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Re: I Lost my job, my girlfriend dumped me and nairalanders saved me from suicide by emmanuelpopson(m): 10:46pm On Apr 08, 2020
Tankunland:
When Shola's mom called me her first question was do i know who the father of Samuel is and I replied and said yes of course it's her grand daughters dad and she said to me I'm the real father of Samuel and that her late daughter reiterated it 2 days before she died guys I went crazy again.


Why me, why me, why me was the question I was asking my self. Why is all this thing's happening to me was the question that just kept repeating itself in my head.


I went to see my boy and the connection was instant ooo just carrying him again after 6 months send shivers down my spine and now I'm just waiting for his Grandma to tell the other guy that Samuel is mine.


I have already started sending my kid small small money again for his up keep Lol even tho not much because I don't even have much now but i would do everything within my power to give this Young kid the best of life that me and his late mother my queen his mother planned for him even when I never knew he was mine.


Wow I'm done. My hands ache. Just wanna say thank you to Seun Osewa for this beautiful forum, thank you to Joe Abah for retweeting that tweet even tho it hasn't yield devident yet but thanks and thank you to those beautiful souls that saved my life with that 9k I know you remember me and I say God bless you.


and to those on the verge of suicide I tell you that you can overcome and it's not the end of the world for you and Whatever you are passing through has an end ok and I need you to realize people somewhere is passing through the same or even harder situation than you. Don't give up, don't stop praying even tho I lost my faith a lil but don't lose yours because only the almighty can do all things.


To my young sister's reading this please be contented with what your man gives to you. The course of sholas death was so painful when I heard but please my dear sister dont date a Yahoo boy for any reason or even go out with one.


I tell you Yahoo doesn't work again and what they do now is Yahoo plus and some of this guy's are heartless and don't care about anyone than just to make that fetish money amd they would use you and any other girl they find to keep that money coming.


To my Young King's reading this don't have a girlfriend in your 20s please. Use that time to develop your self. Work hard to make yourself better as getting a girlfriend would really slow you dowm from attaining that top you want to go.

And last Please if you are too weak to move on or too tired to live again and you think suicide is your escape please speak out, yes some would laugh at you and call you names but speak out as there is that one person that would listen to you.



I LOVE YOU SHOLA AND REST IN PEACE

I read your story and I was moved to tears.. nobody on planet earth help anymore except there is something to receive in return.also I wish you made this story on Twitter.. you could have make it big kos people will wana make you big on there and dr Joe abah that you quoted will have made you more clients..
God bless you

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Re: I Lost my job, my girlfriend dumped me and nairalanders saved me from suicide by Dimang(m): 10:47pm On Apr 08, 2020
The girl never loved you bro

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Re: I Lost my job, my girlfriend dumped me and nairalanders saved me from suicide by Lighthammer(m): 10:47pm On Apr 08, 2020
Maybe i will write bout my own travails here too,almost committed suicide last year due to debt and i even made a post bout it here.....some bashed me,called me names and sorts....
use to pay 100 k for rent b4 bt nw?na one face me i slap u 12 k room i dey live
but i still have hope shaa
am inspired
we will make it

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Re: I Lost my job, my girlfriend dumped me and nairalanders saved me from suicide by xrayj(m): 10:48pm On Apr 08, 2020
Martinez39s:
You had better start using your brain. Go get a DNA test. What if she pinned the boy on you because she knows her baby daddy won't take care of him like you would after she is gone? What if it was her last-ditch effort to secure her son's future? Why would you trust the words of someone who said your "son" belongs to her baby daddy and had the boy live with the baby daddy as his son for a long time? You really need to start using your brain. Seems your ordeal wasn't harsh enough to activate your brain and make it override your emotions. You have to tune down your emotions, and start being logical.
God bless u!
Dude is too gullible & pliable!
How on earth will any reasonable man accept such a woman back into his life?

