₦airaland Forum

Astark:
I'm a man and I agree with the op and you.

Nigerian men and black men in general like to think they are the king's while in fact we are the most backward in all of the races on Earth.

We constantly insult and treat our women bad who we supposed to protect and cherish with our lives.

They think marrying other races is good, they've no idea they are enriching and giving wealth back to the white

Kobe Bryant is a prime example.

His entire wealth gone to the Mexican community.

It's a pity

Coolabbie:
Grandpa your hair don dey chop goooo

Yes my child , ain’t ur mate na. Are u a male or female , let know how to help ur career

gargoylern:
I no even know her before. But she is a concrete example of what I'm talking about. And she is just one of the thousands!

Anybody with sense could see the aim of your thread was to denigrate. That was why I quickly cleared you one side the minute you hopped on my mentions.

tyup:
Reading some few lines i knew the whole message would be senseless n really when that guy said 9ja babes in Canada 're less attractive n not good looking dang i now believe

mehnn Op wor wor ehn Tuueh

Besides only a lonely lady would have such time to reply breaking in messages just like you've done

Who is this guy������

I support you 100 percent.I m base in Europe enjoying 2,500 euro every 2 weeks for staying at home.

whizqueen:
My friend sent me this thread last night but I had too much to say so here we go.

I (A Nigerian girl living in Canada) will be responding to the OP's points and some other comments I found on the thread.


Are Nigerian Ladies in Canada lonely? Ofcourse we are! Are Nigerian girls in NIGERIA lonely? Hell yeah!!! Are Nigerian girls in other countries lonely? Absolutely!!!!! Being lonely is not a factor of location or person. It's about not finding the right friends/partner you vibe with.


Why did we immigrate? Bros are you kidding me? Canadian govt is paying me $2000 monthly and other benefits for losing income due to covid-19 Is that happening in Naija right now? All the money donated by philanthropist in Nigeria would soon disappear into the thin air without our govt giving explanation of any sort. Ofcourse, it's not bed of roses abroad neither were we expecting a man wrapped in a gift bag but please don't let your sentiments cloud your reasoning as to why people make immigration decisions abeg.


I personally feel attacked I recently posted a video on my YouTube Channel about finding love & online dating in Canada. It's asif this hope saw my video and wanted to attack me


What makes you think we would be interested in you to begin with? Don't pride yourself too much plis dear


If you like let the OP influence your decision and stop you from chasing your immigration dreams, last last it's up to you to decide what you want for your future.


Whilst I would agree with growing together with your partner and building with them. I think it's just shallow minded of anyone in this age and time to ask for women to chase marriage first before career. Marriage is not the ultimate not everyone sees marriage as an achievement. These days, if you crave for sex so much, you can pay someone to do it or get yourself a Love Machine, if you want a child, you can literally just buy a sperm and save yourself lots of stress. Most of us are yet to keep an open mind to these things, however if you want something badly there;s always a way to get it.


Most Nigerian men hate to see it happen, there are laws that protect women here and they would prefer dying single than to see women as their equals. A good number of them are control freaks and would rather their woman be at their beck and call for everything as opposed to having their marriage work as a partnership. Nigerian married man knowing the laws of the land will still go ahead and cheat on his wife with a girl living in the same condo with his wife. Una no even dey fear or respect una madam. If atall you really want to cheat, you cannot travel to Nigeria and secretly mess with girls that fancy IJGB crew or allen avenue. As expected, some women do exploit the situation but if you find yourself a god-fearing person and you do the right thing, no divorce laws or child custody issue would stop y'all from flourishing.


