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She might not be cheating...look before you leap

mechanics:
You don't just generalise.

Yes but just be objective. That's what I mean.

wura2u:
How can one do this? Pls show me the method na.

Please check out whatsapp web hack on YouTube.

karnap:
how does this work, I need it.

Search WhatsApp web hack on YouTube.

Pravedk:
I used this method some weeks back, best decision i did. Mama was banging a guy she keeps telling me was just a friend from work

So sorry about that.

zedegit:
Yes but just be objective. That's what I mean.

I am, you take it or leave it, my suggestion is never binding on him to abide.

Don't worry yourself,that man na her unculu....as in uncle,na money she just the collect from him and the man just de enjoy touching only.

fredopareto:
relax bro..track her closely and don't make her suspicious.. U will caught her red handed ..dis is wat I called play along..I ve help my mummy to caught my dad with dis logic..it might take time..BT it worth it

Guy u be bad nigger...how you follow mumsy koboo popsy.

OdefaGirl:
Add beards to the picture...... I'll recognize you full time...

here it is....

Boss13:
I had initially thought this story was part of Nairaland gimmicks and had a change of mind when you responded. I have also extensively read the comments here from women and simps.

Chief - your wife is cheating on you and the evidence is there. While some chaps here have provided brilliant tech-savvy ways to obtain evidence, I would say you already have the evidence you need. You do not need to read certain things that may cause emotional distraught to you. You are a man and the leader of your house. You have to take charge now because women are children with breasts.

Call your wife, sit her down. Do not shout at her, do not raise your voice, be firm and stern. Tell her you went through her phone (she may be embarrassed and want to defend herself). Tell her you are her partner and there is absolutely nothing wrong in going through her phone. Don't use the word Husband (so she doesn't feel subservient to you) rather use the word, Partner. Reassure her there will be no consequences but her sneaky actions MUST end today. However, there will be consequences if you find out she is lying. Ask her firmly who the guy is and what is the nature of their relationship. Yes - she would lie (like I said women are children with breasts and will never accept responsibility), and of course, you should expect it. After she is done with her lies, tell her you don't believe her, and she should call the man in your presence and end things IMMEDIATELY right in your presence.

After their conversation, get her phone and get the Whatsapp barcode. Inform her you have hacked her phone because she has lost the trust you have for her and she has to work to earn that trust. Also inform her you are not stupid and that it is possible she may continue the relationship and that when she considers doing so, she should note the consequences and that includes losing her marriage and family. Inform her of the consequences, be firm about it. Also, let her know you will be monitoring the phone regularly. Restrain yourself from any insult. This is not the time to trade words, fight, cry, or blackmail. This is the time to take charge of your family and rescue it from predators. When you are done, leave the house to go cool off somewhere so she can digest her stupidity while you decompress. Do not have this discussion physically with anybody else.

Now - my next advice to you is this - NEVER EVER TRUST A WOMAN - NEVER. Do not give these children with breasts the opportunity to run out of order. At this moment, you MUST begin to develop Alpha strategies. Begin to develop yourself and seek out opportunities to increase your earnings. As a man be prepared to lose your wife at any moment. Why do I say this, it is only these children with breasts that can decide if their marriage is important to them or not. However, you must begin to take action for yourself. Women (sorry children with breasts) are attracted to successful and powerful men just like men are attracted to beautiful women. Your focus and objectives are to never lose that edge of being ambitious and successful. If your wife decides to act childish, as they usually do, let her go and never take her back.

Our goal as men is to achieve success, be a great provider and protector, and not an attention giver. You are not responsible for your wife's happiness. Do not fall for the nonsense of maybe you stop giving your wife attention that is why she is cheating. The needs and wants of women, same as men, are insatiable - and that means you can never satisfy anybody in life. Achieve your goals, create and make your dream happen and when you do get to the zenith of your career or goals, you would see the plethora of extremely beautiful women at your disposal beckoning to please you.

This is my advice to you, young men and men who are married. Greetings from Canada.

Anyone who marries you is in trouble.

Guy forget that thing, you don enter one chance. What’s app chat record cleared? Same guy again after a while!? Omo,you’re just a baby sitter,forget!
Allow me to gist you. My buddy got married and among the gift they received from guest was a well furnished apartment in Surulere with the rent of 3 years paid for. My guy heard about it and kicked against such idea that they should move into the apartment. The bride’s mother was so furious but my guy stood his ground. Long story short, same guy stalk my friend wife for a while she answers “hello dear” “hello Oga” each time he calls her. My guy’s wife maintains same stand that the guy is a nobody. Lest I forget,my friend’s wife graduated from Unilag!
Their wedding was the talk of town way back due to the gloat it commanded! Anyway,las las my guy later knew the whole gist. The man Dey help him wife nii! All those “na my friend” “na my Oga”all na lie�
What business does a married woman got to do with another man to the point of clearing chat record if we want to be honest with ourselves? Don’t fall for that shit!