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Re: I Lost my job, my girlfriend dumped me and nairalanders saved me from suicide by AlfaSeltzer(m): 10:50pm On Apr 08, 2020
mumu people full this forum

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Re: I Lost my job, my girlfriend dumped me and nairalanders saved me from suicide by Nobody: 10:50pm On Apr 08, 2020
I’ll advise you still do a DNA test tho... They probably just pushing the baby to you

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Re: I Lost my job, my girlfriend dumped me and nairalanders saved me from suicide by Nobody: 10:51pm On Apr 08, 2020
xrayj:

Without wishing to sound obnoxious, u are a very gullible & pliable man! A lot things u passed through in the hands of shola could have been avoided if not for your gullible nature. Better go & do a DNA test & start using your brain!
if only you wouldn't abuse me and read were I said I was gonna do a paternity test on the kid when I get some money. Yes I made mistakes not because I was gullible as you said but because yes I loved her and she sacrificed a lot for me but it's fine I guess I learnt in the hard way. Goodnight

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Re: I Lost my job, my girlfriend dumped me and nairalanders saved me from suicide by xrayj(m): 10:51pm On Apr 08, 2020
IdreamOfUnicorn:
[s]OP I have one thing to tell you.
"To love is to suffer. To avoid suffering, one must not love. But then, one suffers from not loving. Therefore, to love is to suffer; not to love is to suffer; to suffer is to suffer. To be happy is to love. To be happy, then, is to suffer, but suffering makes one unhappy. Therefore, to be happy, one must love or love to suffer or suffer from too much happiness."

Sure, this is funny as hell. But I am here to remind you -- your love life does NOT have to be your suffering life[/s].
U don't know what u are saying!
A man suffers when he ends up in the hands of a wrong woman. That was op case. Shola was a bad woman, a cheat & liar! When u marry a virtuous woman, u will be happy.

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Re: I Lost my job, my girlfriend dumped me and nairalanders saved me from suicide by law001(m): 10:52pm On Apr 08, 2020
Galactico4ever:
Let me teach you:assuming he was born in june 1992,he will be 17 in july 2009 and 22 in jan 2015.

Ok o
Re: I Lost my job, my girlfriend dumped me and nairalanders saved me from suicide by Alvin212(m): 10:53pm On Apr 08, 2020
chocolatelady:
U must be a genius for this ur write up even though u never went to the university . Thumbs up!. Tears fell from my eyes while reading the advice u gave out at the last paragraph. This life is full of challenges. One must have one challenge or the other. These challenges are only there to make us strong and better person. Believe me if u don’t have any challenge in ur life, u will not live long becos u will not have any story to tell. Challenges must come but with God’s Grace on our side , we shall overcome.
Pls try and focus on ur CCTV repair and ur son for now. Leave women for now so that u can build urself after which u now choose who u will marry, date her and settle down.
May the God Lord always be there for u to lift u up and grant ur innermost heart intentions through Jesus Christ our Lord, amen.




I disagree a bit.

There are challenges that can kill you
There are challenges that you can't get out of it sane enough.

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Re: I Lost my job, my girlfriend dumped me and nairalanders saved me from suicide by digitalman: 10:54pm On Apr 08, 2020
Please Sir, don't fail to understand one thing important.

You gave the Shola 20k to go kill the baby. She must have been disappointed in you and that complicated her relationship with you.

Add to your life lessons: Thou shalt not kill.
Make sure you find legal ways and take care of your son.

Don't fail to do DNA test!

