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Re: Have You Been Betrayed Before? Share Your Story, You Might Heal by obidaddy: 9:58am On Apr 15, 2020
twosquare:
That guy is saying the truth. I was forced to comment. You can't be careful enough. Moreover, the soul is powerful. It may not be you, it may be him. You're not wiser than someone who is planning for you. It can come in any form. She is your blood, but cut down your visitation to once in a blue moon, if at all till you get married.

You spoke part of my mind. She seem to be extremely naive. She's even talking about they Godly upbringing. All that upbringing either sticks or disappear after adulthood independence.

Her sister will side her husband & do anything to hurt her, when anything happens. Since she is very Godly, i recommend she reads the story of the bitter rivalry between Rachel & Leah in the Bible. They were both blood sisters & wives of Jacob.

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Re: Have You Been Betrayed Before? Share Your Story, You Might Heal by yeyeosoronga: 10:01am On Apr 15, 2020
ednut1:
as you no gree he say another fine specimen. No crime in that na. Abi you expect him to chase you for ever ni. Any why will you even visit them. Smh

She shouldn't visit her blood sister?
Re: Have You Been Betrayed Before? Share Your Story, You Might Heal by obidaddy: 10:03am On Apr 15, 2020
Eulalia:


Wish I can stop going there but its not easy cos she's my twin cry. And you know that strong bond between twins. undecided

You are not onky naive but... You deserve whatbis coming your way. I just noticed this post of yours after earlier advising you.

Since his fetish is to Bleep twin sister, it will come to pass sooner. Your devil twin sister will be d one to deliver the death blow on you.

You are childish & weak.

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Re: Have You Been Betrayed Before? Share Your Story, You Might Heal by ednut1(m): 10:05am On Apr 15, 2020
yeyeosoronga:


She shouldn't visit her blood sister?
yes. Giving the history
Re: Have You Been Betrayed Before? Share Your Story, You Might Heal by ubcandid(m): 10:11am On Apr 15, 2020
Ifylicious:


Ha. To keep silence for over one year? It's very bad. There's nothing like saying sis I am also in a tight corner. Whether the person believes or not, you ve explained to that friend. Remember life is turn by turn, one day you may be in that friends need. I will use my self as an example. A friend once asked me to either accommodate her or help out with some cash to get an accommodation. I told her that i wasn't in a position because at the time I was going through marital crisis which I never opened up to her until her request. I had to tell her.
She got a job with shell. There years after I was sent for a course in the country she had moved to. I had nochance to go( the company was to secure your Visa

well, different strokes for different folks. Some people would use that as a gossip mill against you and your marriage which you were packaging then. Good it turned out well for you.
Re: Have You Been Betrayed Before? Share Your Story, You Might Heal by AFONAMARO: 10:22am On Apr 15, 2020
Eulalia:


But does it mean that people cannot control their attractions or what? That's preposterous. I mean... I can never be attracted to somebody I know is dating a friend or to my guys friend. That's greed of the highest order.

It happened to me. Like my blood line today is married to a guy that chyked me for years.
This my blood line knows that this guy tried to date me. As in he kept coming to our house look for me for months. My mum and all my siblings knew him very well. It got to a point he threatened to harm me if he sees me with any other guy but luckily, we relocated to another place. Only for my blood sister to bring this same guy as a suitor. shocked dang!
I just keep wondering, so she had been attracted to him all this while? Someone I dislike to the core? Hm! Fear human beings.

Till today, if I go visiting this guy will be telling me him and I have an unfinished business and some annoying silly talks. So most times when I visit, I'll hide away until I go back. Mehn... It sucks!

So your relatives should stay away from any suitor you turned down because you are the Queen Mother?

Akuko uwa?
Re: Have You Been Betrayed Before? Share Your Story, You Might Heal by mistarsam(m): 10:39am On Apr 15, 2020
Saintinoo:

That i didn't visit when you sick is not betrayal.... That i promised to foot your hospital bill then later allowed you to die, that is betrayal.
I pray I find sense in what you just typed.
Re: Have You Been Betrayed Before? Share Your Story, You Might Heal by ubcandid(m): 10:41am On Apr 15, 2020
AFONAMARO:


So your relatives should stay away from any suitor you turned down because you are the Queen Mother?

Akuko uwa?
i tire ooo
Re: Have You Been Betrayed Before? Share Your Story, You Might Heal by Cchuks27(m): 11:03am On Apr 15, 2020
Nooil:


So this is your heartfelt story? Like seriously?


