Issue of love here on nairaland is too complicated. Anyway, I feel your pain sha but in everything, give thanks to God because she is not ur wife. Move ahead with life because you have a brighter future than her. Though is very painful but as far as you re the a man, hold urself and move ahead. This show that you re beginning to know the different between men and boys. Heartbroken are part of journey to become a man. Good luck.

Spaceclenzy1:
Is one of those things.. She might still come back.. Women are jst like dat.. Dnt beat urself up too much.. Loving can never be a crime no matter the outcome.. U did all that because u love her.. She jst feel lik confirming hw it will be outside.. When she test other guys she will come back.. Don't beat urself up at all

He did it because he thought he could buy love not because he thought he loved her. They are two different things

IloveToMess:

Shatap Anambra dont do that shiit to Imolites. Remove Imo staate. We even reject them in Imo because of what we hear they do to their first wives based on money ritual levels.
Imo men dont marry outside Imo state.

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Giwoni:
My Love Experience

Good day NLanders

I'm a medical student, and gf ( not sure what to call her now) is in MLS. We are both in same level (500l).

It all started in 2015, when we gained admission into the University. We began to read together and subsequently I started teaching her. Later on, she made me to read and susummarize her course topics (which I did for up to her 300 level) for her as she usually found it difficult to read with textbooks and understand the contents.

Months before my 2nd MBBS examinations, I began to notice changes in her attitude and behaviour towards me, up to the point that she told me that if I did not pass that examinations that, she will forget about me. But as God may have it, I passed successfully.

Financially, it started right in year one as I celebrated her and her mummy's Christmas from my own pocket. It got to a point that I usually give her her money almost every day (for up to 5yrs) Whenever, I'm traveling in any of our vacations, I usually give money for upkeep until I'm back.

In 300l, I bought her gift worth almost 30k and also celebrated her birthday which she demanded I get her 'point and kill cat fish' that cost 9k.

I usually pay for her textbooks and seminar work as we are all in medical school, I really do a lot for her, as she always told me she would never leave me right from yr 1 to 500l after which she started telling me, their people from Anambra will not let her marry people from Ebonyi State.

She's has known this for all her life, but decided to bring it up just now, when I'm beginning my marriage plans with her, She's started giving me unnecessary excuses in one form or the other.

In 400L, my elder brother told me that I should leave my medical school here to go and study the same medicine abroad. Because of her, I told him that I want to finish my school here since I am already in 400 level. That after my MBBS degree, I can then go abroad for my Masters degree...

This January, my elder brother told me that since I would be graduating in 2022 (which supposed to be 2021 but due to strike before the 2019 election) which is two years time, that I should be planning to get married before I leave this country.

This made me to ask her again if we are ending up together and she told me that she has to seek for her mother's consent, and would give me a feedback.

Before, she travelled (this is just before the lock down) as she was complaining that she does not have any money on her to eat and she want to go and learn how to plait hair which will cost her #8,000, I gave her #16,000. The next day after collecting the money, she told me that she received a call from her mother that she must come back to her State and she travelled with that money without learning anything.

Yesterday by 8:24pm, I called her to tell me the outcome of her mother's discussion with her. She told me that her mother insisted that she cannot marry an Ebonyi man, and she cannot go outside her mother's decision.

In conclusion, she told me that she cannot marry me.

Well, as expected, I'm bracing myself up for insults, (I really don't mind this right now) but amidst the insults, pls advice a brother who's fighting emotionally.

thanks

She use you cash out..

Choi Fear woman..

Whenever the excitement about marriage is one sided, abort mission.
You won't say you didn't see the handwriting on the wall, you foolishly didn't wanna read it.
You are lucky you haven't married and taken her abroad.

Bros, go find another woman, the girl doesn't like you as you mumu too much. How can you as a student be taking care of another student just because of stupid love?
Ebonyi people used to be deadly, this i know too well. Just leave the girl and walker pass..

Some men really mumu o. What the fvck, OP

Na so. Lesson 195 in life. Move onto next module.

missimelda01:


Is sex the only thing your mom offered your dad? Please I'm not having this conversation with you, the person I asked the question has answered.

Fvvk what a damn comeback damnn

Na God catch you....when we tell you not to love,you will all said love is sweet when you meet the right person....he don finish eye don clear!

Chi59:

You should update your knowledge of the issue because your knowledge is outdated.

