cooluzi:
do u y｀all tink the guy like leaving that way plus how do u knw d guy isnt hardworking,life isnt just fair and its nt abt hardworking its by grace,most ladies are just confuse,i will advice op to leave the poor guy alone nd let him live happily

There are those that have the grace and there are those that did the work. For your own good, don't undermine hard work.

I don't think I will join the queue of those bashing her. There are people who actually feel relaxed and content in poverty.

Its one thing to be poor but doing everything possible, calculating, drawing out plans to make it and its another thing to be poor and accepting your fate... being comfortable in that state.

Maybe she isn't seeing him making any effort? Maybe.

You may be really ambitious as a lady and being with a man who isn't can be killing. This is where compatibility comes in.

The fact that you offered to help him says something about you.

PS: some women will be comfortable and happy in that one room apartment. Their choice. Make yours.

LadyBeee:
Since I started dating, I've never met a man like this. So caring, cute, neat, hygienic, generous but unfortunately, he doesn't have much but the little he has, he'll spend on you and make you feel like a queen.

He stays in one room face me I face u. Initially, when I found out, I said I was going to quit but the love he showed me was so overwhelming and I couldn't quit. He said he's making plans to move out and he won't be renewing his rent in may. I agreed.

I fell in love with him too and became comfortable with his room but I made it clear that I will never pass the night at his place. You know how love can be blind, I found myself pass the night once and again and again then I asked him about his plans to move out, how much does he have at hand to rent a new place because I was secretly planning to support him with some money to add and he said he doesn't have up to 30k. I was angry and so dissapointed at him.

Right now I'm thinking the whole thing over. I don't think I can continue. Please advise me


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Well you maybe from the high class lady or from a wealthy home but if you truly love this man i will advice you stick with him when he needed you most, if he is an ambitious type and not a lady type you will both get to that destination as time goes on, i was ones staying in a face me i slap you bus’s quarter not even the main house and my girlfriend got pregnant which i told her to go abort cos I don’t av a dime with me as at them but she refused and leave the baby two weeks to her delivery we got self contain apartment, did lil wedding, three years to our being together we got a car from though we might not av gotten to where we are going but i can tell you for the fact that we both plan together our daughter attend one of the best school in our environment. My sister pls if he is ambitious and not a lazy type plan with him and get greater together.

LadyBeee:
Since I started dating, I've never met a man like this. So caring, cute, neat, hygienic, generous but unfortunately, he doesn't have much but the little he has, he'll spend on you and make you feel like a queen.

He stays in one room face me I face u. Initially, when I found out, I said I was going to quit but the love he showed me was so overwhelming and I couldn't quit. He said he's making plans to move out and he won't be renewing his rent in may. I agreed.

I fell in love with him too and became comfortable with his room but I made it clear that I will never pass the night at his place. You know how love can be blind, I found myself pass the night once and again and again then I asked him about his plans to move out, how much does he have at hand to rent a new place because I was secretly planning to support him with some money to add and he said he doesn't have up to 30k. I was angry and so dissapointed at him.

Right now I'm thinking the whole thing over. I don't think I can continue. Please advise me


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If you don't mind you can whatsapp let me share my love stories with you
My wife got married to me when i can't even afford to rent not even one room apartment..
But what she notice in me is that i have a brighter future and believe in my hustling

Guess who own a mansion 3yrs in marriage..

Read some of my stories here >> https://www.nairaland.com/1903745/see-pictures-introduction-ceremony


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Go thru those links and learn something

A word is enough for the wise if you truely love him and believe in his hustling

Your marriage will open way for him

LadyBeee:
read my post well please. Was willing to support him with at least 200k. I'm financially okay but I don't want to make him financially dependent on me.

Liar. You are financially okay and you have dropped your account number and phone number on every giveaway thread on nairaland. You are just a gold digger not ready to suffer with your guy.
Well, its your choice, but don't blame your village people if you end up marrying a rich guy that abuse and torture you everyday

LadyBeee:
Since I started dating, I've never met a man like this. So caring, cute, neat, hygienic, generous but unfortunately, he doesn't have much but the little he has, he'll spend on you and make you feel like a queen.

He stays in one room face me I face u. Initially, when I found out, I said I was going to quit but the love he showed me was so overwhelming and I couldn't quit. He said he's making plans to move out and he won't be renewing his rent in may. I agreed.

