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Re: How To Cope With A Stingy Boyfriend? by class0247: 12:19pm On Apr 02, 2020
[size=12pt]My Dear to get a man now is very difficult oh. Especially if you live in Lagos. Most men now see every girl in Lagos as runs girl. There are girls approaching menopause without a serious man in their life and are very lonely especially the working class one.
Issue like this are not discussed and girls are shy to come out and talk about it. A lot in their mid 30s are really facing this problem.

Back to your question. If you dump him be rest assure that in less than 2 months, he will find another girl. Communication is very important, you should be able to tell him things you feel he is not doing right and when he refuse to change then you can decide

Don’t just focus only on the financial side, does he have other good side? Be wise and treat this issue with sense [12pt size]

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Re: How To Cope With A Stingy Boyfriend? by Nobody: 12:19pm On Apr 02, 2020
pocohantas:


Naso. I have a dream... grin



The mistresses’s bf shouldn’t come to disturb is when he finds out she is cheating. It is all for the brotherhood.
queen poco how you doing today grin
Re: How To Cope With A Stingy Boyfriend? by pocohantas(f): 12:20pm On Apr 02, 2020
foleskay:


You don't need to get married if you as a lady can't do most of what you typed there. Even the European women does such as well. What's the biggie?

Na you go tell me not to marry me? We would marry and he must bring the money. EOD.

BLUELemon:
queen poco how you doing today grin

I am fine. Giving alfa males heart attack.

BLUELemon:
hahahhaha I don't want heart attack.. I bin miss your give away... Find something for me too my sister poco grin

No vex, but my own done finish. Someone else can see this and come through.

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Re: How To Cope With A Stingy Boyfriend? by XshegzzyeeiX: 12:20pm On Apr 02, 2020
Firstorderwizard:
I intentionally fake stinginess to enable me weed out fake girls with fake love.
95% of girls failed the test but my current babe
passed and she is reaping her rewards bountifully.

I have my rules for spending on her though

1. I only give when it is necessary not when she wants
2. I give to reward her when she does something impressive.

For example, through her efforts, I got a contract that fetched me a huge sum of money and juicy business connections.
I rewarded her by sponsoring her master's program (not by giving her cash).
Re: How To Cope With A Stingy Boyfriend? by mechanics(m): 12:20pm On Apr 02, 2020
Nothing to worry about, he's trying to be careful not to show that money is everything in a relationship.
Re: How To Cope With A Stingy Boyfriend? by Vicktomaniaa(m): 12:21pm On Apr 02, 2020
Better still pick out time and tell him you've been fired from wrk see how he comes in.. Let it that time you'll invite him over hopefully see how things wrk if he'll come out or change
Re: How To Cope With A Stingy Boyfriend? by webizone(m): 12:21pm On Apr 02, 2020
I have just been reading this and I understand the feelings of the OP even say I be guy. But, the thing wey dey pain me pass is that this is the same feeling guys get from girls they are supposedly dating. After all the shawarma, beer, nkwobi, isi ewu. Common kiss, no way. Allow make guy at least dey handle breast nah, never. You go think say na till marriage she dey wait. When you don marry finally, somebody dey wey no fit Bleep him very beautiful wife two times per year. Some ma na only honeymoon Bleep produce the children wey dey the marriage. And yet many women go about the relationship without seeing anything wrong with it. Me bah, I can't do pass myself. If I no dey feel you physically and emotionally, I no fit marry you. Even dating sef, na audio alert you go dey get. I don talk my own finish.


Meanwhile, there are so many simp guys on nairaland. Chineke meee.

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Re: How To Cope With A Stingy Boyfriend? by pocohantas(f): 12:25pm On Apr 02, 2020
dominique:
Don't worry he's testing you. He's testing how well you will be able to cope when he starts spending on frivolities and you'll be the one bearing all the family expenses.

So far you're doing well, 250 yards of wife material.

You think it's only him you're feeding now? You will soon start feeding his extended family and even girlfriends by the time he starts taking small loans from you to spend on them and won't repay you one Kobo. Don't ever make the mistake of thinking he will change after marriage, he will only get worse.




This could be you in a few years time

Lmao. She is really doing well. grin grin
Re: How To Cope With A Stingy Boyfriend? by foleskay(m): 12:25pm On Apr 02, 2020
SweetCunt97:
Simply start playing the stingy game cos ryt now seems its only his Diick that's on the table. Who only Diick help? Is that the only thing he can offer?

