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Re: Her Mother Said She Can't Marry An Ebonyi Man by Saintinoo(m): 9:37pm On Apr 20, 2020
Giwoni:
My Love Experience

Good day NLanders

I'm a medical student, and gf ( not sure what to call her now) is in MLS. We are both in same level (500l).

It all started in 2015, when we gained admission into the University. We began to read together and subsequently I started teaching her. Later on, she made me to read and susummarize her course topics (which I did for up to her 300 level) for her as she usually found it difficult to read with textbooks and understand the contents.

Months before my 2nd MBBS examinations, I began to notice changes in her attitude and behaviour towards me, up to the point that she told me that if I did not pass that examinations that, she will forget about me. But as God may have it, I passed successfully.

Financially, it started right in year one as I celebrated her and her mummy's Christmas from my own pocket. It got to a point that I usually give her her money almost every day (for up to 5yrs) Whenever, I'm traveling in any of our vacations, I usually give money for upkeep until I'm back.

In 300l, I bought her gift worth almost 30k and also celebrated her birthday which she demanded I get her 'point and kill cat fish' that cost 9k.

I usually pay for her textbooks and seminar work as we are all in medical school, I really do a lot for her, as she always told me she would never leave me right from yr 1 to 500l after which she started telling me, their people from Anambra will not let her marry people from Ebonyi State.

She's has known this for all her life, but decided to bring it up just now, when I'm beginning my marriage plans with her, She's started giving me unnecessary excuses in one form or the other.

In 400L, my elder brother told me that I should leave my medical school here to go and study the same medicine abroad. Because of her, I told him that I want to finish my school here since I am already in 400 level. That after my MBBS degree, I can then go abroad for my Masters degree...

This January, my elder brother told me that since I would be graduating in 2022 (which supposed to be 2021 but due to strike before the 2019 election) which is two years time, that I should be planning to get married before I leave this country.

This made me to ask her again if we are ending up together and she told me that she has to seek for her mother's consent, and would give me a feedback.

Before, she travelled (this is just before the lock down) as she was complaining that she does not have any money on her to eat and she want to go and learn how to plait hair which will cost her #8,000, I gave her #16,000. The next day after collecting the money, she told me that she received a call from her mother that she must come back to her State and she travelled with that money without learning anything.

Yesterday by 8:24pm, I called her to tell me the outcome of her mother's discussion with her. She told me that her mother insisted that she cannot marry an Ebonyi man, and she cannot go outside her mother's decision.

In conclusion, she told me that she cannot marry me.

Well, as expected, I'm bracing myself up for insults, (I really don't mind this right now) but amidst the insults, pls advice a brother who's fighting emotionally.

thanks
Am not going to insult you... Am from Anambra also, first of all, why did you spend so lavishly on her? Even when she showed you that she doesn't love you.
Secondly, look for another girl dude... Anambra girls have a way of being stupid, look for a girl that love u... Please next time, don't spend on a girl to prove to her that you love her.

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Re: Her Mother Said She Can't Marry An Ebonyi Man by nsiba: 9:37pm On Apr 20, 2020
I hate reading nonsense
Re: Her Mother Said She Can't Marry An Ebonyi Man by Akwu001(m): 9:37pm On Apr 20, 2020
When a woman decides to scorn love for reasons that are baseless, what I advise is for you to disconnect and move on. She is not good and so hanging around her, she will keep draining your pocket. However, I will also advise that you keep communicating with her she will definitely come back begging for one favour or another, you will tell her why should an Anambra lady collect money from an Ebonyi man?

