Jupiter7:


Just to add to what you have said; Nigerian american ladies, I am not discouraging you from dating Nigerian men because there are good Nigerian males out there. But you need to be on alert while dating the bad ones so you don't fall victim to the common thing trending right now. There is this colourless fattening pill some bad guys now use to make their wives oversize, they sneak it into ya food. Be kiaful.

kimjessey2019:
I don't know how one of my uncle managed to raised those humble daughters of his here in Nigeria while the other one of my uncle raised porn stars actresses in US. If them come Nigeria every mama go luck their sons and husband inside house. Tufiakwa

missimelda01:
But wait, why is love and relationship this complicated? If you're in Nigeria, problem.. out of Nigeria, problem

In the midst of all this brouahah, there's still someone out there meant for you.

Blyzz:
Hi...

cobrat:
They should come back and be quarantine

oshaosha2014:
You want to go over there to take away his resources a i, after finishing out the whole of America gives you the leeway to Bleep him over You better find your own way and stop looking for that American fool you can destroy his life by just lying against him.

sgtponzihater1:
Tell people the whole truth. Its easier for men. Several unmarried ladies in their 30s keep asking if I know any guy even in Nigeria. They get to their 30s and dont mind helping a keke driver with papers so they can get married, as long as he is at least presentable. They may even pay for the wedding.

Laghima:
Well,

Most women are hypergamous in nature which means: they naturally gravitate towards a male better than 'em(all round or in whatever they deem necessary), and this makes sense because they need to ensure they give birth to solid kids who can fight and win over the world and eventually protect 'em when they're old and too weak to fight - this might be on a subconscious level though.

More so, the guys they set for themselves are usually high value males and just like everything of high value in this world, are a scarce commodity.

The thing is: most people go to the abroad to better their lives(male and female included), therefore our males would want to wed a woman who can foster their life and career prospect while our females would also want to do same, but a woman only gets more unlucky with love and the opposite sex with more turn-downs unlike a man due to...(reason in my last paragraph).

The only thing that stands as a favour to men and detriment to women is age. Men age like wine while women age like milk. The older a man gets, the more his chances of becoming more successful due to his many trials and errors in life and also due to his life experiences and the more successful a man is(regardless of age) the more his chances and prospects with women while, the older a woman gets the lower her chances with men(with the exception of gigolo's who are the male version of prostitutes).

Crispels:


Lol. No vex. I’m only trying to share my experience. I know a lot of people will find it helpful. I also found the previous threads helpful - so I decided to also add to the conversation.

lefulefu:
u cant escape nigerians anywhere u are.a colleague of mine who is canadian told me there lots of canadians in nigeria.she said if u in some sections in canada u will be thinking you in africa.

lefulefu:
hmmm ur own case is much different from mine then.in my own case some of my female friends in naija are begging me to hook them up with any interested medical student here preferably a canadian or american student that is single.one of the girls that was pestering me i was able to hook her up with a doctor friend of mine based in benin.but later when she went to visit him she was complaining that the man was too old for her liking and bald and when she was with him inside his car he was pressing her breast and trying to suck them.that was what she told me .i told d guy and he denied everything.the girl is still pestering but in told her my few friends here are already hooked up.she asked what about me..weda i am not interested in her and i said i dont do far away relationship.i am trying to hook her with another friend of mine who is doing fishery business but she is still insisting it must be a doctor she must marry .

Naughtysite:


This thread is more intelligent and helpful than any other thread that has been raised on this Issue.

The writer is not only intelligent but has high IQ which is evident from his style of writing and choice of words.

Allow others to read and acquire knowledge.

lefulefu:
hmmm ur own case is much different from mine then.in my own case some of my female friends in naija are begging me to hook them up with any interested medical student here preferably a canadian or american student that is single.one of the girls that was pestering me i was able to hook her up with a doctor friend of mine based in benin.but later when she went to visit him she was complaining that the man was too old for her liking and bald and when she was with him inside his car he was pressing her breast and trying to suck them.that was what she told me .i told d guy and he denied everything.the girl is still pestering but in told her my few friends here are already hooked up.she asked what about me..weda i am not interested in her and i said i dont do far away relationship.i am trying to hook her with another friend of mine who is doing fishery business but she is still insisting it must be a doctor she must marry .

