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Re: Her Mother Said She Can't Marry An Ebonyi Man by Badb0y4lyf(m): 4:27pm On Apr 20, 2020
Noting do you Bro in life in life you will fall in love you will be heart broken and vice versa and this are one of the precious memories we keep with us cos that what make life worth living

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Re: Her Mother Said She Can't Marry An Ebonyi Man by Giwoni: 4:39pm On Apr 20, 2020
Badb0y4lyf:
Noting do you Bro in life in life you will fall in love you will be heart broken and vice versa and this are one of the precious memories we keep with us cos that what make life worth living
Thanks a lot.

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Re: Her Mother Said She Can't Marry An Ebonyi Man by kenochi16: 4:41pm On Apr 20, 2020
My brother if you want to know the truth about what she told you just tell her this
That you rejected the offer to travel abroad to study because of her
And since the relationship is not going to work again that your brother has decided to send you abroad to finish your studies.
You'll see her reaction and that would tell you what to do next.

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Re: Her Mother Said She Can't Marry An Ebonyi Man by Nobody: 4:57pm On Apr 20, 2020
Giwoni:
Good day NLanders
I'm a medical student, and gf( not sure what to call her now) is in MLS. We are both in same level (500l).

It all started in 2015, when we gained admission into the University. We began to read together and subsequently I started teaching her . Later on, she made me to read and susummarize her course topics (which I did for up to her 300 level) for her as she usually found it difficult to read with textbooks and understand the contents. Months before my 2nd MBBS examinations, I began to notice changes in her attitude and behaviour towards me, up to the point that she told me that if I did not pass that examinations that, she will forget about me. But as God may have it, I passed successfully.

Financially, it started right in year one as I celebrated her and her mummy's Christmas from my own pocket, It got to a point that I usually give her her money almost every day ( for up to 5yrs) Whenever, I'm traveling in any of our vacations, I usually give money for upkeep until I'm back.
In 300l, I bought her gift worth almost 30k and also celebrated her birthday which she demanded I get her 'point and kill cat fish' that cost 9k.
I usually pay for her textbooks and seminar work as we are all in medical school, I really do a lot for her, as she always told me she would never leave me right from yr 1 to 500l after which she started telling me, their people from Anambra will not let her marry people from Ebonyi State.

She's has known this for all her life , but decided to bring it up just now, when I'm beginning my marriage plans with her, She's started giving me unnecessary excuses in one form or the other.

In 400L, my elder brother told me that I should leave my medical school here to go and study the same medicine abroad. Because of her, I told him that I want to finish my school here since I am already in 400 level. That after my MBBS degree, I can then go abroad for my Masters degree...

This January, my elder brother told me that since I would be graduating in 2022(which supposed to be 2021but due to strike before the 2019 election) which is two years time, that I should be planning to get married before I leave this country.

This made me to ask her again if we are ending up together and she told me that she has to seek for her mother's consent, and would give me a feedback.

Before, she travelled ( this is just before the lock down) as she was complaining that she does not have any money on her to eat and she want to go and learn how to plait hair which will cost her #8,000, I gave her #16,000. The next day after collecting the money, she told me that she received a call from her mother that she must come back to her State and she travelled with that money without learning anything.

Yesterday by 8:24pm, I called her to tell me the outcome of her mother's discussion with her. She told me that her mother insisted that she cannot marry an Ebonyi man, and she cannot go outside her mother's decision.

In conclusion, she told me that she cannot marry me.

Well, as expected, I'm bracing myself up for insults, ( I really don't mind this right now) but amidst the insults, pls advice a brother who's fighting emotionally.
thanks

Hungry girls are heart breakers.

Let me instruct you on how to date a hungry girl.

1. Don't give her money : Its not being wicked. It's being careful. In my life, I have helped more hungry men than women. They are both thesame. A hungry person is a destroyer and this stems from resentment and unhappiness. A hungry person takes delight in seeing a happier person cry. It's human psychology. Have you ever seen someone say, " You won't have this, I won't have this, rather we destroy it, nobody will have it ". That is the average mentality of a hungry person.