Can't start writing up the whole story but if you care to know, send me your contact details and I'll give you the full gist.
Re: Have You Been Betrayed Before? Share Your Story, You Might Heal by Nobody: 11:19am On Apr 15, 2020
obidaddy:


You are not onky naive but... You deserve whatbis coming your way. I just noticed this post of yours after earlier advising you.

Since his fetish is to Bleep twin sister, it will come to pass sooner. Your devil twin [/b]sister will be d one to deliver the death blow on you.

You are childish & weak.

Aash! Don't you think @ the bolded is rather harsh? Thats me you just called devilish there. She's me, I'm her, we are us! And i won't take any more of this from you again!

Steer clear off my mentions now!!!!

Thank you.
Re: Have You Been Betrayed Before? Share Your Story, You Might Heal by madridguy(m): 11:47am On Apr 15, 2020
May God Almighty comfort you.

humblemikel:


My brother
It maybe true you have been in this situation with me, but the feeling of hurt may not be the same
I am hurt beyond words
Things like this change people for life.
I'm sorry for your lost Bro
Re: Have You Been Betrayed Before? Share Your Story, You Might Heal by na2016: 12:20pm On Apr 15, 2020
Jaysleeves:
. Yes so true. But still you have to apply wisdom, as not to be tagged of delaying production by the Project managers. Remember safety first and always but it has to work hand in hand with production too.

I have come to understand that diplomacy doesn't really work in most life instances. Humans are mostly selfish so it is better to ensure that you follow the required procedure than bend towards a team leader who will deny you thereafter. I have seen this play out in various aspects of life. Bro, always ensure that your best and legitimate interest is covered first by not following any verbal advice anywhere. once your boss sees that, he will not play with you

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Re: Have You Been Betrayed Before? Share Your Story, You Might Heal by Nobody: 12:28pm On Apr 15, 2020
Cchuks27:


Can't start writing up the whole story but if you care to know, send me your contact details and I'll give you the full gist.


Lol, because of gist
Re: Have You Been Betrayed Before? Share Your Story, You Might Heal by Harrisee(m): 12:40pm On Apr 15, 2020
Liftkid:
it was my own Brother who betrayed me, immediate elder brother at that.

I have nursed this ambition of traveling abroad for hustle, so last year, I saved 700k and contacted my immediate elder bro, I told him I would auction my bet9ja shop and he objected and asked me to give him 500k from the money to support his luggage business, that after some months he would give me 1m, that's additional 500k.

I told mom and other siblings and they all agreed, dude has been a talk and do since day one.

I gave him the money February 8 2019 and went to Lagos.

we had Indonesia in mind but my woman's mother called and told me she would prefer me going to Germany rather than Asian country.

I told her I have been a keen follower of German thread here on nairaland that I can't afford that block account money.

she told me her step son stays and work legally in Germany that it would ease things.

she contacted my brother and he agreed and promised to send the money but he never did. all he does is keep whining and whining.

in November I got married. when he came back for my trad, he gave me 30k and promised he would return my money and the 500k he pledged after Christmas season.

January came, no show. my woman's mother called him and asked him to send only the one I gave him that he shouldn't bother adding his and he agreed with all pleasure, he said on 20th of February, he would send the 500k.

on 20th I didn't get any alert, I asked momma to call him and even complained to my uncles and they did. he swore to pay me on 23rd unfailingly.


on 23rd Feb, I received 60k (60,000) alert from him. I almost smashed my phone outta anger, told momma and she was like " Nwee ndidi"


I called him and asked why he sent me 60k. dude was like " when you stayed with me after school, u stole my money, when I sent you money to build in the village you chop my money, even the 30k I gave you.

after subtractions na 60k I owe you. I want mad, I was dumbfounded, I asked him for real? and he said I shouldn't contact him again and hung up.

I told momma and she said " forgive him, He is your brother, no matter what. "

that feedback from momma even worsened my plight.

how could have a brother done this to a junior brother?

the same brother I dashed 180k at 22, after my dad's burial, when I sold an elephant tusk I bought from a nairaland guy.

the same brother that ceased my 50k because he borrowed elder sister 50k years back and pleaded him to forget about it when he was pressuring her to refund him?

the same brother I trusted and did business for years with honesty, the same brother I was very proud of.


