Nelso2:
Thank you all for all those words whether good or bad. I never knew we have smart guys and ladies here. After going through all the messages, I have learnt so many things here on how to caught a cheating wife red handed. I am going to adopt all techniques as advice so as to see to the truth.
After years of marriage and kids, after trying so hard to be a responsible man, nah nah.Will see to the end of it. It is just too obvious.

Nelso2:
Saw a contact on her phone late last year, saved as aa1 and each time he wassup her it's either he calls her my friend or my love.

Confronted her but she denied, saying it's her customer that is owing her money. Been searching for the contact but couldn't find it again after then.

Recently, I searched on her phone while she was sleeping, went through her wassup again, saw a number saved as 3, had to checked on it, behold the profile picture is the same man. Funny part of it, each time she chat wit him, she deletes the chat at the end of it. Been mad since and about to confront.

The man in question is almost 54 and I am in late 30s.

SLAP44:
Probably.

bukatyne:


I don't understand.

If the husband is boring, is the wife not supposed to spice up things or show the husband what she wants?

SLAP44:
Probably.

Janosky:

If it's true your wife is having intimate Convo or suspicious dalliances with a 54 years old man, that's a strong proof that such intimacy is ABSENT in your home/relationship between you and your wife.
Work together to repair your Bond.

Every married woman needs love,attention and the other gbogbotigbo... Assess yourself first if you have fulfilled her needs before you start making accusations for which you have no solid evidence....

To be extra sure, Try this tactic:
Copy the man's contact, switch off her phone when charging it. Use new sim card to Send a love sms to the man's contact and indicate her phone is down, that is why "she" used this her other private line to send sms because she miss him.
The older man's reply would proof if anything illicit is actually going on..

OdefaGirl:



Jeezzzzz!!!! Which one is having it raw?

I blame the Op for not knowing what to do in his house before bringing his marital issues here.....
This is the worst place to get advise.

Boss13:


I had initially thought this story was part of Nairaland gimmicks and had a change of mind when you responded. I have also extensively read the comments here from women and simps.

Chief - your wife is cheating on you and the evidence is there. While some chaps here have provided brilliant tech-savvy ways to obtain evidence, I would say you already have the evidence you need. You do not need to read certain things that may cause emotional distraught to you. You are a man and the leader of your house. You have to take charge now because women are children with breasts.

Call your wife, sit her down. Do not shout at her, do not raise your voice, be firm and stern. Tell her you went through her phone (she may be embarrassed and want to defend herself). Tell her you are her partner and there is absolutely nothing wrong in going through her phone. Don't use the word Husband (so she doesn't feel subservient to you) rather use the word, Partner. Reassure her there will be no consequences but her sneaky actions MUST end today. However, there will be consequences if you find out she is lying. Ask her firmly who the guy is and what is the nature of their relationship. Yes - she would lie (like I said women are children with breasts and will never accept responsibility), and of course, you should expect it. After she is done with her lies, tell her you don't believe her, and she should call the man in your presence and end things IMMEDIATELY right in your presence.

After their conversation, get her phone and get the Whatsapp barcode. Inform her you have hacked her phone because she has lost the trust you have for her and she has to work to earn that trust. Also inform her you are not stupid and that it is possible she may continue the relationship and that when she considers doing so, she should note the consequences and that includes losing her marriage and family. Inform her of the consequences, be firm about it. Also, let her know you will be monitoring the phone regularly. Restrain yourself from any insult. This is not the time to trade words, fight, cry, or blackmail. This is the time to take charge of your family and rescue it from predators. When you are done, leave the house to go cool off somewhere so she can digest her stupidity while you decompress. Do not have this discussion physically with anybody else.

Now - my next advice to you is this - NEVER EVER TRUST A WOMAN - NEVER. Do not give these children with breasts the opportunity to run out of order. At this moment, you MUST begin to develop Alpha strategies. Begin to develop yourself and seek out opportunities to increase your earnings. As a man be prepared to lose your wife at any moment. Why do I say this, it is only these children with breasts that can decide if their marriage is important to them or not. However, you must begin to take action for yourself. Women (sorry children with breasts) are attracted to successful and powerful men just like men are attracted to beautiful women. Your focus and objectives are to never lose that edge of being ambitious and successful. If your wife decides to act childish, as they usually do, let her go and never take her back.

Our goal as men is to achieve success, be a great provider and protector, and not an attention giver. You are not responsible for your wife's happiness. Do not fall for the nonsense of maybe you stop giving your wife attention that is why she is cheating. The needs and wants of women, same as men, are insatiable - and that means you can never satisfy anybody in life. Achieve your goals, create and make your dream happen and when you do get to the zenith of your career or goals, you would see the plethora of extremely beautiful women at your disposal beckoning to please you.

This is my advice to you, young men and men who are married. Greetings from Canada.

Aaaaarghmed:
don't tell her your findings yet...delete your contact from her phone also delete the man contact from her phone.save ur number with what she used to save the man number,Whatsapp her and confirm ur findings to really know what is going on between them.

Gentlesoul96:


This is not the worst place to get advice.