It seems you are from Ebonyi or Abia, i get why you want to include IMO by fire by force.

Giwoni:
My Love Experience

Good day NLanders

I'm a medical student, and gf ( not sure what to call her now) is in MLS. We are both in same level (500l).

It all started in 2015, when we gained admission into the University. We began to read together and subsequently I started teaching her. Later on, she made me to read and susummarize her course topics (which I did for up to her 300 level) for her as she usually found it difficult to read with textbooks and understand the contents.

Months before my 2nd MBBS examinations, I began to notice changes in her attitude and behaviour towards me, up to the point that she told me that if I did not pass that examinations that, she will forget about me. But as God may have it, I passed successfully.

Financially, it started right in year one as I celebrated her and her mummy's Christmas from my own pocket. It got to a point that I usually give her her money almost every day (for up to 5yrs) Whenever, I'm traveling in any of our vacations, I usually give money for upkeep until I'm back.

In 300l, I bought her gift worth almost 30k and also celebrated her birthday which she demanded I get her 'point and kill cat fish' that cost 9k.

I usually pay for her textbooks and seminar work as we are all in medical school, I really do a lot for her, as she always told me she would never leave me right from yr 1 to 500l after which she started telling me, their people from Anambra will not let her marry people from Ebonyi State.

She's has known this for all her life, but decided to bring it up just now, when I'm beginning my marriage plans with her, She's started giving me unnecessary excuses in one form or the other.

In 400L, my elder brother told me that I should leave my medical school here to go and study the same medicine abroad. Because of her, I told him that I want to finish my school here since I am already in 400 level. That after my MBBS degree, I can then go abroad for my Masters degree...

This January, my elder brother told me that since I would be graduating in 2022 (which supposed to be 2021 but due to strike before the 2019 election) which is two years time, that I should be planning to get married before I leave this country.

This made me to ask her again if we are ending up together and she told me that she has to seek for her mother's consent, and would give me a feedback.

Before, she travelled (this is just before the lock down) as she was complaining that she does not have any money on her to eat and she want to go and learn how to plait hair which will cost her #8,000, I gave her #16,000. The next day after collecting the money, she told me that she received a call from her mother that she must come back to her State and she travelled with that money without learning anything.

Yesterday by 8:24pm, I called her to tell me the outcome of her mother's discussion with her. She told me that her mother insisted that she cannot marry an Ebonyi man, and she cannot go outside her mother's decision.

In conclusion, she told me that she cannot marry me.

Well, as expected, I'm bracing myself up for insults, (I really don't mind this right now) but amidst the insults, pls advice a brother who's fighting emotionally.

thanks

she's confused. It's all her loss. Finish your studies and go and abroad you have a very sure future which she could have benefitted from but foolishly, out of youthful exuberance decides to leave and chase shadows

Giwoni:
My Love Experience

Good day NLanders

I'm a medical student, and gf ( not sure what to call her now) is in MLS. We are both in same level (500l).

It all started in 2015, when we gained admission into the University. We began to read together and subsequently I started teaching her. Later on, she made me to read and susummarize her course topics (which I did for up to her 300 level) for her as she usually found it difficult to read with textbooks and understand the contents.

Months before my 2nd MBBS examinations, I began to notice changes in her attitude and behaviour towards me, up to the point that she told me that if I did not pass that examinations that, she will forget about me. But as God may have it, I passed successfully.

Financially, it started right in year one as I celebrated her and her mummy's Christmas from my own pocket. It got to a point that I usually give her her money almost every day (for up to 5yrs) Whenever, I'm traveling in any of our vacations, I usually give money for upkeep until I'm back.

In 300l, I bought her gift worth almost 30k and also celebrated her birthday which she demanded I get her 'point and kill cat fish' that cost 9k.

I usually pay for her textbooks and seminar work as we are all in medical school, I really do a lot for her, as she always told me she would never leave me right from yr 1 to 500l after which she started telling me, their people from Anambra will not let her marry people from Ebonyi State.

She's has known this for all her life, but decided to bring it up just now, when I'm beginning my marriage plans with her, She's started giving me unnecessary excuses in one form or the other.

In 400L, my elder brother told me that I should leave my medical school here to go and study the same medicine abroad. Because of her, I told him that I want to finish my school here since I am already in 400 level. That after my MBBS degree, I can then go abroad for my Masters degree...