I felt very betrayed and deleted his numbers.. since that feb 23, he never called nor even asked how i have been fairing.

just last week, wife gave birth with operation (c-section) and I was billed 140k.

sure momma or wify must have told him but he never cared, neither did the eldest brother, not even my elder sister whom for her sake same immediate elder brother debited 50k from 100k I once gave him, how the bill was paid amidst this pandemic.

IT REALLY HURTS, IT WILL BE HARD TO FORGIVE THEM

Think about it, learn some lessons, forgive and heal.
Re: Have You Been Betrayed Before? Share Your Story, You Might Heal by OlawaleBammie: 12:45pm On Apr 15, 2020
rapid101:
well,
mine was wen I was in Benin
I ran laundry and to some extent it was successful. I had 3boys working for me . I had a keke which I use in delivering to my customer who re in far distance. then I had a friend who told me about a business which he ll like use to go into. the business was into phone accessories coupled with phone parts. I agreed, I rented the shop at oba market, did furnishing and other body works. during this time I borrowed money from lapo microfinance 300k, borrowed money from money lender about 580k. then I gave osas my friend to come to Lagos to buy the goods we re going to sell in our shop. osas come Lagos, osas no come back. I was so worried I had to go to his family house to know if his back but they said they didn't see him. I called his number and his number was switched off. call his gf and she said she doesn't know his were about. after a month I heard osas don go Malaysia. I ran back to his family house to ask his pple if it true. low and behold osas don travel and he knew I borrowed almost all those money for the business. I almost died. the pressure started coming in as to pay the loans I collected back. I had to sell my two washing machine, my dryer, and my keke and other tins from my shop and house to pay some of the debt. I had to let go of my two staff till I cud pay the money. but after every tin I found Benin uninteresting again cus I Ve lost every tin I Ve built over the years because of one person. I had to move from my room and palour selfcon to a one room, face me I face you, cus I cudnt afford it. my gf left me cus I too de complain money no de as b4. after the whole gbas gbos I relocated to Lagos for a fresh start as not kill my self cus of too much tinking and pressure. till today I pray for osas were ever he is, he ll find good in all he does. but I ll never trust any body again not even my family member. note trust is very expensive

Jaggons, gibberish...


I wil wait patiently for osas and give him an everlasting mark wenever he chooses to return.

i wil make sure i cut either two of his fingers or toes, i might even cut off the whole sole or palm but he wont die.

Me dat tins wil b spoiling and i wil b jubilating
Re: Have You Been Betrayed Before? Share Your Story, You Might Heal by rapid101(m): 1:15pm On Apr 15, 2020
OlawaleBammie:


Jaggons, gibberish...


I wil wait patiently for osas and give him an everlasting mark wenever he chooses to return.

i wil make sure i cut either two of his fingers or toes, i might even cut off the whole sole or palm but he wont die.

Me dat tins wil b spoiling and i wil b jubilating

hahahahahaha

will it change the fact that he has betrayed u
u can't take laws into ur hands because one stupid fellow
just let him be

karma is bitch and it bleeps any body who need it

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Re: Have You Been Betrayed Before? Share Your Story, You Might Heal by OlawaleBammie: 2:05pm On Apr 15, 2020
rapid101:
hahahahahaha

will it change the fact that he has betrayed u
u can't take laws into ur hands because one stupid fellow
just let him be

karma is bitch and it bleeps any body who need it

And did i say i took law into my hand??

Just cus i cut away two fingers??

and who send karma work here?? i can only appreciate karma if it had done the work before we met.


Ahh, dont just do me dat kain tin oo, thou u might do it and go away with it if and only if u meet my head for house but if not...hmmm


TINS GO DEY SPOIL AND A GO DEY HAPPY,
THE MORE IT SPOILS, THE MORE I HAVE A SOOTHING RELIEF.
Re: Have You Been Betrayed Before? Share Your Story, You Might Heal by mceze(m): 2:10pm On Apr 15, 2020
Livecamp09:


Where is your location?

