I need candid advise pls no insults. I got married 2years ago, of recent i noticed my wife has been spending so much time online. Not that its unusual to me because i know shes kind of addicted to her phone.
But suspicion made me pick the phone on several occasions but it was paasworded. Finally i was able to discover the password after many trials and to my surprise she has been chatting steadily, morning and night with this guy.
Not only that the guy calls her sweet names and she responds. Even to the extent of telling her he wished they were married. Her response showed she was receptive to the idea. Then she asked him why he did not make a move since and he blamed his financial status.
In summary i hve seen enough, though i hve neva confronted her. My plan is to inform my people b4 calling the marriage off.

U still call the hoe ur wife??

Ur happiness matters, seek for divorce asap before u die of High Bp

u no tell us how many kids u get, u be infidel??

Don't call off the wedding....if you guys doesn't have a child yet, just pray for God to give you one soon and by that time, she will be looking at her phone and there will be no chance to use it because of the child's care.

though you can confront her so as to scare her and possibly make her change but if she doesn't feel remorseful and probably doesn't want to change, please show her the exit door

That's what happens when you marry small girls as wife. Maturity is a scarce virtue among women. Unfortunately, it's almost the best virtue they can have. If she married the guy, she'll do the same thing she's doing to you. Many people don't understand the "I do" vow. It's a very costly vow.

You should have screenshot the chats and send it to your phone, then start trailing her quietly till you get a strong evidence. Sending her away on the basis of going thru her phone will sound foolish to people's ears.

She is cheating but might not yet be official( by this I mean they have not done the do yet )
This lockdown I have had messages from past ex to married ex, people who I don’t chat with, even girls who haven’t replied me in years chats me up now.

Send her this as a message.
FIRST RULE OF QUARANTINE
“DONT CATCH FEELINGS EVERYONE IS JUST BORED”

olabrinks:
You want to call off the marriage because of some flirtatious messages? Though, not justifying but how many women leave their husbands because of cheating? I’ve realised that a lot of men are seriously emotionally weaker than women, and they really do not know how to use wisdom to handle situations. Go and complain to your people na, they will tell you to manage your wife and that is just the truth. There’s nothing better outside that you are looking for. Marriage comes with ups and down, and unless your life is at risk, you’re suicidal or something very significant has happened, you better stay in one place.

Why not sit your wife down and talk. Why not try to patch the underlying issues in your marriage ? Do you think marriage is child’s play, something you can just leave anytime you like? Na wa oh

this one will eventually cheat on her husband... Potential suitors beware

blovesther:
Don't call off the wedding.... if you guys doesn't have a child yet, just pray for God to give you one soon and by that time, she will be looking at her phone and there will be no chance to use it because of the child's care.

though you can confront her so as to scare her and possibly make her change but if she doesn't feel remorseful and probably doesn't want to change, please show her the exit door

u don chop at all today?

Sorry bro.....

It is finished.

When soup don sour na throway dem dey throway am..but,if u complain.some people go say,make u add small palmoil,some go say,make u add small maggi and put am back for fire,sey d taste go come back small...dont talk to ur people..a cheating wife is the elder sister to misfortune.

Pls hold on with calling ur ppl; try to salvage ur marriage as a nuclear family first. You, d man are d head of ur home and should be able to handle most issues.
- She could be immature
- what was ur courtship like/ow did u meet her? Hope she didn't agree to marry u as a last resort?
- Also, what is ur marriage like? Is it working? Are u friends? Are u both satisfied to an extent?
- normally, d early years of marriage isn't so funny, it's d commitment of both parties dt determines ow it eventually turns out.
... trying to talk some sense into her cld make her retrace her steps.
I wish u all the best.

History555:
I need candid advise pls no insults. I got ma

You should not take such a drastic decision without at least giving her an opportunity to defend herself

You want to call off the marriage because of some flirtatious messages? Though, not justifying but how many women leave their husbands because of cheating? I’ve realised that a lot of men are seriously emotionally weaker than women, and they really do not know how to use wisdom to handle situations. Go and complain to your people na, they will tell you to manage your wife and that is just the truth. There’s nothing better outside that you are looking for. Marriage comes with ups and down, and unless your life is at risk, you’re suicidal or something very significant has happened, you better stay in one place.