I fell in love with him too and became comfortable with his room but I made it clear that I will never pass the night at his place. You know how love can be blind, I found myself pass the night once and again and again then I asked him about his plans to move out, how much does he have at hand to rent a new place because I was secretly planning to support him with some money to add and he said he doesn't have up to 30k. I was angry and so dissapointed at him.

Right now I'm thinking the whole thing over. I don't think I can continue. Please advise me


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If he is a good man. Give him a chance.

Poor people are usually destined to marry each other and likely to stay poor anyway. The walls of poverty are quite difficult to escape anyway. So hang in there.

Is he is hardworking? If not, MOVE ON. Lazy men are bastards.

brodalikeme:
My dear don’t allow the devil use you against yourself!

You have 95% of what every lady dream of and you want to throw it away for something trivial and temporary? He stays in a rented one bedroom apartment, he isn’t the landlord, he is not squatting with some friend, haba!
He loves you and is honest with you take that is all that matters!
If the plan is marriage, support him to grow in his career or business, the benefits will come back to you in the form of more love and comfort. If it’s not marriage, at least you would have helped your fellow human being. I know so many ladies that have gone the extreme length of giving their man money to pay their bride price(Dude should have borrowed from friends though).

Sister support him! If his a good man like you said, you’ll be better of for doing that.

Have you heard that great song by Cobhams Asuquo Ft Simi titled We Plenti? A part of it says “beans no dey cook forever”

A little patient, a little input, you guys will be fine.

Where did you get your 95%
Emoty head.

Nearly every woman dreams about husband with money, lots of money

Do you want him to go and steal to get money for a bigger apartment? He has 30k and you got disappointed. Rubbish.

is he lazy? does he hustle to better himself and condition? if yes, why not motivate n encourage him.

He is caring, cute, neat, treats you well is not enough to keep a marriage. What about his short term goals, long term goals, future plans? Or is he the laid back type? Because all this loving and caring you are enjoying will become useless to you when life hits you guys harder.

Ariza:
If you can't rent house for him like he would do if reverse were to be the case , Aunty carry your bag and go!

You can't cook food in the passage but you can comfortably eat out making the guy spend more. Aunty you have eaten his accommodation money already nah.

U are really clever

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Jewessgratitudd:

Sincerely speaking, in this time and age, I wouldn't advise anyone to start a family in that condition. You'll end up regretting it.

As per his level, with not up to 30k to start with, OP, you might be wasting your time with such a guy except if you are ready to bear 90% of the cost.

Now, you didn't state the kind of job he does so I'll know if it holds any prospects for the future or you might need to exercise patience until he gets a better job.

If you truly love him and are ready to take the risk and damn the consequence, then go ahead with the relationship. Know that with your frequent sleeping over, belle go soon show. Hmm.. That is when you'll know the importance of comfortability.

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LadyBeee:
Since I started dating, I've never met a man like this. So caring, cute, neat, hygienic, generous but unfortunately, he doesn't have much but the little he has, he'll spend on you and make you feel like a queen.

He stays in one room face me I face u. Initially, when I found out, I said I was going to quit but the love he showed me was so overwhelming and I couldn't quit. He said he's making plans to move out and he won't be renewing his rent in may. I agreed.

I fell in love with him too and became comfortable with his room but I made it clear that I will never pass the night at his place. You know how love can be blind, I found myself pass the night once and again and again then I asked him about his plans to move out, how much does he have at hand to rent a new place because I was secretly planning to support him with some money to add and he said he doesn't have up to 30k. I was angry and so dissapointed at him.

Right now I'm thinking the whole thing over. I don't think I can continue. Please advise me


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You don't really love him, you don't even deserve him. Haven't you heard of humble beginnings? True love is not dependent this factor that is deterring you from loving this man. Please leave him so he can find someone who would genuinely love him for better or worse.

The truth about all these is girls of this days are so impatient they want a ready made man without knowing how he got his wealth

You need to be detailed to get a reasonable advice. What are his plans? Of course, his intention to move out in May with less than 30k is a f00lish one. How old is he? How old are you? What's the nature of his job? What are his qualifications?

Having a good prospect is beyond sitting in a room at 35 years and dreaming of acquiring 30 Dangote trucks when you don't have a job or a viable business.

When you see "prospects", you'll know.

densiks:

You should be more worried about contacting Covid-19

the virus is not the end of the world neither is it a death sentence.

Sister don't get angry because you ate his rent! Make up for that money at least before you leave!

LadyBeee, you won't make a good wife. I pity the guy already if you stay. You don't deserve him.