This January, my elder brother told me that since I would be graduating in 2022 (which supposed to be 2021 but due to strike before the 2019 election) which is two years time, that I should be planning to get married before I leave this country.

This made me to ask her again if we are ending up together and she told me that she has to seek for her mother's consent, and would give me a feedback.

Before, she travelled (this is just before the lock down) as she was complaining that she does not have any money on her to eat and she want to go and learn how to plait hair which will cost her #8,000, I gave her #16,000. The next day after collecting the money, she told me that she received a call from her mother that she must come back to her State and she travelled with that money without learning anything.

Yesterday by 8:24pm, I called her to tell me the outcome of her mother's discussion with her. She told me that her mother insisted that she cannot marry an Ebonyi man, and she cannot go outside her mother's decision.

In conclusion, she told me that she cannot marry me.

Well, as expected, I'm bracing myself up for insults, (I really don't mind this right now) but amidst the insults, pls advice a brother who's fighting emotionally.

thanks

My dear, you are such a wonderful person and a humble guy, keep it up

I want you to understand one thing, you know people from Ebonyi are always underrated and you know why it's so, let make it a topic for another day

I was glad to read your post as you are from Ebonyi state, that's a good one form an intelligent amd brilliant person

As for your girl friend, she has been using your head since day one of rhis relationship and he took your simplicity and gentility for being stupid and being a fool

Now I want you to brace up and man up yourself

Pls and pls forget about her and move on
From your write up, you may end up with a bitter marriage with her or her puppet and must dance to the tune of her dictate

There are wonderful girls out there looking for a caring man like you to build walls around

I know as a medical student, you want to marry a fellow profession but you can always get that in your field

Don't think about her, she is in her own lane and you will keep on be disturbing yourself if you keep on waiting for her approval and even when that approval will come, it will come with a condition that before she can marry you, you guys ha e to relocate to over seas

Relax yourself and move on, stopping disturbing her and stop taking care of her

You have done enough for her and let her go with that, you will get another one and she will get her match

As for your brother, don't allow him to put you under pressure for marriage, you area still young and lack some experience of marriage, get a job or relocate and further your studies as you grow you understand the nitty gritty of marriage

Your profession makes you unavailable at home all the time and you need a woman that will understand you so that she can take care of the home front even if she is a doctor

Time will cone she will look for you and by then you will tell her you have found someone else and won't risk leaving her for anybody

She is forming because she is into medicals and hope to get a big fish that will take care if her and hers not a bigginer like you

Pls relax and fashion away of dropping her gradually without being hurt

Even the money you do give her, reduce it


*She can't be rejecting to eat dog meat yet she wants to share the meat with her teeth*

Chi59:

Are you done?

Imo women ARE too choosy to be ignored. A lot of men from Anambra have Imo wives and vice versa.

My friend! Who does that now? After all these true life stories & you still fall victim because of blind love.

This is no news ok? You fetched insects infected fire wood so you should expect lizard ok?
No man staying away from rivers or pools ever get drawn you know?

But never mind! There is law of karma ok?

Normal Anambra behaviour, they are very stereotyped about other states and don't marry from other Eastern states. Most not all...hopefully.

Very uncivilized peeps. Sorry for your loss and heart break, move on!

Cock and bull.

IloveToMess:

It seems you are from Ebonyi or Abia, i get why you want to include IMO by fire by force.

Not at all. I'm from Imo state

missimelda01:
You only told us the things you did for her, what of the things she did for you?
Did you notice at any point in the relationship that she was acting uninterested?
Marriage is a huge step, did you both have marriage in view while dating?
Parents have huge influence on some people, maybe she's one of them.

In conclusion, it's not advisable to convince someone to marry you.. move on with your life, you'd find someone else who'll feel the same way about you.

you lots will always device means to side ur likes,by trying to shift the goal post and playing the blame games, this is someone that has just been emotionally jilted an all u could do is to ask silly questions.... What else can she do for her order than sex which she does at her own volition

missimelda01:
You only told us the things you did for her, what of the things she did for you?
Did you notice at any point in the relationship that she was acting uninterested?
Marriage is a huge step, did you both have marriage in view while dating?
Parents have huge influence on some people, maybe she's one of them.

In conclusion, it's not advisable to convince someone to marry you.. move on with your life, you'd find someone else who'll feel the same way about you.

