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JONNYSPUTE:
.Don't pour her hot water. Let her concience judge her.

emmysoftyou:
Tiarababy pls this is the msg up here, hearken to him immediately.

I was two months into my marriage when I lost my job and my wife was 1month pregnant. Life change immediately and I decided to move on, face my challenges, i had some money in my account, i was using it to take care of my family and hospital bills. When the money turns zero, I couldn't arranged for the family, I started sourcing for income,it wasn't easy, I had so many interviews, I trekked to submits CV and all that.
Note , if my wife was not with me and I called some of my ex who're working, anything can happened..
But she stood by me , encouraged me to have hopes, she made a call to asked of money and that.
God so kind, three months before her delivery, I got first and second more paying job, then I took care of her..
Anyway, we're Igbo, and I don't want to believe only Igbo women stand with their husband without going to their parental home.. If you're Igbo, I'm disappointed.
If you're other tribes, pls go back to your husband and fight the challenges together.
Leave your father house immediately, your stepmother feels this is my husband house, you should go back.
Concerning retaliation, forget it, don't take laws into your hands, and if you have a clear evidence, crucify her by going to the police station.
Let her know, you're aware of her evil deeds against your own daughter.

God blessed you

ZetaBeta:
What if she stepmother decides to counter revenge only to do something nastier this time, that can maybe lead to death of the child?
Don't start something you can't finish

Tiarababy:
I'm married with one kid. My husband lost his job when I was seven months pregnant. We are no longer living together. I'm back to my dad's house with my step mom and 4 siblings.

Things are not easy for us here because my step mom hated us from day one. She only cooks for herself, my dad and her children. She don’t give me and my baby and my brother from the same mom food. I have been managing with the little money I get from my husband. I do cook for us to eat that’s a story from another day.

Last week I went to meet with my husband to get money he promised to give me to stock up foods for us during this lock down. I left my baby with my brother only for me to come and meet my brother carrying my baby. She was screaming in pain and when I looked she had burn in her body from her right chest to her right hand. I almost collapsed because I left my baby very fine in good healt.

My brother said my step mom was preparing tea for her kids so she had left the hot water in the pot and my baby fell on the hot water. I got angry at my brother how could he be careless not to watch my baby when he knew our step mom don’t like us. I almost hit him and my step mom didn’t care. She acted like nothing, not even a sorry to me. My dad says I should be quiet accidents do happen and it’s nothing to be angry about. His words really shocked me but what can I do.

What pained me is my little sister of 5 years opened up to me that it was my step mom who poured water on the baby because she caught my baby eating her bread she left and she told her to keep quiet if she tells she will beat her and she pleaded with me not to tell her mum.

I knew she did it because she is very wicked but because I had no proof, I had to be quiet but now her daughter has confirmed she did, I want to deal with her because am so angry seeing my baby in so much pain.

Why pour hot water on a baby just because of bread? I hate her and I want to pour hot water on her too while she sleeps so she can feel the same pain she put my innocent baby.

Should I pour hot water on her too or what is the best way to deal with this witch?

Tiarababy:
Our rent expired we moved out of the house that’s why I moved back to my dad and my husband is staying with his sister

CreamyPatty24:
Try and get something to do so you can support your family. Please also go back to your husband to avoid story that touch

Tiarababy:
I can’t stay with my husband because he is staying with his sister , even his sister husband don’t want him there

safarigirl:
The stepmother's husband will just kick her out.

Get restraining order against the owner of the house. How will that work out? Because the stepmother will surely not be leaving her husband's house for OP

There is nothing sound about that advise, except it comes with accommodation for OP and her daughter

Martinez39s:
Where are the so called innate maternal instinct and innate female nurturing nature that bluepill agents have been talking about? The very same falsehoods that has led people to wrongly believe mothers always care and love more than fathers. Don't let anybody deceive you, males are the kinder, more ethical, and more compassionate gender.