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Re: Her Mother Said She Can't Marry An Ebonyi Man by MrFly(m): 9:37pm On Apr 20, 2020
4get marriage and concerntrate on her opiotus. Do well to stress it to an elastic limit

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Re: Her Mother Said She Can't Marry An Ebonyi Man by Sososo(f): 9:38pm On Apr 20, 2020
Good Samaritan you are on your own
Re: Her Mother Said She Can't Marry An Ebonyi Man by Nobody: 9:38pm On Apr 20, 2020
i not fit send babe school oh

you go just dey spend money, course mates go dey strafff her till she slimm
spend your papa money go school, get better work
before i look you twice
men should set standards
imagine a potential Doctor with good family background allowing one small gal out there to give him headache

undecided

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Re: Her Mother Said She Can't Marry An Ebonyi Man by adecz: 9:38pm On Apr 20, 2020
�Biafran looking down on
a Biafran & they want to get Biafra!!



Mazi KANU must hear this!!



cool

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Re: Her Mother Said She Can't Marry An Ebonyi Man by Nobody: 9:38pm On Apr 20, 2020
Spaceclenzy1:
Is one of those things.. She might still come back.. Women are jst like dat.. Dnt beat urself up too much.. Loving can never be a crime no matter the outcome.. U did all that because u love her.. She jst feel lik confirming hw it will be outside.. When she test other guys she will come back.. Don't beat urself up at all

She just feel like confirming hw it will be outside

So true.
She wants to test many waters before she decide grin
Re: Her Mother Said She Can't Marry An Ebonyi Man by chuklesley02(m): 9:38pm On Apr 20, 2020
[quote author=MARX77 post=88617485]Permit me to list out a few things

1. From the beginning of the relationship, you have probably given this girl d mindset that if she leaves u, u r done for.

2. Bro, if u use money take open relationship, ready to dey drop money... So all this your expenses here and there na u cos am. Never use money as a means to hold down a woman, they're always in need, and most of them will go for the highest bidder.

3. I don't know who needs to hear this, except the girl na ur wife, never ever let a lady influence decisions that u know can make your life better. NEVER DO THAT. Make decisions to better ur life, Bleep whatever she thinks.

4. Boss, any girl when dey look for consent to marry you don go already. Forget her...

5. You're lucky you passed your exam, you for know afa

6. I can bet my left ass that your lady has someone already promising her the moon and the stars. SHE'S GONE BRO.

MY ADVICE: Brace yourself, retrace your steps and before she drops the bombshell on you,
Break up with her in a very dope way, like stars do, no fight, no insults.

YOUR FUTURE IS BRIGHT MAN, take it from me, ON GOD.
Bros God bless u, his first mistake was using money to entice the gal and he should have seen d hand writing on the wall, when she said "My mum will not approve of me marrying from Ebonyi"

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Re: Her Mother Said She Can't Marry An Ebonyi Man by oodua1stson: 9:39pm On Apr 20, 2020
You made all these post because of a girl?



Lol
Re: Her Mother Said She Can't Marry An Ebonyi Man by Jas80: 9:39pm On Apr 20, 2020
Oga giwoni, dis ur matter don reach front page o, I greet o
Re: Her Mother Said She Can't Marry An Ebonyi Man by Viking007(m): 9:39pm On Apr 20, 2020
DominusPrime:
I'm happy you've braced up for insults. You are a really big fool not to know that you cannot train a lady through the university and she will end up with you. Only a minute number will. A whole medical student? This gullible? When in my school medical students are the most sought after you are here being fooled by a young girl.
Let me tell you what a girl told me just b4 she broke up with her bf cos of a doctor. Her mum told her that even though she's studying mls she must come back with a doctor as husband o. Cos the other girls who are marrying doctors don't have extra breast and yansh and she cannot understand why she will send her to medical school and she will say she married a radiographer...
To be honest that is the most wicked thing I've heard a mother tell her daughter about any man in the medical field irrespective of designation but that's to tell u how much doctors are sought after cos everyone knows they run out of the country once they are done. So for u to be played for a fool right from 200 level beats me. Now who is better off after you both count your losses? Of course she is cos that money you gave her could have been used to better yourself or just left in the bank to accumulate dust. Hope you've learnt your life lesson. We as men must fall mugu to get wisdom. All of us bashing you have been in this shoes but yours is by far the dumbest I've ever seen.

