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Go and marry
Before you will send that women to her early grave
Oshey badddest

Preshieben:
Go and marry
Before you will send that women to her early grave
Oshey badddest

I won't by God's grace, that's why I really wanna change for the sake of my mom.

smadav:
I won't by God's grace, that's why I really wanna change for the sake of my mom.

you won't??

smadav:
For ur question, I see marriage as an institution for procreation and nothing more, and since I already have two handsome boys 8yrs and 2yrs respectvely I see no essence of getting married.

The essence of getting married is not just for procreation,i believe it involves many other things(im not married).I think having a mentor who has a successful marriage would go a long way for you.You also owe your kids an act of responsibility,they must not grow up to believe it's normal to tow your path,right your wrongs now so you can give them proper direction in life.Go to church and you will learn alot ,you will also feel the beautiful part of life which you have been missing.

Rozz:
The essence of getting married is not just for procreation,i believe it involves many other things(im not married).I think having a mentor who has a successful marriage would go a long way for you.You also owe your kids an act of responsibility,they must not grow up to believe it's normal to tow your path,right your wrongs now so you can give them proper direction in life.Go to church and you will learn alot ,you will also feel the beautiful part of life which you have been missing.

Thanks dear, but what beautiful life have I been missing? Yeah I take care of my kids, I pay child support to my baby mama for the second one, while my first son is with my mom, she is raising him her self though I visit them always and support financially also, though I have not gone for a month now due to the lock down but I do send cash, money is not their problem my parents are capable shaa.

smadav:
Thanks dear, but what beautiful life have I been missing? Yeah I take care of my kids, I pay child support to my baby mama for the second one, while my first son is with my mom, she is raising him her self though I visit them always and support financially also, though I have not gone for a month now but I though send cash, money is not their problem my parents are capable shaa

There's alot you are getting wrong,your problems isn't monetary or how you are taking care of your children. Permit me to say "find your lost soul" that's the beginning of finding solutions to your problems

Rozz:
There's alot you are getting wrong,your problems isn't monetary or how you are taking care of your children. Permit me to say "find your lost soul" that's the beginning of finding solutions to your problems

Thanks I really wish for that, God bless u mam

Get marry to ur baby mama n change ur lifestyle.

smadav:
Make una advice me now, it's getting out of hand, I sincerely need help, for the sake of my mom.

My guy apologize to your momma. Tell her you are changed person and try to change too.

But if the thing no gree you change, my brother do your thing on low key so that mumsy no go know.

Stop straffing your baby mama.

I hope what you are into are not against the laws of the country?

Guy, this one too strong oo!

However, in my humble opinion, you're psychologically not balanced.

Spiritually: I think you're possessed by a strong entitiy!




















What do I know?

Bros honestly what u need is a psychologist and a counselor.There are many of them online if u cant get one.You can't claim to hate women but say u love ur mum and sisters. 26 years is enough for you to get some sense

Eleyi gidi gan Ooo, you are bad and you know it
Shows you can change it if you really want to but if it’s will affect your income better don’t ! Your mom will be happy anyway anyhow if you can spoil her with gifts .... you no fit bad reach Wizkid to me the problem here is you didn’t tell us the work you are doing

Usorohtheman:
My guy apologize to your momma. Tell her you are changed person and try to change too.

But if the thing no gree you change, my brother do your thing on low key so that mumsy no go know.

Stop straffing your baby mama.

I hope what you are into are not against the laws of the country?

What I'm into how?

Kingsteve:
Guy, this one too strong oo!

However, in my humble opinion, you're psychologically not balanced.

Spiritually: I think you're possessed by a strong en




















What do I know?

I can't be possesed God foebide

lewis512:
Eleyi gidi gan Ooo, you are bad and you know it
Shows you can change it if you really want to but if it’s will affect your income better don’t ! Your mom will be happy anyway anyhow if you can spoil her with gifts .... you no fit bad reach Wizkid to me the problem here is you didn’t tell us the work you are doing

I said I'm into borehole drilling, I get drilling company, we dey drill borehole.

smadav:
What I'm into how?

Drugs or anything else that is contrary to the law of the land

Usorohtheman:
Drugs or anything else that is contrary to the law of the land

Not at all, I run a legit business, I'm into borehole drilling.

[quote author=smadav post=88670886]

I can't be possesed God foebide

Then prove yourself wrong by acting like a normal person.

It's a challenge!
Can you?

smadav:
Not at all, I run a legit business, I'm into borehole drilling.

Okay bro. Live your life if you can't change it. But just hide it from mummy.
After all, you are not committing any crime

smadav:
Make una advice me now, it's getting out of hand, I sincerely need help, for the sake of my mom.

your mum's emotional blackmail is the wrongest reason to ever get married! Marry because you wanna marry not because anyone is blackmailing you too. Unless you'll spend the greater part of your life in regrets. If you marry at 27 and die at 97, 70 years to be in marriage, thread with caution!

[quote author=Kingsteve post=88671175][/quote]God's willing I will, it's a gradual process, I will definitely put the advice I get here into use.

smadav:
God's willing I will, it's a gradual process, I will definitely put the advice I get here into use.