Boss13:
I had initially thought this story was part of Nairaland gimmicks and had a change of mind when you responded. I have also extensively read the comments here from women and simps.

Chief - your wife is cheating on you and the evidence is there. While some chaps here have provided brilliant tech-savvy ways to obtain evidence, I would say you already have the evidence you need. You do not need to read certain things that may cause emotional distraught to you. You are a man and the leader of your house. You have to take charge now because women are children with breasts.

Call your wife, sit her down. Do not shout at her, do not raise your voice, be firm and stern. Tell her you went through her phone (she may be embarrassed and want to defend herself). Tell her you are her partner and there is absolutely nothing wrong in going through her phone. Don't use the word Husband (so she doesn't feel subservient to you) rather use the word, Partner. Reassure her there will be no consequences but her sneaky actions MUST end today. However, there will be consequences if you find out she is lying. Ask her firmly who the guy is and what is the nature of their relationship. Yes - she would lie (like I said women are children with breasts and will never accept responsibility), and of course, you should expect it. After she is done with her lies, tell her you don't believe her, and she should call the man in your presence and end things IMMEDIATELY right in your presence.

After their conversation, get her phone and get the Whatsapp barcode. Inform her you have hacked her phone because she has lost the trust you have for her and she has to work to earn that trust. Also inform her you are not stupid and that it is possible she may continue the relationship and that when she considers doing so, she should note the consequences and that includes losing her marriage and family. Inform her of the consequences, be firm about it. Also, let her know you will be monitoring the phone regularly. Restrain yourself from any insult. This is not the time to trade words, fight, cry, or blackmail. This is the time to take charge of your family and rescue it from predators. When you are done, leave the house to go cool off somewhere so she can digest her stupidity while you decompress. Do not have this discussion physically with anybody else.

Now - my next advice to you is this - NEVER EVER TRUST A WOMAN - NEVER. Do not give these children with breasts the opportunity to run out of order. At this moment, you MUST begin to develop Alpha strategies. Begin to develop yourself and seek out opportunities to increase your earnings. As a man be prepared to lose your wife at any moment. Why do I say this, it is only these children with breasts that can decide if their marriage is important to them or not. However, you must begin to take action for yourself. Women (sorry children with breasts) are attracted to successful and powerful men just like men are attracted to beautiful women. Your focus and objectives are to never lose that edge of being ambitious and successful. If your wife decides to act childish, as they usually do, let her go and never take her back.

Our goal as men is to achieve success, be a great provider and protector, and not an attention giver. You are not responsible for your wife's happiness. Do not fall for the nonsense of maybe you stop giving your wife attention that is why she is cheating. The needs and wants of women, same as men, are insatiable - and that means you can never satisfy anybody in life. Achieve your goals, create and make your dream happen and when you do get to the zenith of your career or goals, you would see the plethora of extremely beautiful women at your disposal beckoning to please you.

This is my advice to you, young men and men who are married. Greetings from Canada.

I like this, no time to dance naked in the middle of the market.

Highly suspicious!

[quote author=Psalms5522 post=88936894][/quote]Yes I'm loyal

Common man dont be a fool.open ur eyes.ur wife they Bleep big penis.enough big penis.when a woman start to save names wit such na there problem start that means she get hidden agenda.i get one girl when i they Bleep wel to nonsense she save my no wit course mate make her boyfriend no understand she ask for my permission bf she did that.sometimes i go they Bleep the pussy,her bf go call she go tell am say she they school or she they cook whereas i they flogg the pussy to red.that is d real truth take or leave it no offense

Am just here to read comments.

Stephenomozzy:
It's hard to comment one's opinion o... This is a marriage. If it was a dating relationship now.. Men would have said something.

What you should do... Stop checking her phone for the time being so she's not overly on alert (deleting messages), put away your apprehension for a while and love her as your wife... Start showing her attention more than before that she will be so busy with you that she won't have time to be online to talk with figure 3.

Especially in this lockdown period.... Are you a boring person? She may not really be cheating (in the general sense of the word) but just having fun discussions with someone who makes her feel good..... Fill that void, engage her same way you engaged her before you both agreed that marriage was the next big step for your love.

She can't leave the house to go an "cheat" so wean her off from the guy before lockdown is called off!