Kaduna
Re: Have You Been Betrayed Before? Share Your Story, You Might Heal by Nobody: 2:14pm On Apr 15, 2020
mceze:


Kaduna

WhatsApp me on 09022160350
Re: Have You Been Betrayed Before? Share Your Story, You Might Heal by Cchuks27(m): 2:15pm On Apr 15, 2020
Nooil:



Lol, because of gist

pm me your contact na
Re: Have You Been Betrayed Before? Share Your Story, You Might Heal by mceze(m): 2:28pm On Apr 15, 2020
Livecamp09:


WhatsApp me on 09022160350

OK! Thanks!
Re: Have You Been Betrayed Before? Share Your Story, You Might Heal by Eisenhower(m): 2:31pm On Apr 15, 2020
bestabigaelever:
An enemy disguise as friend asked me about someone personal, I opened up to her
I never knew she was recording, she went to tell the person and told the person what I didn't say, telling him she couldn't record all the conversations....that shit changed my life forever
I can't heal from that but I will make sure I destroy temitope

Modified
This is for people in my MT and even on whatsapp asking me to let go
This is what Temitope did
She saw me with a man that I was seeking some favours from, the man doesn't even notice me and I was frustrated (this favour will actually change my life)
Temitope saw me collecting the man's number and even saw the attitude the man was giving me, she then asked me what's up I explained to her how this man has been giving me attitude and I need help from him, she advised that I should give the man youghut whenever I'm going to see him...Only for the man to call me 2days later and told me have been tarnishing his image and vow never to help me....then someone sent me the recordings Tope made, it was only both of us on the street, in fact the person that passed us by that I greeted, everything is on the record
Do not let go...
Before she came to you she had her intentions and carefully planned it. So, take your pound of flesh to the fullest and give her no opportunity to revenge if I were in your shoes.
Re: Have You Been Betrayed Before? Share Your Story, You Might Heal by mceze(m): 2:34pm On Apr 15, 2020
rapid101:
hahahahahaha

will it change the fact that he has betrayed u
u can't take laws into ur hands because one stupid fellow
just let him be

karma is bitch and it bleeps any body who need it

My brother, some pains are just too much to bear. Like in my own case, I vowed that I will kill the guy or at least maime him when I see him. Honestly, I went through a lot. I almost lost my sanity. But friends talked to me..
Re: Have You Been Betrayed Before? Share Your Story, You Might Heal by Liftkid(m): 2:56pm On Apr 15, 2020
Harrisee:


Think about it, learn some lessons, forgive and heal.

lessons learned the hard way, I have forgiven but will be very hard to forget. hopefully, I would heal with time.

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Re: Have You Been Betrayed Before? Share Your Story, You Might Heal by sharpwriter(m): 3:03pm On Apr 15, 2020
Pascopele:
Immediately after the burial, a friend of mine that I trust so much on nairaland came to me that he needed help.

He needed 600K to tie up a business deal that his life and future depends on it. He promised to bring back the money in 2 months. I explained my financial situation to him and how its expensive to do burial in our tradition and all that.

But being who I am, I wouldn't want a friend to pass up an opportunity so I approached my elder brother who in turn called a friend to lend me the money because my elder. My elder bro trust me with all he is got.

While collecting the 600K, I told them I will repay in two months time instead of the one month my friend told me.

One month elapsed and he didn't bring the money, I gave him grace of another two weeks hoping I will meet up with. The time I gave my elder bro and his friend.

One month elapsed and my dear friend behaved as if I am putting unnecessary pressure on him, saying ," Pasco, you chill na, I go arrange the bar give you, just exercise some patient a little longer", I don't like reneging on my words so I looked for someone on nairaland who borrowed me 600K in exchange for my 8 months salary starting from August last year to March

Those 8 months are the toughest period of my life. I was grieving my dad and couldn't support my mom the way I wanted to and couldn't explain it to anyone. Not even my elder bro knew what happened.

I swallowed it like man and was barely surviving for those 8 months.

I was Betrayed and he is still owing me.

I no swear o! But e go hard for me to stick my neck out for another like that and I learnt.

Lesson: Love all trust none. I don't borrow people money again. I give up on helping people. I swear but we move ✌️

Sorry..

Proverbs 17:18, 22:26

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Re: Have You Been Betrayed Before? Share Your Story, You Might Heal by Ifylicious: 3:55pm On Apr 15, 2020
ubcandid:


well, different strokes for different folks. Some people would use that as a gossip mill against you and your marriage which you were packaging then. Good it turned out well for you.

Yes, you are right.
Re: Have You Been Betrayed Before? Share Your Story, You Might Heal by gremp(m): 7:27pm On Apr 15, 2020
donnie:
Many times, but the most recent on my mind is when I left CE church last year. I later declared that I wasn't a Christian on Facebook because of some posts I made which were true but which Christians didn't like.