Wait, you even passed up an opportunity to travel out cos of her? Ah my brother whomever do you this thing no go die well...even the ladies here would laugh at your stupidity...
Seun, please we need more options than just 'Like'. Can we start sending money directly to people with intelligent comments? cheesy

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Re: Her Mother Said She Can't Marry An Ebonyi Man by Kazeemakeem(m): 9:39pm On Apr 20, 2020
Giwoni:
My Love Experience

Good day NLanders

I'm a medical student, and gf ( not sure what to call her now) is in MLS. We are both in same level (500l).

It all started in 2015, when we gained admission into the University. We began to read together and subsequently I started teaching her. Later on, she made me to read and susummarize her course topics (which I did for up to her 300 level) for her as she usually found it difficult to read with textbooks and understand the contents.

Months before my 2nd MBBS examinations, I began to notice changes in her attitude and behaviour towards me, up to the point that she told me that if I did not pass that examinations that, she will forget about me. But as God may have it, I passed successfully.

Financially, it started right in year one as I celebrated her and her mummy's Christmas from my own pocket. It got to a point that I usually give her her money almost every day (for up to 5yrs) Whenever, I'm traveling in any of our vacations, I usually give money for upkeep until I'm back.

In 300l, I bought her gift worth almost 30k and also celebrated her birthday which she demanded I get her 'point and kill cat fish' that cost 9k.

I usually pay for her textbooks and seminar work as we are all in medical school, I really do a lot for her, as she always told me she would never leave me right from yr 1 to 500l after which she started telling me, their people from Anambra will not let her marry people from Ebonyi State.

She's has known this for all her life, but decided to bring it up just now, when I'm beginning my marriage plans with her, She's started giving me unnecessary excuses in one form or the other.

In 400L, my elder brother told me that I should leave my medical school here to go and study the same medicine abroad. Because of her, I told him that I want to finish my school here since I am already in 400 level. That after my MBBS degree, I can then go abroad for my Masters degree...

This January, my elder brother told me that since I would be graduating in 2022 (which supposed to be 2021 but due to strike before the 2019 election) which is two years time, that I should be planning to get married before I leave this country.

This made me to ask her again if we are ending up together and she told me that she has to seek for her mother's consent, and would give me a feedback.

Before, she travelled (this is just before the lock down) as she was complaining that she does not have any money on her to eat and she want to go and learn how to plait hair which will cost her #8,000, I gave her #16,000. The next day after collecting the money, she told me that she received a call from her mother that she must come back to her State and she travelled with that money without learning anything.

Yesterday by 8:24pm, I called her to tell me the outcome of her mother's discussion with her. She told me that her mother insisted that she cannot marry an Ebonyi man, and she cannot go outside her mother's decision.

In conclusion, she told me that she cannot marry me.

Well, as expected, I'm bracing myself up for insults, (I really don't mind this right now) but amidst the insults, pls advice a brother who's fighting emotionally.

thanks


First love is always problem,i spend for my first love too but atlast she dint marry me,she later regreated

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Re: Her Mother Said She Can't Marry An Ebonyi Man by Janentima(f): 9:39pm On Apr 20, 2020
taven:

Okay with my left eye i can see it clearly!! Sex set awon!! Gengen grin that girl has like 100 reasons not to mrarry you even if her mother accepted you eee... Girl where you dey package con still dey Bleep her well, con still dey try join am wan take mama permission
Giwoni:
My Love Experience

Good day NLanders

I'm a medical student, and gf ( not sure what to call her now) is in MLS. We are both in same level (500l).

It all started in 2015, when we gained admission into the University. We began to read together and subsequently I started teaching her. Later on, she made me to read and susummarize her course topics (which I did for up to her 300 level) for her as she usually found it difficult to read with textbooks and understand the contents.

