I've been dating my girlfriend for more than a year now. She's in uni . Whenever she comes home she always recieves call from guys who are trying to toast her. Which is normal for a girl. But what she does is she usually call these toasters on her own. They can sometimes talk for about 15 minutes on her credit. This happens every time. I usually use to get calls from different girls from time to time. But I stopped those calls and I don't call them out if respect for her.

Anytime I ask her why would she be calling those guys she will tell me I don't trust her. That she doesn't have anything with them. She even sometimes send them text messages at night which she will delete for me not to see.
She will say they have nothing but she calls them constantly even more than she calls her female friends

I want to put stop to it

What do you guys think

Na wa o
You guys really have time to start spying on a lady because you're in a relationship?
Use that same FBI energy for something else.
BTW, it's normal for her to have toasters, you were once a toaster too before you stole her from another guy man.
My peace I leave you.

She's just your gf. Can't she have her own life anymore? Nawa oo

Seandisputed:
Na wa o

No b small. D matter tire me. I'm just trying not to make an issue out of it

They are never loyal

And you had to create a thread for this?


Be like say you nor wan prosper for life. Flee from her immediately. Tell her you have Coronavirus sef.

Paxie55:
She's just your gf. Can't she have her own life anymore? Nawa oo

That means calling her toasters?. Why would you call your toaster if you are not interested

funkmrflexx:

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She will say they have nothing but she calls them constantly even more than she calls her female friends

I want to put stop to it

What do you guys think

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Sorry to say this: I think you are feeble-minded.

Girls in the universities are very unstable, they get advances from male folks frequently and so they are difficult to date.

Someone is receiving call from time to time from "toasters" and you are still asking questions.
You are not comfortable with her receiving such calls, she's clearly unyielding. So, why give yourself early headache.

Focus on your life and build it.

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Don't mind most ladies out there... always want to eat their cakes n have them.... Don't give her attitudes.. just watch her till she falls into the grave she's digging cos if u continue complaining, she's going to emotionally blackmail you into thinking you're a nag... Your sanity should be of more priority to you.... Why not continue calling your female friends... Live your life bro..

u also should start talking to the girls who call u

scottyoloye:
Don't mind most ladies out there... always want to eat their cakes n have them.... Don't give her attitudes.. just watch her till she falls into the grave she's digging cos if u continue complaining, she's going to emotionally blackmail you into thinking you're a nag... Your sanity should be of more priority to you.... Why not continue calling your female friends... Live your life bro..

Abi o

OrestesDante:




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Sorry to say this: I think you are feeble-minded.

Girls in the universities are very unstable, they get advances from male folks frequently and so they are difficult to date.

Someone is receiving call from time to time from "toasters" and you are still asking questions.
You are not comfortable with her receiving such calls, she's clearly unyielding. So, why give yourself early headache.

Focus on your life and build it.

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someone dating female undergraduate and expect to have peace of mind

funkmrflexx:


That means calling her toasters?. Why would you call your toaster if you are not interested

Are you the boring type? Maybe you should engage more with her. Know what she likes and what keeps her busy.
Don't be a boring bf.

you are just one of the few dudes who are sharing that community toto...

here is a simple clue: next time she calls one of those guys, tell her that you wanna talk to them (to let them know that you are her BF), and see what she says.

Paxie55:

Are you the boring type? Maybe you should engage more with her. Know what she likes and what keeps her busy.
Don't be a boring bf.

I'm not a boring guy. I'm fun to be with someone that's not the issue

Dicktion:
In 1926 when I was a boy living in a highly respectable suburbs of Ibandan (Pls Do not try mistaking the name for Ibadan. Tankiu) I was just in the same shoe size as Op's, precisely 47(that's a bit excess huh) . Fortunately enough for me I was also a pro gamer like her, but the unfortunate part for her was that her sister became my toaster. On one occasion I paid them a visit and she was on call with her toasters while her lil sis on the other side of the sitting room was toasting me with her eyes... When I got talking to her days later she disclosed that she was in love with my Absalom kinda eyes.... Who knows Absalom here Y'all seriously need to know that guy.He's so cool

See werey watayu now?

They are her different school boyfriend not toasters.

You should be happy someone is helping get it warm while you are not there

Give400:
See werey watayu now?