Why not sit your wife down and talk. Why not try to patch the underlying issues in your marriage ? Do you think marriage is child’s play, something you can just leave anytime you like? Na wa oh

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apholaryn:
u don chop at all today?

not at all..... you want give me?

blovesther:
Don't call off the wedding....if you guys doesn't have a child yet, just pray for God to give you one soon and by that time, she will be looking at her phone and there will be no chance to use it because of the child's care.

though you can confront her so as to scare her and possibly make her change but if she doesn't feel remorseful and probably doesn't want to change, please show her the exit door

Just Imagine!

History555:
I need candid advise pls no insults. I got married 2years ago, of recent i noticed my wife has been spending so much time online. Not that its unusual to me because i know shes kind of addicted to her phone.
But suspicion made me pick the phone on several occasions but it was paasworded. Finally i was able to discover the password after many trials and to my surprise she has been chatting steadily, morning and night with this guy.
Not only that the guy calls her sweet names and she responds. Even to the extent of telling her he wished they were married. Her response showed she was receptive to the idea. Then she asked him why he did not make a move since and he blamed his financial status.
In summary i hve seen enough, though i hve neva confronted her. My plan is to inform my people b4 calling the marriage off.

Sorry to hear this op.
Just pray for her to stop. Go on your knees and pray.
Also work on how you look. Be sexy and try to satisfy her in bed.
Also don't look at her phone so u don't see what u dont want to see.
Try also to stop those behaviour that could make her look outside.

Again pray for her, she will stop.
Prayer is the key

Kobicove:


You should not take such a drastic decision without at least giving her an opportunity to defend herself

My dear, you and i know that humans will neva admit to being caught in the act especially for something they are doing secretly.

olabrinks:
You want to call off the marriage because of some flirtatious messages? Though, not justifying but how many women leave their husbands because of cheating? I’ve realised that a lot of men are seriously emotionally weaker than women, and they really do not know how to use wisdom to handle situations.

Why not sit your wife down and talk. Why not try to patch the underlying issues in your marriage ? Do you think marriage is child’s play, something you can just leave anytime you like? Na wa oh

that is one problem with our men. they think they have every reason to cheat while the woman is to bear regardless of what it is or what comes out of the cheating

blovesther:
Don't call off the wedding....if you guys doesn't have a child yet, just pray for God to give you one soon and by that time, she will be looking at her phone and there will be no chance to use it because of the child's care.

though you can confront her so as to scare her and possibly make her change but if she doesn't feel remorseful and probably doesn't want to change, please show her the exit door

I just gave birth a month ago, I’m still very much on my phone. Having a child doesn’t stop a woman from adultery, that’s not the issue here. Their underlying issues need to be resolved.

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History555:
I need candid advise pls no insults. I got married 2years ago, of recent i noticed my wife has been spending so much time online. Not that its unusual to me because i know shes kind of addicted to her phone.
But suspicion made me pick the phone on several occasions but it was paasworded. Finally i was able to discover the password after many trials and to my surprise she has been chatting steadily, morning and night with this guy.
Not only that the guy calls her sweet names and she responds. Even to the extent of telling her he wished they were married. Her response showed she was receptive to the idea. Then she asked him why he did not make a move since and he blamed his financial status.
In summary i hve seen enough, though i hve neva confronted her. My plan is to inform my people b4 calling the marriage off.

That is pretty immature . My plan is to inform my people b4 calling the marriage off. especially the bolded.Women want a man that have their time,yet they expect the man to provide for them,apart from that men are also drawn to the ex and crush despite the fact they are married they still want to talk to them and wish they had them.Today let say i saw my ex dad on a zoom meeting it just make sense to want to say something,to let her know i still keep track of her and still care.Man propose God dispose.. Be thankful you have her, work more on your interpersonal relationships.My study of the average Nigerian married couples life is quite boring,the man major itinerary is to asked is wife for his food then gbos gbas...the woman itinerary is to asked for monthly dues and nag about amaka recieving 300k monthly from her husband. So things becomes mechanical and when a little spark comes in both partners want to jump out of their boring lives.Marriage is mutual, joke with her about her suppose boyfriend and let her have a feeling you dont give a damn then you see her seat up.