That's the spirit!

smadav:
Pls my fellow nairalanders I need serious help, I do not understand my life I really wanna change for good.please guys sorry for the long epistle, just calm down and read my write up and advice properly.

Fact checks about me.
I was born in a family of six, the only son among my siblings, my family is a strong christain family a stunch Catholics for that matter, my father even built a personal church in my area for every one to worship on Sundays and for weekdays morning masses that's to show u how deep rooted I'm rooted in Christ. My parents really gave me the best of life, decipline wise, educational wise, morally wise or any good upbringing u can think about, and they really loved me. Immediately after service (NYSC). I enrolled with a drilling company and currently have a drilling company of my own, my own apartment and doing well to an extent while also doing my masters. So u see I had a wonderful life growing up.

Personally I'm storbon, I like doing things that is contrary to the dictate of my family and up bringing. Im 26 years old this year April 7. When I was 18 I had my first son with my baby mama, it broke my mom heart though we found a way to go through it, then When I turned 24, I had another son with the same girl, she knows I can't marry her but always wanna make baby with me, I hate girls as a whole, the only women I love are my mom and sisters, I love being percieved as a bad boy which always make my mom cry every night cos she caint understand it, I remember the first day she saw I tatoo on my body she cried and prayed for me for a whole day still I kept on adding till it covered my whole chest and stomach. She want me to be a change child, but I always do things that make her cry due to the fact I'm drawn to bad things easily I can't control it. Now my family wants me to get married this year so as to see if I will calm down, but I'm not ready for that now, becous of my hate for ladies, I treat women like trash, Bleep them and move on with my life, I have never had any feeling for any girl including my baby mama but always Bleep the shit out of them.

My problem is my mom told me if I get married this year, that will be the only thing that will make her happy with me and she will forgive and forget all I have made her go through all this years. Nairalanders I really wanna make my mama happy and proud of me, I wanna be a changed guy without getting married since I already have two sons. Please advice me if u have one thanks.

Drilling? Like oil and gas drilling? Or water drilling?

I beg u in the name of God, don't get married without undergoing serious deliverance. If u don't right urself upstairs, don't subject someone's daughter to years of misery in the name of pleasing ur mom.

If u love ur sons as much as u described, is it too much of a sacrifice to change for them and become someone worth emulating.?

Ask urself this, had it been u had daughters, would you bear to see them in the hands of someone like u, when they grow up?

If after all these advices u decide to continue living as u do now, please allow those women to train ur boys for u. If they grow up under u, this virus u have will spread to them and become a generational curse.

Las Las, everything is in ur head. Seek counselling and deliverance if possible.

I have witnessed ur kind firsthand, and I know what I was subjected to.

I don't mean any insult please. Seek help, and genuinely change.... If not, don't get married or ur wife will suffer enormous emotional damage.

smadav:
We ain't compactible .

Is this one okay?
After making 2 babies with her you still feel you ain't compatible.

How will you feel if someone treat one of your sis like that?

You know your problem but you are not ready to fix up, you just dey add age you no mature at all.

smadav:
I don't feel anything for anylady at all including my baby mama, but I love my boys, I just have sex with them nothing, even my current girlfriend, treat her like trash and she don't derserve it, after love making I can decide to just chase her out without reason, and she there not argue me or I slap the shit out of her, I tell you it's that bad.

You're possessed

Ishilove:
Superstory

Even you?

smadav:
We ain't compactible .

bt u guys re fuckatible??lol

Dfynboi:
bt u guys re fuckatible??lol

She is into me, but I don't give a Bleep about her, and it makes her feel bad, after two kids for me I still don't value her.

[quote author=Shootingstar93 post=88675816]I beg u in the name of God, don't get married without undergoing serious deliverance. If u don't right urself upstairs, don't subject someone's daughter to years of misery in the name of pleasing ur mom.

If u love ur sons as much as u described, is it too much of a sacrifice to change for them and become someone worth emulating.?

Ask urself this, had it been u had daughters, would you bear to see them in the hands of someone like u, when they grow up?

If after all these advices u decide to continue living as u do now, please allow those women to train ur boys for u. If they grow up under u, this virus u have will spread to them and become a generational curse.

Las Las, everything is in ur head. Seek counselling and deliverance if possible.

I have witnessed ur kind firsthand, and I know what I was subjected to.

I don't mean any insult please. Seek help, and genuinely change.... If not, don't get married or ur wife will suffer enormous emotional damage.




Sorry mam for what you pass through, I sincerely wanna change that's why I'm seeking help. Are you married, what does it take to keep and stay in marriage, the only promise I made to myself is if I ever get married, I will never devorce, we never had any incident of devorce in my linage so I won't be the first, so help me God.

Les:
your mum's emotional blackmail is the wrongest reason to ever get married! Marry because you wanna marry not because anyone is blackmailing you too. Unless you'll spend the greater part of your life in regrets. If you marry at 27 and die at 97, 70 years to be in marriage, thread with caution!

Bro thanks for your advice, I really appreciate. What made you say this to me, do u have personal experience relating to what I'm going through?

U prolly thinking marriage will be an extra issue holding u back from "bleeping around". Could that be the reason u are scared. Search itself sha.