d victim even when it was obvious she was clearly at fault, sometimes she would boastfully say she doesn't know how to say sorry to a guy.

it started degenerating that most times she offended me and I yelled at her,she would block my lines for days that I had to resort to asking my friends and siblings to beg for her because I felt I was a nice guy.it got into her head so he started misbehaving badly and on some few occasions I broke up with her but I couldn't even stay for two hours without hearing her voice, so each time I felt she was using me and broke up she won't even bother to say sorry because she knew I couldn't stay without talking to her.

I stumbled on a post here on nairaland and a particular comment got hold of me,the only way to earn a woman's respect is to make her feel worthless and undervalued.the following week she did something outrageous and didn't even bother to apologise she was waiting for me to do the needful by calling her,yeah I did call her but to inform her I wasn't interested in the relationship anymore, she laughed and said ok thank you,

that day I was restless and couldn't eat d urge to call her was very high but I resisted it and held on for 7days ,on the 7th she called and was like so u are this heartless I post I was sick on my WhatsApp status and u didn't bother to check on me ,I just laughed and she angrily ended d call thinking I was goin to call back but I didn't.

two days later she called again and was like r u like this now, I was just laughing and ever since she has been calling over and over again.the day I mistakenly called her number and quickly ended d call she called me back over 10 times pleading that she wasn't with her phone when I called.

last night she opened up and pleaded and pleaded that I should forgive her and I told her I wasn't interested anymore,at some point she would angrily end d call and later call back to start pleading, this morning her elder sister and brother called me trying to show concern although they didn't mention her name, Right now she has dropped a lot of messages on WhatsApp .I am really surprised although I am never going back to her again.thanjs nairaland.

Kekereekun123:
Sometimes when you look back at how women treated you as a good and calm guy over the years you begin to think should I turn into a heartless beast?

I have friends who treat them like trash but the ladies still keep chasing them. Some don't even have money or cars o.

ityP:
all women are like this. Many here would try to deny it. never treat a lady like she means the world to you. Be ready to let go and believe you will find someone better than her.

viyon02:
My brother that is just my thought for today: I think being a gentleman is not enough to handle ladies, they just need to see that beast like trait in you just to correct their brain.

Leezah:
Long Post Alert
I don’t think they start out looking for a guy to treat them wrongly.

They start out looking for a guy who is assertive, stands his ground, demands his dues, is confident, does not back down, is not a doormat. This would imply that he has what it takes to later on protect her and the kids. Quite justifiable from a primordial point of view.

The problem is that there are limits to acceptable behavior. If you take it to an extreme, all of the above qualities could be associated with wife and child abusers, sociopaths and psychopaths. If the woman doesn’t have a gauge for “when is this too much of a good thing”, she may end up with quite the jerk.

It doesn’t help if the woman’s Father was a guy who abused or mistreated his wife, her mother. Because whatever our rational intentions, we do tend to become and marry our parents. Find me a woman who is a doormat and I have a pretty good idea of what her Father was like.

Guys have an obligation to get our s**t together when it comes to raising our daughters. Too many women with Father issues out there. Love and attraction are based on both psychology and spark of chemistry. It has been scientifically proven that both pleasure and pain are needed to create a long lasting attraction. Therefore, hot and cold formula to spicy up love life always seems to win.

However, if one consciously chooses their romantic partner who treats them badly only its a strong indicator of one's low self esteem. The person doesnt believe s/he can be loved by their partner, thus will keep choosing people who treat them badly to get a confirmation of their own beliefs.

In many cases such as person may also refuse the other person who doesnt communicate their intentions in the way they are familiar with.

Unfortunately, this is the first step towards creating a toxic relationships. I would highly suggest working on one's self esteem before deciding to get involved with the other person. Hope this answer helps.

This is an age-old conundrum wrapped up in a riddle. I’ve heard arguments bandied back and forth between girls and there male “friend zone” counterparts. Often, I’ve heard women say that they pray for and would kill for a “nice guy” as long as he is physically attractive, funny, smart, etc. I’ve had female friends who dated these nice guys and they would complain that these men are “too nice” and they could walk all over them, hence they are no longer attracted to them.

-It goes back to the hunter-gatherer days, where the alpha male was the most sought after. 10,000 years of societal evolution has yet to ween humanity of this attraction. The beta males (or alpha aspirants) wait for the scraps of the hunt, and contend for the women who would settle for them.

-Alpha males can either be benevolent or bullies. They are seen as dominant, so even a “nice alpha male” can be resented for being seen as a tyrant. Most women see the alpha as their ideal - though alphas may not be compatible with them.