Kamani8:


Sorry to hear this op.
Just pray for her to stop. Go on your knees and pray.
Also work on how you look.

Pls what will i achieve by prayers.

Kamani8:


Sorry to hear this op.
Just pray for her to stop. Go on your knees and pray.
Also work on how you look.

lolzzz because this is what they would have advised if it were the other way round

History555:
Pls what will i achieve by prayers.

for God to change her mind ......lol

blovesther:
lolzzz because this is what they would have advised if it were the other way round

Lol

Not just that.
Op should work on his looks.
Look sexy so your wife won't have a reason to cheat

Zornes123:
She is cheating but might not yet be official( by this I mean they have not done the do yet )
This lockdown I have had messages from past ex to married ex, people who I don’t chat with, even girls who haven’t replied me in years chats me up now.

Send her this as a message.
FIRST RULE OF QUARANTINE
“DONT CATCH FEELINGS EVERYONE IS JUST BORED”

From the chats the guy was a classmate in the university and he resides in the east. But you know cheating starts in the mind b4 it acts out in praticals. I don't want to get to that stage so callin it off will enable her to join the guy.

blovesther:
Don't call off the wedding....if you guys doesn't have a child yet, just pray for God to give you one soon and by that time, she will be looking at her phone and there will be no chance to use it because of the child's care.

though you can confront her so as to scare her and possibly make her change but if she doesn't feel remorseful and probably doesn't want to change, please show her the exit door

Are you saying married women with children do not cheat?

Why are you women so unrepentantly deceptive?

olabrinks:
I just gave birth a month ago, I’m still very much on my phone. Having a child doesn’t stop a woman from adultery, that’s not the issue here. Their underlying issues need to be resolved.

what he saw was just a chart between them blaming themselves for not waiting/marrying each other and is not enough to just call off the wedding.
just that hiding it is where she got it wrong. me, I communicate such chats with my husband and we just laugh/gossip over it and that is all

When chatting with a married woman you have intentions of banging later there are somethings you should not put in writing

olabrinks:
You want to call off the marriage because of some flirtatious messages? Though, not justifying but how many women leave their husbands because of cheating? I’ve realised that a lot of men are seriously emotionally weaker than women, and they really do not know how to use wisdom to handle situations. Go and complain to your people na, they will tell you to manage your wife and that is just the truth. There’s nothing better outside that you are looking for. Marriage comes with ups and down, and unless your life is at risk, or you’re suicidal, you better stay in one place.

Why not sit your wife down and talk. Why not try to patch the underlying issues in your marriage ? Do you think marriage is child’s play, something you can just leave anytime you like? Na wa oh

My dear cheating starts in the heart before the practical begins to manifest

Pubichairs:
U still call the hoe ur wife??

Cmon don't be cruel, she is still is wife so far they are still married...

olabrinks:
You want to call off the marriage because of some flirtatious messages? Though, not justifying but how many women leave their husbands because of cheating? I’ve realised that a lot of men are seriously emotionally weaker than women, and they really do not know how to use wisdom to handle situations. Go and complain to your people na, they will tell you to manage your wife and that is just the truth. There’s nothing better outside that you are looking for. Marriage comes with ups and down, and unless your life is at risk, you’re suicidal or something very significant has happened, you better stay in one place.

Why not sit your wife down and talk. Why not try to patch the underlying issues in your marriage ? Do you think marriage is child’s play, something you can just leave anytime you like? Na wa oh

Marriage is not a child play agreed. But it is a child play to the cheater

History555:


My dear cheating starts in the heart before the practical begins to manifest

your marriage is still too young.
please don't give devil a chance
just sort it out with her and things will be okay.
if you invite your family, who never can tell you may still forgive her after much plea but, what do you think your family will be referring to her with?