My guy na true talk oo. You know say i no reason am sef. How abt the things she did for you

Alwaysachick:
Normal Anambra behaviour, they are very stereotyped about other states and don't marry from other Eastern states. Most not all...hopefully.

Very uncivilized peeps. Sorry for your loss and heart break, move on!

I dont have issue with that myself because i as an Imo man will not marry from outside Imo state. I cant leave those beauties and brains to go seek wife elsewhere. So its a thing of choice, no hard feelings.

Op sorry, she has allready gotten somebody from her place who is allready comfortable hence her action.

Most Nigerian ladies has fish brain and do not want to build up their life with a man who is not settled. You only wasted your money taking care of her !cus she is from a poor home.

you have nothing to loose cus you read good course. Just years to come she will regret her action and be looking for you, but that will be too late.

Chi59:

Not at all. I'm from Imo state

I knew you would say that. But i know you are from Abia.

Well i really gotten nothing much 2 say @ op enuf advice has been given out already and all seems spot on but i will say one thing never let a lady call the shot in ur r/ship or treat you as if without her you are gone....

Let me tell u a story A lady once told how she lost her supposed suitor a well to do man that was even into importation travelling outside the country this said man in each of his travels do come bck with gift for her which she always collect [babes like collecting 9va 4get that] they became best of frnd, the guy was nursing the intention of marrying her but was taking everyth gradually, one faithful day they both went out, the stylishly ask her questn bothering on marriage, her preferred state to married to, the mumu open mouth begin yan nonsense she said a lot of no good thing about ebonyi state that she can never marry a man 4rm there esp Abakaliki, guy was left hrtbroken because he happened to be 4rm there as well. After that day the guy withdraw 4rm her 100% that she even start getting worried why the silence she leta got to know the guy is 4rm Ebonyi, [the mumu gal never marry ooo 33yrs and counting ]

To those asking why ladies turn ebonyi men down as regards marriage. A good number of ladies cum mothers believe that ebonyi men dnt take care of thier women but in the end bad ppl full everywhere..

Giwoni:
I think the influence is majorly from her female friends

Let me tell you one thing, every man experienced the same thing you experienced in their own way.

Women are deadly creatures... you will get the best among them by you becoming a part-demon, part-angel.

In all, God is the giver of every good and perfect gift.

1.Well it's start with your mindset,from giving her money this way to looking desperate even if you meant something in the beginning you are basically nothing now.
2. People in love don't sick advice even if they hear the advice the do what's on theirmind if they suspect fowl play they turn a blind eye and continue
3. The earlier the better it seems you have not experienced what love is if you have you will know this doesn't come close a girl with conscience won't swallow your money like this or ask you for too much she may ask but will be considerate. This one is a heartless gold digger. She is eyeing some fatter pockets.
In all run away, try to ask your niggas what it means for a girl to be in love go to a nigga you know has the experience or open the thread or ask some ladies, you can ask your mom start educating yourself relationship wise it's not all about book. The lady is not in love with you, haven't you heard love is blind all decisions for love non against when it exist, if you are one of the no sex guy this girl probably cheated on you with a magic wand and considering you are a book warm is ready to let go of your money as you will never satisfy her in bed. But op you mean since year 2 you did birthday for the mom and she is doing this behind you if this is true even the mother is a heartless gold digger, daughter will be worse trust me you don't want to leave in a home with this so called girlfriend, if you are not planning to marry while dating you are preparing for a heartbreak she was prepared since, this is so sad, I can see you are all book start talking to matured niggas ladies your mom about relationships.

Bush2013:
Someone told you that if you fail your 2nd Mbbs exam she will leave you and you passed and continued with her

my penis Wil never rise in front of a woman that said that to me. My ego is way too huge for that kind of talk from a woman.

Bro, it is very clear that u guys are not meant to be. Listen, everyone on earth has a special life partner specifically created for him or her. The greatest mistake any man will make in this life is to marry a lady meant for another man, u will never find peace in such a marriage. It is only God that can direct u to your real prospective wife, so go to God in prayer, and he will guide your heart. If I tell u how I met my beautiful wife, u will marvel. And today, I am a fulfilled and happiest man on earth.

at a point in time, everbody make mistakes and I'm sure u've realised how gullible you are, try to be careful next time, and I'm sure ion need to tell you dat dat gal is gone forever, she can never marry you....You should have travelled outta d country when u had d opportunity, u fvcked up bro, maybe u never had anyone to advise you Sha.