2. A hungry person is naturally ungrateful: It takes gratefulness to be rich. " When you praise a great man for what he has done, he will do more " . This is an adage, it is true for humans and for God. When you praise God or show gratitude, he does more. Poor people are naturally ungrateful people. A poor person will prefer to grumble than be grateful. Poverty breeds ungratefulness, likewise ungratefulness breeds poverty.

3. Poor people have a sense of entitlement: That girl is just using that state or origin thing as an excuse, she doesn't love you. She believes you owe her upkeep because she is poor and you are rich. How come you never saw this attitude in her all this while ?

4. Never invest in a woman unless, she is your wife, mother or sisters. This one needs no explanation.

5. You probably never bleeped this girl. In this modern world, a girl you have not bleeped, believes there is nothing between you and her. This is the ugly sinful truth.

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Re: Her Mother Said She Can't Marry An Ebonyi Man by Giwoni: 4:57pm On Apr 20, 2020
kenochi16:
My brother if you want to know the truth about what she told you just tell her this
That you rejected the offer to travel abroad to study because of her
And since the relationship is not going to work again that your brother has decided to send you abroad to finish your studies.
You'll see her reaction and that would tell you what to do next.
Alright, thanks.
Re: Her Mother Said She Can't Marry An Ebonyi Man by justcallmenuel(m): 5:08pm On Apr 20, 2020
Badb0y4lyf:
Noting do you Bro in life in life you will fall in love you will be heart broken and vice versa and this are one of the precious memories we keep with us cos that what make life worth living
1 bottle of Heineken for you bro.
Re: Her Mother Said She Can't Marry An Ebonyi Man by Nobody: 5:12pm On Apr 20, 2020
Giwoni:
Alright, thanks.

Don't listen to that useless advice you said thank you to.

Process your abroad papers without telling her anything.

STOP GIVING HER MONEY. She will demand again. That's your strongest bait.

She can kill you to prevent you from going abroad, or steal your papers.

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Re: Her Mother Said She Can't Marry An Ebonyi Man by Giwoni: 5:14pm On Apr 20, 2020
RonaldoVido:


Hungry girls are heart breakers.

Let me instruct you on how to date a hungry girl.

1. Don't give her money : Its not being wicked. It's being careful. In my life, I have helped more hungry men than women. They are both thesame. A hungry person is a destroyer and this stems from resentment and unhappiness. A hungry person takes delight in seeing a happier person cry. It's human psychology. Have you ever seen someone say, " You won't have this, I won't have this, rather we destroy it, nobody will have it ". That is the average mentality of a hungry person.

2. A hungry person is naturally ungrateful: It takes gratefulness to be rich. " When you praise a great man for what he has done, he will do more " . This is an adage, it is true for humans and for God. When you praise God or show gratitude, he does more. Poor people are naturally ungrateful people. A poor person will prefer to grumble than be grateful. Poverty breeds ungratefulness, likewise ungratefulness breeds poverty.

3. Poor people have a sense of entitlement: That girl is just using that state or origin thing as an excuse, she doesn't love you. She believes you owe her upkeep because she is poor and you are rich. How come you never saw this attitude in her all this while ?

4. Never invest in a woman unless, she is your wife, mother or sisters. This one needs no explanation.

5. You probably never bleeped this girl. In this modern world, a girl you have not bleeped, believes there is nothing between you and her. This is the ugly sinful truth.
Thanks, appreciated.
Re: Her Mother Said She Can't Marry An Ebonyi Man by Badb0y4lyf(m): 5:32pm On Apr 20, 2020
justcallmenuel:

1 bottle of Heineken for you bro.
I go collect am ooh I just finish two can of Goldberg self

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Re: Her Mother Said She Can't Marry An Ebonyi Man by Nobody: 5:32pm On Apr 20, 2020
Giwoni:
She usually give me sex whenever she wants, she also cook for me occasionally, which I cooked more for her.
she also gives me fruits which I did more than that.
In 2019, I noticed she was acting uninterested but went on to tell my male class mate that she has made her mind to be with me while waiting for her parents conclusion.
In the beginning, she was even the person that brought marriage up.

I have not even gone quarter of what I did for her which she usually tells me that she doesn't have any to give me in return.

Okay, since you guys have gotten to this level.