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Re: I Lost my job, my girlfriend dumped me and nairalanders saved me from suicide by Galacious1: 10:54pm On Apr 08, 2020
Inspiring piece. Hopefully, one day I get to share mine.
Re: I Lost my job, my girlfriend dumped me and nairalanders saved me from suicide by mich2012: 10:55pm On Apr 08, 2020
seanwilliam:
Mehn, for the first time this year, I cry embarassed.. omo....I learn 15 lessons from this
1. Never have girl friend at tender age
2. Never have girlfriend while you are struggling
3. Dont be too generous
4. Dont live beyond your means
5. A man should be strong emotionally
6. Never date a single mother
7. Never accept a cheating girlfriend back
8. Have multiple source of income
9. Never close your mouth, you never can tell who would help you
10. Your condition is the not the worst
11.you yourself is the most important thing, family comes second
12. Dont invest in business you dont know the "ins" and " out"..
13.learn a skill no matter what
14. Dont trust people easily
15. Prayer works....
And lastly
16. Suicide is never the solution to one's problem

I really learn much ...God would make a way for all of us.. this really got my hearts
Your breakthrough is near Tankunland

You summarized everything bro.

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Re: I Lost my job, my girlfriend dumped me and nairalanders saved me from suicide by HARDDON: 10:55pm On Apr 08, 2020
It takes guts...
Re: I Lost my job, my girlfriend dumped me and nairalanders saved me from suicide by KehindeOmololu: 10:56pm On Apr 08, 2020
Best personal experience of the year so far ....Honestly you deserve an award. Thanks boss

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Re: I Lost my job, my girlfriend dumped me and nairalanders saved me from suicide by Nobody: 10:57pm On Apr 08, 2020
xrayj:

God bless u!
Dude is too gullible & pliable!
How on earth will any reasonable man accept such a woman back into his life?
are you perfect Sir? Have you ever made a mistake sir ? Have you ever forgive who hurt you before? Have you done things you never thought you were capable of doing before? Answer this questions Sir and tune down on the abuse. Yes I made mistakes I agree but Shola was and is the Love of my life and she made mistakes because she was just a girl but I forgive her and have forgotten and pray she finds rest. Goodnight again sir and sweet dreams

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Re: I Lost my job, my girlfriend dumped me and nairalanders saved me from suicide by mich2012: 10:57pm On Apr 08, 2020
0KNM:
I’ll advise you still do a DNA test tho... They probably just pushing the baby to you

I agree.
Re: I Lost my job, my girlfriend dumped me and nairalanders saved me from suicide by OlawaleBammie: 10:57pm On Apr 08, 2020
olarwhumy6:
Wow! What a sad story.. Thanks for sharing and May God bless you abundantly far beyond your expectations, Pls take good care of little sam. It's well bro.

Not only littfle sam, he should extend the measure at least if its meager to his step daughter, i tink he owes shola dat as well.

Tho shola was unstable but from the readings i know shola loved him so much, she just crumbled under pressure.

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Re: I Lost my job, my girlfriend dumped me and nairalanders saved me from suicide by XshegzzyeeiX: 10:58pm On Apr 08, 2020
seanwilliam:
Mehn, for the first time this year, I cry embarassed.. omo....I learn 15 lessons from this
1. Never have girl friend at tender age
2. Never have girlfriend while you are struggling
3. Dont be too generous
4. Dont live beyond your means
5. A man should be strong emotionally
6. Never date a single mother
7. Never accept a cheating girlfriend back
8. Have multiple source of income
9. Never close your mouth, you never can tell who would help you
10. Your condition is the not the worst
11.you yourself is the most important thing, family comes second
12. Dont invest in business you dont know the "ins" and " out"..
13.learn a skill no matter what
14. Dont trust people easily
15. Prayer works....
And lastly
16. Suicide is never the solution to one's problem

I really learn much ...God would make a way for all of us.. this really got my hearts
Your breakthrough is near Tankunland
Re: I Lost my job, my girlfriend dumped me and nairalanders saved me from suicide by Govo4me2u(m): 10:59pm On Apr 08, 2020
The story is pathetic. I don't know how you view it culturally culture differs, The truth is this; you were investing on a wrong project. The lady in question is another Man's Wife. This implies that you were in an adulterous relationship with her.