GreatResearcher1:
Bro or lady, you should be more concerned about the coronavirus and your studies and not relationship.

ProtectMyMoney:
Just as Indians and Chinese have their culture and and tradition for centuries, they do not change it for anybody where ever they go in any country.

Nigerians are used to changing their culture and tradition to adopt other peoples way of life in other countries.

That is why you are already seeing our women as slave like you mentioned above.

It is not a Nigerian man's way of life, Ibadan, Uyo, Kano, Enugu etc to be getting to the kitchen, washing plates, etc etc like you mentioned.

Jupiter7:

Nigsrdumb:


This will be the best meal Ur Caucasian woman will ever cook.

Karen no get joy.

RuudVanNisteroy:

Doctors have a higher chance of getting permanent residency to USA,Canada or UK. There is is scarcity of doctors in the healthcare sectors in those countries and they are highest paid.

sgtponzihater1:


Yeah. Girls keep pestering from both side. Those from Naija need already made men they can feast and prey on. Only God can save men.

RuudVanNisteroy:


The universities tuition fees and the cost of living are affordable and that is why there is a large Nigerian population.

HeavenlyCherub:


Honestly I think you have good points in your paragraphs. I agree that as women we shouldn’t single out every man who isn’t walking in their purpose at that given time. However I would never advise anyone to settle.

Some of the financially challenged/student men who come to the US, a very large percentage have taken advantage of good women all in the name of love. I can only use myself as an example. I have dated guys who weren’t stable financially so I can only try help my fellow sisters.


Man 1: Yoruba guy - I dated him for 5 years. Great guy however refused to self improve. He did yahoo. I found out about it and tried to make him stop and do legit as I wouldn’t want our foundation built on potential blood money. He refused a legit job and informed me he knew “the life he wanted for himself and 9 to 5 was not it.” This is because he was consumed by lifestyle and driving range rovers and a Porsche’s. I stuck with him for love but I refused to marry him or his proposal as he didn’t believe in taking care of a woman. He was very selfish (during the course of a 5 year relationship this man never gave me any assistance for upkeep - mind you I didn’t need his money as I do very well for myself but every woman wants their man to be able to support and provide in small ways. This shows me you’re stable and can support our family should we hit hard times. He would always ask me why I need money and what I do with the money I earn. $10 to buy a panty he could not even do, but he stayed embellished in Gucci, LV and Prada. He also had a baby on me and begged me to raise the child with him if it was his after dna...I was scared toput myself in that position as a time when I have to depend on him will come and he would not man up as he should so I broke it off. He proposed I said no. . No way I can submit to a man like that?..

Man 2: was an international student, the devil himself in human form, they say respect them, support them and let them reach goals.. this guy I supported financially for months, paved a way for him to get his paperwork.. loved and supported. He was nice at first but when we started dating he started changing. Abusing me for not giving 5k usd and not wanting to marry him for green card... I thank God for protecting me from that one chance. He is the biggest regret and bad mistake I ever made in my life. So disheartening you support someone and they physically, verbally abuse you and blame you for the wrong going on in their life... read my story on my profile from 2 years ago for more context Note: I myself am not perfect and I’m constantly working on self improving and strengthening my bond with Christ. I’m big on giving advice to others so they won’t repeat the same mistakes I have made.

My aunt always told me never to date down. Never settle and I did. All the women waiting...wait for Gods time don’t force or rush things because you want to get married. You will end up with someone who puts baggage on you and breaks you emotionally, physically, financially etc. Let Go and Let God. If it’s his will for your life it will be. Don’t leave worse off then you started.

I also have a friend she married someone coming straight from naija. They lived as man and wife 3 years. He got his green card and went back to Nigeria to marry his real girlfriend.