STOP GIVING HER MONEY: If she stays she wants you, if she leaves, let her go. Don't even give N1,000.

DONT EVER MENTION MARRIAGE AGAIN: Your neediness over marriage caused her attitudinal change. Just avoid any marriage issue. If she brings it up, act like you didn't hear her. Then you can regain control over the relationship.

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Re: Her Mother Said She Can't Marry An Ebonyi Man by Nobody: 6:00pm On Apr 20, 2020
zexy2030:

This is the mistake he made. Another point even ibos fear anambra, it is mostly anambra to anambra. Then if eventually she marries you, she married you for ur resources which she believes would become hers after having kids for you.
In short Anams are very selfish sets of beings.

They are not only selfish, they are wicked beings.

Have had 4 ugly encounters with them.

The first time I met a money hungry girl, she was from Anambra and she started the stupidity, immediately i mentioned marriage.

Someone that we had been platonic friends for months. Once I mentioned marriage, she shifted to extortion..

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Re: Her Mother Said She Can't Marry An Ebonyi Man by Giwoni: 6:02pm On Apr 20, 2020
RonaldoVido:


Okay, since you guys have gotten to this level.

STOP GIVING HER MONEY: If she stays she wants you, if she leaves, let her go. Don't even give N1,000.

DONT EVER MENTION MARRIAGE AGAIN: Your neediness over marriage caused her attitudinal change. Just avoid any marriage issue. If she brings it up, act like you didn't hear her. Then you can regain control over the relationship.
Thanks, well noted
Re: Her Mother Said She Can't Marry An Ebonyi Man by Nobody: 6:05pm On Apr 20, 2020
Blackbishop:


From my experience, she left me with the excuse of her mum been a prayer warrior and she has seen it that we are not compatible.. just a week later the mum approved another guy with a car and a good job for her. Not up to a month the guy gave her belle. And denied her bcuz the guy don marry and has a family. Gbam she came back begging me that it was a mistake and I should forgive her and even give her money to abort it so we can go back to our relationship...
Bros I blocked her, it is more than two years now early this month she used another number to call and begged I should unblock her that she wants us to go back to dating. I said I have heard, wetin man go do dey mans heart
Those who live by the nana die by the nana..

Many Mother's have ruined the marriages of their children or to be children in-laws.

They will always want to lie with God's name. God said, God said, pastor said, prophecy said.

They are all lies. The woman is just trying to manipulate either her daughter or her son to have her WAY or SAY in the marriage.

Any man who conquers the foolish influences of women has conquered the world.

Why didn't Jesus marry ?

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Re: Her Mother Said She Can't Marry An Ebonyi Man by Nobody: 6:16pm On Apr 20, 2020
luminouz:


I.still dont get...what makes them so haughty and selective?

They are pompous people.

I get them as neighbors. To spend money dey hard Anambra man, they will like to stay in your house for free. Very wicked tenants. They can resort to destroying your property.

Their women, once you mention marriage, she opens an ATM kiosk on your head. It happened to me.

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Re: Her Mother Said She Can't Marry An Ebonyi Man by luminouz(m): 6:21pm On Apr 20, 2020
RonaldoVido:


They are pompous people.

I get them as neighbors. To spend money dey hard Anambra man, they will like to stay in your house for free. Very wicked tenants. They can resort to destroying your property.

Their women, once you mention marriage, she opens an ATM kiosk on your head. It happened to me.
Wow. The men and women are leeches and yet they are pompous? About what exactly? The chosen igbos or the pure blood Igbo's?

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Re: Her Mother Said She Can't Marry An Ebonyi Man by freethesheeple(m): 6:45pm On Apr 20, 2020
MARX77:
Permit me to list out a few things

1. From the beginning of the relationship, you have probably given this girl d mindset that if she leaves u, u r done for.

2. Bro, if u use money take open relationship, ready to dey drop money... So all this your expenses here and there na u cos am. Never use money as a means to hold down a woman, they're always in need, and most of them will go for the highest bidder.

3. I don't know who needs to hear this, except the girl na ur wife, never ever let a lady influence decisions that u know can make your life better. NEVER DO THAT. Make decisions to better ur life, Bleep whatever she thinks.

