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Designerdollars:
the girl wor wor die.
I didn't expect much from her anyway

safarigirl:
as in

The nerve of these useless men to call the OP ugly, in reality, none of them can walk up to her to toast her. When Nigerian men know they cannot stand next to a woman, the next thing is to start insulting her looks.

ajani27:
Imagine her without make up....

Ladycewhy:
the grandmas that have one leg in the grave they keep bringing to the registry

Goddys:
I don't understand why some people lack common decency. It is very rude to tell a woman she is ugly. Maybe I was raised up differently

GraGra247:
I was totally convinced that silly guy on the earlier thread was talking gibberish.

His line of reasoning wasn't carefully thought out.

whizqueen:
My dear the matter weak me. The most disgusting thing is the same guys that are talking trash on here are the ones that sent me DMs already. All in the name of trying not to look vulnerable

whizqueen:
My friend sent me this thread last night but I had too much to say so here we go.

I (A Nigerian girl living in Canada) will be responding to the OP's points and some other comments I found on the thread.


Are Nigerian Ladies in Canada lonely? Ofcourse we are! Are Nigerian girls in NIGERIA lonely? Hell yeah!!! Are Nigerian girls in other countries lonely? Absolutely!!!!! Being lonely is not a factor of location or person. It's about not finding the right friends/partner you vibe with.


Why did we immigrate? Bros are you kidding me? Canadian govt is paying me $2000 monthly and other benefits for losing income due to covid-19 Is that happening in Naija right now? All the money donated by philanthropist in Nigeria would soon disappear into the thin air without our govt giving explanation of any sort. Ofcourse, it's not bed of roses abroad neither were we expecting a man wrapped in a gift bag but please don't let your sentiments cloud your reasoning as to why people make immigration decisions abeg.


I personally feel attacked I recently posted a video on my YouTube Channel about finding love & online dating in Canada. It's asif this hope saw my video and wanted to attack me


What makes you think we would be interested in you to begin with? Don't pride yourself too much plis dear


If you like let the OP influence your decision and stop you from chasing your immigration dreams, last last it's up to you to decide what you want for your future.


Whilst I would agree with growing together with your partner and building with them. I think it's just shallow minded of anyone in this age and time to ask for women to chase marriage first before career. Marriage is not the ultimate not everyone sees marriage as an achievement. These days, if you crave for sex so much, you can pay someone to do it or get yourself a Love Machine, if you want a child, you can literally just buy a sperm and save yourself lots of stress. Most of us are yet to keep an open mind to these things, however if you want something badly there;s always a way to get it.


Most Nigerian men hate to see it happen, there are laws that protect women here and they would prefer dying single than to see women as their equals. A good number of them are control freaks and would rather their woman be at their beck and call for everything as opposed to having their marriage work as a partnership. Nigerian married man knowing the laws of the land will still go ahead and cheat on his wife with a girl living in the same condo with his wife. Una no even dey fear or respect una madam. If atall you really want to cheat, you cannot travel to Nigeria and secretly mess with girls that fancy IJGB crew or allen avenue. As expected, some women do exploit the situation but if you find yourself a god-fearing person and you do the right thing, no divorce laws or child custody issue would stop y'all from flourishing.


White men dont find us attractive? Laughs is Swahili
On the contrary most men of other races have FETISH for Nigerian girls and Black girls in general. Maybe not long term in all cases tho but they reaaaaaaally fancy us and admire our enthusiasm towards life. Whilst most Nigerian girls would likely not wanna go for the likes of 'Ryan', 'Billy' and co it's not cos we don't find them attractive. Firstly, Naija guys are smart, intelligent and goal oriented. You see the average ones already have plans for their future and working towards it unlike the counterparts who are comfortable with just a high school degree. If a Naija guy is even into technical jobs he would try to be the best at it and work towards starting his own company in the near future. Secondly, coping with someone with a different culture, lifestyle, food, etc is honestly stressful. I was talking with one Persian guy and he said before we can kiss or hold hands, we have to be temporarily married. The other chinese guy is only about 5ft tall, I'm just wondering what he would look like in that department

In Nigeria, when you visit a guy at home, some would expect you to know that's express ticket to get laid with them. But here if you visit a guy at home, you can be almost certain that if you guys have sex it's cos you wanted it, no guy will try to lure or manipulate you to straff them or tell you when you came to my house what were you thinking. They know it's important to ask for your opinion or even avoid the whole situation altogether.