Nelso2:
Thank you all for all those words whether good or bad. I never knew we have smart guys and ladies here. After going through all the messages, I have learnt so many things here on how to caught a cheating wife red handed. I am going to adopt all techniques as advice so as to see to the truth.
After years of marriage and kids, after trying so hard to be a responsible man, nah nah.Will see to the end of it. It is just too obvious.

Nelso2:
Saw a contact on her phone late last year, saved as aa1 and each time he wassup her it's either he calls her my friend or my love.

Confronted her but she denied, saying it's her customer that is owing her money. Been searching for the contact but couldn't find it again after then.

Recently, I searched on her phone while she was sleeping, went through her wassup again, saw a number saved as 3, had to checked on it, behold the profile picture is the same man. Funny part of it, each time she chat wit him, she deletes the chat at the end of it. Been mad since and about to confront.

The man in question is almost 54 and I am in late 30s.

bukatyne:


Deleting chats and re-saving contacts is not been paranoid, let's say it as it is.

The issue is still very manageable if madam is willing to.

I don't get who you are alluding to be introverted here however, there is no excuse for the wife's behavior.

If your husband is boring, spice up the marriage with his money worst case.

[b]Use the wrapper to cover your body, use your body to wrap the wrapper: the goal is to cover the [/b]body.

Nelso2:
Saw a contact on her phone late last year, saved as aa1 and each time he wassup her it's either he calls her my friend or my love.

Confronted her but she denied, saying it's her customer that is owing her money. Been searching for the contact but couldn't find it again after then.

Recently, I searched on her phone while she was sleeping, went through her wassup again, saw a number saved as 3, had to checked on it, behold the profile picture is the same man. Funny part of it, each time she chat wit him, she deletes the chat at the end of it. Been mad since and about to confront.

The man in question is almost 54 and I am in late 30s.

larryking540:


Greetings from UAE bro
I love that statement,u are not responsible for your wife happiness,,,
Na love , attention and I love you every day family wan chop ,,,,,,

These are things as a guy u supposed don tell your woman while still dating ,,a woman should know marriage no easy ,so if u day expect your man to day give u attention while e mate day hustle na she con kw

greatme2good:


If you have a laptop, you can actually use WhatsApp web to get same message she's getting on her phone in the laptop at the same time. It's easy for you to do since you have access to the phone. Just to be sure of what is going on before confronting her.

okpalaAnambra:

You sha want to put the blame on the man by force...úmúnwanyi

emmaodet:


Ka ro idi maso, ka ro aso mo idi, koko nipe ki idi mati gbofo

Boss13:


Greetings,

That is why I said women are children with breasts. Only children and vulnerable people, including elderly ones, need attention. And for women to say that because she is not receiving sufficient attention hence a good reason to cheat is ridiculous, disingenuous, baffling, and stupid. I am not surprised because I am yet to see a woman who accepts responsibilities and accountability. However, I am not saying creating beautiful memories with your wife or significant other isn't important, but that should not be the sole responsibility of a man - that is not a man's job. Young men must know this and not fall for the wild fantasies of these children with breasts because their fantasies will never stop and are even on high steroids with the advent of social media, Hollywood and Nollywood movies, and romantic novels.

Men should focus on their dreams and goals, and achieve them. Be a good provider to your family and protect your family from external influences and that includes potential male lovers.

larryking540:

Am not yet married ,but I have vowed a woman can't change my dreams ,my goals and my ambition ,never ,they can add to it but tampering with it because of their wild fantasy can't happen ,

Boss13:


I had initially thought this story was part of Nairaland gimmicks and had a change of mind when you responded. I have also extensively read the comments here from women and simps.

Chief - your wife is cheating on you and the evidence is there. While some chaps here have provided brilliant tech-savvy ways to obtain evidence, I would say you already have the evidence you need. You do not need to read certain things that may cause emotional distraught to you. You are a man and the leader of your house. You have to take charge now because women are children with breasts.

Call your wife, sit her down. Do not shout at her, do not raise your voice, be firm and stern. Tell her you went through her phone (she may be embarrassed and want to defend herself). Tell her you are her partner and there is absolutely nothing wrong in going through her phone. Don't use the word Husband (so she doesn't feel subservient to you) rather use the word, Partner. Reassure her there will be no consequences but her sneaky actions MUST end today. However, there will be consequences if you find out she is lying. Ask her firmly who the guy is and what is the nature of their relationship. Yes - she would lie (like I said women are children with breasts and will never accept responsibility), and of course, you should expect it. After she is done with her lies, tell her you don't believe her, and she should call the man in your presence and end things IMMEDIATELY right in your presence.

After their conversation, get her phone and get the Whatsapp barcode. Inform her you have hacked her phone because she has lost the trust you have for her and she has to work to earn that trust. Also inform her you are not stupid and that it is possible she may continue the relationship and that when she considers doing so, she should note the consequences and that includes losing her marriage and family. Inform her of the consequences, be firm about it. Also, let her know you will be monitoring the phone regularly. Restrain yourself from any insult. This is not the time to trade words, fight, cry, or blackmail. This is the time to take charge of your family and rescue it from predators. When you are done, leave the house to go cool off somewhere so she can digest her stupidity while you decompress. Do not have this discussion physically with anybody else.