-There are also sigma males - they don’t subscribe to alpha or beta tendencies, but are in a class by themselves and don’t care for anyone’s opinion of them. They don’t necessarily treat women poorly. They do their own thing and there is that breed of woman who finds this trait attractive.

-Bad boys and rebels - women find them attractive as well. They think these men have more courage than the other men, and chutzpah is an attractive trait.

Do nice guys finish last? Not necessarily.

Many successful men exist in the workplace today that are very kind and compassionate. The smart women prize these men who bring home the proverbial bacon, or the “largest kill”, yet are generous, loving and in their eyes attractive.

sassysure:
So who is loving all the good guys or are they single?

Mtcheeew.

Godwin2019:
Just Like My Own Case, The Girl I Love So Much, But She Treats Me Like Trash.

jayaim:
Very true. A guy that is ready to treat a Lady like a Queen will be treated like thrash. I met a queen recently, wanted something serious. But a yahoo yahoo chap shows up flashed some cash she followed like a dog following bone. The yahoo guy later left her in a hostel after poking her & left huge bill after escaping. She called me to bail her out. What a life

7victor:
I think it is common to both gender.

Me personally,I use to find myself in love with bad girls.

If you are not bad as a man and you see a bad girl/trash,you will fall in love with her.

But bad guys/trash will normally love good girls.

It seems to be that those bad girls can do things that you cannot do,

so you need them in your life to compliment what is lacking in you.

Like me I find girls that can shout,are lousy and troublesome more attractive than the good and gentle ones.

But most males who are lousy and troublesome prefers gentle and good natured females.

I believe it is a desire in us to complement what is lacking in us.

It could also be a desire to change the bad natured person into a good natured person.

By getting the trash as your partner,with time,you may change the person into a nice person.

That seems to be the psychological goal in our hearts.

Maybe that is why JESUS CHRIST as gentle,righteous and holy as HE was,received sinners and ate with them.

HE knew Judas Iscariot was a thief and a dubious man,HE still selected him among HIS disciples.

With time,HE was able to change so many of them.

Beckysexy:
Nah nah
Not me
If you treat me like trash, I'll also treat you like trash.That's my law
Me wey no gbadun before

solasoulmusic:
Because how people treat you has nothing to do with us as a woman and time and justice always plays a role you might be talking down to her now feeling cool but when your daughters grow up will you teach her or yell? Time will tell

Most people are influenced to act by other people’s bitter perception especially men you think it’s wise counsel but sometimes it’s selfish interest people don’t wanna see you happy living your best life they complain about something when you stop complain again and find a reason why you stopped doing it you can’t satisfy em all can’t mess with them all you can only handle the one you want imperfections and all. f the competition it doesn’t reflect who they really are ....time, justice and love does the rest

Men are harsh naturally dealing with men egos get in the way but a man is only hard on a woman when she possesses something he cannot control... a determined spirit

Youngjohnosas:
it's a misery, women r just too complex to understand.i dated my ex for 3 years and fell so much in love with her because she was so understanding and nice.i messed things up by becoming too nice to her.Each time we had a disagreement she would always play d victim even when it was obvious she was clearly at fault, sometimes she would boastfully say she doesn't know how to say sorry to a guy.

it started degenerating that most times she did something wrong and I yelled at her,she would block my lines for days that I had to resort to asking my friends and siblings to beg her on my behalf because I felt I was a nice guy.it got into her head and she started misbehaving badly and on some few occasions I broke up with her but I couldn't even stay for two hours without hearing her voice, so each time I felt she was using me and broke up she won't even bother to say sorry because she knew I couldn't stay without talking to her.

I stumbled on a post here on nairaland and a particular comment got hold of me,that the only way to earn a woman's respect is to make her feel worthless and undervalued.the following week she did something outrageous and didn't even bother to apologise she was waiting for me to do the needful by calling her,yeah I did call her but to inform her I wasn't interested in the relationship anymore, she laughed and said ok thank you.

that day I was restless and couldn't eat, the urge to call her was very high but I resisted it and held on for 7days, on the 7th she called and was like so u are this heartless,I posted that I was sick on my WhatsApp status and u didn't even bother to check on me ,I just laughed and she angrily ended d call thinking I was going to call her back but I didn't.

two days later she called again and was like are u like this now, I was just laughing and ever since she has been calling over and over again.the day I mistakenly called her number and quickly ended d call she called me back over 10 times pleading that she wasn't with her phone when I called.

last night she opened up and pleaded and pleaded that I should forgive her and I told her I wasn't interested anymore,at some point she would angrily end d call and later call back to start pleading, this morning her elder sister and brother called me trying to show concern although they didn't mention her name, Right now she has dropped a lot of messages on WhatsApp .I am really surprised although I am never going back to her again.thanks nairaland.

luke55720:
The feeling women get from those type of guys make their pussy wet

J111333:
They don't love bad guys, they are simply loyal to them.
Just like dogs remain loyal and obedient to tough owners even when they are not fed but attack kind owners for not feeding them on time.