Lol.. If he's offering his dick, what can you offer?
Only your pvssy I guess
Re: How To Cope With A Stingy Boyfriend? by AkolagTech: 12:25pm On Apr 02, 2020
mharyamikeola92:
Pls help me move this to front page.

I am a working class lady and I hardly demand things from whosoever I love.

There is this guy that I ave been dating for years now. I don’t know what to call his behavior, whether it is stinginess or the other way round.

I noticed that whenever he comes visiting, he doesn’t bring anything and I get to cook and takecare of him. I was forced to talk 1 day.

The last time he came visiting, he brought bread and other stuffs along which he ended up eating all by himself. I decided not to cook or do anything but I couldn't take it so we went out to buy stuffs. I needed to use POS and I forgot my phone at home. So I begged him to transfer 5k to the lady and that I was going to transfer back to him when we get home. We ended up using the money to get chicken, pepper and other stuffs.

On getting home I demanded for his account details in order to transfer the money back and to my surprise, he gave me and I transferred the money.

My major concern is that this guy has never given me common N10 and he is working. I don’t know if he's worth settling down with cos I fear for my future. Will he be able to give if he has more? This is the guy that is already telling me to come meet his mum cos she wants to see me.

Pls no insults, just advice.
Chai!! Inside life!
See this life eh...
I think there should be a kind of configuration oo.
God should do something about matching people.
More often than not, the good/guys girls aren't very lucky with partners. Here I am begging my girlfriend to accept stuff from me, money inclusive.
Infact...
Life is not fair at all!!

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Re: How To Cope With A Stingy Boyfriend? by Evercurious(f): 12:26pm On Apr 02, 2020
mharyamikeola92:


I really don’t lyk going out..But I don’t know how some1 will travel from Lagos to Osun without buying common bread


And there goes one of your weaknesses.. 'I REALY DONT LIKE GOING OUT'.. My dear you have to LOVE going out.. He is capitalizing on that. Just get another admirer that comes visiting and you ll see a Horgan wrestling out his lungs just to keep you , 'HIS FARMLAND' glued to him.

I speak from experience ooh
Re: How To Cope With A Stingy Boyfriend? by karnap(m): 12:27pm On Apr 02, 2020
"the last time he brought bread and he ended up eating it up by himself " that guy no get shame.such guys loves taking advantage of good lady,just be careful,forget those people telling you that he is saving money, be straight up with him,give him a demand, if he doesn't meet up let.him.out of your life.
Re: How To Cope With A Stingy Boyfriend? by Iziq(m): 12:27pm On Apr 02, 2020
donstan18:

See this one oooo...grin grin grin

So because he was bold enough to take his money back as agreed without any atom of shame, you are pissed?

Why were you surprised he took it back?


Was that not your agreement with him?

What a bold man he is, if men can be that bold to you women, we won't have much complaints from men.


Nonesense and POS.

Re: How To Cope With A Stingy Boyfriend? by LadySarah: 12:27pm On Apr 02, 2020
Yungsym:
He's just too stingy, Guys we should 4get abt he's saving money to marry her....I was dating a lady back in Abj but whenever am going visiting I get food stuff and even take her out on a date

ALOT of guys here dish out advice like they have no female relation.

Visiting someone from faraway without coming with even 50 naira cashew nuts is somehow.

Wo, leave everything they are forming here. Sometimes we get so calculatinv we loose genuine partners.

Love is equal to giving.
If you don't give who you love then your rshp is useless.

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Re: How To Cope With A Stingy Boyfriend? by water0101(m): 12:28pm On Apr 02, 2020
The man cannot change is already in his blood,so u re one to face ur music and continue to be hardworking for urself and the unborn if finally u settle down with him....what about if he is not stingy and always not available from one business trip to another.....so be wise and take a good decision...... Thanks.

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Re: How To Cope With A Stingy Boyfriend? by deeva1: 12:28pm On Apr 02, 2020
Run for ur life ooo..The guy is a chronic stingy man

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Re: How To Cope With A Stingy Boyfriend? by Rozaytee: 12:28pm On Apr 02, 2020
mharyamikeola92:
Pls help me move this to front page.

I am a working class lady and I hardly demand things from whosoever I love.

There is this guy that I ave been dating for years now. I don’t know what to call his behavior, whether it is stinginess or the other way round.

I noticed that whenever he comes visiting, he doesn’t bring anything and I get to cook and takecare of him. I was forced to talk 1 day.