Now - my next advice to you is this - NEVER EVER TRUST A WOMAN - NEVER. Do not give these children with breasts the opportunity to run out of order. At this moment, you MUST begin to develop Alpha strategies. Begin to develop yourself and seek out opportunities to increase your earnings. As a man be prepared to lose your wife at any moment. Why do I say this, it is only these children with breasts that can decide if their marriage is important to them or not. However, you must begin to take action for yourself. Women (sorry children with breasts) are attracted to successful and powerful men just like men are attracted to beautiful women. Your focus and objectives are to never lose that edge of being ambitious and successful. If your wife decides to act childish, as they usually do, let her go and never take her back.

Our goal as men is to achieve success, be a great provider and protector, and not an attention giver. You are not responsible for your wife's happiness. Do not fall for the nonsense of maybe you stop giving your wife attention that is why she is cheating. The needs and wants of women, same as men, are insatiable - and that means you can never satisfy anybody in life. Achieve your goals, create and make your dream happen and when you do get to the zenith of your career or goals, you would see the plethora of extremely beautiful women at your disposal beckoning to please you.

This is my advice to you, young men and men who are married. Greetings from Canada.

specialbobby:







Tell us one of the trusted spy app bro i need it

Aaaaarghmed:
don't tell her your findings yet...delete your contact from her phone also delete the man contact from her phone.save ur number with what she used to save the man number,Whatsapp her and confirm ur findings to really know what is going on between them.

WUdec:


No offence but this is such a "white boy" approach.

This would work with Western women and not Nigerian women. You do this to a Nigerian woman and she will laugh at you behind closed doors for she will perceive you as being weak.

And seeing women as children with breasts.....hmmmm....that's a bit sexist and derogatory.


Like you said, communication is necessary but with no emotions attached. He should speak to her with enough evidence, punish her by detaching his emotions for awhile and focusing solely on the kids and take mental notes of her reactions.

She has to see that there will be consequences for such actions, both ways. Abstain from sex for a month or two.

She'd start to wonder a lot of things in her head and if she truly loves you, she'd start to feel guilty.

Now this is where you kick in the real talk (pour out your heart) and if her actions show no sign of guilt, then your marriage is almost over. You'd both have to save it, if it's worth saving.

And how you do that is by rebuilding from scratch

The keys to a happy marriage are as follows:

1) Communication
2) Perseverance
3) Knowing how to control your tongue
4) Appreciation
5) Respect
6) Loyalty
7) Don't stop learning especially positive things
8} Romance - this part, a lot of Nigerian men and women lack, out of laziness and selfishness. They always wait for the other party to start it first or always find someone to blame for not being romantic
9) Support - this includes taking care of responsibility without being told (no gender roles defined). And constantly looking to better yourself and your partner
10) Self Discipline - 95 percent of Nigerian men lack this. Blame it on their parents and constant desire for the pleasures of life without thinking about the future. Nigerian parents are letting their kids raise themselves without knowing it. That is why most Naija men have no control over sex, social media, money and power. They lose their minds and values when they are overwhelmed with too much of the aforementioned.
11) Possess a listening ear and a giving heart. -And this includes sacrifices
12) God - This is the most important part of all. If a man admires not the ways of Christ, teachings or discipline of the scriptures, he would have no balance and let himself be raised by the world

Best regards


A married man(a whooped one too) :

Nelso2:
Saw a contact on her phone late last year, saved as aa1 and each time he wassup her it's either he calls her my friend or my love.

Confronted her but she denied, saying it's her customer that is owing her money. Been searching for the contact but couldn't find it again after then.

Recently, I searched on her phone while she was sleeping, went through her wassup again, saw a number saved as 3, had to checked on it, behold the profile picture is the same man. Funny part of it, each time she chat wit him, she deletes the chat at the end of it. Been mad since and about to confront.

The man in question is almost 54 and I am in late 30s.

OdefaGirl:


Let me correct myself...."advice on marital infidelity"

Pravedk:
I used this method some weeks back, best decision i did. Mama was banging a guy she keeps telling me was just a friend from work

Boss13:


Great - focus on your dreams and achieve them. Women will come. The more you achieve your goals, the more you open the doors to access high valued women.

Lyns32uk:
mobile-tracker app is one.

Nelso2:
Saw a contact on her phone late last year, saved as aa1 and each time he wassup her it's either he calls her my friend or my love.

Confronted her but she denied, saying it's her customer that is owing her money. Been searching for the contact but couldn't find it again after then.

Recently, I searched on her phone while she was sleeping, went through her wassup again, saw a number saved as 3, had to checked on it, behold the profile picture is the same man. Funny part of it, each time she chat wit him, she deletes the chat at the end of it. Been mad since and about to confront.

The man in question is almost 54 and I am in late 30s.

zedegit:


You don't always take a woman's word at face value. Some can lie for Africa and use a few tears to garnish it and serve you.