I truly dislike when men put down women like this post. Marriage is not an accomplishment. It will be nice to find a compatible companion but sister- you are enough as you are. Don’t let anyone rush you. Some are happy but many more want to get out of the marriage you are rushing to. Be wise and Let God lead.

Pray for God to give you discernment. Marriage is life and that’s a long journey. Don’t end up with the wrong person because of societal pressure and advice from OP above. I have said my own

lefulefu:
i am planning to move to canada after my MD programme here sef since US for now is anti immigrational.

oshaosha2014:
Not me. But this is what I read everyday about your females, how you treat your man when the laws back you even when you are glaringly lying.

Nigsrdumb:


Do you want to marry them because they are abroad or you pity their loneliness?

Crispels:


Lol. Not all black Americans are like that tho. I have great black American friends. The problem is: so many Nigerian immigrants come here “extremely hungry for success” and they end up achieving a lot within a short time - which sometimes lead to tension between immigrants from Africa and native black Americans. They believe we are taking their positions in America after our ancestors sold them during slave trade and that we didn’t experience the difficulties they experienced - slavery, fight for civil rights and stuff like that.

Many Nigerians abroad are also too loud as well - they tend to show off their landmark successes and some now have the mentality that “if an average Nigerian can come from a village in Nigeria to become an Engineer or a Millionaire(in dollars) in the US, then any native black American who is struggling to be somebody in life as an American is lazy and unserious”. The black Americans hear and see these things and they feel insulted that after we(not us but our ancestors tho) sold them to slavery, we still have the effrontery to come to America to ride them anyhow we like. They believe Nigerians thrive in America because they made it possible for us: they are the ones who fought for equality in the US and stuff like that.

That is why many black Americans feel weird when some statistics show that over 77% of black doctors in the US are Nigerians and that majority of the blacks being admitted to ivy League schools are Nigerians and Nigerian - Americans. They feel that we are reaping where we did not sow and many of our fellow Nigerians are also not humble enough about their successes. They blow their trumpets so loud that it invites envy from black Americans and even immigrants from other African countries.

About two months ago, I was in Washington DC when one of my professors(who is a White American) confessed to a diverse gathering of people that Nigerians are very smart, hard working and talented(I was the only Nigerian there). Immediately after my professor said it, one other African immigrant there began to feel uncomfortable and she had to say it publicly that “Nigerians have not done or achieved enough to earn the hype people have for them in America”. I just smiled and kept quiet. I’ve learned not to be too loud about myself in the US because when they see that you are moving faster than them, they may begin to see you as a threat and plot bad things toward you. Many Nigerians abroad also need to learn this - it’s better to be humble and not make noise about your achievements.


In the end, as a Nigerian in the US, I do not have any superiority or inferiority complex towards anyone - regardless of race,nationality, sex, orientation or social status. In fact, it saddens my heart when I see African immigrants and black Africans having misunderstandings. The reason being that: these black Americans are also our brothers and sisters if we want to be true to ourselves. All my black American friends have Nigerian DNA. In fact, some of them are over 87% Nigerians(according to the results of their ancestry/DNA test). So, I see no reason why we all(black Americans, Nigerians, Nigerian -Americans, all African immigrants) cannot love each other and support ourselves.

Many Nigerians and Nigerian -Americans need to be more humble about their phenomenal successes as well albeit people should not try to downplay the immense efforts, pains, sacrifices, hard work and drive that most Nigerians abroad pour into life to achieve great things.


Finally, we all should not dwell in the past. We cannot change what happened during the slave trade - it was an unfortunate incidence but that is now history. More so, we were not the ones that sold them into slavery and not all African immigrants have condescending opinions about black Americans. Majority of us love them and we see them as a part of us. African immigrants should see black Americans as their brothers and sisters, vice versa. We all need to work together and put our differences/biases aside.

IN THE END, WE ARE ALL AFRICANS! ONE LOVE!!!