TO help a fellow man or woman is no sin but in a situation where both of u sleep in the same room comes SIN, of course you know what am talking about. Please avoid pre-marital sex, I beg u. It is a Sin to your creator and to your own body. My advice. But if am wrong, I sincerely apologize.

seanwilliam:
so only men can give and support?? Only men should shoulder responsibilities?

both men and women shoulder responsibilities under different scenarios,terms and conditions

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Benzgang:

Where you sef dey stay weh dey make you attract one room men?
Cos I haven't seen one room girls in a while,except when I purposely go after my treasured,sweet 17 uni girls
Up your own game too and leave that vicinity.[/s]

Ibechris2:
When I met my wife I was still squatting. In fact I had nothing to my name except the clothes I wear daily and some books.

My father was obviously poor...but what kept us going was honesty and she loved me.

After about 5years,the story changed and changed for the better. I live in a comfortable apartment and I am so proud of my wife who i cherished for believing in me. And many other things i may not like to mention here.


If u believe in that ur guy,u can change his life and make him to be more ambitious and yearn for growth and prosperity. U might be the power that he needs to become what God wants him to be.
Do not lose sleep.

Sisters pay no attention to stories like this unless you're from a poor home

LadyBeee:
Since I started dating, I've never met a man like this. So caring, cute, neat, hygienic, generous but unfortunately, he doesn't have much but the little he has, he'll spend on you and make you feel like a queen.

He stays in one room face me I face u. Initially, when I found out, I said I was going to quit but the love he showed me was so overwhelming and I couldn't quit. He said he's making plans to move out and he won't be renewing his rent in may. I agreed.

I fell in love with him too and became comfortable with his room but I made it clear that I will never pass the night at his place. You know how love can be blind, I found myself pass the night once and again and again then I asked him about his plans to move out, how much does he have at hand to rent a new place because I was secretly planning to support him with some money to add and he said he doesn't have up to 30k. I was angry and so dissapointed at him.

Right now I'm thinking the whole thing over. I don't think I can continue. Please advise me


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Ask yourself one question, if the case was reversed, and you were the one living in Face me I slap you, How wud yah feel if he ditched you for your poverty?

What does it even mean to have a vision? Babe, we all have all sorts of dreams, but only a fraction of them can be actualized. The question is, as a lady, are you sophisticated enough to identify a workable vision, within the means of the man? I don't understand why you women add that thing called vision to your list of requirements when we all know that's probably a hoax and just a way to create the impression that you are a homely lady. It's ok to want to marry a well-to-do guy. That's a vision too. . The earlier you start being honest with yourself, the better for you.

Stacyomolola:

Yes no condition is permanent but that only works on a hardworking guy with a vision, tho she did not give much details but i dont think hes keen about moving out, which is a problem to her(which shouldnt)
Not all girls like that face to face compound compromising love.

I'm 50% sure that you will leave the guy once a rich guy beckons to u.. It was your idea n d motion to relocate was only moved by U.D guy seconded coz he can't afford to lose you. Think of Families managing in a room.If all you want in a guy is affluence n properties to brag, I'm pretty sure your visions are still blur. Pay the full house rent if you want him to relocate.Who knows if the guy has other bills he's offsetting that u're unaware of. Biko, let the guy concentrate on his hustle and walk off his life if you can't endure or help him.. Yahoo Bois are waiting for some ladies to be used in this Corona era

Your leaving him will mean one thing: you never love him.


If this is the case, go ahead and quit!

LadyBeee:
read my post well please. Was willing to support him with at least 200k. I'm financially okay but I don't want to make him financially dependent on me.

Sister, please, am begging you . That guy is only after you because of ur money . I have had that experience once and i pray never again . Most guys out there are golddiggers looking for who to milk dry . sister, please use that 200k to improve ur look over all and get u a better man . U deserve better . He will milk u dry and use ur money to marry someone of his taste . Please, be warned . Start watching sheraseven 1 on YouTube she is the truth

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proclinician:


It's all about love. Leonardo Di' Caprio could have saved his life in the Titanic shipwreck but instead switched his life for the lady. I don't want to talk about Jesus Christ. Love look what you made me do. Each day I go to crunches to eat I see a man and a lady on same table and the Lady will be eating food while the man just mopes. Well[/s]

I can see the room where you're bleeping each other overnight. Lolz

lomprico:
Is he lazy? does he hustle to better himself and condition? if yes, why not motivate n encourage him.

He is.

Very very true. And wealth without peace of mind is like living in hell here on earth.

Patedo123:
The truth about all these is girls of this days are so impatient they want a ready made man without knowing how he got his wealth