Months before my 2nd MBBS examinations, I began to notice changes in her attitude and behaviour towards me, up to the point that she told me that if I did not pass that examinations that, she will forget about me. But as God may have it, I passed successfully.

Financially, it started right in year one as I celebrated her and her mummy's Christmas from my own pocket. It got to a point that I usually give her her money almost every day (for up to 5yrs) Whenever, I'm traveling in any of our vacations, I usually give money for upkeep until I'm back.

In 300l, I bought her gift worth almost 30k and also celebrated her birthday which she demanded I get her 'point and kill cat fish' that cost 9k.

I usually pay for her textbooks and seminar work as we are all in medical school, I really do a lot for her, as she always told me she would never leave me right from yr 1 to 500l after which she started telling me, their people from Anambra will not let her marry people from Ebonyi State.

She's has known this for all her life, but decided to bring it up just now, when I'm beginning my marriage plans with her, She's started giving me unnecessary excuses in one form or the other.

In 400L, my elder brother told me that I should leave my medical school here to go and study the same medicine abroad. Because of her, I told him that I want to finish my school here since I am already in 400 level. That after my MBBS degree, I can then go abroad for my Masters degree...

This January, my elder brother told me that since I would be graduating in 2022 (which supposed to be 2021 but due to strike before the 2019 election) which is two years time, that I should be planning to get married before I leave this country.

This made me to ask her again if we are ending up together and she told me that she has to seek for her mother's consent, and would give me a feedback.

Before, she travelled (this is just before the lock down) as she was complaining that she does not have any money on her to eat and she want to go and learn how to plait hair which will cost her #8,000, I gave her #16,000. The next day after collecting the money, she told me that she received a call from her mother that she must come back to her State and she travelled with that money without learning anything.

Yesterday by 8:24pm, I called her to tell me the outcome of her mother's discussion with her. She told me that her mother insisted that she cannot marry an Ebonyi man, and she cannot go outside her mother's decision.

In conclusion, she told me that she cannot marry me.

Well, as expected, I'm bracing myself up for insults, (I really don't mind this right now) but amidst the insults, pls advice a brother who's fighting emotionally.

thanks. My dear that's life for u...we all have our own stories, u are not first nor will u be the last. Just see it as a blessing. Ur future is very bright
Re: Her Mother Said She Can't Marry An Ebonyi Man by mt77: 9:39pm On Apr 20, 2020
You were sent to uni to study, you decided to go and be training another person's daughter. What makes you think if she leaves you can't get s better girl to marry? Be focused and pursue snd secure your future first, you will get a better woman by all standards to marry.

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Re: Her Mother Said She Can't Marry An Ebonyi Man by madridsta007(m): 9:39pm On Apr 20, 2020
Giwoni:
My Love Experience

Good day NLanders

I'm a medical student, and gf ( not sure what to call her now) is in MLS. We are both in same level (500l).

It all started in 2015, when we gained admission into the University. We began to read together and subsequently I started teaching her. Later on, she made me to read and susummarize her course topics (which I did for up to her 300 level) for her as she usually found it difficult to read with textbooks and understand the contents.

Months before my 2nd MBBS examinations, I began to notice changes in her attitude and behaviour towards me, up to the point that she told me that if I did not pass that examinations that, she will forget about me. But as God may have it, I passed successfully.

Financially, it started right in year one as I celebrated her and her mummy's Christmas from my own pocket. It got to a point that I usually give her her money almost every day (for up to 5yrs) Whenever, I'm traveling in any of our vacations, I usually give money for upkeep until I'm back.

In 300l, I bought her gift worth almost 30k and also celebrated her birthday which she demanded I get her 'point and kill cat fish' that cost 9k.

I usually pay for her textbooks and seminar work as we are all in medical school, I really do a lot for her, as she always told me she would never leave me right from yr 1 to 500l after which she started telling me, their people from Anambra will not let her marry people from Ebonyi State.