Something the OP failed to address is that the Loneliness spans across both men and women living in Diaspora. Even the white people find it hard getting a partner for themselves much less an immigrant that would probably take some time to fully settle in. The system is built to have everyone mind their business, that togetherness or family-spirit is missing.

All the naija guys and ladies in Toronto have finish dating themselves. It's such a small city, everyone knows eachother thru another person only a matter of time before you find out that; the guy toasting you is ex with your colleagues' friend. Or the guy you matched with on the dating app went on a date with your housemate the day before. Some would be married and they would be on the dating apps lying to other women.

Some of us don't even mind going back home to bring men here, but 'em guys just they find paper. Only few genuinely love and care for you. I kuku know people here already do that as business tho, some ladies/guys now charge up to $30,000 to marry people from home to help them get residency here.

There are tons of Nigerians in Canada groups on WhatsApp and Telegram some are just for singles and you find people of age 35, 40, etc filled with both women and MEN. Some guys eventually resort to going back home to marry the less exposed girls, but guess what happens once they reach YYZ airport? Oh well your guess is as good as mine. Their eyes go open finish.

A good number of Naija guys are single and desperately finding love as well as ladies. Truth is, we all crave for love. And that's not a bad thing to want. Finding a good match or significant other is a honestly a game of chance. Home and Abroad, White or Black race finding a partner is truly difficult and if you got lucky finding that one special person, you better love and cherish them truly.

I rest my case; I am in the comment section waiting for someone to jump on my mention and before you do so just remember: Opinions are like as5holes and everyone is entitled to one. So this is my opinion, I have free time today

Link to Original thread https://www.nairaland.com/5782313/chai-nigerian-girls-canada-lonely

pocohantas:
Don’t mind the silly thing. “Yen yen, they are lonely. Yen yen, ugly. Yen yen yen evening newspaper”.

Are the in their lives beauty queens? Always looking for how to pull a sister down. Then have the nerve to talk about pride. Virtuousness is licking their broke asses. Not me, Poco.

ovielistic:
tell them the truth..how much tax will you pay back from that money when you file tax..you are creating the impression that is awoof money.

ajani27:
Imagine her without make up....

Celepope:
I will be back to address this issue of loneliness of Nigerian ladies in diaspora
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Let me start. I may be out of point but you all should pardon me. Speaking from my observation of Nigerian ladies in America from my 10 years of living in the US, , many find it difficult to find husband because of many reasons thereby leading to depression and loneliness. First, many Nigerian guys in cities like Chicago, NY city and Houston are always searching for Nigerian ladies to grace their bed and many of them don't have a bearing. Secondly, many Nigerian ladies tend to be career driven especially those in hot pursuit of wanting to become Nurses to the extent of forgetting that they can also still date while pursuing their dreams. Many of them discover too late when they might have crossed into their 30s. I dated two in this category. Now they are both making money as Nurse Practitioners and they now discover that life is boring and lonely without a man (forget anything these fake feminists and their apologist might want to say). Many Nigerian ladies during their early years are always searching for already established guys in their careers and guys that make at least 6 figures. Without considering the facts that these guys are economic immigrant that have as their major goal the need to emancipate their family back home from their plight. Also many of the so-call guys don't have legal stay and these are the ones that mostly go to religious places of worship to scavenge for ladies to prey on forgetting that these ladies are wiser. Another factor that make these ladies not to find a man out there is because an average Nigerian lady in a place like the United states and i believe Canada tend to be saucy and lack manners. They feel they are better than an average girl back home. This is corroborated by even the way and manner this OP delivered her rebuttal. i.e such statement "Some guys eventually resort to going back home to marry the less exposed girls, but guess what happens once they reach YYZ airport?" why does the OP think she is much exposed than the average Aisha, Bimbo or Ngozi in the streets of Nigeria? FYI Op you travelling out or living outside the country doesn't make you much exposed than an average girl back in Nigeria. I know ladies in Nigeria that can school you on things about Canada and they haven't even been to the international airport. My advice to ladies in Diaspora is that they should be lay back in their approach and set realistic goals in the kind of man they want. They should explore other race and people from perhaps other nationalities in Africa. They should also utilize social media in establishing contacts and if possible reconnect with friends and former classmates. Nobody knows where they can find true love. God help us all and you all should pardon my lengthy post. I don't even appreciate it.