What do you see

Let the young girl live, let her do her do, straff and let straff, no come dey catch feels.. you dey do like 'nkpi'

Your girlfriend is calling her toatsters. How can these two incompatible concepts in bold coexist?

If your girlfriend makes a show of being available to everybody, can you really call her your girlfriend?

The correct term to use is ‘this girl I’m bleeping’. I really don’t understand guys these days.

funkmrflexx:
I've been dating my girlfriend for more than a year now. She's in uni . Whenever she comes home she always recieves call from guys who are trying to toast her. Which is normal for a girl. But what she does is she usually call these toasters on her own. They can sometimes talk for about 15 minutes on her credit. This happens every time. I usually use to get calls from different girls from time to time. But I stopped those calls and I don't call them out if respect for her.

Anytime I ask her why would she be calling those guys she will tell me I don't trust her. That she doesn't have anything with them. She even sometimes send them text messages at night which she will delete for me not to see.
She will say they have nothing but she calls them constantly even more than she calls her female friends

I want to put stop to it

What do you guys think

No respect + manipulation, but the choice is still yours finally.

Dicktion:
In 1926 when I was a boy living in a highly respectable suburbs of Ibandan (Pls Do not try mistaking the name for Ibadan. Tankiu) I was just in the same shoe size as Op's, precisely 47(that's a bit excess huh) . Fortunately enough for me I was also a pro gamer like her, but the unfortunate part for her was that her sister became my toaster. On one occasion I paid them a visit and she was on call with her toasters while her lil sis on the other side of the sitting room was toasting me with her eyes... When I got talking to her days later she disclosed that she was in love with my Absalom kinda eyes.... Who knows Absalom here Y'all seriously need to know that guy.He's so cool

Mtcheww

funkmrflexx:
I've been dating my girlfriend for more than a year now. She's in uni . Whenever she comes home she always recieves call from guys who are trying to toast her. Which is normal for a girl. But what she does is she usually call these toasters on her own. They can sometimes talk for about 15 minutes on her credit. This happens every time. I usually use to get calls from different girls from time to time. But I stopped those calls and I don't call them out if respect for her.

Anytime I ask her why would she be calling those guys she will tell me I don't trust her. That she doesn't have anything with them. She even sometimes send them text messages at night which she will delete for me not to see.
She will say they have nothing but she calls them constantly even more than she calls her female friends

I want to put stop to it

What do you guys think

Your problem is you're a FOOL

you're not a man

She's your maker

scottyoloye:
Don't mind most ladies out there... always want to eat their cakes n have them.... Don't give her attitudes.. just watch her till she falls into the grave she's digging cos if u continue complaining, she's going to emotionally blackmail you into thinking you're a nag... Your sanity should be of more priority to you.... Why not continue calling your female friends... Live your life bro..

you are absolutely right bro...dated one recently,she claims i complain too much...tell me how a supposed toaster will call you and you will call him back...she says i nag a lot,we don break up now sha.

Since you've spoken to her and there's no change, take your mind off the relationship.

Apparently you like her so be kind to her, appreciate her but again take your mind off the relationship.

Be there for her if she needs you, stay detached if she doesnt. Its important you don't inconvenience yourself for her at this stage. If the relationship dies, its probably for the best for you. Let it go and move on, focus on yourself.

She's at a particular stage and you need to let her go through it and make her own decision. This is not something you can force otherwise it most likely won't end well.

Summary: detach yourself, be there for her but don't go out of your way. If she goes, she goes. All the other guys that want to fiok can fiok. It doesnt make her a bad person, it's just the stage she's at for now.

shestrong:

Mtcheww

At least I still recall a good piece of my precursor's history. I think that should be enough sweedy, or would you like me to take you back to my days in ancient biblical Midian?

Dicktion:
At least I still recall a good piece of my precursor's history. I think that should be enough sweedy, or would you like me to take you back to my days in ancient biblical Midian

Pls leave me alone now

the way you guys talk bad about Nigerian girls eehnn i doubt if i will marry them as wife because they seem cursed.

shestrong:

Pls leave me alone now

Not so soon bruv First things first what do you have to say about Op's predicament

Man I pray you not calling public property your girlfriend tho, keep respecting girls whenever they do you wrong okay , someone is disrespecting to your face not even hidden anymore...better dump her or else she will