She's has known this for all her life, but decided to bring it up just now, when I'm beginning my marriage plans with her, She's started giving me unnecessary excuses in one form or the other.

In 400L, my elder brother told me that I should leave my medical school here to go and study the same medicine abroad. Because of her, I told him that I want to finish my school here since I am already in 400 level. That after my MBBS degree, I can then go abroad for my Masters degree...

This January, my elder brother told me that since I would be graduating in 2022 (which supposed to be 2021 but due to strike before the 2019 election) which is two years time, that I should be planning to get married before I leave this country.

This made me to ask her again if we are ending up together and she told me that she has to seek for her mother's consent, and would give me a feedback.

Before, she travelled (this is just before the lock down) as she was complaining that she does not have any money on her to eat and she want to go and learn how to plait hair which will cost her #8,000, I gave her #16,000. The next day after collecting the money, she told me that she received a call from her mother that she must come back to her State and she travelled with that money without learning anything.

Yesterday by 8:24pm, I called her to tell me the outcome of her mother's discussion with her. She told me that her mother insisted that she cannot marry an Ebonyi man, and she cannot go outside her mother's decision.

In conclusion, she told me that she cannot marry me.

Well, as expected, I'm bracing myself up for insults, (I really don't mind this right now) but amidst the insults, pls advice a brother who's fighting emotionally.

thanks

Move on. Try to focus on your exams and finish it well.
It was foolish to support a lady during her studies, unless you are at least traditionally married her.
Very foolish. We’ve said this over and over again. Men never like to hear word.

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Re: Her Mother Said She Can't Marry An Ebonyi Man by Rhozabeth(m): 9:40pm On Apr 20, 2020
Bros, you have apparently been used. It is one of those things. I will strongly advise you to channel your energies towards graduating first. Then stop wasting your time and resources on someone that will not become anything for in future! I wish you the best!

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Re: Her Mother Said She Can't Marry An Ebonyi Man by Happyguy201: 9:40pm On Apr 20, 2020
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Re: Her Mother Said She Can't Marry An Ebonyi Man by callmeRichie(m): 9:40pm On Apr 20, 2020
[quote author=Giwoni post=88616841][b]

that's why I tell people, love is not enough!! you've to use your brain in a relationship!!!

seriously you really pissed me off bro aswear!!!
please how old are you cuz I'm not sure you are grown up at all!!!

why will you shoulder a responsibility that doesn't concern you since when did you became her father you spent for a lady and she friend zone you without ur knowledge!! menh you bleeped up bro


2. I think I smell low self esteem here too, maybe u think u ain't good looking enough and if she left you, you might find it difficult to get married or something. well only you know.

3. so you left your carrier for a lady? you are joking! an opportunity thousands of ppu are waiting for. it's like you don't know what's most important is your valuability?? if u make ursef valuable thousands of ladies will b on que for u!!!


MY ADVICE: don't ever beg her! I repeat never!!! don't stoop so low for this.
pursue your carrier first, cuz this is your life here. move out of the country, thousands of stable, independent ladies are there waiting for you!

So cut all ties with her, and make her regret! let her cry for you and never TAKE HER BACK!!!

wait sef I hope u bleeped her lol

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Re: Her Mother Said She Can't Marry An Ebonyi Man by BreconHills(m): 9:40pm On Apr 20, 2020
missimelda01:


Is sex the only thing your mom offered your dad? Please I'm not having this conversation with you, the person I asked the question has answered.

Certainly in Africa we know not to bring parents into arguments and not to score points with them. He made a sweeping and insulting generalization which should have been taken on, but no more than that.

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Re: Her Mother Said She Can't Marry An Ebonyi Man by pek(m): 9:40pm On Apr 20, 2020
missimelda01:
You only told us the things you did for her, what of the things she did for you?