Goddys:
I don't understand why some people lack common decency. It is very rude to tell a woman she is ugly. Maybe I was raised up differently

safarigirl:
See ehn, Nigerian men don't know anything about beauty or it's different facets. They know nothing about beautiful features or attractive ones

I used to rate their opinions, until I realised a lot of them are confused and talk from both sides of the mouth. The only time a woman is ugly to a Nigerian man, is when she hurts his ego.

Jim99:
Black is black, Red is Red. No sugarcoating

bendazum:
Puss y.

Did she deny it?

whizqueen:
My dear the matter weak me. The most disgusting thing is the same guys that are talking trash on here are the ones that sent me DMs already. All in the name of trying not to look vulnerable

safarigirl:
Yes

This is the first time I have insulted anyone in the over 10 years I've been on Nairaland

Maybe you have a picture of mine from 2011 you would like to share?

Etimocracy:
I don't subscribe to attacking one's looks. The OP made her point, if anyone doesn't quite agree with her, they ought to politely counter her own points not resort to childish tantrums.
@OP it's normal to be attacked on a forum such as Nairaland. Don't take it to heart.

pocohantas:
Don’t worry, we know them. Alfa males online, pussy-whipped in reality.

whizqueen:
My dear the matter weak me. The most disgusting thing is the same guys that are talking trash on here are the ones that sent me DMs already. All in the name of trying not to look vulnerable

masseratti:
which standard? Not all Nigerian guys are control freaks, there is a stark difference when it comes to Nigerian guys and other black guys. This is not about white of blacks.. Its about Nigerian girls, the difference when you date a non Nigerian girl and a Nigerian girls is like dat and night.. Nigerian girl feel entitled period.

The two ops has their point anyway it all depends on which one suits you, but the original op of the other thread is so much on point.. The op here saying white see them as their fetish thing is so degrading, alot of people have their fetish fantacies, but still.. Its degrading.

safarigirl:
We know them well

Now that more of them are aware you live in Canada, expect more DMs. People that don't have shame, a highly impoverished lot.

If you want husband today, you will find on this thread. All this talk about being undesirable, is lies from the pit of hell. All they need is a promise of citizenship, and they will be calling you everything from iyawo to nwanyioma and mummy.

Emaprince:
I have never seen you dropping insults before thats why I was shocked.

I have seen your pic anyway....which I complimented. I hold nothing against you.


But in this thread. You females just dey insult people anyhow. Na wa o.
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Ayinke93:
So you think I need you to validate my wisdom? Aboki go find a life outside nairaland and geddifok out of my mentions. Your opinions are grossly inconsequential.

safarigirl:
We know them well

Now that more of them are aware you live in Canada, expect more DMs. People that don't have shame, a highly impoverished lot.

If you want husband today, you will find on this thread. All this talk about being undesirable, is lies from the pit of hell. All they need is a promise of citizenship, and they will be calling you everything from iyawo to nwanyioma and mummy.

namedo:
Hmm. Are these ladies actually lonely?

The truth is that you 'cannot serve two masters at same time'.

Most of you ladies abroad chose to chase after money at the detriment of their love lives.

They are too busy to realise that time is no longer on their side!

The advice is, hustle less and have some time for social interaction particularly, with other Nigerians.

Hope that helps?

See my signature below if you're interested in some side hustle.

J111333:
Sister just dey console herself.

I didn't wanna comment on the other thread but I'll be very much active on this one.

In diaspora, naija men are after oyibo woman and naija women are after oyibo men. At the end, oyibo women na dem rush naija men but that's not the case for our naija sisters.

The truth is that they are the cause of their loneliness because average naija men will naturally go after our sisters but the rejection they face by our over ambitious sisters no be here.

By the time, oyibo men men ignore them and they retrace their steps, our brothers have moved on.

...and the reason they reject our brothers? They think our brothers need green card from them which is not always the case.