White men dont find us attractive? Laughs is Swahili
On the contrary most men of other races have FETISH for Nigerian girls and Black girls in general. Maybe not long term in all cases tho but they reaaaaaaally fancy us and admire our enthusiasm towards life. Whilst most Nigerian girls would likely not wanna go for the likes of 'Ryan', 'Billy' and co it's not cos we don't find them attractive. Firstly, Naija guys are smart, intelligent and goal oriented. You see the average ones already have plans for their future and working towards it unlike the counterparts who are comfortable with just a high school degree. If a Naija guy is even into technical jobs he would try to be the best at it and work towards starting his own company in the near future. Secondly, coping with someone with a different culture, lifestyle, food, etc is honestly stressful. I was talking with one Persian guy and he said before we can kiss or hold hands, we have to be temporarily married. The other chinese guy is only about 5ft tall, I'm just wondering what he would look like in that department

In Nigeria, when you visit a guy at home, some would expect you to know that's express ticket to get laid with them. But here if you visit a guy at home, you can be almost certain that if you guys have sex it's cos you wanted it, no guy will try to lure or manipulate you to straff them or tell you when you came to my house what were you thinking. They know it's important to ask for your opinion or even avoid the whole situation altogether.

Something the OP failed to address is that the Loneliness spans across both men and women living in Diaspora. Even the white people find it hard getting a partner for themselves much less an immigrant that would probably take some time to fully settle in. The system is built to have everyone mind their business, that togetherness or family-spirit is missing.

All the naija guys and ladies in Toronto have finish dating themselves. It's such a small city, everyone knows eachother thru another person only a matter of time before you find out that; the guy toasting you is ex with your colleagues' friend. Or the guy you matched with on the dating app went on a date with your housemate the day before. Some would be married and they would be on the dating apps lying to other women.

Some of us don't even mind going back home to bring men here, but 'em guys just they find paper. Only few genuinely love and care for you. I kuku know people here already do that as business tho, some ladies/guys now charge up to $30,000 to marry people from home to help them get residency here.

There are tons of Nigerians in Canada groups on WhatsApp and Telegram some are just for singles and you find people of age 35, 40, etc filled with both women and MEN. Some guys eventually resort to going back home to marry the less exposed girls, but guess what happens once they reach YYZ airport? Oh well your guess is as good as mine. Their eyes go open finish.

A good number of Naija guys are single and desperately finding love as well as ladies. Truth is, we all crave for love. And that's not a bad thing to want. Finding a good match or significant other is a honestly a game of chance. Home and Abroad, White or Black race finding a partner is truly difficult and if you got lucky finding that one special person, you better love and cherish them truly.

I rest my case; I am in the comment section waiting for someone to jump on my mention and before you do so just remember: Opinions are like as5holes and everyone is entitled to one. So this is my opinion, I have free time today

Link to Original thread https://www.nairaland.com/5782313/chai-nigerian-girls-canada-lonely

hustla:
Them say una no dey fine, and the two ladies wey dey show for the video snippet no make am at all

One of the girls teeth even resemble shark own.

Wor wor ti wor wor

OMG

FUNKE!!!

Coolabbie:
Kobe Bryant is a prime example.

His entire wealth gone to the Mexican community.

It's a pity

don't forget lil Wayne, Drake, Kanye west and host of others.

Black men are really the dumbest and we need to wake up.

Shibaraba:
Op simply justified the first thread. Like your gaptooth though

And it made front page. Let me use this opportunity to pass a message .Do you know that when you give you actually receive? People dey hungry for this lock down. Some you go see outside dey laugh but Owu Don blow dem. Please pick your phone, call that your family and friend. This is an opportunity to make people smile. Yes scammers dey...But even if you're scammed while doing good the blessing remains the same. Even if na 1k give. You just might save a life. Hunger bad

(Miss you Hungerbad. Rip)

Sir na only sub I need for nairaland na only place I de come search for work and ease myself stress help your boy sir
God bless you

9mobile. 0818 030 6399

You no dey shame, En. . Post your own Na.

Jim99:
Not me

olujastro:
This is my experience abroad...

Nigerian girls after settling into their professions abroad are only looking at guys who are doing as well or better than them professionally and financially.

A white woman who is a Doctor will fall in love with a cook, cleaner, clerk, etc.
But materialism is a big problem with Nigerians so people love what someone is (what they have) rather than who they are (their personality), hence the reason most career girls abroad are yet to find Nigerian men of their dreams, not until they start getting older and desperate before their eyes clear.
A lot of single Nigerian girls in Norway are in this category.
The same story in Canada, where I hadn't even landed at the time and my friend was already trying to hook me up with her single friend who is a nurse.
Local man quickly declined her offer

If you are a young hot medical doctor will a cleaner, cook or clerk be your first choice for a long term relationship?

benji93:
You no dey shame, En. . Post your own Na.