Could you please tell us, in your opinion, what she could have done for him.
Re: Her Mother Said She Can't Marry An Ebonyi Man by 4gunners(m): 9:40pm On Apr 20, 2020
RonaldoVido:


Many Mother's have ruined the marriages of their children or to be children in-laws.

They will always want to lie with God's name. God said, God said, pastor said, prophecy said.

They are all lies. The woman is just trying to manipulate either her daughter or her son to have her WAY or SAY in the marriage.

Any man who conquers the foolish influences of women has conquered the world.

Why didn't Jesus marry ?
I hate the bolded passionately. Cos of ur boobs and ass, I should be under ur beck and call. Never!!!

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Re: Her Mother Said She Can't Marry An Ebonyi Man by Nobody: 9:41pm On Apr 20, 2020
And the circle continues. Men will never learn from others experience. Never date a student. At that stage they are confused and don't really know what they want. Theyll only date you either to feel among the boyfriend "owners" or use you to sponsor their education.

You would have seen those red flags but closed your eyes to it thinking with all your kind gesture towards her, she'll consider you. Right? Now see the end results.

My only advice is you should pick up your pieces and move on. Forget all that m"my mother told me" baldadash. She never really loved or wanted to marry you.

Many will still fall victim after reading this.
They never learn.

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Re: Her Mother Said She Can't Marry An Ebonyi Man by buzorcharles(m): 9:41pm On Apr 20, 2020
In this end time that you are paying your girlfriend school fee and sustainably bills? Guy go hang urself if u are really pained by her act
Re: Her Mother Said She Can't Marry An Ebonyi Man by Samakus(m): 9:41pm On Apr 20, 2020
The easiest way to lose agirl is showing her that you're afraid of losing her.

Liliantalks, shey you have seen that spending lavishly on a girl doesn't keep a leech! Imagine how much this mugu has wasted on a leech. If he had used that money to purchase a piece of land or two, by now, it would have appreciated and become a good investment for him


I will never be a maga for any lady! Let me continue being Mr Stingy that I am for my future wife and family to enjoy.

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Re: Her Mother Said She Can't Marry An Ebonyi Man by Ejiod(m): 9:42pm On Apr 20, 2020
Mistakes men make when they Fall in love.
Dating a broke gal is waste of time and money.
The true nature of a woman comes out once she has money.

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Re: Her Mother Said She Can't Marry An Ebonyi Man by LEBEfirstson: 9:42pm On Apr 20, 2020
YOU KNACK HER? if not, you are a damn LOOOOOOOSSSSEEEERRRRR!!!
Re: Her Mother Said She Can't Marry An Ebonyi Man by DavidEsq(m): 9:42pm On Apr 20, 2020
DominusPrime:
I'm happy you've braced up for insults. You are a really big fool not to know that you cannot train a lady through the university and she will end up with you. Only a minute number will. A whole medical student? This gullible? When in my school medical students are the most sought after you are here being fooled by a young girl.
Let me tell you what a girl told me just b4 she broke up with her bf cos of a doctor. Her mum told her that even though she's studying mls she must come back with a doctor as husband o. Cos the other girls who are marrying doctors don't have extra breast and yansh and she cannot understand why she will send her to medical school and she will say she married a radiographer...
To be honest that is the most wicked thing I've heard a mother tell her daughter about any man in the medical field irrespective of designation but that's to tell u how much doctors are sought after cos everyone knows they run out of the country once they are done. So for u to be played for a fool right from 200 level beats me. Now who is better off after you both count your losses? Of course she is cos that money you gave her could have been used to better yourself or just left in the bank to accumulate dust. Hope you've learnt your life lesson. We as men must fall mugu to get wisdom. All of us bashing you have been in this shoes but yours is by far the dumbest I've ever seen.