4. Boss, any girl when dey look for consent to marry you don go already. Forget her...

5. You're lucky you passed your exam, you for know afa

6. I can bet my left ass that your lady has someone already promising her the moon and the stars. SHE'S GONE BRO.

MY ADVICE: Brace yourself, retrace your steps and before she drops the bombshell on you,
Break up with her in a very dope way, like stars do, no fight, no insults.

YOUR FUTURE IS BRIGHT MAN, take it from me, ON GOD.

*Drops mic*
well said...Best advice so Far...

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Re: Her Mother Said She Can't Marry An Ebonyi Man by Giwoni: 6:56pm On Apr 20, 2020
RonaldoVido:


Many Mother's have ruined the marriages of their children or to be children in-laws.

They will always want to lie with God's name. God said, God said, pastor said, prophecy said.

They are all lies. The woman is just trying to manipulate either her daughter or her son to have her WAY or SAY in the marriage.

Any man who conquers the foolish influences of women has conquered the world.

Why didn't Jesus marry ?
Thanks
Re: Her Mother Said She Can't Marry An Ebonyi Man by Blackbishop(m): 7:28pm On Apr 20, 2020
RonaldoVido:


Many Mother's have ruined the marriages of their children or to be children in-laws.

They will always want to lie with God's name. God said, God said, pastor said, prophecy said.

They are all lies. The woman is just trying to manipulate either her daughter or her son to have her WAY or SAY in the marriage.

Any man who conquers the foolish influences of women has conquered the world.

Why didn't Jesus marry ?


Bro when she begged for a come back, I asked her what about her mum, yhu know what she told me,
She said and I quote she does not need to know anything about her. Hmmmm so it is now that you ve made mistake that yhu know she is of no need when it comes to the thing of the heart.

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Re: Her Mother Said She Can't Marry An Ebonyi Man by lereinter(m): 9:07pm On Apr 20, 2020
Giwoni:
lol. Just that you people are making me know my worth and correct my wrong acts.

I want to believe you learnt a lesson

Should was even expecting you to fail the MBBS

Sorry for the earlier exasperation and wrong words
Re: Her Mother Said She Can't Marry An Ebonyi Man by simhosting: 9:21pm On Apr 20, 2020
You are not the first
Re: Her Mother Said She Can't Marry An Ebonyi Man by Amotekun777: 9:21pm On Apr 20, 2020
grin
Re: Her Mother Said She Can't Marry An Ebonyi Man by crafteck(m): 9:21pm On Apr 20, 2020
Leave her, open your mind, find happiness
Re: Her Mother Said She Can't Marry An Ebonyi Man by Nobody: 9:22pm On Apr 20, 2020
Who still sponsors ladies education these days? Fool.

Btw,tale by moonlight.
Re: Her Mother Said She Can't Marry An Ebonyi Man by Babtee1010(m): 9:22pm On Apr 20, 2020
Pls help needy tanks
Re: Her Mother Said She Can't Marry An Ebonyi Man by Bluffly: 9:23pm On Apr 20, 2020
Giwoni:
My Love Experience

Good day NLanders

I'm a medical student, and gf ( not sure what to call her now) is in MLS. We are both in same level (500l).

It all started in 2015, when we gained admission into the University. We began to read together and subsequently I started teaching her. Later on, she made me to read and susummarize her course topics (which I did for up to her 300 level) for her as she usually found it difficult to read with textbooks and understand the contents.

Months before my 2nd MBBS examinations, I began to notice changes in her attitude and behaviour towards me, up to the point that she told me that if I did not pass that examinations that, she will forget about me. But as God may have it, I passed successfully.

Financially, it started right in year one as I celebrated her and her mummy's Christmas from my own pocket. It got to a point that I usually give her her money almost every day (for up to 5yrs) Whenever, I'm traveling in any of our vacations, I usually give money for upkeep until I'm back.

In 300l, I bought her gift worth almost 30k and also celebrated her birthday which she demanded I get her 'point and kill cat fish' that cost 9k.

I usually pay for her textbooks and seminar work as we are all in medical school, I really do a lot for her, as she always told me she would never leave me right from yr 1 to 500l after which she started telling me, their people from Anambra will not let her marry people from Ebonyi State.

