frozen70:


You are over reacting

Every man knows the value he places on his woman, like wise every woman knows the value she places in her man

So it depends on the value

Understand it from that angle

No man or woman is doing favour for marrying the person they get married to

It is the synergy that matters

Love and value.

It is found in both sexes

Martinez39s:
Swallow redpill... they will not swallow. A woman is never yours, it's just your turn or a matter of how long you are beneficial to her. Genuine romantic love and loyalty through thick and thin can't be found in women. A woman will only stick and endure with you if there is no better option and staying is much convenient than leaving. Take heart.

blovesther:
Don't call off the wedding....if you guys doesn't have a child yet, just pray for God to give you one soon and by that time, she will be looking at her phone and there will be no chance to use it because of the child's care.

though you can confront her so as to scare her and possibly make her change but if she doesn't feel remorseful and probably doesn't want to change, please show her the exit door

blovesther:
Don't call off the wedding....if you guys doesn't have a child yet, just pray for God to give you one soon and by that time, she will be looking at her phone and there will be no chance to use it because of the child's care.

though you can confront her so as to scare her and possibly make her change but if she doesn't feel remorseful and probably doesn't want to change, please show her the exit door

Kamani8:

Lol
Not just that. Op should work on his looks. Look sexy so your wife won't have a reason to cheat

Pubichairs:
U still call the hoe ur wife??

Ur happiness matters, seek for divorce asap before u die of High Bp

u no tell us how many kids u get, u be infidel??

History555:
I need candid advise pls no insults. I got married 2years ago, of recent i noticed my wife has been spending so much time online. Not that its unusual to me because i know shes kind of addicted to her phone.
But suspicion made me pick the phone on several occasions but it was paasworded. Finally i was able to discover the password after many trials and to my surprise she has been chatting steadily, morning and night with this guy.
Not only that the guy calls her sweet names and she responds. Even to the extent of telling her he wished they were married. Her response showed she was receptive to the idea. Then she asked him why he did not make a move since and he blamed his financial status.
In summary i hve seen enough, though i hve neva confronted her. My plan is to inform my people b4 calling the marriage off.

emmaodet:


And when has losing a woman to another man been unfortunate?
Abi na even best thing to happen to a man.
A cheating wife runs away from her hubby to an Ex or side bobo and you call the hubby unfortunate?
Instead of him to go to church for Thanksgiving.
So you actually think feeding, housing, clothing etc a woman in marriage is to the man advantage? That the woman is doing the man a favour for doing that? I think you overestimate you women's value in marriage.
Let the side bobo carry the liability for 2 months now weda him eye no go clear and gets tired of an Unproductive Liability that has all the time in the world to look for what to do to support the home rather using such precious time to hook up and chat with a side bobo.
I blame guys a lot. If we say make men no marry now so that the Unfortunate woman will be on the street now running up and down on how to survive and pay her bills, they will say we are crazy.
If the job of the man is to make sure another man doesn't get my woman, then pls tell what is the work of the woman too?
A consumer? Financial drainage? Liability? Sex object? Unproductive, unrepentant serial cheating liability?
Spits*

emmaodet:


Bro, why do we like putting the pressure of making the marriage work and romantic on the man, why?
What happens to the woman making the relationship better so that they can bond more.
Probably the man is thinking and hustling to bring home money to feed the young family, yet we need to pile more pressure on him to make the marriage romantic.
Seems we give a lot of women soft landing or soft spanking when they go off the track a lot.

blovesther:
that is one problem with our men. they think they have every reason to cheat while the woman is to bear regardless of what it is or what comes out of the cheating

History555:


My dear, you and i know that humans will neva admit to being caught in the act especially for something they are doing secretly.

rawpadgin:
this one will eventually cheat on her husband... Potential suitors beware

mignone:
Pls hold on with calling ur ppl; try to salvage ur marriage as a nuclear family first. You, d man are d head of ur home and should be able to handle most issues.
- She could be immature
- what was ur courtship like/ow did u meet her? Hope she didn't agree to marry u as a last resort?
- Also, what is ur marriage like? Is it working? Are u friends? Are u both satisfied to an extent?
- normally, d early years of marriage isn't so funny, it's d commitment of both parties dt determines ow it eventually turns out.
... trying to talk some sense into her cld make her retrace her steps.
I wish u all the best.

cooooooks:
You people are promoting the problems. He shouldn't stay in such a marriage and neither should any woman.

Let's stop normalizing nonsense.

blovesther:
hmmmmm and please don't be polygamous especially if your tradition doesn't go against it for women.
if you want your wife to be an angel, you should first create an heaven

J111333:
Pray for her to stop cheating, you say?
Another one said, pray for her to have a child so she can stop cheating?

Where are these people from bikonu?

mignone:

Oga, pls stop propagating separation and/or divorce over 'trivial' matters. Do u think it's bliss to dissolve a marriage jst like dt?
I'll personally insist that a couple try resolve matters btw them first,then separate or file for a divorce only when their case is irredeemable.
In fact, a temporary separation works for some; they wld av got sm sense by d time they get bk together.

emmaodet:


Sure, this is a better reply.
Happy sunday

Nuel4:
a cheating husband is not in any way comparable to a cheating wife. Worst case scenario he fathers a bastard outside whom the wife cannot in any way on earth be deceived to accept and cater for as her own child but a cheating wife will bring another man's child to the husband and he will spend his resources on taking care of a child who is not his.
A cheating wife automatically makes the husband to start doubting if the children he's killing himself to provide for are truly his but a cheating husband does not have such influence on his wife she just feels disrespected that's all

Martinez39s:
GreatResearcher1, you need to read this topic, and see the kind of advice simps and women are giving the op.

emmaodet:


Bro, why do we like putting the pressure of making the marriage work and romantic on the man, why?
What happens to the woman making the relationship better so that they can bond more.
Probably the man is thinking and hustling to bring home money to feed the young family, yet we need to pile more pressure on him to make the marriage romantic.
Seems we give a lot of women soft landing or soft spanking when they go off the track a lot.

emmaodet:


And when has losing a woman to another man been unfortunate?
Abi na even best thing to happen to a man.
A cheating wife runs away from her hubby to an Ex or side bobo and you call the hubby unfortunate?
Instead of him to go to church for Thanksgiving.
A consumer? Financial drainage? Liability? Sex object? Unproductive, unrepentant serial cheating liability?
Spits*

wirinet:

Gbam. You need solid proof before you can confront her or her family. She will deny and twist everything against you without solid undeniable proof. Life is short and you must not compromise your peace of mind.

olabrinks:
I just gave birth a month ago, I’m still very much on my phone. Having a child doesn’t stop a woman from adultery, that’s not the issue here. Their underlying issues need to be resolved.

Kamani8:


Sorry to hear this op.
Just pray for her to stop. Go on your knees and pray.
Also work on how you look. Be sexy and try to satisfy her in bed.
Also don't look at her phone so u don't see what u dont want to see.
Try also to stop those behaviour that could make her look outside.

Again pray for her, she will stop.
Prayer is the key

Omar09:


Let's pray for her to stop cheating and have a child so she can stop cheating.

mignone:

He'll never get peace of mind with a counsel as urs.

olabrinks:
I just gave birth a month ago, I’m still very much on my phone. Having a child doesn’t stop a woman from adultery, that’s not the issue here. Their underlying issues need to be resolved.

blovesther:
hmmmmm and please don't be polygamous especially if your tradition doesn't go against it for women.
if you want your wife to be an angel, you should first create an heaven

Kingarthur21:
are women not advised to pray for cheating husbands?...what is the fuss now tables are turned??