Wait, you even passed up an opportunity to travel out cos of her? Ah my brother whomever do you this thing no go die well..even the ladies here would laugh at your stupidity...
grin angry grin grin
Re: Her Mother Said She Can't Marry An Ebonyi Man by Viking007(m): 9:43pm On Apr 20, 2020
Sam119:
OP if she is really into u, she will fight to break protocols and any cultural ish just to be with u for life.
Bro, let her be and focus on ur goals in life to be a better person. But if she comes back tomorrow and u decide to take her back, then ur village people is using ur head to play draft, trust me.
Bro Code: Never be a standby Gen. when ever NEPA light is gone. cool
Some idiôts willingly offer to be a standby generator o! I almost became one before the jazz comort from my eyes. cheesy

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Re: Her Mother Said She Can't Marry An Ebonyi Man by olawale1516(m): 9:43pm On Apr 20, 2020
From what I see or observe from your message the girl is using u cash out big time..you wey get future I no think one mumu girl should be bordering you.
Re: Her Mother Said She Can't Marry An Ebonyi Man by Kazeemakeem(m): 9:43pm On Apr 20, 2020
Giwoni:
My Love Experience

Good day NLanders

I'm a medical student, and gf ( not sure what to call her now) is in MLS. We are both in same level (500l).

It all started in 2015, when we gained admission into the University. We began to read together and subsequently I started teaching her. Later on, she made me to read and susummarize her course topics (which I did for up to her 300 level) for her as she usually found it difficult to read with textbooks and understand the contents.

Months before my 2nd MBBS examinations, I began to notice changes in her attitude and behaviour towards me, up to the point that she told me that if I did not pass that examinations that, she will forget about me. But as God may have it, I passed successfully.

Financially, it started right in year one as I celebrated her and her mummy's Christmas from my own pocket. It got to a point that I usually give her her money almost every day (for up to 5yrs) Whenever, I'm traveling in any of our vacations, I usually give money for upkeep until I'm back.

In 300l, I bought her gift worth almost 30k and also celebrated her birthday which she demanded I get her 'point and kill cat fish' that cost 9k.

I usually pay for her textbooks and seminar work as we are all in medical school, I really do a lot for her, as she always told me she would never leave me right from yr 1 to 500l after which she started telling me, their people from Anambra will not let her marry people from Ebonyi State.

She's has known this for all her life, but decided to bring it up just now, when I'm beginning my marriage plans with her, She's started giving me unnecessary excuses in one form or the other.

In 400L, my elder brother told me that I should leave my medical school here to go and study the same medicine abroad. Because of her, I told him that I want to finish my school here since I am already in 400 level. That after my MBBS degree, I can then go abroad for my Masters degree...

This January, my elder brother told me that since I would be graduating in 2022 (which supposed to be 2021 but due to strike before the 2019 election) which is two years time, that I should be planning to get married before I leave this country.

This made me to ask her again if we are ending up together and she told me that she has to seek for her mother's consent, and would give me a feedback.

Before, she travelled (this is just before the lock down) as she was complaining that she does not have any money on her to eat and she want to go and learn how to plait hair which will cost her #8,000, I gave her #16,000. The next day after collecting the money, she told me that she received a call from her mother that she must come back to her State and she travelled with that money without learning anything.

Yesterday by 8:24pm, I called her to tell me the outcome of her mother's discussion with her. She told me that her mother insisted that she cannot marry an Ebonyi man, and she cannot go outside her mother's decision.

In conclusion, she told me that she cannot marry me.

Well, as expected, I'm bracing myself up for insults, (I really don't mind this right now) but amidst the insults, pls advice a brother who's fighting emotionally.

thanks


I can train a female i have not married in school,most of them are always ungratreful

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Re: Her Mother Said She Can't Marry An Ebonyi Man by VBCampaign: 9:43pm On Apr 20, 2020
Gentleman, you have a great Future ahead of you. Forget this lady, pursue your medical career and you'll have whatever else you want, including the person you wish to marry, at your beck and call.

Second, it is not by force you marry before travelling out. In fact it is better you don't. Reach me inbox if you feel you need more counseling.

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