The last time he came visiting, he brought bread and other stuffs along which he ended up eating all by himself. I decided not to cook or do anything but I couldn't take it so we went out to buy stuffs. I needed to use POS and I forgot my phone at home. So I begged him to transfer 5k to the lady and that I was going to transfer back to him when we get home. We ended up using the money to get chicken, pepper and other stuffs.

On getting home I demanded for his account details in order to transfer the money back and to my surprise, he gave me and I transferred the money.

My major concern is that this guy has never given me common N10 and he is working. I don’t know if he's worth settling down with cos I fear for my future. Will he be able to give if he has more? This is the guy that is already telling me to come meet his mum cos she wants to see me.

Pls no insults, just advice.
no man is stingy its either he doesn't have or u aren't worth spending on at all...

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Re: How To Cope With A Stingy Boyfriend? by wany(f): 12:28pm On Apr 02, 2020
MrBrownJay1:


You will never be able to FORCE a man into believing you "deserve" a gift, if he does NOT believe you deserve one.... Women do it all the time in r/ship... and what this man is doing is just the same.

The sad part here is that you believe that HE is the problem while the reality is that YOU ARE... This man is being honest and himself for MANY YEARS and you are trying to change him instead of simply getting rid of him. HE IS NOT YOUR TYPE, HE IS NOT THE TYPE OF MAN YOU DESIRE SO WHAT ARE YOU STAYING FOR?!
God grant you more wisdom.loud it brother. undecided

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Re: How To Cope With A Stingy Boyfriend? by Nobody: 12:28pm On Apr 02, 2020
pocohantas:

I am fine. Giving alfa males heart attack.
hahahhaha I don't want heart attack.. I bin miss your give away... Find something for me too my sister poco grin
Re: How To Cope With A Stingy Boyfriend? by Nobody: 12:28pm On Apr 02, 2020
DonEd:
A man that cannot give to u and claims to love u is a big liar.

In ur case, it ought to be a symbiotic relationship cos at least u r earning ur own money.

Hon, flee for ur destiny not just ur life.
Flee to where?
Re: How To Cope With A Stingy Boyfriend? by Torie8(f): 12:28pm On Apr 02, 2020
Ishilove:
DUMP HIS STINGY ASS. Love is giving and if he is too stingy to give then he isn't worth it. The best way to handle mofos like him is stop giving him. When he comes to your place, give him cold water to drink. If there is no light, give him lukewarm water. When you go to his place, make sure you eat well before reaching there. Don't buy him gifts. Call him on WhatsApp call (don't use your credit to call).

Don't spend a dime in his stingy ass and give him as hard as he gives you. Tit for tat.

Kai ur head dey there. Ororo dey ur head
Re: How To Cope With A Stingy Boyfriend? by edoboy74(m): 12:29pm On Apr 02, 2020
Amaefuleteddy:
My dear find ur way o!
You're dealing with a shameless man
For you to demand for his Acc, he he gave it to you, means the fellow is foolish!!!
Tufiakwa!!!!

I haven’t come across any lady so far that sided this guy at all, this shows how dependent and irresponsible you ladies are. No lady here can stand when her husband can no longer stand, I mean to say they can’t take responsibility of the family if the man is monetarily unstable, this is what they will go about mocking and casting their husbands around.

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Re: How To Cope With A Stingy Boyfriend? by LordShiva97(m): 12:29pm On Apr 02, 2020
Humility017:


bro let me tell you...this

a man must take the lead...he should give first prior expecting a lady to reciprocate

You can't be in a relationship with a woman and don't give her money or gifts...
woman often reciprocate when she genuinely loves you, so first give to her and watch how she foolishly fall for you....

story!
Re: How To Cope With A Stingy Boyfriend? by water0101(m): 12:31pm On Apr 02, 2020
Take a good decision urself
Re: How To Cope With A Stingy Boyfriend? by LadySarah: 12:32pm On Apr 02, 2020
eni4real:
Are they married??
Why should he be playing a husband or Fatherly role now??

You sound stupid. Stop exposing it.
Re: How To Cope With A Stingy Boyfriend? by omooba969(m): 12:32pm On Apr 02, 2020
EmekaBlue:
Maybe d guy plays bet9ja so he is kinda always broke and u have being a nice lady to him,he wont forget u when he get himself back to order and learn how to use his money wisely.

but its a lie u haven't gotten even 10naira from him...thats how my gf say but i remember in our 2yrs of dating how many times i have transferred her money but not as constant as she expects

niggaz r kinda struggling and broke even with a job

@bolded,

It's their way - they can lie for Africa. grin

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Re: How To Cope With A Stingy Boyfriend? by edoboy74(m): 12:34pm On Apr 02, 2020
cr7lomo:


So Na naija girls de love?? Boys are becoming wiser now... Most girls are like soccer players...the moment they see interest from a bigger club...they Japa...then all money spent on her will go down the drains ... Wise men save money for future wives and not girlfriends... A lot of men destroyed their future cos they decided to show love to their gfs at one time only for the gf to dump him afterwards...men are wiser now... Y should I kill myself for one fool when ladies are littered everywhere like pure water... It's easier for a man to get a woman than for a woman to get a man ...


