Omar09:


Still you have to move on. You don't want such bad energy around your son.

Exactly dear... Thanks

ProfDview1:




Lamanii22 coman see what ur future daughter did to a man oo

Omar09 can u see now? If it was a guy, they will be abusing him?

My sister story in the first place was not to blame a gender... But you're quick to do it... I won't be behind wickedness...

chai some other guys are banging that babe now... wait oo.. u sure that boy is yours?

nairaland94:
You mean you're a lecturer in a federal institution?
Anyway, your decision isn't wrong since she's the one that left on her own.

Shocked as well.

Kingarthur21:
have you called him out for being a single father and having unprotected sex?if it were a lady will you not reduce and belittle her for having a kid after marriage? Why have you not blamed op for being the cause of his problem?

I did not blame him cause later he married her and he wanted to have a family. There 1 in every five guys who gets their girlfriend pregnant and would own up to the pregnancy. I say this girl got lucky and somehow those guys get matched up with girls who ruin them. I didn't blame him cause he took responsibility of his misdoing and tried to make it right and not making himself look like the victim here.


I don't have anything against SM in fact I don't hate them as you reiterated in the other threads, and also I don't like them, I'm just indifferent with them. Why am I indifferent with them, cause the mistake they made which is very avoidable could repeat itself because of how they view themselves. Another reason is, they're never parted with their baby daddy. And the last point is, one who is not capable of making the right life changing decisions could ruin your life.

You have grow a thick skin. Obviously she is no good at all. Just concentrate on your son. God help you

Omar09:


I did not blame him cause later he married her and he wanted to have a family. There 1 in every five guys who gets their girlfriend pregnant and would own up to the pregnancy. I say this girl got lucky and somehow those guys get matched up with girls who ruin them. I didn't blame him cause he took responsibility of his misdoing and tried to make it right and not making himself look like the victim here.

your attack on SM have nothing to do with them claiming victkms. If they breathe or say anything you attack.if they share their breakthrough story you statt reminding them of their past and how they should have closed their leg. Even when they havent claimed victims you all pounce on them with blame,shame and even making derogatory statements about them.

I don't have anything against SM in fact I don't hate them as you reiterated in the other threads, and also I don't like them, I'm just indifferent with them. Why am I indifferent with them, cause the mistake they made which is very avoidable could repeat itself because of how they view themselves. Another reason is, they're never parted with their baby daddy. And the last point is, one who is not capable of making the right life changing decisions could ruin your life.

How do they view themselves? You want them to view themselves as failure or not worthwhile. You feel they are less of women and they should cower in shame,you dont believe they have rights like non single mothers. They never parted with their baby daddy?so single dads who you have no issue with dont communicate with their baby mama?
If they feel bad you claim they are playing victim. If they feel good you claim they are feelingnlike heroes,so how should they feel?suggest how they should feel and behave.

Yes i agree with your last point,making poor decisions. How will you compare the decisions a naive lady will make at the age 16 or 17 to that she will make with in her late twenties?werent you once a simp?why dont you doubt your abilities of making good decisions presently?

Dont get me wrong,everyone has the choice on who to marry,they are some ladies i can never get close to,infact i can not marry a single mother WHOSE CHILD IS NOT MINE...but i dont go about demoralising them or blaming or calling them names. I was not there when they got pregnant,i dont know the circumstances surrounding it so i dont give rash comments on them..
Lets not derail this thread,kindly quote me on the other thread

Most of these girls manipulate you with ever ready psleeve that you fail to see or ignore the red flags ..

drmikeadams:
. Y men dey always ignore red flags till d flag turns reddish red?

Lamanii22:
Just take care of your son alright.. Let her be...

1. You are the cause of your own problem. A young lady was sent to write her WAEC, instead of you inspiring her to succeed, you were busy giving her A1 Doggy
2. Girl wey never write WAEC, she don dey get bele wetin she go do if she enter University? She go become Sarah na, mother of all nations



Dammit

LadySarah:
Hmm.
You aren't wrong. Take care of the baby yourself oo.

emperorsversion: 6:01pm
chai some other guys are banging that babe now... wait oo.. u sure that boy is yours?



Chaii!!! This is corrosive

missimelda01:
Only two months and you've impregnated her

If you must have sex just 2 months into the relationship, why not with protections? That would have saved you all this headache.
When they say build a good friendship first to know the person you're going into the relationship with, they won't hear... The deed has already been done, take care of your child and forget the lady, her head still dey outside.

But Mr lecturer your english no try

her head still dey outside..... Hmmmmmmm

you did well but never take her back.


I am 100% sure she will try to come back.


taking a hoe back most of the time ends in regrets

Erediauwa:
Dear ancestors,


Why can't you peacefully drop your own glorious advice without mentioning me?
You had to use derogatory remarks while trying to prove yourself, it really shows how matured you are.


Cc; dominique, Mynd44, lalasticlala, I hope you guys won't turn a blind eye to this?

And that is why u should be detailed and apply common sense when giving advice.

Ibechris2:



And that is why u should be detailed and apply common sense when giving advice.