U try. For public forum

Pm me if u wan see my own

whizqueen:
The guy get me with that YouTube line, my chest wan explode

Please sis, can your refer me to anyone of those that do the 30k you mentioned, I need it, I want to leave naija ejor, abeg, biko

iammiracle1:
both OPs are correct, for those scared of divorce, YOU do know that white women are the WORST in this aspect, their system is designed to favor them IST above all others, if you doubt me ask Emmanuel Eboue who now lives in a basement without heat after his oyinbo wife took all he had, check all major crazy divorce those involved are mostly always white women, so pls cut our ladies some slack, even my guy man in Aussie complains of deep bone crushing loneliness sometimes because he is always on the grind and the few white women that come around after knowing he isn't an athlete or artiste never pursue anything long lasting with him, except for the ugly or unambitious leechy ones looking for someone to be stalled to, why do you think most Nigerian men marry oyinbo and still secretly come back home to marry? After a while the white crave wears off and you begin to see that Instagram filters isn't reality then you begin to lust for that sweet chocolate candy, so please of you find love, white, black, brown or yellow, cherish it, its not always greener on the other side for both sexes.

Finally, a sensible comment from a Nigerian man.

GraGra247:
Ok. You win

Oooh was it an argument or competition?

Cherie04:
Just look at how many likes this misogynistic comment got, Nigerian and black men are just useless. Please ladies keep marrying white men, black men ain't shit

you're as confused as ur mention content. ....what i really don't understand is why ur dragging me to this confusion of urs

Ayinke93:
You should know Nigerian men to overestimate their importance in the lives of women. See them wanking over the thought of their absence being the reason for the loneliness of someone who just started a new life a in far away country.some of them on that thread are even advicing the women to drop their imigration plans so as to be someone's wives.

They all sound very threatened at the thought of not being able to control a fellow human being. I really do not blame y'all, I blame the society that made you so entitled in the fist place. For the gender that claims to be superior, they worry too much about women and there choices and the thought of not being the center of a woman's life give them headaches.

If there's any woman here nursing the thought of travelling abroad, if that is was you solely desire, face it squarely and build yourself. When you are complete on your own, you'll find love on the way.

@whizqueen, you are doing an amazing job and I admire you alot. Working on starting my immigration process already, sadly everything had to wait for know. All the best to you in Canada.

Jim99:
Walai bro

I still dey talk am, guys if u reach dat side still dey look black woman. U need spiritual beating lol

U go see clean and drop dead gorgeous latinas, caucasian, asians, ur eyes go nearly fall comot

LOL!

This black man just called his mother and all the women in his family dirty.

whizqueen:
Thank you!

I’ve been on Nairaland long enough to know how these people reason. None of the responses so far moved me. If I’m confident in my looks enough to go on YouTube, who them be??

You are welcome. Keep safe!

pocohantas:
Anybody with sense could see the aim of your thread was to denigrate. That was why I quickly cleared you one side the minute you hopped on my mentions.

fc.uk off lol

If you have 12.5 million in cash, you are better off than many people living abroad. Stay in Nigeria and make the right investments while enjoying being around those that understand your culture and look like you.

vowsng:
Please sis, can your refer me to anyone of those that do the 30k you mentioned, I need it, I want to leave naija ejor, abeg, biko

tyup:
Reading some few lines i knew the whole message would be senseless n really when that guy said 9ja babes in Canada 're less attractive n not good looking dang i now believe

mehnn Op wor wor ehn Tuueh

Besides only a lonely lady would have such time to reply breaking in messages just like you've done

Mehn u are wicked!! See lashing

Ayinke93:
You should know Nigerian men to overestimate their importance in the lives of women. See them wanking over the thought of their absence being the reason for the loneliness of someone who just started a new life a in far away country.some of them on that thread are even advicing the women to drop their imigration plans so as to be someone's wives.

They all sound very threatened at the thought of not being able to control a fellow human being. I really do not blame y'all, I blame the society that made you so entitled in the fist place. For the gender that claims to be superior, they worry too much about women and there choices and the thought of not being the center of a woman's life give them headaches.