Operation Win Your Wife!!!!


Everyone who has quoted me to talk BS.

If you know that everyone is entitled to their opinion, you would rather have shared your opinion to help op rather than countering mine.

All of you saying point blank that she is cheating....are you saying the Op should divorce her? Give her hell in the marriage? Cheat on her also?

One even went as far as saying na only women like my comment... One said his mother is a single mom. Lol... Who nairaland likes epp?

I just threw in my two cents. Op can do whatever he likes. Naim go say "I do"

Are you mad?

Cowbell521:
Are you mad?

Yes.

Next?

proclinician:
Of course there's no proof. Just wait till the doctor hands over the proof of your HIV status u got from ur matrimonial bed then watch urself sink from that monent on.

Your opinion we should learn to trust our wives ?

ladyGKilaBCrueD:
Can you swear you've never cheated on your wife before? If you have you need to shut up and take several seats. Karma is just dealing with you.

What if he never do am before?

then I sympathize with him... he should pray for his marriage and talk to his wife

Cowbell521:
What if he never do am before?

ladyGKilaBCrueD:
then I sympathize with him... he should pray for his marriage and talk to his wife

He talk am na....he say he never cheat before, check in other comments. U dey see why guys dey always fear marriage now?

make una dey fear as if men do not commit the most atrocities in marriage. small cheat woman go cheat una go dey begin chant "fear women". nonsense.

Cowbell521:
He talk am na....he say he never cheat before, check in other comments. U dey see why guys dey always fear marriage now?

ladyGKilaBCrueD:
make una dey fear as if men do not commit the most atrocities in marriage. small cheat woman go cheat una go dey begin chant "fear women". nonsense.

Na una be the main devil. He mean sey U fit do pass the woman. Na u get una pussy. Na people wey dey marry woman put 4 house I pity

ladyGKilaBCrueD:
yes that is all I have to say. if he has never cheated on his wife, then he has my sympathy and I'd advise him to watch war room and pray for his marriage but if he has ever cheated before, I don't pity him and he deserves what he's getting. what is wrong with what I have said?

You sound so bitter and judgemental...u must have been a product of a single mother

I have a perfect solution for you
Please kindly chat me on WhatsApp with this number 09023429926
Meanwhile don't say anything to her

bonnyhope:
U be igbo man

Yes bro

xendra:
Yep its called cheating, even though they may not have had sex yet, she is definitely enjoying the wrong type of attention (that is also classified as emotional cheating.)
Are you cheating on her? or making her feel less in any way? it could be from lack of attention, feeling invincible to your man, feeling like you are not on his priority list.......and so on

usually a woman will only do this if she nolonger feels secure in her relationship.

or if she is a cheat. Stop making up excuses for cheats just because they are female.

Bahddo:
or if she is a cheat. Stop making up excuses for cheats just because they are female.

define excuses? I'm the first person that called it cheating, people mentioned me (guys like you) to say if she is not having sex she is not cheating.

You stop being sentimental because it is about a woman, I've only said the truth but i know the other thread that was opened because of this has blocked y'all sense of reasoning; that you just jump to my mention.

It is sad anyway. Just be strong Op, and no matter what eventually happens, brace up yourself, and never ever condescend to her own level. Forgive genuinely, no matter how hurt you eventually get, but move on, no matter what. Your focus should be your apirations, and goals, and finally, craving an awesome future for your kids. Cheers brother, stay strong.

xendra:
define excuses? I'm the first person that called it cheating, people mentioned me (guys like you) to say if she is not having sex she is not cheating.

You stop being sentimental because it is about a woman, I've only said the truth but i know the other thread that was opened because of this has blocked y'all sense of reasoning; that you just jump to my mention.

You literally said this...

usually a woman will only do this (cheat) if she nolonger feels secure in her relationship.

Translation: "It's not her fault she's cheating. Her partner failed to make her feel secure in her relationship."

That's an excuse. An excuse expertly written to make her the victim in her own cheating story.

It has nothing to do with being female and everything to do with not wanting to take responsibility for one's conscious decisions. When a man cheats, it's because he thought about it and CHOSE to do it. Same with a woman. No excuses.

Bahddo:
You literally said this...

Translation: "It's not her fault she's cheating. Her partner failed to make her feel secure in her relationship."

That's an excuse. An excuse expertly written to make her the victim in her own cheating story.

It has nothing to do with being female and everything to do with not wanting to take responsibility for one's conscious decisions. When a man cheats, it's because he thought about it and CHOSE to do it. Same with a woman. No excuses.

You are spot on Bro, seconded.