Give your own advice and stop quoting me.


You're now acting like the sick and stupid one by quoting me...


By the way, you're one bloody hypocrite here,this is you giving a very heartless advise to someone moments ago.

op you are the caused of your problems. Learn how to take responsibilities of your problems n stop disturbing us.

Things are happening.

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Yes ooo

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She is heartless for leaving her son I can't imagine going to dump my son for his father even with all what I'm going through. Pele op move on shogbo it is well

Celebrate Ur freedom. She is not meant to be in the picture.

I still find it hard to believe that some people (guys) cant actually get themselves to do the "withdrawal method"

The creative writers are back. I guess member participation went down, hence someone getting contracted to cook up a new story.

This Op no get sense. When the girl papa wey Sire her already give you first hand info say his daughter no be someone to marry, yet you went ahead, are you telling me you know more than her father?. Some men and foolishness are inseparable

No be una say una go taste wetin una wan buy? And you tasted!

No be una say she must be sexually compatible? And you were!

No be una say if you no Bleep am before marriage naim be say another guy dey do am? This particular one will block your reasonings. Imagine her father telling you the truth but the anticipated free or cheap toto has infected your mind and brain with COVID-1917

Any lady or guy that says, accepts or thinks along those lines above is sold out to adultery in the future. Today's infidelity and divorce rate has the foundation from the above new world thinking.

What the world calls wisdom is utter foolishness!

I know some unpaid lawyers will come for me. It doesn't change that reality. ... I dey!

drmikeadams:
; D. When e clear they come to nairaland to weep

Do you really want to tell me you believe all these tales by moonlight stuff here?

yahaya2014:
Nairalanders,

Here is my story.

I met this girl while teaching in a secondary school. She came to write Waec in the school. That was how we met and started seeing each other. She was so in love with me, that she had to chase away the lady I was dating then because of her frequent presence in my house. She virtually spent nights in my place.

Two months after the relationship, she got pregnant as at that time I got a job with a bank for six month. We resolved to keep the pregnancy.

After three months, the bank terminated the job. I came back home. Remember during this period, my family never liked her.

But due to the pregnancy, my Dad had to accept her and went to meet the father. Only for the father to say the daughter isn't someone to marry. But if we insist. No problem.

During the period of her pregnancy, there are challenges and suffering. There was a night she almost died in my house because she was feeling bad that I am leaving her to my place of work (the bank job). We rushed her to the hospital and resuscitated her.

To cut the long story short. I got a federal job as a lecturer. Brought her and child over to my place against the decision of my family, because my conscience couldn't let me abandon her.

One year of her staying, she started acting and committing all sort of things like stealing and nagging. She went home two times on trivial issues.

The last one was surprising to me as we were fine. She was working in one private school because I promise to get her what to do.
The day I gave her my phone, our problem started. She started acting and saying that she wants to leave. That she is not happy.
I now told her to keep my son for me and she didn't object because I had no intention of taking him along.

She will answering calls from guys. She will ran out if her fone is ringing.

I now concluded to give her money to go after series of begging her to stay because of the child. I called her parents and brothers. But she was adamant. She left and never went home but went straight to another place.

She is there sleeping with men and all.
But I have cut her off from myself and the child.

Hope my decision is not wrong?

Nope you are not wrong you did well.

But your English no be here ooo

This people are strange OK

yahaya2014:
Nairalanders,

Here is my story.

I met this girl while teaching in a secondary school. She came to write Waec in the school. That was how we met and started seeing each other. She was so in love with me, that she had to chase away the lady I was dating then because of her frequent presence in my house. She virtually spent
nights in my place.

Two months after the relationship, she got pregnant as at that time I got a job with a bank for six month. We resolved to keep the pregnancy.

After three months, the bank terminated the job. I came back home. Remember during this period, my family never liked her.

But due to the pregnancy, my Dad had to accept her and went to meet the father. Only for the father to say the daughter isn't someone to marry. But if we insist. No problem.

During the period of her pregnancy, there are challenges and suffering. There was a night she almost died in my house because she was feeling bad that I am leaving her to my place of work (the bank job). We rushed her to the hospital and resuscitated her.

To cut the long story short. I got a federal job as a lecturer. Brought her and child over to my place against the decision of my family, because my conscience couldn't let me abandon her.

One year of her staying, she started acting and committing all sort of things like stealing and nagging. She went home two times on trivial issues.

The last one was surprising to me as we were fine. She was working in one private school because I promise to get her what to do.
The day I gave her my phone, our problem started. She started acting and saying that she wants to leave. That she is not happy.
I now told her to keep my son for me and she didn't object because I had no intention of taking him along.

She will answering calls from guys. She will ran out if her fone is ringing.

I now concluded to give her money to go after series of begging her to stay because of the child. I called her parents and brothers. But she was adamant. She left and never went home but went straight to another place.

She is there sleeping with men and all.
But I have cut her off from myself and the child.

Hope my decision is not wrong?

You are even seeking validations for your action..? Let her go Joor women weh full everywhere?