She's has known this for all her life, but decided to bring it up just now, when I'm beginning my marriage plans with her, She's started giving me unnecessary excuses in one form or the other.

In 400L, my elder brother told me that I should leave my medical school here to go and study the same medicine abroad. Because of her, I told him that I want to finish my school here since I am already in 400 level. That after my MBBS degree, I can then go abroad for my Masters degree...

This January, my elder brother told me that since I would be graduating in 2022 (which supposed to be 2021 but due to strike before the 2019 election) which is two years time, that I should be planning to get married before I leave this country.

This made me to ask her again if we are ending up together and she told me that she has to seek for her mother's consent, and would give me a feedback.

Before, she travelled (this is just before the lock down) as she was complaining that she does not have any money on her to eat and she want to go and learn how to plait hair which will cost her #8,000, I gave her #16,000. The next day after collecting the money, she told me that she received a call from her mother that she must come back to her State and she travelled with that money without learning anything.

Yesterday by 8:24pm, I called her to tell me the outcome of her mother's discussion with her. She told me that her mother insisted that she cannot marry an Ebonyi man, and she cannot go outside her mother's decision.

In conclusion, she told me that she cannot marry me.

Well, as expected, I'm bracing myself up for insults, (I really don't mind this right now) but amidst the insults, pls advice a brother who's fighting emotionally.

thanks
Guy break up. Take it as your life sacrifice.
Re: Her Mother Said She Can't Marry An Ebonyi Man by Kobicove(m): 9:23pm On Apr 20, 2020
Giwoni:
My Love Experience

Good day NLanders

I'm a medical student, and gf ( not sure what to call her now) is...

thanks

You're an idiot!

Why would you be bearing the financial responsibilities of a lady who is not yet your wife?

Were you hoping to buy her over with money? undecided

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Re: Her Mother Said She Can't Marry An Ebonyi Man by watchindelta(m): 9:24pm On Apr 20, 2020
Re: Her Mother Said She Can't Marry An Ebonyi Man by atiku4President(m): 9:24pm On Apr 20, 2020
Johntitus:
Hahahaha... You're your problem. How can you shoulder the responsibilities of a lady you've not married? Sha, no too much money dey shack you.
My dear, the guy's story is so irritating (Sorry for that, anyway). Why will I waste time commenting on such melodrama?
Re: Her Mother Said She Can't Marry An Ebonyi Man by nnakelechi1(m): 9:24pm On Apr 20, 2020
If any of your niqqas come around and beg you for money now, you will say you are broke.

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Re: Her Mother Said She Can't Marry An Ebonyi Man by KefeeBRIGHT91(m): 9:25pm On Apr 20, 2020
...so on point
MARX77:
Permit me to list out a few things

1. From the beginning of the relationship, you have probably given this girl d mindset that if she leaves u, u r done for.

2. Bro, if u use money take open relationship, ready to dey drop money... So all this your expenses here and there na u cos am. Never use money as a means to hold down a woman, they're always in need, and most of them will go for the highest bidder.

3. I don't know who needs to hear this, except the girl na ur wife, never ever let a lady influence decisions that u know can make your life better. NEVER DO THAT. Make decisions to better ur life, Bleep whatever she thinks.

4. Boss, any girl when dey look for consent to marry you don go already. Forget her...

5. You're lucky you passed your exam, you for know afa

6. I can bet my left ass that your lady has someone already promising her the moon and the stars. SHE'S GONE BRO.

MY ADVICE: Brace yourself, retrace your steps and before she drops the bombshell on you,
Break up with her in a very dope way, like stars do, no fight, no insults.

YOUR FUTURE IS BRIGHT MAN, take it from me, ON GOD.

*Drops mic*
Re: Her Mother Said She Can't Marry An Ebonyi Man by tunjilana: 9:25pm On Apr 20, 2020
See do not be afraid to be alone. Dont keep something totally draining just because u wanna b in a relationship. Thankfully u didnt loose much...just small money, atleast u didnt fail your medical exam. Pls start treating her like an option immediately, stop making her your responsibility...let the while thing just die a natural death...zero ur mind and begin to mingle...this time mingle with sense

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