If there's any woman here nursing the thought of travelling abroad, if that is was you solely desire, face it squarely and build yourself. When you are complete on your own, you'll find love on the way.

@whizqueen, you are doing an amazing job and I admire you alot. Working on starting my immigration process already, sadly everything had to wait for know. All the best to you in Canada.

Las las let love lead

Abeg me I dey find love ohhh
I'm 30
Civil aviator enthusiast
Serious minded
Your requirements
Friendly
Playful
Lovely
Family oriented
Beauty not important

If anyone dey Abeg send your CV to this email
Ollhans45@gmail.com

Coolabbie:
Ditto for the grannies interested in naija men. They just see them as human dildos devoid of intelligence

A.G.R.E.E.D

However, I fear your brain cells were rankled by my verite.

Ayohbk:
Hahaha. I guess you find those few paragraphs of English difficult to read. It's better you marry a mute from the village

my village is more or less like a city now with banks and all. So maybe you come from a village. Most women from my village young women are exposed so we don't have mutes or whatever

UKBobo:
A.G.R.E.E.D
However, I fear your brain cells were rankled by my verite.

Nah. Just showing the other side of the coin

Celepope:
I will be back to address this issue of loneliness of Nigerian ladies in diaspora
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Let me start. I may be out of point but you all should pardon me. Speaking from my observation of Nigerian ladies in America from my 10 years of living in the US, , many find it difficult to find husband because of many reasons thereby leading to depression and loneliness. First, many Nigerian guys in cities like Chicago, NY city and Houston are always searching for Nigerian ladies to grace their bed and many of them don't have a bearing. Secondly, many Nigerian ladies tend to be career driven especially those in hot pursuit of wanting to become Nurses to the extent of forgetting that they can also still date while pursuing their dreams. Many of them discover too late when they might have crossed into their 30s. I dated two in this category. Now they are both making money as Nurse Practitioners and they now discover that life is boring and lonely without a man (forget anything these fake feminists and their apologist might want to say). Many Nigerian ladies during their early years are always searching for already established guys in their careers and guys that make at least 6 figures. Without considering the facts that these guys are economic immigrant that have as their major goal the need to emancipate their family back home from their plight. Also many of the so-call guys don't have legal stay and these are the ones that mostly go to religious places of worship to scavenge for ladies to prey on forgetting that these ladies are wiser. Another factor that make these ladies not to find a man out there is because an average Nigerian lady in a place like the United states and i believe Canada tend to be saucy and lack manners. They feel they are better than an average girl back home. This is corroborated by even the way and manner this OP delivered her rebuttal. i.e such statement "Some guys eventually resort to going back home to marry the less exposed girls, but guess what happens once they reach YYZ airport?" why does the OP think she is much exposed than the average Aisha, Bimbo or Ngozi in the streets of Nigeria? FYI Op you travelling out or living outside the country doesn't make you much exposed than an average girl back in Nigeria. I know ladies in Nigeria that can school you on things about Canada and they haven't even been to the international airport. My advice to ladies in Diaspora is that they should be lay back in their approach and set realistic goals in the kind of man they want. They should explore other race and people from perhaps other nationalities in Africa. They should also utilize social media in establishing contacts and if possible reconnect with friends and former classmates. Nobody knows where they can find true love. God help us all and you all should pardon my lengthy post. I don't even appreciate it.

Gbam

ibkayee:
Lool they don't have a great reputation at all. There will always be exceptions but generally, (outside of the group of women I mentioned) and asides a few isolated cases here and there, they aren't on anyone's radars like that

Knowing this place, I don't think the thread would get much of a diverse response or be that productive to be honest, it will mostly be frustrated guys who've never stepped foot outside of their cities, let alone the country derailing. That's why I prefer places like lipstick alley for discussions like this lol

Just came back from lipstick alley.... the thought process of the folks there is quite amazing tho

This girl sharp o. She has said just the truth

pocohantas:
Hmmm. “Foreign women rush Naija men”

Na them dey rush us gang . Some Nigerian Men no just get Sense.