Biglittlelois:
But that my comment was not directed to the Op, it was to the guy I quoted that said his wife was packing his excreta when he pooed in a potty, what kind of disgust is that? Come to think of it self, is the man handicap that he can't pack his own excreta? Must a woman suffer to show a man that she loves him? Can't a woman show that she loves a man in riches? I hate when people dignify poverty as if its an achievement, it is a sick mentality.

Biglittlelois:
But that my comment was not directed to the Op, it was to the guy I quoted that said his wife was packing his excreta when he pooed in a potty, what kind of disgust is that? Come to think of it self, is the man handicap that he can't pack his own excreta? Must a woman suffer to show a man that she loves him? Can't a woman show that she loves a man in riches? I hate when people dignify poverty as if its an achievement, it is a sick mentality.

frozen70:
Hmmm, leave revenge for God, in this circumstances, you are too poor and weak to fight a battle with a devil's advocate

Now the main advice

How come you allowed your husband to stay alone and deceived you to pack to your fathers house because he lost his job ❓

This is the height of your mistake and you will loose your husband to a woman before you know what is happening

He has no job, where did he get the money he sends to you ❓

Don't you know that you are supposed to stay with him and face the challenges together because of the followings

He may get a woman, who is working and ready to accomodative him and before you know it, voom his attention is gone

Your father's house is a no go area because your step mum doesn't want any of you and your dad is a weakly over her because he doesn't have a firm grip on your step mum

If you are staying with your husband, he will be forced to get something doing, even you too, because it seems that you don't have any income

You are supposed to be leaving with your sister of five years so that she will be far from that wicked step mother

What happened to your child is a sign that the worst thing will still happen to her

Just pack your things and take your little sister along to baby seat for you, whatever you and your husband sees you eat and you too start thinking of something

I just want to believe that you married early just to leave your father's house

Your husband can aswell tell a woman that he is single and the woman will allow him to be passing night with her

Dont ever trust a man especially when they are in a tight corner

A man can tell lies to get himself attached to a woman who is capable of herself


Think over it pls because you are still young to experience emotional pains

As for your step mum, just leave her, go back to your home and don't tell hubby you are coming, just pack and go there for your little child is no longer safe

If he deceives you again to go and meet his parents and leave with them, tell him that you will stay with him and suffer together

He will not like it because you are spoiling his plans, yes let it be so, stand on your feet but don't use force rather cry out your life for him

I don't support the idea

There is no way he would be living in an apartment he could nit afford the rent even when the chips are

There won't be any need for that, time will come when she will work on her step mother

For now, she is helpless and if she does anything funny, she goes in for it

Let her find her bearing first

You need to take action, what's the action, pack your things to your husband and let him come back to see you there without notice

You can go to hospital from there and make sure you go with your little sister if you dad permits you

That's exactly what happened, she should leave

Trust women

Your presence in that house is a threat to her

Run for your dear life before your greatest fear will manifest

Tiarababy:
Our rent expired that’s why I had to moved to my dad house and my husband is staying with his sister. We don’t have a place of our own yet , my 5 years old sister is my step mom daughter . It’s only my brother who is same mum with me

weslay:
Always get the full picture before jumping on issues.

Strawberryg:
Babe I think it's better u go home to ur hubby. Ur hubby Loosing his job isn't enof reason for u to keep jeopardizing ur peace of mind n safety. U are married n competing for relevance in ur father's home with ur stepmom wow.I think she is yet to do her worse n I pray ur baby isn't the one to still be at the receiving end of ur beef with her. Please go n manage ur home with ur hubby.

dabiko:
It appears you don’t understand how restraining order works. In this instance, she can get magistrate order restraining the stepmother from causing any physical, social or emotional harm to her and the young baby. In as much as it’s the step mom’s husband house, it doesn’t confer to her the right to cause bodily harm to the man’s grandchild.

Upon until this moment, OP’s dad hasn’t disowned her nor asked her to leave his house, hence she deserves every right to stay in her father’s house pending when things getter. Having said that, this is a case of child abuse and it will receive accelerated hearing in any magistrate court within your location.