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Re: I Lost my job, my girlfriend dumped me and nairalanders saved me from suicide by ajokeade920: 11:00pm On Apr 08, 2020
so so touching cry
Re: I Lost my job, my girlfriend dumped me and nairalanders saved me from suicide by Nobody: 11:01pm On Apr 08, 2020
xrayj:

U don't know what u are saying!
A man suffers when he ends up in the hands of a wrong woman. That was op case. Shola was a bad woman, a cheat & liar! When u marry a virtuous woman, u will be happy.

This is the best thing I have heard today.
true talk

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Re: I Lost my job, my girlfriend dumped me and nairalanders saved me from suicide by Bianda24: 11:01pm On Apr 08, 2020
seanwilliam:
Mehn, for the first time this year, I cry embarassed.. omo....I learn 15 lessons from this
1. Never have girl friend at tender age
2. Never have girlfriend while you are struggling
3. Dont be too generous
4. Dont live beyond your means
5. A man should be strong emotionally
6. Never date a single mother
7. Never accept a cheating girlfriend back
8. Have multiple source of income
9. Never close your mouth, you never can tell who would help you
10. Your condition is the not the worst
11.you yourself is the most important thing, family comes second
12. Dont invest in business you dont know the "ins" and " out"..
13.learn a skill no matter what
14. Dont trust people easily
15. Prayer works....
And lastly
16. Suicide is never the solution to one's problem

I really learn much ...God would make a way for all of us.. this really got my hearts
Your breakthrough is near Tankunland

God bless you and the writer of the story. Nairalamders are superb, Nigerians are priceless. Thank you all

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Re: I Lost my job, my girlfriend dumped me and nairalanders saved me from suicide by xrayj(m): 11:03pm On Apr 08, 2020
Tankunland:
if only you wouldn't abuse me and read were I said I was gonna do a paternity test on the kid when I get some money. Yes I made mistakes not because I was gullible as you said but because yes I loved her and she sacrificed a lot for me but it's fine I guess I learnt in the hard way. Goodnight
The bold is where your gullibility comes in!
U made a statement saying "if she would lie on a dying bed". Let me tell u this today, humans don't change. If as a man u don't know to forgive a cheating woman is a sin, it means u have a lot to learn when it comes to women. There was nothing on earth that should have made u accept her back when she left u for her baby daddy! You made a grave mistake by doing that, which was due to your gullibility. Not even if heaven falls. U shouldn't have accepted her back! You allowed your emotions to get a better part of u, reason u accepted her back. This is not a matter of when u see money, u need to find that money & do a DNA test on that boy. If after all u went through in the hands of this lady u are still sounding this soft & in defence of her, I can begin to imagine why she was able to act the way she did! Go & do a DNA test on that boy, it is a matter of urgency. I have said my own!

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Re: I Lost my job, my girlfriend dumped me and nairalanders saved me from suicide by darfay: 11:03pm On Apr 08, 2020
Martinez39s:
You had better start using your brain. Go get a DNA test. What if she pinned the boy on you because she knows her baby daddy won't take care of him like you would after she is gone? What if it was her last-ditch effort to secure her son's future? Why would you trust the words of someone who said your "son" belongs to her baby daddy and had the boy live with the baby daddy as his son for a long time? You really need to start using your brain. Seems your ordeal wasn't harsh enough to activate your brain and make it override your emotions. You have to tune down your emotions, and start being logical.


This is why I logged in, but you said it best

Goodnight y'all

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Re: I Lost my job, my girlfriend dumped me and nairalanders saved me from suicide by oshaosha2014(m): 11:04pm On Apr 08, 2020
You messed up taking her back. A woman that is with you only because the other side is not favorable doesn’t love you.

Tankunland:
Because I still loved her very much because of our history and how far we had come i didnt delete her number on my phone so I called and when I said hello she just started to weep, like weep profusely and I asked why is she crying and can she explain that picture on Facebook, she said she gave birth to a baby boy.