Women love good guys and that's why they hurt them. They believe they can get away with it.

AfroKnight:
Bro haven’t you heard? Good guys finish last.

Most babes reserve a spot in their hearts for good guys. They treat such guys as a fall-back plan in case the cocky bastàrds they want, leave them broken. This is so they can carry their broken selves to the good guy to patch up and marry.

If they’re lucky, the bad boy sticks with them and they endure a tumultuous marriage. If not, it’s mr nice guy they’d be buzzing on Whatsapp after 5 years incommunicado.

Don’t be the nice guy. Don’t be the last option on the list of an unstable untrustworthy woman.

Leezah:
Long Post Alert
I don’t think they start out looking for a guy to treat them wrongly.

They start out looking for a guy who is assertive, stands his ground, demands his dues, is confident, does not back down, is not a doormat. This would imply that he has what it takes to later on protect her and the kids. Quite justifiable from a primordial point of view.

The problem is that there are limits to acceptable behavior. If you take it to an extreme, all of the above qualities could be associated with wife and child abusers, sociopaths and psychopaths. If the woman doesn’t have a gauge for “when is this too much of a good thing”, she may end up with quite the jerk.

It doesn’t help if the woman’s Father was a guy who abused or mistreated his wife, her mother. Because whatever our rational intentions, we do tend to become and marry our parents. Find me a woman who is a doormat and I have a pretty good idea of what her Father was like.

Guys have an obligation to get our s**t together when it comes to raising our daughters. Too many women with Father issues out there. Love and attraction are based on both psychology and spark of chemistry. It has been scientifically proven that both pleasure and pain are needed to create a long lasting attraction. Therefore, hot and cold formula to spicy up love life always seems to win.

However, if one consciously chooses their romantic partner who treats them badly only its a strong indicator of one's low self esteem. The person doesnt believe s/he can be loved by their partner, thus will keep choosing people who treat them badly to get a confirmation of their own beliefs.

In many cases such as person may also refuse the other person who doesnt communicate their intentions in the way they are familiar with.

Unfortunately, this is the first step towards creating a toxic relationships. I would highly suggest working on one's self esteem before deciding to get involved with the other person. Hope this answer helps.

This is an age-old conundrum wrapped up in a riddle. I’ve heard arguments bandied back and forth between girls and there male “friend zone” counterparts. Often, I’ve heard women say that they pray for and would kill for a “nice guy” as long as he is physically attractive, funny, smart, etc. I’ve had female friends who dated these nice guys and they would complain that these men are “too nice” and they could walk all over them, hence they are no longer attracted to them.

-It goes back to the hunter-gatherer days, where the alpha male was the most sought after. 10,000 years of societal evolution has yet to ween humanity of this attraction. The beta males (or alpha aspirants) wait for the scraps of the hunt, and contend for the women who would settle for them.

-Alpha males can either be benevolent or bullies. They are seen as dominant, so even a “nice alpha male” can be resented for being seen as a tyrant. Most women see the alpha as their ideal - though alphas may not be compatible with them.

-There are also sigma males - they don’t subscribe to alpha or beta tendencies, but are in a class by themselves and don’t care for anyone’s opinion of them. They don’t necessarily treat women poorly. They do their own thing and there is that breed of woman who finds this trait attractive.

-Bad boys and rebels - women find them attractive as well. They think these men have more courage than the other men, and chutzpah is an attractive trait.

Do nice guys finish last? Not necessarily.

Many successful men exist in the workplace today that are very kind and compassionate. The smart women prize these men who bring home the proverbial bacon, or the “largest kill”, yet are generous, loving and in their eyes attractive.

Beckysexy:
Nah nah
Not me
If you treat me like trash, I'll also treat you like trash.That's my law
Me wey no gbadun before

Beckysexy:
Nah nah
Not me
If you treat me like trash, I'll also treat you like trash.That's my law
Me wey no gbadun before