OP, I will advise if it’s possible to move out from you dad’s house please do ASAP. Your safety and that your baby is in a serious danger. Urgently seek for a medical for your baby. That should be your utmost priority now. Do NOT retaliate. You’ll most likely regret it afterwards. I thoroughly, I understand how cases like this end (doesn’t always augur well for both parties) as I have handled something similar before.

safarigirl:
Read further

They couldn't afford rent
They got kicked out
Husband is squatting with his sister
She had to return to her father's house

frozen70:
You are supposed to be leaving with your sister of five years so that she will be far from that wicked step mother

What happened to your child is a sign that the worst thing will still happen to her

Just pack your things and take your little sister along to baby seat for you, whatever you and your husband sees you eat and you too start thinking of something

einsteine:
Did you read?

She didn't leave her husband. They stopped living together.

Later in the thread, she stated that they both had to squat because their rent expired.

Tiarababy:
She is so wicked to pur hot water on my innocent 10 months old baby ,am so angry I just want to pur hot water on her face to give her a scar she will never forget all her life

crackland:
I don't know which of you two women is more silly.

Is it the witch who poured hot water on a baby, or a grown-up you who feels entitled to getting fed in a house you're squatting in.

Her own level of fvckery is definitely higher than yours though, that much is certain.

tete7000:
And what if she has had a job and lost it? Was her husband not employed before she lost his? The way some of you reason, e dey tire person. A person employment state is subject to change anytime. You talk as if job is something easily picked on the road.

frozen70:
Hmmm, leave revenge for God, in this circumstances, you are too poor and weak to fight a battle with a devil's advocate

Now the main advice

How come you allowed your husband to stay alone and deceived you to pack to your fathers house because he lost his job ❓

This is the height of your mistake and you will loose your husband to a woman before you know what is happening

He has no job, where did he get the money he sends to you ❓

Don't you know that you are supposed to stay with him and face the challenges together because of the followings

He may get a woman, who is working and ready to accomodative him and before you know it, voom his attention is gone

Your father's house is a no go area because your step mum doesn't want any of you and your dad is a weakly over her because he doesn't have a firm grip on your step mum

If you are staying with your husband, he will be forced to get something doing, even you too, because it seems that you don't have any income

You are supposed to be leaving with your sister of five years so that she will be far from that wicked step mother

What happened to your child is a sign that the worst thing will still happen to her

Just pack your things and take your little sister along to baby seat for you, whatever you and your husband sees you eat and you too start thinking of something

I just want to believe that you married early just to leave your father's house

Your husband can aswell tell a woman that he is single and the woman will allow him to be passing night with her

Dont ever trust a man especially when they are in a tight corner

A man can tell lies to get himself attached to a woman who is capable of herself


Think over it pls because you are still young to experience emotional pains

As for your step mum, just leave her, go back to your home and don't tell hubby you are coming, just pack and go there for your little child is no longer safe

If he deceives you again to go and meet his parents and leave with them, tell him that you will stay with him and suffer together

He will not like it because you are spoiling his plans, yes let it be so, stand on your feet but don't use force rather cry out your life for him

I don't support the idea

There is no way he would be living in an apartment he could nit afford the rent even when the chips are

There won't be any need for that, time will come when she will work on her step mother

For now, she is helpless and if she does anything funny, she goes in for it

Let her find her bearing first

You need to take action, what's the action, pack your things to your husband and let him come back to see you there without notice

You can go to hospital from there and make sure you go with your little sister if you dad permits you

That's exactly what happened, she should leave

Trust women

Your presence in that house is a threat to her

Run for your dear life before your greatest fear will manifest

Arresting her is like making things worst for tge whole families

She should leave that home to even anywhere

Her father can not take action against that woman, he us a weakly and most men does the neglect of the children from the previous marriage if they marry another wife, I don't know if it's because of her pussy or what

It's difficult for me to explain

articlewriter:

Have you tried to talk with your husband on how you can support him to get back on his feet, is he willing to get back on his feet?

It is better you start working with him to stand up and be a man so you can have your own home, it is more peaceful in your own home.