You can imagine my reaction guys. I was dumpfounded and didn't know what to say for close to a minute then she said she didn't abort the pregnancy I gave her money for as the pregnancy actually belonged to her baby daddy which makes the boy his.


At this juncture I was so confused and asked her was she cheating on me even those times mom just died and she said yes but I should forgive her and i been foolish forgive her but told her we couldn't date again but from my heart I forgive her because she showed lot of remorse through that phone call we had and after that day she would call and tell me how the guy is maltreating her, how he doesn't feed her and the new baby and I started sending 5k per week to her for her upkeep and that of the baby.


I made sure I called her always, made her happy and smile again. I would go from my end to hers at iyana ipaja to see her, we started becoming close again and when the baby was 3 months old the guy beat her up and I told her to leave where she was and come back to her mom's and I would take care of her feeding and that of the kid. I was making money and i sincerely loved her so I believed I was doing the right thing and I got seriously ill in December of 2018 all this while we weren't dating again but we were already so close again and i remember she came home with that lil boy to take care of me and oh Goodness this boy was the perfect replica of me.


That day she came she cooked for me, gave me my drugs, washed my dirty clothes and she decided to pass the night and we had the most powerful and most passionate love making session we ever had and cried together and she promised never to hurt or cheat on me again so I we decided to come back together. ( I had forgotten a leopard never changes it's spots).

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Re: I Lost my job, my girlfriend dumped me and nairalanders saved me from suicide by rita25(f): 11:07pm On Apr 08, 2020
Have you ever asked the Holyspirit to help you? You seem to be trying to do it all alone....s3k for the Comforter,you will be amazed at what he can do...he steps I. When there is no option left.

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Re: I Lost my job, my girlfriend dumped me and nairalanders saved me from suicide by Nobody: 11:07pm On Apr 08, 2020
All this changes in life is part of the process just keep trusting, living and believing in God.
That lady is not your woman.
Re: I Lost my job, my girlfriend dumped me and nairalanders saved me from suicide by Ayomideen(m): 11:08pm On Apr 08, 2020
Man I don't even know what to type right now,your story hooked me,buh thank God for your life man...may we all prosper

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Re: I Lost my job, my girlfriend dumped me and nairalanders saved me from suicide by darfay: 11:08pm On Apr 08, 2020
seanwilliam:
Mehn, for the first time this year, I cry embarassed.. omo....I learn 15 lessons from this
1. Never have girl friend at tender age
2. Never have girlfriend while you are struggling
3. Dont be too generous
4. Dont live beyond your means
5. A man should be strong emotionally
6. Never date a single mother
7. Never accept a cheating girlfriend back
8. Have multiple source of income
9. Never close your mouth, you never can tell who would help you
10. Your condition is the not the worst
11.you yourself is the most important thing, family comes second
12. Dont invest in business you dont know the "ins" and " out"..
13.learn a skill no matter what
14. Dont trust people easily
15. Prayer works....
And lastly
16. Suicide is never the solution to one's problem

I really learn much ...God would make a way for all of us.. this really got my hearts
Your breakthrough is near Tankunland


Your points are valid but no 2, can't be a general rule for everyone

No 7 is bull shit and double standard, because you expect girls to accept a cheating bf. U can only put your feet on the ground on that, if you have never cheated on the said girl, otherwise it's pure bullshit

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Re: I Lost my job, my girlfriend dumped me and nairalanders saved me from suicide by Nobody: 11:09pm On Apr 08, 2020
shesawesome:
Those with a good heart get hurt the most
Popular truth embarassed

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Re: I Lost my job, my girlfriend dumped me and nairalanders saved me from suicide by LEMVEG(m): 11:11pm On Apr 08, 2020
Rest in peace SHOLA.. from your story what pained me most was when Shola called to see you in her last moments and u refused.. I don't blame you sha. ONCE BITTEN

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