Of course many insulted and even called me false prophet. What shocked me was even those close to me, I found making snide remarks and calling me end time false Prophet. Even more stupid was one guy who's life I had turned around by YAH's grace. He was jumping around my timeline making stupid comments. I introduced him to someone who gave him almost all his major engineering jobs. He even lived in one of the man's houses for free, got married and had a child right in that house. I gave him jobs to do and still had more waiting for him. Well that was it, I had to change him. I even found someone so good that it made this fool look like an apprentice. Christianity actually makes many people stupid.

I don't know what really happened but I apologise on their behalf, please don't confuse Christ with Christianity, we may bear his name, but we certainly don't always live up to it and please do not judge Jesus Christ by the actions of the church but judge the actions of the church by Jesus Christ.

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Re: Have You Been Betrayed Before? Share Your Story, You Might Heal by sharpwriter(m): 8:42pm On Apr 15, 2020
Galactico4ever:
During my 300 level I Gave my ATM card to my best friend in sec. school who have been my roommate since my 2nd year..We did everything 2geda:studying,dodging classes,toasting babes,playing video games,playing soccer,clubbing and even wear the same clothes.Some peeps even thought we were brothers.I was paying the rent and all the expenses cos i knew his family was struggling to pay his sch.fees.I Was in bankFin 300 while he was in ECONS 200.on that fateful day,he asked me for #200 to photocopy some handouts and since i had only my t~fare,i gave him my ATM card and then told him to withdraw 15k for refilling our gas cylinder and subscribing for our gotv and buy essentials with the rest. This was like the millionth time i was giving him the card.this guy emptied my account worth #96,680 and left #680 probably because he cant empty it totally. i remember calling him after the alert came and he refused to pick.Even remembering this now is making me tear up cos the aftermath was the end of our friendship...

I have been reading comments patiently since, but was just interested in your case... How did it now go? Did he ran away or what? What was his excuse? What did you do after your account was emptied?

Please complete your story. Thanks.
Re: Have You Been Betrayed Before? Share Your Story, You Might Heal by Wiinnd(m): 8:55pm On Apr 15, 2020
bigcee:

Fear of God? You Kissed and suck her breast and you're still talking about "fear of God"...Are you normal?
Lol... I understand i'm wrong in all aspects.. What I'm trying to say is that I still had some level of conscience not to have had Sex with her.

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Re: Have You Been Betrayed Before? Share Your Story, You Might Heal by chrish(f): 9:08pm On Apr 15, 2020
DonroxyII:
You are a wise girl !
Keep it up as it will help you in your journey through life .... Please and please, Don't give your heart to boys , Open ya sense too in matters of love as you have done for joy !!

oooinnn, Fantabulous.... you are doing well grin

Thank you dear
Re: Have You Been Betrayed Before? Share Your Story, You Might Heal by Galactico4ever(m): 12:53am On Apr 16, 2020
sharpwriter:

Please complete your story.
After D Alert,i couldn't concentrate on lectures so i went home and waited for him but no show. the next day,i called his dad and alerted him about d matter and he said he hasn't been able to reach. honestly,i thought something bad happened to him cos his number was unavailable. Meanwhile, My Dad transferred my allowee for that week to my acct. the next day and i went to the bank immediately the alert came. b4 i could finish dressing up,i was debited the whole amount via the ATM card so i blocked the card. My coursemates then advised me to report the case to Anti Cult which i did. four days later,i saw him at bus stand & the idiot ignored me and boarded a bus.I called the AC office and they bundled him to their office. When i reached their office,he begged me to allow them release him cos he didn't remember anything after i gave him my ATM card. on hearing this, he was given a lovely slap,tied up and i was instructed to come 2moro.

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Re: Have You Been Betrayed Before? Share Your Story, You Might Heal by Galactico4ever(m): 1:14am On Apr 16, 2020
sharpwriter:

Please complete your story. Thanks.
The next day i came with his dad and the mumu have been beaten to pulp. Let me cut this short;HIS STORY: The idiot actually spent the money on his girlfriend's matriculation(whom i have never heard of by the way) who studies at Uniben and also bought a new phone. Well,because of his dad and our friendship,i took the new phone,begged them to release him and forget the case. His dad had to bail him out though. He Stopped being my friend or roommate that day.

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