Brov send your account details ASAP
Re: How To Cope With A Stingy Boyfriend? by Nobody: 12:35pm On Apr 02, 2020
mharyamikeola92:


I ave my own job and a well paying job..I don’t need a man to b dere financially but is there a big deal in a man buying gifts for some1 he claims to love not necessarily money
Get a second job.
Re: How To Cope With A Stingy Boyfriend? by Sokosuji: 12:35pm On Apr 02, 2020
Men are scarce .. And time is running out (if u get d drift).. Does he have any other known defects ? Like excessive drinking/smoking/womanising? Is he violent? Is he lazy and unambitious? These are the things u shd consider...

Even if he is,and ur threshold tells u u can cope,my dear go ahead,marry your man,..settle down and contribute your best best to humanity..
Re: How To Cope With A Stingy Boyfriend? by Bluntemperor: 12:38pm On Apr 02, 2020
mharyamikeola92:
Pls help me move this to front page.

I am a working class lady and I hardly demand things from whosoever I love.

There is this guy that I ave been dating for years now. I don’t know what to call his behavior, whether it is stinginess or the other way round.

I noticed that whenever he comes visiting, he doesn’t bring anything and I get to cook and takecare of him. I was forced to talk 1 day.

The last time he came visiting, he brought bread and other stuffs along which he ended up eating all by himself. I decided not to cook or do anything but I couldn't take it so we went out to buy stuffs. I needed to use POS and I forgot my phone at home. So I begged him to transfer 5k to the lady and that I was going to transfer back to him when we get home. We ended up using the money to get chicken, pepper and other stuffs.

On getting home I demanded for his account details in order to transfer the money back and to my surprise, he gave me and I transferred the money.

My major concern is that this guy has never given me common N10 and he is working. I don’t know if he's worth settling down with cos I fear for my future. Will he be able to give if he has more? This is the guy that is already telling me to come meet his mum cos she wants to see me.

Pls no insults, just advice.

my dear,i love your sincerity of purpose.
pls,follow the rhythm like this:
-May be he was not tutored in Marriage issues.
-May be he wants you to react before he acts.
Now sit him down and demand that he seems to be playing on you that with your relationship so far you doubts his sincerity and commitment to the relationship and that he is stingy.Tell him three times- times.let nobody appease you that he doesn't know what he is doing.ones a stingy man it will take Grace to change him.They only appear good when you are on bed!.Wait for his reaction for months to come
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Re: How To Cope With A Stingy Boyfriend? by Munzy14(m): 12:38pm On Apr 02, 2020
mharyamikeola92:
Pls help me move this to front page.

I am a working class lady and I hardly demand things from whosoever I love.

There is this guy that I ave been dating for years now. I don’t know what to call his behavior, whether it is stinginess or the other way round.

I noticed that whenever he comes visiting, he doesn’t bring anything and I get to cook and takecare of him. I was forced to talk 1 day.

The last time he came visiting, he brought bread and other stuffs along which he ended up eating all by himself. I decided not to cook or do anything but I couldn't take it so we went out to buy stuffs. I needed to use POS and I forgot my phone at home. So I begged him to transfer 5k to the lady and that I was going to transfer back to him when we get home. We ended up using the money to get chicken, pepper and other stuffs.

On getting home I demanded for his account details in order to transfer the money back and to my surprise, he gave me and I transferred the money.

My major concern is that this guy has never given me common N10 and he is working. I don’t know if he's worth settling down with cos I fear for my future. Will he be able to give if he has more? This is the guy that is already telling me to come meet his mum cos she wants to see me.

Pls no insults, just advice.
Communicate with him, make him understand u are worried, Discuss this with him and get his opinion before u come to nairaland.

I pity the advise u will get from here, especially from aging feminists here and single mothers, or confused f**k boys/men.

They will confuse ur confusion, And majke u think they are in a perfect place, u are in a wrong place.

Since u are planning future, talk to him. Go and visit him.

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